‘So Can You F*ck?’: What It’s Like to Online Date With a Disability by S. Kim

So Can You F*ck?’: What It’s Like to Online Date With a Disability by S. Kim

I deplore crass and vulgar language up front from men on dating sites.

There is no way I’d even consider dating a guy who uses a phrase such as “can you f-ck” when contacting me on a dating site. Men who talk like this, and who see nothing wrong with it, are garbage.

If you are absolutely dead set on learning if someone with a physical disability can get it on, there are far less crude and offensive ways of inquiring. And I would think it’s extremely tacky to inquire on a first or second contact.

(Link): ‘So Can You F*ck?’: What It’s Like to Online Date With a Disability

Excerpts:

Most people have experienced rejection, but it never gets easier when it’s based on something about yourself that you can’t control or change.

by S. Kim

It’s not news that lots of women receive ridiculous and misogynistic messages on dating apps, especially on Tinder. But as a 22-year-old with cerebral palsy, I get one at least twice a week.

“So can you f*ck?”

“But you look normal in your pictures.”

Since I rely on my wheelchair only for transport and can walk independently, I don’t have that many pictures of myself in it. I live in this in-between area where my disability isn’t that severe but is still noticeable.

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The Latest Relationship Trend is ‘Slow Dating’ — and It’s a Recoil from Years of Swiping Through Apps

(Link):  The Latest Relationship Trend is ‘Slow Dating’ — and It’s a Recoil from Years of Swiping Through Apps

-Dating apps are starting to offer fewer, more curated matches.

-The dating app Once, for example, recently launched in the US, and delivers users just one match per day.

-Limiting your options could be the smartest move when it comes to dating, since having too many options can make it harder to choose anyone.

You could call it the rise of “slow dating.”

Since the debut of dating apps — Tinder launched in 2012 — they’ve been all about speed, a suitor a second. Once you created an account, your relationship prospects depended almost exclusively on how fast you could move your thumb.

Now, that appears to be changing.

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Tips For Defensive Dating, Including Warning Signs that You Could Be The Target Of An Online Romance Scam – From the WSJ

Tips For Defensive Dating, Including Warning Signs that You Could Be The Target Of An Online Romance Scam – From the WSJ

(Link):  Tips For Defensive Dating, Including Warning Signs that You Could Be The Target Of An Online Romance Scam

Excerpts:

Here are tips for defensive dating, including warning signs that you could be the target of an online romance scam

ByKatherine Bindley

March 15, 2018 11:55 a.m. ET14 COMMENTS

More and more people are looking for love online. A large chunk are those age 50 to 64, and dating services aimed at baby boomers are expected to grow the most over the next five years.

You know who else is prowling around websites and apps, looking to score? Scammers.

Last year, more than 15,000 victims lost some $210 million in “confidence frauds” and romance scams, according to the Federal Bureau of Investigation.

Know Where Scammers Lurk
Scammers don’t limit their hunting grounds to old-school dating sites like Match.com. They’re trolling for victims on any number of apps, even ones that aren’t associated with dating, such as the Scrabble-like online social game Words With Friends, according to the Better Business Bureau’s Scam Tracker.

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Dear Abby: A guy’s advice to women dating online

My experience with dating sites has been totally different from what this guy says. The majority of men I ran into when I was on dating sites only cared about what I looked like.

I could tell from their comments and questions to me that they had not bothered to read my personal info or likes and dislikes. Most men care about photos, which is perhaps why so many women are posting so many photos and not going into detail with their biographies or preferences.

(Link): Dear Abby: A guy’s advice to women dating online

DEAR ABBY: As a single man, I have been on a few dating websites, and I’d like to say something to the women I have encountered: What is it about you that makes you worth my time to pursue?

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Woman Tests Men on Dating Site By Switching Out Her Dating Site Photos Of Herself When She was 100 Pounds Heavier

Woman Tests Men on Dating Sites By Switching Out Her Dating Site Photos Of Herself When She was 100 Pounds Heavier

(Link): Woman Tests Men on Dating Sites By Switching Out Her Dating Site Photos Of Herself When She was 100 Pounds Heavier

…YouTuber Crystal Adame, 20, who goes by Crystal Breeze, carried out an experiment on the dating app to find out whether her matches would still be interested in her if she wasn’t thin – and the results are surprising.

Crystal, who lost 100lb last year after starting an extreme weight loss plan, now receives a lot of attention online for her looks.

But the vlogger was curious whether the same men would be interested in her if she had never lost the weight – so she experimented.

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14 Better Ways to Break the Ice on Dating Apps – from Marie Claire

(Link): 14 Better Ways to Break the Ice on Dating Apps – from Marie Claire

Excerpts:

….As users fill in their bios, they’re directed to ask an icebreaker question [on some dating sites], which is featured front and center on the profile, underneath the photo.

Matches must answer it initiate a connection, but it’s an easy, pressure-free way to begin a convo (and decidedly more interesting than “hey, what’s up”). So to help put those good ol’ fashioned conversational skills to task, here’s a list of tension-melting opening lines you haven’t heard a million times.

1. Tell me your life story in five emojis.

This is a non-intimidating way for someone to tell you who they are and a chance for your match to show off their cleverness.

2. If it was your last day on earth, what would eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner?

Their answer gives you insight into their palate, as well as provides some potential dinner date ideas down the line.

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What Dating With Anxiety Taught Me About Love by K. Bishop

(Link):  What Dating With Anxiety Taught Me About Love

Excerpts:

by K Bishop

A new match notification or getting asked out by that hot-but-definitely-a-fuckboy guy you’ve exchanged a stream of witty messages with is not a reward

…Dating in the Tinder-age is particularly triggering for anyone struggling with their mental health. When the next better thing is a mere right swipe away rejection is expected, to be blocked out by seeking more matches, more dates, more distractions from the niggling sense of being not quite good enough.

Speaking to my dating-app-active friends confirms that this issue isn’t just for the perpetually anxious.

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Your Boss Hired You to Perform A Job Not Flirt With Co-Workers – The ‘Me Too’ Backlash

Your Boss Hired You to Perform A Job Not Flirt With Co-Workers

About me: I am a right wing person who is not affiliated with any political party after leaving the Republican Party a few years ago.
I don’t call myself a “feminist” because many feminists tend to be liberal, and I am not liberal.
However, I do agree with feminists on some topics, not all.


In the weeks after women began sharing their workplace stories of sexual harassment on social media (starting around fall of 2017), using the “Me Too” hash tag, there began a steady stream of backlash, some of which includes push-back by both men, and unfortunately, a fragment of women, saying how so terrible the “Me Too” phenomenon is, all because now, some men may be too afraid to flirt with women at their jobs.

I for one do not want to be flirted with at any job I hold.

When I am in a workplace, I am there to perform work-related tasks. I am not there to get dates or humor single men who may be lonely.

My boss or the human resources department hired me to do work-related tasks.

Unless you were hired by a john to be a prostitute or to be a porn actor, you are not at your job to have sex, ask for dates, flirt with others, grope others, wink suggestively at them and make suggestive jokes.

You’re there to give status reports, Power Point presentations, and file memos, and to do other standard, day- to- day office- grind stuff.

If you’re a single man who wants a girlfriend, you need to use venues or media that is applicable to that very purpose, such as dating sites or nightclubs – a job is not a proper place to do that.

Get your friends to set you up on blind dates.

Try to strike up conversations with single women in the produce section at your local Kroger’s grocery store, or use the “Meet Up” site to meet others who have similar interests to yours.

Get a pet dog and go take it on walks at your local park; maybe a dog-loving, single woman will approach you to chat with you about the dog, and you can ask her on a date at that point.

But your workplace is NOT the appropriate venue by which to flirt or pick up women.

If you are a single man who does not like dating sites or nightclubs, that is not my problem.

If you ask a woman out on a date once (or flirt with her), and she either sends signals she does not want to date you, or else plainly communicates she is not interested, she indicates she is not receptive, you need to leave her alone at that stage. Stop flirting.

Stop winking, asking her out, and you should NOT be grabbing a woman co-worker by any part of her anatomy in the first place, nor should you be showing her porn photos, or whipping out your nude penis in front of her.

If you keep pursuing a woman, (and why do so many of you men do this – because you assume women find it cute, endearing, flattering, or sexy, or you actually believe in the false cliche “women love playing hard to get”?), that woman will come to view your attention as sexual harassment.

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Why Men Spam Women on Dating Sites by Noah Brand

(Link): Why Men Spam Women on Dating Sites by Noah Brand

Excerpts:

The truth is, the spam messages are part of a strategy. It’s a strategy with two goals: to get the guy practicing it some attention from one or more girls, and to keep him emotionally protected in the process.

People keep doing it because it basically works, and even when it fails at the first part, it succeeds at the second. So on average, it’s a pretty good strategy in a Tragedy of the Commons kinda way.

…Third, and most importantly,  [by sending out multiple, impersonal e-mails to women on dating sites] I did not make any effort or expose even one inch of my actual humanity.

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Is Your Online Date Deadly? Here’s How To Spot The Red Flags from Infomania

Is Your Online Date Deadly? Here’s How To Spot The Red Flags -from InfoMania

(Link): Is Your Online Date Deadly? Here’s How To Spot The Red Flags

To see the entire list of tips, please use the link above and visit their site. This is only a partial list:

Excerpts:

by H. Redlitz

Did you know that. . .

  • 10% of sex offenders use online dating sites
  • 3% of online daters are psychopaths
  • 51% of online daters are already in a relationship
  • 10% of members on free dating websites are scammers
  • Since 1995, 400 people have been murdered by someone they met online

Considering these stats, the grim reality is that if you date online, you’re likely to run into a few freaky fish before you find a good catch.

But for some women, meeting Mr. Wrong can be the last mistake they ever make. Nadine Aburas, Tori Ann Pennington, Julissa Brisman – these are just some of the women who have been murdered in recent years by men they met online. The list of women who have been raped or sexually assaulted by online dates is even longer.

Online dating is now a normal part of our social lives, but how do you protect yourself or a loved one from the dangers of meeting strangers online? Watch out for these red flags of online dating.

Read Between The Lines Of Their Dating Profile

… (Link): FBI profiler Mary Ellen O’Toole, who worked on notorious cases such as the Green River Killer and the hunt for the Unabomber, advises online daters to pay attention to the wording used in dating profiles.

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Here’s What Dating Sites Are Like If You’re A Woman by Taylor Bolduc

Here’s What Dating Sites Are Like If You’re A Woman by Taylor Bolduc

(Link): Here’s What Dating Sites Are Like If You’re A Woman

Excerpts:

Dating is hard.

Dating is really hard.

First you have to find someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, then you have to make sure that you want the same thing in terms of commitment.

But the hardest part is meeting someone. As a result, many have turned to online dating sites. In fact, a third of recently married couples met online. They’re also less likely to break up.

But online dating is different for men and women. As the saying goes: “Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.”

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Why I Bring All My Baggage On First Dates by Steph Montgomery

Why I Bring All My Baggage On First Dates by Steph Montgomery

(Link): Why I Bring All My Baggage On First Dates

When I first reentered the dating pool after leaving my husband, I made a surprising discovery: Apparently, sometime during the decade-plus that I’d been married, all the single men completely forgot how to read.

…I’m a single mom with a demanding job and not a lot of spare time to waste; I figured the more I shared about who I was, the better.

After a few super-awkward first dates, though, I learned how optimistic it had been to expect the men who contacted me to pay attention to what I’d written.

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Mother of Obnoxious Single Guy Who Was Condescending to Single Woman Puts Her Son In His Place

This is from a European paper, hence the use of “Mum” rather than “Mom.”

This story appeared a few days ago, in a different article.

A guy was connected with a single woman named Samantha on a dating site and sent her all sorts of condescending advice. For example, he told her on the dating app that if she just lost some weight that he might be interested in dating her.

The young lady said his behavior hurt her feelings, and she ended up blocking him.

His mother found out what her son did, and she replied.

(Link): Mum shares home truths about ’10 out of 10′ son who shamed woman on dating app

Excerpts:

Michael Blanchard, 24, was talking to Samantha Drain, 23, on the dating app Bumble, when he crossed more than a few lines.

The self-confessed ’10 out of 10’ called the dance teacher from Kent a ‘5 or 6 out of 10’ and sent her a photo of another woman to taunt her.

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Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

(Link): Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

I love the sub-heading for this:

They swiped right and he swiped their cash

LOL. Here’s the rest of the article (excerpts from it):

by Chelsea Ritschel

Think your Tinder matches have been bad? They’ve got nothing on Brandon Kiehm, the notorious ‘Tinder Swindler’ who’s now behind bars.

The sentence comes after Kiehm pleaded guilty to conning three women he matched with on the dating app into handing over £50,000 ($37,000)

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The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

(Link): The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

Excerpts:

Dating apps like Tinder, Grindr and Bumble are no longer new, which means people have to be creative if they want to stand out.

And according to a recent study conducted by Zoosk we should all be changing our dating app bio to something food-related in order to receive more responses.

The company found that food preferences have an impact on how we interact with each other romantically.

‘Overall, any mention of food in an online dating profile is going to result in an increase in inbound messages,’ the study stated.

…One of the most important things to take away from the survey was that talking about food in your profile makes you more attractive.

‘Some foods, such as guacamole, potatoes and chocolate are particularly successful at increasing the amount of messages (users with these foods in their profile have over 100 percent more incoming messages than the average),’ they said.

Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

(Link): Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

BY DANA DOVEY ON 10/21/17 AT 7:28 AM

Excerpts:

He lives next door, is an excellent liar, and is only pretending to care how your parents are doing.

No, not your ex, but rather a real-life psychopath. Most don’t realize that psychopaths are rarely tucked away in high security prisons, but often live right down the street.

Thankfully, Dr. Pascal Wallisch has our back, and the psychologist is hoping to protect us, the 99 percent of the population that can physically feel empathy and regret, from those who can’t.

The term psychopath is used so often in media and everyday speech that the true meaning sometimes gets lost. Beyond the Hollywood glamor, psychopathy is a psychological diagnosis affecting a small but very prominent proportion of the global population.

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First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

(Link): First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

Excerpts:

Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.

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What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

When I tried online dating for the first time around 2002 or 2003, it was pretty bad back then – many men were impatient and rude.

If you didn’t answer their private “hello” messages or flirts or whatever instantly, they would start calling you a bitch and so forth very quickly. This is not a recent phenomenon.

(Link): What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

Excerpts:

I can’t be certain, but I think dating is broken.

After a messy breakup, I found myself single for the first time in 2.5 years. I’m no stranger to dating apps (I met my last 3 partners on there, for realsies) so having a swipe through Tinder seemed only natural. I’d always been an advocate of dating apps.

Every time someone would complain about being single I’d reply – probably quite smugly – that they need to get on Tinder.

And every time I was met with an eye roll and a diatribe about how ‘awful’ they were and how many ‘weirdos’ were on there.

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‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – A.K.A., ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’ by Mona Chalabi

‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – A.K.A., ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’ by Mona Chalabi

The Tweet from the NT Times had this as a heading: ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’

As you should already be aware, I (Link): do not support people of either biological sex dating people much older or younger than themselves. I’m a big believer that May-December relationships are gross and disgusting, and people should date with a five year limit (five yrs older or younger than their own age).

Basically, this appears to be a half-way decent editorial, though the author jokingly disparages celibacy in it, unfortunately.

(Link): ‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – AKA, ‘ Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’

Excerpts-

…Most men who date women don’t fantasize about what they would do if they had these bonus years, they simply get them. In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older than his partner. The average age difference is (Link): 2.3 years according to the Census Bureau.

…The fact that women end the childless part of our lives earlier than our male partners is just salt in the wound. And looking even farther down the line, the bigger the age difference, the more likely that it will be women who take care of their male partners in old age.

…This arrogance [by men regarding cavalier attitudes about marrying] has, as I see it, two main causes — one, a belief that their spermatozoa are good for a very long time, indeed, and two, a belief that they could get a younger woman if they wanted to.

Let me examine the evidence for each of those male beliefs; fertility first.

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Formerly Jailed Pedophile Looking for Dates with Women on Dating Site

Formerly Jailed Pedophile Looking for Dates with Women on Dating Site

Disgusting. This is from a UK site. There are several photos of this person on the page linked to below:

(Link): LONELY HEART PAEDO Hulking perv who was caged for sex attacks on schoolgirls is looking for love on Plenty of Fish

August 2017

Kelvyn Jackson tells potential dates he ‘doesn’t want kids’ and describes himself as a ‘teddy bear’

He was caged in 2011 for eight years but has now set up a profile on the popular online dating site after being released from prison.

Jackson calls himself a “teddy bear” and a “coffee snob” and even tells potential dates he is “medically retired” – but fails to mention he is on the Sex Offenders’ Register.

The bald paedo has also uploaded a string of images – including a pouting selfie showing off his beard.

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