views and thoughts on topics, especially ones pertaining to christianity – with an emphasis on how most christians either ignore or discriminate against unmarried christians – and how christians have turned marriage and parenting into IDOLS and how there is no true support for sexual purity, virginity, or celibacy among christians – this is a blog for me to vent; I seldom permit dissenting views. I don't debate dissenters ————-
As I’ve observed the firestorm of Josh Butler’s hotly debated article in The Gospel Coalition, “Sex Won’t Save You (But it Points to One who Will),” I was left with so many questions. Indeed, in what universe did a book describing the vagina as a Most Holy Place get labeled the “Protestant magnum opus on sexual ethics we’ve been waiting for”?
The now withdrawn article reflects a pervasive problem within the church: pornification of Christian sex.
Hyper-spiritualizing sex is no guarantee of getting it right. In fact, doing so might actually be a guarantee of getting it wrong. We make the same mistake as secular society when we frame sex as the endgame of intimacy. Salvation is better than sex; it is based on God’s work, not ours; it is received by faith, not by feeling; it is secured by Christ’s blood, not our bodies; it is expressed by love, not lust; it is fulfilled by resurrection, not orgasm.
… Why do so many Christian male authors idolize gratification instead of recognizing that the best sexual pleasure is the fruit of intimacy that is already established outside the bedroom? Real oneness is the friendship, companionship, commitment, and safety of two people merging lives
The Gospel Coalition Says – in Sex Won’t Save You Essay – that (Married) Sex is a “Salvation Icon” that Supposedly “Points People to God” -TGC Making Christianity Irrelevant to Single, Celibate Adults
I first began composing this on or around March 1 (or 2?), I have it set to be auto-published on March 4, and as of today, March 3, there’s been a lot more commentary on Twitter about this awful TGC marital sex article, to the point, TGC removed the original tweet linking to it, and I learned that one guy I quote-tweeted about it, a Brent McCracken, deleted his tweet that I quote tweeted (but I have a screen capture of it), and I was informed McCracken is head editor of TGC.
NOTE: I will edit this post after publication to add any more links or new content pertinent, so you may want to periodically re-visit this page and scroll down and skim over to find new links / videos, etc
I may be writing a follow up to this post later – a part two, if you will.
Un-freaking-believable. I’ve been blogging here for over ten years, and during that time, have I not been pointing out that not only do most Christians now, even the conservatives, attack sexual purity, sexual abstinence, virginity-until-marriage, but they have also turned sex (and marriage, parenthood, the nuclear family) into idols that they worship, to the point they act distressed when they hear that fornication among singles has declined? (I have a few examples under “Related Posts” towards the bottom of this page.)
There’s more of this nonsense, courtesy of The Gospel Coalition.
It starts off well enough by recognizing that many in secular society have turned sex and relationships into idols, and seek to find love and purpose in romance and sex, but then it goes on to make the very distasteful point that sex can, or does, point people to God.
Also… if such a book begins by acknowledging that singleness is fine in a page or two (or paragraph or two) but then never-the-less 99% of the book remains focused on a Jesus-marriage-sex analogy, it’s undercutting any “it’s okay to be single” or “you don’t have to be married and having sex to have a relationship with God” message.
This is no different from the idiot pastors who make every other sermon in church about “how to have smokin’ hot sex with your spouse” but who thinks it’s okay to overly focus on marriage constantly, if they merely toss in the token, “Hey, you may be single, but this marital sermon can be applicable to you too.”
I’m sorry, but evangelical Protestants or Baptists making the majority of the non-stop deluge of comments, sermons, or books about marriage and married sex, while only offering passing lip service, to adult singleness and celibacy, is still elevating marriage (and sex) to an unhealthy, bizarre, un-Biblical degree that still marginalizes singleness.
While it is true for a long time that many in American culture have turned sex and romantic relationships into idols, or seek to find identity or purpose in such, it’s also true that for the past several years, many news headlines and studies have been published showing that a larger number of adults are declining to have sex, date, and/or marry.
If you’re trying to titillate a secular public into giving Jesus a try by using sex-God analogies or metaphors, in a society where having sex, dating, or marrying are no longer the norm and not very popular, it’s not going to work.
I mean, while Butler is writing his book comparing knowing the Trinity to marital sexual intercourse and pro-creation, other conservative outlets have been in pearl-clutching, severe worry mode, that marriage is on the decline, and they’re shaming women for not choosing motherhood, and some conservatives are even upset that single adults are not having as much sex prior to marriage as they used to.
Beware Men (especially Hetero): Men Masquerading as Women are Lying to Have Sex with You – A Few Tips on How Men Can Spot the Imposters
⚠️ The following blog post contains some very vulgar language and frank discussion of sex and sex acts. ⚠️
I follow a few social media accounts whose owners lurk at Transgender forums, Reddit areas, and so on.
Most of these Transgender spaces discussed on those social media accounts are MtF (male to female – biological males – people who were born male – who want to transition to be women, mostly by wearing dresses; these would be “transwomen”).
From what I’ve seen, there is a percentage of these men (I’m not going to call them women) who want to have relationships and sex with hetero, natal men, and most of them claim in their forums that they do not divulge upfront to the men they approach in bars or over dating apps that they too are men (transwomen).
Many of these guys seem to be homosexuals – they are men who are attracted to other men. They should’ve just stayed as regular men, skipped the mascara and skirts, and tried to date other homosexual males.
Then there is a smaller percentage of these guys who seem to be hetero – they’re normally attracted to biological women, but their desperate, pathological need for validation, to be seen as a ‘real’ woman (something they will never, ever be) runs so disturbingly deep that they think the only way they can receive validation is if a straight, biological man will have sex with them, and/or date them and view them as being the same as what they call “cis” (biological) women.
Some of these trans deviants are admitting in their online spaces to one another to already having engaged in one night stands with a lot of straight men already.
Some of them get quite descriptive with all the kinky, weird sex acts they performed on the straight, biological men they fooled into having sex with them.
Sex in Your 50s… Has the Rise of Mid-Life Dating Triggered a New Epidemic of Post-Coital Problems in Older Women?
Has the Rise of Mid-Life Dating Triggered a New Epidemic of Sexual Problems?
The article below is sex British-based, so I am unsure if all the products listed are available to Americans or others outside of Britain.
I don’t necessarily endorse sex outside of marriage – the doctor who wrote this is fine and dandy with people committing fornication.
After reading articles like the following, which discuss all the possible (health) ways sex can go wrong (lead to pain, discomfort, physical injury, etc), I don’t think sex sounds like it’s worth it. Sex sounds like more trouble than it’s worth.
This is an extremely long article. If you’d like to read it all, please use the link below:
[The article beings by discussing a woman in her 60s named Anne who had only ever had sex with her husband, but he and she divorced a few years before, her daughters got her to join a dating app, she met a new man via the app, had sex with that guy, which resulted in physical health issues]
…I had to break it to Anne that as we age, while the spirit might be willing, the body, so to speak, isn’t always so up for new romance.
Sex after the menopause can continue to be enjoyable.
But, to put it bluntly, changes to the vagina mean that, for some women, this doesn’t come as naturally as they may have hoped. Without a small amount of medical help, sex can lead to discomfort, bleeding and infections.
I’d like to say at this point that patients like Anne are not unusual.
As our surgery’s women’s health specialist, cases like this often come to me, and over the past five years or so they’ve been increasingly frequent.
Divorce, desertion or the death of a partner all mean the same thing: people in middle age find themselves newly single.
And the rise of online and app-based dating services, while fantastic in many respects, has meant problems such as Anne’s are increasingly common.
… And if you are having a tough time becoming sexually active again with a new partner – or even struggling with a not-so-new one – there’s actually a lot GPs can do to help. Painful sex is not something you have to put up with.
…A United Kingdom doctor is raising eyebrows across social media by warning people of the dangers of masturbating with ornaments come Christmastime — which is apparently an actual trend.
“It is not advisable to masturbate with Christmas ornaments,” Dr. Sarah Welsh, a gynecologist, told NeedToKnow.Online. She was listing the dildo’s and don’ts of the scandalous Yuletide tradition, which sees people hospitalized after getting frisky with everything from glass baubles to candy canes.
Indeed, trying to make Christmas come early with ornaments is apparently hazardous to one’s health.
“Christmas ornaments can have sharp aspects or pieces that can break during masturbation, which can cause soreness, the risk of trauma and are just generally unsuitable for your vagina,” warned Welsh, who co-founded the condom brand Hanx. In other words, leave your elf on the shelf come Christmastime.
Dean of Chicago School Says Students Shown Dildos, Butt Plugs While Teaching About Queer Sex – Progressives Are Perverted Groomers
I notice that all the progressives, atheists, and “exvangelical” malcontents or loons on Twitter who complain constantly about Republican, conservative, or Christian emphasis on sexual purity, sexual abstinence, or Purity Culture, never criticize the leftist perverted obsession with forcing age-inappropriate sexual content down the throats of public school children.
Why, they actually love it!
Progressives, Liberals, and ex-Christians, the types who regularly gripe about Trump voters, Republicans, Purity Culture, or evangelicals, are themselves groomers and Pedo-Enablers. What a bunch of dirt bags – hypocritical dirt bags.
The dean of an elite school in Chicago has been caught on video openly discussing how students as young as 14 were handed dildos and butt plugs during ‘comprehensive’ sex education classes.
In the video, Joseph Bruno, 41, told an undercover reporter from the conservative news website Project Veritas that the school aims to teach students at the Francis W. Parker School all about queer sexual intercourse.
‘During Pride — we do a Pride Week every year – I had like our LGBTQ+ Health Center come in. They were passing around butt-plugs and dildos to my students — talking about queer sex, using lube versus using spit,’ Bruno says.
He also disclosed that a drag queen had been invited into the classroom, who took photos with the children and handed out cookies.
The video, shared to Project Veritas’ Twitter account, which has one million followers, has been viewed more than 3.5 million times.
Jealous Ex Shoots Off His Wife’s New Boyfriend’s Penis with a Handgun – Then Laughs While Describing What Happened to Police
If you’re a single adult, tired of being single, just look at news stories like this and cheer up – being in a relationship isn’t a guarantee of happiness, not when your S.O.’s former flame shows up to shoot you with a gun in your genitals.
The guy says the shooting was an accident, but I don’t think the police are buying that. The ex wife says it was deliberate.
Is it worse to be single, or be shot in the genitals? 🤣
…Achieving the “big O” left a Mississippi woman saying “Uh-oh” as she nearly died while having an orgasm, a new medical study details.
“The patient was having sexual intercourse with her husband, and during her orgasm, she felt a ‘pop’ in her chest with radiation to her back,” research recently published in the American Journal Case Report explained. “She stated that her legs were pressed against her chest [during the orgasm].”
Per the medical journal, an unnamed 45-year-old woman from Hattiesburg, Mississippi, was rushed to the emergency room of her local hospital after suffering from “stabbing” chest pains with “10 out of 10” pain levels.
She was also afflicted with a sudden case of nausea and shortness of breath.
…A Brazilian model and polygamist who notoriously married nine women now claims he’s had to create a sex schedule to be sure each wife’s needs are met.
“They all want to fulfill my sexuality at any cost,” Arthur O Urso told Jam Press of his salacious plate-spinning.
The model and swinger, who was first married to fellow swinger Luana Kazaki, made waves in marital circles last year after tying the knot with eight additional women in São Paulo because he wanted to “protest against monogamy.” Alas, the nuptials weren’t legally binding as polygamy is outlawed in Brazil.
His arrangement might’ve sounded like a dream come true; however, Urso said he struggled to satisfy all his partners equally, so he established a romp “rota.”
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