Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

(Link): Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Dating apps have made it easier than ever to find a partner. Paradoxically, the ease of finding matches means some remain perpetually single.

January 8, 2022
by Scotty Hendricks

Dating can be drudgery. The trouble of finding someone to date, going to a restaurant for a quasi-job interview, having to scrutinize everything they say for red flags like you’re trying to root out a communist agent, and then having to decide if the whole experience was enjoyable enough to do it again might make a person want to stay single forever.

Dating apps were supposed to make this easier by simplifying the first part: finding the potential mate.

With the swipe of a finger, you can search through eligible bachelors and bachelorettes all over the globe.

However, a forthcoming study in the American Economic Journal: Microeconomics suggests that the ease of using dating apps can, and does, cause some people to think that “the one” is merely one more swipe away — so they never actually go on a date.

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Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage by Andrew J. Bauman and Taylor May

(Link): Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Excerpts:

by Andrew J. Bauman

I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story about what it was like to be married to someone who had a Pornographic Style of Relating, (PSR) and what it felt like to be used by him with her Church’s consent.

*Trigger warning for those who have suffered this type of betrayal trauma.


I’ve written about the pornographic style of relating here (PSR), but today we will hear from the perspective of a woman who has lived on the other side of this dynamic.

Many people have been talking about this with the release of this new book [Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas] and some of its disturbing implications.

How can we talk about what these women are experiencing, and what can we learn from them?

Taylor May has offered her story and her experience below. My hope is that this can begin to clear up the muddy waters of what it means to live a Christlike marriage in a deeply pornified world.


by Taylor May

I didn’t realize how a pornographic style of relating was so deeply embedded into my first marriage until I was firmly planted into my second marriage.

That’s when I began to see the impact my first husband’s issue with lust had on my new, much healthier relationship.

Let me tell you my story, and how I and countless other women feel when our significant others lust for other women, on-screen or off.

Those of us who grew up in the evangelical Church have been told that we are responsible for men’s lust issues. This lie has been perpetrated by the church for far too long.

Many men are leading our church conversations with 90% of pastors being men, and considering that nearly 50% of those pastors self-report having used pornography, it would make sense that they would try to gaslight women by minimizing the destructive nature of porn use.

One way they do this is by framing it as a women’s issue or a sex issue, rather than the objectification of women/sin issue–one that stems from the person doing the objectifying.

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Serial Killer Who Lured Victims on Dating Apps for Sex Is Caught Through Sting Operation, Sentenced to 160 Years

Serial Killer Who Lured Victims on Dating Apps for Sex Is Caught Through Sting Operation, Sentenced to 160 Years

(Link): NJ serial killer who murdered women he met for sex sentenced to 160 years

(Link): New Jersey Serial Killer Who Lured Women on Dating Apps Sentenced to 160 Years in Prison

….Prosecutors say the man [Khalil Wheeler-Weaver] had used a fake dating profile to lure and kill his victims: 20-year-old Sarah Butler, 19-year-old Robin West, and 33-year-old Joanne Brown.

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Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

(Link): Fed-up straphanger tears down ‘gross’ dating-app ads in viral video

More like “Ok Stupid.”

A fed-up New Yorker tore down lurid subway advertisements for the dating app OK Cupid.

“All of this is gross. For kids to be looking at this, is that OK??” she said in viral videos posted to Twitter on Wednesday.

The woman walked up and down the D train car, ripping the ads down — while ranting about COVID-19 and communism — as silent, masked straphangers looked on.

It’s not clear just when the video was recorded. The colorful ads began to appear on subway trains over the summer.

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Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

(Link):  Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

Excerpts:

by Liucija Adomaite and Mindaugas Balčiauskas

When taken literally, the term “nice guy” refers to someone that anyone would like: a man who is gentle, compassionate, and agreeable.

But in popular dating culture, the same term can be used to describe an insecure man who expects his kindness to be rewarded with physical affection.

Women who have an experience being friends with “a nice guy” often tell about how they manage to use their friendship with an ulterior motive to progress it to a romantic and sexual relationship.

So when someone asked on r/AskReddit “Women of Reddit, what’s your cringy ‘nice guy’ story?” the question immediately resonated, amassing 11.4k comments with various such stories.

Scroll through the cringiest and creepiest down below, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below!

#3.

Some guy messaged me online and seemed nice enough. Asked if I’d like to meet up with him. I said sure.

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The Future of Dating is Hybrid by Erica Pandey

The Future of Dating is Hybrid by Erica Pandey

(Link): The Future of Dating is Hybrid

Social distancing popularized video dates — and they’ll outlast the pandemic.

The big picture: Dating is expensive, and many people are deciding they’d rather meet virtually first in case it doesn’t work out.

By the numbers: The average American spends a total of about $700 annually on dates, according to a 2019 LendingTree study.

“But the pandemic was a jolt to our systems,” says Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist and the director of relationship science at Hinge.

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Google Play Will Remove Sugar Dating Apps Fostering Prostitution and Sex Trafficking

Google Play Will Remove Sugar Dating Apps Fostering Prostitution and Sex Trafficking

(Link): Google Play Will Remove Sugar Dating Apps Fostering Prostitution and Sex Trafficking

By Nicole Alcindor, CP Contributor

Google Play will no longer carry sugar dating apps widely known for promoting compensated sexual acts that have led to many cases of sex trafficking and sexual assault among young women and underage girls.

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) had been pressuring Google for over a year to change its Google Play app store policies by removing exploitative sugar dating apps like SeekingArrangement. The app was listed is on NCOSE’s 2021 Dirty Dozen List — an annual campaign list calling out 12 mainstream entities for facilitating or profiting from sexual abuse and exploitation.

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Bystander Rescues Woman After Tinder Date Allegedly Held Her Captive for Three Days by Amy Furr

Dating app horror: A woman who was allegedly held against her will by a man she met on Tinder was rescued when a good Samaritan heard her cries for help.

(Link): Bystander Rescues Woman After Tinder Date Allegedly Held Her Captive for Three Days

by Amy Furr
July 2021

A woman who was allegedly sexually assaulted and held against her will for three days by a man she met on the Tinder app was rescued when a good Samaritan heard her cries for help in Oakland, California.

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Alabama Cop Allegedly Drugged, Raped Woman He Met on Dating Site

Alabama Cop Allegedly Drugged, Raped Woman He Met on Dating Site

Terrible.

(Link): Alabama Cop Allegedly Drugged, Raped Woman He Met on Dating Site

July 7, 2021
By Joshua Rhett Miller

An Alabama police officer allegedly drugged and raped a woman after meeting her on a dating website – and a second victim has already reached out to investigators, authorities said this week.

Officer Matthew Wilcox, 37, was arrested Saturday on charges including first-degree rape and unlawful possession of a controlled substance after a search warrant at his home led to discovery of illegal narcotics, multiple firearms and drug paraphernalia, Birmingham Police Chief Patrick Smith told reporters at a Tuesday press conference.

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Dating Apps Partner With White House to Incentivize COVID-19 Vaccines

Dating Apps Partner With White House to Incentivize COVID-19 Vaccines

(Link): Dating Apps Partner With White House to Incentivize COVID-19 Vaccines

by Emily Wood

The White House has partnered with Match Group dating apps to incentivize Americans to get vaccinated by offering in-app promotions and privileges through online dating services to those who are vaccinated.

Match Group is an online dating company that owns and operates some of the leading online dating apps, which are participating in the initiative.

The apps encouraging vaccinations include Tinder, OkCupid, BLK, Hinge, Chispa, Match, Plenty of Fish, Bumble and Badoo. The campaign will launch in the coming weeks and last until July 4, according to a statement. Continue reading “Dating Apps Partner With White House to Incentivize COVID-19 Vaccines”

Why Are Young Men So Afraid of Sex? by Zoe Stimpel

Why Are Young Men So Afraid of Sex? by Zoe Stimpel

(Link): Why Are Young Men So Afraid of Sex? by Zoe Stimpel – American Spectator site – partial copy here

Excerpts:

… [After having been single again for two years (unclear if due to divorce or breakup with a boyfriend), the author of this piece decided to try various dating sites and apps and to date men ages 20 – 25; she was 38 at the time. She discusses how her conversations with these younger men start out and then end.]

…In these conversations [with younger men on dating apps], messages veer from requests for info on what you did on the weekend to requests for your life story.

Without the prospect of a drink, the conversation then dies. Or they hang forever in the ether.

On Christmas Day, no fewer than eight twentysomething men got in touch, most of them men I had met on dating apps. I’d only met three.

The rest had been kicking around in my DMs, as they say, for up to a year and seemed suddenly keen for a chat.

The third path is sexting. This is the most depressing, and fast becoming the most uncontrollable and ubiquitous, aspect of dating young men.

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Man Arrested for Running a Serial Dating Scam, so He Could Get Birthday Presents All Year Long

Man Arrested for Running a Serial Dating Scam, so He Could Get Birthday Presents All Year Long

I like seeing creativity in dirt bags. He’s not a standard dirt bag, he makes some effort, shows some ingenuity.

(Link): Man Arrested for Running a Serial Dating Scam, so He Could Get Birthday Presents All Year Long

by Alex Parker

….Takashi Miyagawa was working part-time and dating 35 women — an impressive combo, to be sure.

Regrettably — brace yourselves — he wasn’t being completely upfront.

As it turns out, not only were his three-dozen ladies unaware of one another; they had no idea when Takashi had actually been born.

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