‘I prefer cleaning my house than having sex’
Having Less Sex Could Trigger Menopause Earlier 2020 Study Says
Women who have sex at least once per month are less likely to enter early menopause compared to those who have sex less frequently, according to a new study, which followed nearly 3,000 US women for a decade.
The results, which were (Link): published in Royal Society Open Science, also dispelled previous findings that being married to a male, or being exposed to male pheromones, influenced the timing of menopause, which the authors say is largely linked to genetics.
What It’s Like To Date After Middle Age by F. Hill
For the record, I myself am NOT over the age of 50, but this article is mostly about folks age 60 and older.
(Link): What It’s Like To Date After Middle Age by F. Hill
Newly single older people are finding a dating landscape vastly different from the one they knew in their 20s and 30s.
January 8, 2020
When Rhonda Lynn Way was in her 50s and on the dating scene for the first time since she was 21, she had no idea where to start.
Her marriage of 33 years had recently ended, and she didn’t know any single men her age in Longview, Texas, where she lives.
She tried to use dating apps, but the experience felt bizarre and daunting. “You’re thrust out into this cyberworld after the refuge of being in a marriage that—even if it wasn’t wonderful—was the norm. And it’s so difficult,” she told me.
Way is now 63 and still single. She’s in good company: (Link): More than one-third of Baby Boomers aren’t currently married.
And as people are living longer, the divorce rate for those 50 or older is (Link): rising. But that longer lifespan also means that older adults, more than ever before, have years ahead of them to spark new relationships.
Poster Chapmaned24 Blocked On This Blog: He’s a Celibacy-Shaming Apologist of Pastoral Sexual Predators
I put an individual named “chapmaned24″ on block on this blog as of this evening, because he left a judgmental comment on my blog in response to a post I did about serial adulterer and serial Clergy Sex Abuse perp Tullian Tchividjian, all while seemingly suggesting I am judgmental, or a sinner, because I mentioned in passing in my commentary on Tullian that I remain a virgin over the age of 45…
(I don’t recall exactly which blog post it was, possibly (Link): this one)
Jesus Christ said in the New Testament, “Why do you call me, “Lord Lord” and do not what I command,” and he also warned that on judgement Day many will stand before him and he will tell them, “Get away from me, I never knew you.”
Is Tullian following Christ’s teachings on sexual behavior? No.
Why a Woman’s Sex Life Declines After Menopause (Hint: Sometimes It’s Her Partner) By T. Parker-Pope
By Tara Parker-Pope
A revealing new analysis gives voice to the many reasons a woman’s sex life often falters with age.
For many women, sex after menopause is not as satisfying as it used to be. But is menopause entirely to blame?
New research suggests that the hormonal changes that come with menopause are only part of the reason a woman’s sex life declines with age. It’s true that many women experience symptoms after menopause, including vaginal dryness, painful intercourse and loss of desire — all of which can affect the frequency and pleasure of sex.
But the new study shows that the reasons many women stop wanting sex, enjoying sex and having sex are far more complex.
While women traditionally have been blamed when sex wanes in a relationship, the research shows that, often, it’s the health of a woman’s partner that determines whether she remains sexually active and satisfied with her sex life.
(Most studies have focused entirely on heterosexual women, so less is known about same-sex couples after menopause.)
Letter to Advice Columnist: ‘I’m A Virgin Age 55 and I Worry My Life is Wasted’
I’m less perturbed by this guy’s homosexual orientation and more by his ageism. What is it with older men (LGBT or hetero) who insist on only boinking or dating and marrying much younger people?
And by the way: it’s a sad, sad misunderstanding and misconception by a lot of people that all people (or most) who are virgins or never-married by the age of 30 or 40 are all LGBT. That is not true! I too am a never married adult, am still a virgin, yet I am a hetero. I am NOT LGBT.
by C. Nolan
Growing up in a small village community, I never felt comfortable declaring how I felt and only two or three people know the truth about me
I’m a 55-year-old gay man and I’ve known about my sexuality since my teens, but I’ve never had any sexual experiences or relationships with anyone.
I’m still a virgin and I keep my sexuality a closely guarded secret.
Gay People Exist Because Pregnant Women Have Anal Sex, Says Cypriot Bishop in Shocking Statement
Well that’s news to me.
(And, by the way: Most women do not like anal sex – they only do it because their boyfriend or husband pressures them into doing it.)
by James Gant
July 25, 2019
A bishop has been condemned for saying gay people exist because pregnant women have anal sex.
Church of Cyprus bishop Neophytos Masouras of Morphou said at a primary school in Akaki, Nicosia District, that the sexuality is passed on when expectant women enjoy the act.
The ‘Let’s Have Intercourse’ Song
UNFORTUNATELY, I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU
I DON’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED, MAYBE YOU LOST SOME WEIGHT FOR SOME REASON,
YOU’RE NOW ON THE TOP OF MY TO-DO LIST
LET’S GET THIS OVER WITH, SO I CAN FOCUS ON OTHER TASKS
LET’S HAVE INTERCOURSE
JUST PRETEND I’M SEDUCING YOU
COME ON LET’S QUICKLY HAVE INTERCOURSE SO I CAN MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE MY BUSY LIFE
YOU AND I ARE BOTH HIGHLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE ALTHOUGH I’M IN MUCH BETTER PHYSICAL SHAPE ONCE WE DO IT IT’LL BE LIKE, WELL THAT’S WHAT THAT WAS LIKE THEN YOU’LL HOPEFULLY GO BACK, TO SEEMING WEIRD TO ME
Museum of Sex a Hotbed For Sexual Harassment: Suit
A Museum of Sex employee says she was constantly subjected to sexual harassment by drunken customers and coworkers and when she complained her bosses told her it’s “the nature of the establishment,” according to her new lawsuit.
Katherine McMahon said she worked at the Fifth Avenue museum — which houses over 20,000 artifacts relating to sex — as a gallery attendant and researcher getting paid $13.25 an hour from February 2018 until she was forced to quit in December after her and other female employees’ concerns were neglected, the Manhattan Civil suit alleges.
The Rise of DigiSexuality Could See Us Falling in Love With People Who Don’t Exist by Ellen Scott
….Digisexuality is a form of attraction primarily through the use of technology.
Those who identify as digisexual may be attracted to sex robots, AI, digitally created imagery or only feel arousal when engaging in sexual activity with a machine rather than a human.
Akihiko Kondo has a happy marriage with his wife, a hologram of a virtual reality popstar called Hatsune Miku.
Study: Men Think About Sports More Than Sex by J. Gratton
Yet another article that blows holes in the stupid complementarian books, podcasts, and sermons male pastors love to give that assume that all men think about sex all the time.
May 14, 2019
Almost 65 per cent of lads [men] admitted to thinking about football more than sex, a new study has revealed
IT’S a well accepted idea that men typically think about sex every seven seconds.
But according to a new study that’s a myth – we’re far more likely to have football on our minds.
Some 64 per cent of men think about football more than they do sex, with just eight per cent of lads admitting they think about romping all the time.
Percent of Americans Not Having Sex Reaches Record High: Report (2019)
by Brooke Seipel
March 29, 2019
The number of U.S. adults not having sex has reached a record high, according to a (Link): Washington Post analysis of data from the General Social Survey.
Twenty-three percent of respondents, or nearly 1 in 4, reported having no sex in the past year, according to the Post. More than 30 percent of adults reported having monthly sex and nearly 40 percent reported having sex weekly or more.
Young men between 18 and 30 years of age saw one of the biggest declines in sexual activity, with 28 percent saying they had no sex over the last year. The same data from 1989 shows just 14 percent of men of the same age range reporting no sex.
Young women in the same age range, however, report higher rates of sexual activity, with only 18 percent saying they had no sex in the past year.
Oklahoma Man Crashed His Car Into Adult Novelty Store Then Stole Hundreds of Dollars Worth of Sex Toys and Lingerie
Feb 19, 2019
One man took joyriding to a new level when he stole hundreds of dollars worth of sex toys and lingerie from an Oklahoma adult novelty store, which he gained entry to by crashing his car into the shop, officials said.
The incident took place around 3 a.m. Monday at Hustler Hollywood in Tulsa, the city’s police department said. However, it wasn’t reported until around 8:45 a.m. when an employee saw the damage.
Women Bored By Monogamy Says Study by W. Martin
(Link): The Bored Sex
Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it.
…Marta Meana of the University of Nevada at Las Vegas spelled it out simply in an interview with me at the annual Society for Sex Therapy and Research conference in 2017. “Long-term relationships are tough on desire, and particularly on female desire,” she said.
I was startled by her assertion, which contradicted just about everything I’d internalized over the years about who and how women are sexually.
Somehow I, along with nearly everyone else I knew, was stuck on the idea that women are in it for the cuddles as much as the orgasms, and—besides—actually require emotional connection and familiarity to thrive sexually, whereas men chafe against the strictures of monogamy.
But Meana discovered that “institutionalization of the relationship, over familiarity, and desexualization of roles” in a long-term heterosexual partnership mess with female passion especially—a conclusion that’s consistent with other recent studies.
Technological Progress and the Global Sex Recession by J. Kotkin
The author’s attitude towards celibacy is a bit negative, which I do not like. This guy seems to worship the Nuclear Family, something a lot of secular and Christian conservatives are guilty of.
It’s not just technology that possibly leads to celibacy – Christian teachings in the United States is also, or can be, a celibacy factory., and that was true long before the rise of social media.
He thinks less sex is “grim.” Oh please.
Marriage isn’t a guarantee of sex, either. I have many examples on my blog of (Link): sexless marriages.
We may live amidst what seems a libidinous culture, but oddly also an increasingly sexless time.
Of course, the drop in early teen sex – and even more so, teen pregnancies – represents positive developments, but when lack of social interaction leads to celibacy in the twenties, thirties and beyond, the implications are less than wholesome.
The Atlantic recently described a “sex recession” in the United States and most western countries, with fewer people dating and even those in relationships getting intimate less often than in the past, while fewer enjoy regular bonds of any kind.
Introducing LoveSync, A Device For Telling Your Partner You Want Sex Without Speaking To Them – Perfect Solution for Doormat Complementarian Wives!
Complementarians falsely believe that women do not want, desire, or enjoy sex – they assume that only men want sex (see Doug Wilson, Mark Driscoll and others).
Further, many complementarians (see John Piper as one example) believe it is wrong for women to be direct when communicating, because a woman being blunt with a man may hurt that man’s male ego.
(Complementarians brainwash Christian women into thinking that being Codependent is “Godly.”)
So, what is a randy, passive, doormat complementarian wife to do if she’s in the mood? I guess she can try this product:
By Madison Malone Kircher
Are you in a relationship where you have sex with another person? Great.
That’s nice for you, if you’re into having sex with other people. Are you a little fuzzy on how to ask said other person if they’d like to have sex with you? Here’s a refresher.
You ask them.
You use words — spoken, typed, sky-written — and ask your partner if they are feeling likewise horny. If they consent … then you have sex.
Americans Are Bored With Their Sex Lives by Z. Gervis
The study, conducted by OnePoll in conjunction with PinkCherry, explored the sexual routines and habits of 2,000 Americans and uncovered that a whopping 62 percent rely on the exact same positions each time they do the deed.
No wonder then that many an American is thinking about spicing things up.
Bride Discovers New Husband Has Micropenis On Honeymoon After He Refused to Have Sex Before Marriage
The groom said he wanted to wait until after they were married to have sex because he was “old fashioned like that”
Nowadays, most couples get to know each other intimately before saying ‘I Do’ and tying the knot .
But some still stick to the tradition of no sex before marriage and save the special moment for their big day.
Despite not being religious, one couple decided to wait because the man claimed to be “old fashioned like that”.
But the bride now believes this wasn’t actually the case and that he made that up to avoid her discovering his micropenis before they were married.
The couple dated for a year before he popped the question, and married after a six month engagement.
She didn’t discover the micropenis until their wedding night, when they were already away on their honeymoon.
Everything My Church Taught Me About Sex and Marriage Is Wrong by D. Brown
Pro tip: Don’t take advice from people who brag about their ‘smoking hot wives.’
… Through [Christian-based] abstinence talks and dating talks and relationship talks, my understanding of marriage has become strewn with oft-repeated lines like “I don’t deserve my smoking hot wife” and “sex is awesome and feels great but you need to wait. I did.”
Well-meaning as they were, speakers used these lines to preach the Gospel, but the main thing I took away was a shallow understanding of sex and marriage. I found myself believing in two lies: “marriage and sex are completely different” and “sex is about me.”
Marriage and Sex Are Completely Different
Most talks and sermons on physical intimacy and marriage are compartmentalized. It is about sex… and then marriage, or it is about marriage… and then sex.
I’m A 30-Year-Old Female Virgin – Should I Tell The Guys I Date? (Advice Column)
My answer to the question posed in this post’s heading (I haven’t read the advice columnist’s response yet): No, you should not, depending on the timing.
You don’t tell someone very personal information up front, not in the first few months of dating, no.
Not unless they start asking you, pressuring you, for sex, within days or weeks of dating, and you don’t want to go there – but even then, you don’t have to disclose you are a virgin, you can just tell them, “No I don’t want to have sex.”
You do not owe them an explanation as to why not.
If a guy starts trying to kiss you, and you don’t want him to, tell him “I don’t want to kiss,” or “I don’t want to French kiss.” You still do not, at that stage, tell him your sexual history.
I’m afraid the lady who wrote this question thinks that when a guy is French Kissing her – which she says makes her uncomfortable, and she’d rather a dude NOT kiss her on their second date – she thinks this means she has to tell him then and there that she doesn’t want to be french kissed by date number two because she’s sexually inexperienced.
No. The two are not the same.
Not wanting some dude to not stick his tongue down your throat is not tantamount to telling him you’ve never had sex before (or whatever your sexual history is).
You can tell him you don’t like that type of kissing and/or you want him to take things slow, that you don’t like to get ‘Handsy’ or into “making out” early in a relationship.
You do not owe him the entire story. You don’t have to give him every detail of your life.
Not only do you not share personal information early on regarding sex when dating someone, but you do not, and should not, share your financial information, and things like that.
There is nothing wrong with telling a guy to slow the hell down – you can tell him upfront on a date at the outset you don’t want to make out, no kissing, no sex, or whatever your parameters are.
If the guy balks at your standards, makes fun of you, tries to cajole you out of your standards, mocks you, or acts like a jerk about it, he’s a loser – don’t waste your time on him.
I am an almost 30-year-old straight woman who’s never had sex.
No P-in-V, no oral, not even heavy petting.
I have kissed two guys, neither of which were great experiences (my first kiss was five years ago, and he went from zero to tongue-down-throat).