The Man Using Equations To Find Love

The Man Using Equations To Find Love

(Link): All you need is maths? The man using equations to find love

Mathematician Bobby Seagull has tried to use numbers to solve his romantic difficulties. Is he on to something?

by Ellie Hunt

They say love is a numbers game. Bobby Seagull – the mathematician who rose to fame as a finalist on University Challenge in 2017 – took them literally.

A few years ago, he sat down to try to work out why he had been so unlucky in life. “I was 32 or 33, I was single, I loved maths and science – I thought: ‘Can I use maths and science to help me?’ It was a genuine, earnest attempt.”

Inspired by Peter Backus – a Manchester University economics lecturer who in 2010 wrote a paper titled Why I Don’t Have a Girlfriend – Seagull used the Drake equation, developed to estimate how many intelligent alien civilisations there might be in the galaxy, to determine his number of potential partners. “You start by assuming there’s infinitely many, then you keep on making the pool smaller and smaller.”

….Numbers have long factored into the dating game, even for those who have a ropey grasp on them. We might wonder, of a couple’s particularly serendipitous origin story: “What are the chances?” Or we might console someone who is unhappily single that “it only takes one”.

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DOJ: Online Dating Scam ‘One Of The Largest Of Its Kind’ (August 2019)

DOJ: Online Dating Scam ‘One Of The Largest Of Its Kind’

(Link): Men in California oversaw a romance scam that targeted women worldwide, feds say

(Link): Online dating scam is ‘one of the largest of its kind’

(Link) DOJ: Online Dating Scam ‘One Of The Largest Of Its Kind’

Excerpts:

August 2019

Many of the victims were elderly women

….The FBI says 32 people from all over the world were swindled out of their money in a dating scam they’re calling, “One of the largest of its kind.”

Many of the victims were elderly women.

FBI agents arrested 11 people in Los Angeles, California and another three around the country. In all, 80 people are facing charges including fraud, money laundering and identity theft.

(Link): Men in California oversaw a romance scam that targeted women worldwide, feds say

By Faith Karimi
August 24, 3029

In March 2016, a man claiming to be a US Army captain stationed in Syria reached out to a Japanese woman on an international site for digital pen pals.

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How Often Do People Lie on Dating Apps? Here’s What Two Researchers Found

How Often Do People Lie on Dating Apps? Here’s What Two Researchers Found

(Link): How Often Do People Lie on Dating Apps? Here’s What Two Researchers Found

Excerpts:

BY DAVID MARKOWITZ, UNIVERSITY OF OREGON / THE CONVERSATION JULY 31, 2019

Nearly one-fourth of young adults are looking for love through dating websites or apps.

This relatively new form of courtship can give you access to a large pool of potential partners. It also presents a unique set of challenges.

For example, you’ve probably heard about — or have personally experienced — a date that was planned online but didn’t go well forone of the following reasons: He was shorter than his profile said he was, she looked different in person than she did in her photos, or he was talkative over text but it was like pulling teeth at dinner.

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Match.com Rapist Jason Lawrance Found Guilty of More Sex Attacks

Match.com Rapist Jason Lawrance Found Guilty of More Sex Attacks

This article says he is father to three children. So obviously, contrary to Al Mohler, Bradford Wilcox and other conservatives who push the narrative that parenthood makes people more godly, mature, and responsible, has been shown (once again) to not be true.

The article also says some of his rapes of various women were committed after he married one woman – so obviously, again, contrary to conservative Christian and secular think tanks and persons, marriage does not make people more godly, loving, or ethical.

(Link): Match.com Rapist Jason Lawrance Found Guilty of More Sex Attacks

July 2019

Former businessman assaulted 12 women between over a five-year period to ‘satisfy a selfish sexual need’

A convicted serial rapist has been found guilty of further sex attacks on five women he met on an internet dating site.

Father-of-three Jason Lawrance contacted thousands of women onMatch.com or its partner company Dating Direct between 2009 and 2014, attacking 12 of them to “satisfy a selfish sexual need”.

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Study Says More American Couples Meet Online and in Bars Now than Through Family, Friends (2019)

Study Says More American Couples Meet Online and in Bars Now than Through Family, Friends (2019)

I think it’s sad, frustrating, and unfortunate for Christian singles who’d like to marry that so many churches and Christians do NOT want to take practical steps to help marriage-desiring singles to get married.

And as this study shows, when that happens, when friends, family, and church community refuse to get involved, people use bars and dating sites.

I don’t understand the Christians who promote the “Equally Yoked” rule and yet won’t help Christian singles who’d like to marry – if you’re an “Equally Yoked” advocate (I am not one), wouldn’t you want to ensure that your Christian single friend marries another Christian, rather than take her chances and dates Non-Christians she meets on dating sites and at night clubs?

(Link): Our Deepest Fears Realized: Most Couples Meet Online Now

Meeting online is trending upward, and fewer and fewer people are meeting at work, school, or through friends or family.

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Missing Tinder Date Woman Found Cut Into 14 Pieces, As Murder Suspect Blames ‘Rough Consensual Sex’ – by S. Lock

Missing Tinder Date Woman Found Cut Into 14 Pieces, As Murder Suspect Blames ‘Rough Consensual Sex’ – by S. Lock

(Link): Missing Tinder date woman found cut into 14 pieces, as murder suspect blames ‘rough consensual sex’

July 2019

A WOMAN who was murdered and found dumped in garbage bags after failing to return home from a Tinder date was cut up into 14 pieces, a court has heard.

Sydney Loofe, 24, was savagely murdered and dismembered before she was found dead and dumped in a field in December 2017 near Edgar, south-west of Omaha, about a month after she disappeared.

Aubrey Trail, 52, and his girlfriend Bailey Boswell, 25, have been chargedwith her murder.

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Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date

Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date by Greg Evans

(Link): Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date

Excerpts:

June 2019

Dating someone who is relatively unfamiliar can be a bit of a nightmare, especially if that person turns out to be not as decent as they make out.

This can be even more troublesome, should a man turn out to be not who he said he was when he started messaging.

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People Using Tinder and Other Dating Apps Are ‘More Likely to Develop Eating Disorders, Take Laxatives or Use Steroids’ To Get Bodies Like ‘Unrealistic’ Celebrities

People Using Tinder and Other Dating Apps Are ‘More Likely to Develop Eating Disorders, Take Laxatives or Use Steroids’ To Get Bodies Like ‘Unrealistic’ Celebrities

(Link): People Using Tinder and Other Dating Apps Are ‘More Likely to Develop Eating Disorders, Take Laxatives or Use Steroids’ To Get Bodies Like ‘Unrealistic’ Celebrities

Excerpts:

May 2019

People who use dating apps such as Tinder may be up to 27 times as likely to use drastic or unhealthy techniques to try and stay slim.

Deliberately vomiting, taking laxatives and even using anabolic steroids is more common among dating app users, a study found.

Researchers found ‘unrealistic’ desires to look like celebrities on television and social media are driving people to damaging behaviour.

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What Happened When Chonda Pierce Tried Online Dating

What Happened When Chonda Pierce Tried Online Dating

Pierce is a Christian stand-up comic.

There is an embedded audio file on the web page I am linking you to:

(Link): What Happened When Chonda Pierce Tried Online Dating

When it comes to comedy and faith, Chonda Pierce is unashamed.

Her bold, tell-it-like-it-is style has audiences begging her for more stories, and she delivers in the new documentary, Unashamed, in theaters May 7 and 9.

“It’s interesting, my life right now,” Pierce shares in a new interview. “I have my third documentary, and I’m still alive. You know, usually they do documentaries for dead people.”

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Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

The A&E channel is airing a program about people (mostly women) who have been raped, robbed, or murdered by men they met for dates via dating sites.

From what I gather so far about this program, the show is high lighting that dating sites are not legally responsible for your safety, nor do they care to be, and there are all sorts of crazies and violent people using these dating sites.

By the way, one of the serial rapists mentioned on this show was a married man – so much for the conservative think tank and Christian propaganda that marriage makes people “better” or more responsible and ethical.

(Link): Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

(Link): Dating App Horrors – About

(Link): Match.com predator stabbed a woman who dumped him after they dated for just 10 days then drew up a ‘kill list’ and murdered another girlfriend he met online: TV show explores the dark side of finding love on an app

-After Mary Kay Beckman’s partner died, she decided to go on Match.com
-Through the site, she met Wade Ridley and they went on a few dates in 2010
-After 10 days, she decided to stop seeing Ridley and moved on
-In January 2011, Ridley attacked her, stabbed her 10 times and left her for dead
-In February 2011, Ridley murdered Anne Simenson, another woman he met on a dating app
-Beckman’s story is part of an upcoming episode, ‘Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story’

(Link): Georgia woman recalls meeting serial rapist from dating app in doc: ‘He just looked like a normal, nice guy’

by Stephanie Nolasco

Kelly couldn’t have predicted that a clean-cut, charismatic suitor she met on a dating app was a serial rapist living a double life.

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A Dallas Man Used Grindr To Target, Assault, And Rob Gay Men

(Link): A Dallas Man Used Grindr To Target, Assault, And Rob Gay Men

Excerpt:

March 2019

A 24-year-old man has pleaded guilty to using Grindr to lure gay men to a vacant Dallas apartment to assault and then rob them, officials announced.

Michael Atkinson pleaded guilty Thursday to kidnapping and conspiracy charges in a plot that federal prosecutors said targeted gay men in Dallas.

“Unfortunately, this is not the first time we’ve seen despicable crimes on apps like Grindr,” US Attorney Erin Nealy Cox said in a statement. “I want to urge the public to be vigilant online and recognize the dangers that are lurking there.”

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Around 40% of American couples now first meet online by Dan Kopf

(Link): Around 40% of American couples now first meet online

by Dan Kopf

It is one of the most profound changes in life in the US, and in much of the rich world. Instead of meeting our partners in school, at work, or through friends and family, many of us now meet them online.

Some 39% of heterosexual couples that got together in the US in 2017 met online, according to a recently released study (pdf) by sociologists Michael Rosenfeld and Sonia Hausen of Stanford University and Reuben Thomas of University of New Mexico. This was also the case for more than 60% of same-sex couples that year.

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Dating App Horror Stories That Will Make You Feel Thankful You Are Single on Valentine’s Day by D. Cho

(Link): Dating App Horror Stories That Will Make You Feel Thankful You Are Single on Valentine’s Day by D. Cho

Excerpts:

As if dating wasn’t hard enough, dating apps have found a way to turn things from hard to damn near impossible. Between dodging catfishes to praying your date is a real person and not a bot, the odds of finding love through an app can feel pretty low.

But there’s no reason to give up — dating can help build character … right? Fortunately for you, these online daters have decided to share their worst dating app experiences so you don’t have to feel alone, reminiscing about the times you wish you never swiped right.

Robin, 37

“After going on too many first dates that weren’t panning out, including one where I drove 40 minutes to hear a guy brag about illegally squatting in a foreclosed house for a year, I decided to filter the guys I date like I do for work. (I sometimes cast guys for dating shows.)

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Lovesick Singles Are the Biggest Target for Scam Artists by K. Paul

(Link): Lovesick Singles Are the Biggest Target for Scam Artists

Excerpts:

by K. Paul, Feb 2019

Romance-related scams are now the most costly form of online fraud, the Federal Trade Commission warned Tuesday.

Losses from dating-related fraud quadrupled in recent years, ballooning from $33 million lost in 2015 to $143 million lost in 2018. In many of these scenarios, people are convinced by strangers they meet online — often on dating apps — to fork over money.

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Special Report: The Gamification of Courtship

Special Report: The Gamification of Courtship

(Link): Special Report: The Gamification of Courtship

Excerpts:

The gamification of courtship has gone global, from viral matchmaker shows in China to Tinder users who don’t stop swiping even after finding love.

The big picture: Apps are the new norm in dating. But the hyper-personalized and endless choices enabled by technology may actually be making it more difficult to meet “the one.”

Gamification is now built into dating:

  • TV series like “The Bachelor,” China’s “If You Are the One” and Britain’s “Love Island” have played off cultural courting traditions to create popular, dramatic and competitive game shows.
  • In apps, the format of swiping can intensify pleasurable chemical reactions in the brain and the “infinite scroll” persuades users to continue swiping into perpetuity.
  • With almost endless options for partners, dating has become about “fast sex, slow love,” Helen Fisher, chief scientific advisor for Match.com told Axios.

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These Statistics Show Why It’s So Hard To Be An Average Man on Dating Apps by Dan Kopf

These Statistics Show Why It’s So Hard To Be An Average Man on Dating Apps by D. Kopf

Do you know what’s more difficult than being an average man on dating apps? Being any type of woman. No, (Link): really. (Or use this link or this one.)

(Link): These Statistics Show Why It’s So Hard To Be An Average Man on Dating Apps

Dating apps are tough on the middle-of-the-road guy. If you are not one of the most desirable men on the app, you probably are not getting much attention.

Aviv Goldgeier, an engineer for the dating website Hinge, recently analyzed the share of “likes” on Hinge that went to the most-liked people of each gender.

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You Could Be Flirting On Dating Apps With Paid Impersonators by C. R. Stuart-Ulin


You Could Be Flirting On Dating Apps With Paid Impersonators by C. R. Stuart-Ulin

It’s a very long article. I read about 95% of it the other day – it’s sad and disturbing.

Some of the suggestions in the manuals the “dating closers” are told to follow by these companies are pretty sexist – they operate on sexist gender stereotypes of what they think women like and want.

(Link): You Could Be Flirting On Dating Apps With Paid Impersonators

Excerpts:

Every morning I wake up to the same routine. I log into the Tinder account of a 45-year-old man from Texas—a client.

I flirt with every woman in his queue for 10 minutes, sending their photos and locations to a central database of potential “Opportunities.” For every phone number I get, I make $1.75.

I’m what’s called a “Closer” for the online-dating service ViDA(Virtual Dating Assistants).

Men and women (though mostly men) from all over the world pay this company to outsource the labor and tedium of online dating. The matches I speak to on behalf of the Texan man and other clients have no idea they’re chatting with a professional.

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Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

(Link):  Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

Excerpts:

by Lynn Franco
Jan 2019

He’s spent 10 years alone. Now Romeo, the world’s loneliest frog, may have finally found a Juliet that can save his species

Scientists have found a potential mate for Romeo, the Sehuencas water frog who’s been alone and single for the last 10 years. Housed in a museum in Bolivia, Romeo was considered possibly the last living water frog of his kind.

The big-eyed amphibian won hearts worldwide last year after conservationists created a playful Match .com profile for him.

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Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

So, Lester Winningham murdered Deborah Houchin – I believe this was around the year 2005.

Houchin was in her 50s, she was divorced. After being single for several years after the divorce, she wanted to remarry, her friends said.

So, she joined a dating site or two – I think one news source says she tried “Match .com”.

Houchin went on dates with a lot of men who ended up being creepy or weirdos, until she met Winningham, who seemed to be a great match – he seemed normal and kind. I guess he didn’t give off any red flags, not immediately.

Well, as it turned out, Winningham murdered Houchin.

Prior to that, he proposed marriage, but one of her friends suggested before she accepted, that she get him to sign a pre-nup, because she was financially well-off.

When Houchin brought up wanting a pre-nup with Winningham, he became infuriated, very hostile, and it frightened Houchin; she told one of her friends that he acted like a totally different man.

The police detectives later found out in their research on Winningham that he was broke, and in a lot of debt. He had only wanted to marry Houchin for her money.

Houchin had met Winningham on a dating site.

The kicker to this is that the murderer, Winningham, worked as a marriage counselor!

Sort of reminds me of the blog post I did a few years ago about a husband who had written a marital advice book (on how to have a great marriage) who (Link): shot his wife in her head and killed her.

Here are a few links about this horrible news story:

(Link): Marriage counselor convicted of killing ex-fiance

A marriage counselor was convicted today of fatally shooting his ex-fiance.

 Lester Winningham, 59, faces up to life in prison in the murder conviction. Jurors were expected to begin deliberating his punishment later today.

Winningham, a licensed psychologist, is accused of shooting Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005. During three days of testimony, the jury was told how the couple fought often in the months before her death.

(Link): Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

A marriage counselor was sentenced to life in prison Friday for fatally shooting his ex-fiancee.

Earlier in the day, jurors convicted Lester Winningham, 59, of murder.

Authorities say the licensed psychologist shot Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005.

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A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

(Link): A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

Excerpts

Months of harassment led Matthew Herrick to file a lawsuit against the dating app — and he’s using laws meant to protect consumers from dangerous products to do so.

By David Ingram

[A guy named Matthew Herrick was harassed by his ex boyfriend on the Grinder app for many months]

He also filed a lawsuit against Grindr in 2017. The alleged harassment continued for months, even after Herrick obtained a temporary restraining order against Grindr that required the company to disable the impersonating profiles.

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