Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka, and the SCCL Push-Back

Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka – via Relevant Magazine, and the SCCL Push-Back

The essay “Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex” by Rachel Pietka was discussed over at Facebook group SCCL (Link): here a few days ago.

The consensus by the SCCL readership is that the page – by R. Pietka – is that it’s awful. Many in the SCCL thread did not approve of it or agree with it.

I don’t know why the SCCL readership largely condemned the page, because some of it is right in line with the ex-Christian, or liberal Christian views, about sex and sexual purity.

I’ll give you a long excerpt from the page before discussing it a bit more below:

(Link):  Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka

What Christians need to remember about God’s design for sex.

…While the [Christian based sexual abstinence] movement is great at detailing— and exaggerating—the benefits of saving sex for marriage, it is dishonest about the challenges abstinence presents to couples who eventually tie the knot.

…Jessica Ciencin Henriquez recently detailed how the abstinence movement affected her sex life and marriage in a revealing article titled, (Link): “My Virginity Mistake.”

Henriquez relays how she pledged herself to Jesus at a purity ceremony at age 14, remained a virgin until she married six years later, and wound up divorced after she and her husband could not make things work in the bedroom.

Looking back, Henriquez states if she had not insisted on waiting for sex until marriage, she could have prevented her divorce.

Henriquez’s story is important because it highlights an issue the abstinence movement rarely acknowledges: sexual incompatibility within marriage.

While this issue may seem irrelevant, it is actually fundamental to traditional Christian beliefs about sex. The fact that sexual compatibility does not matter to Christians when choosing a spouse makes the shocking and countercultural statement that sex is not our God.

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Man Claims He Lost His Virginity to a Space Alien

Man Claims He Lost His Virginity to a Space Alien

I would like to dedicate the song “Name of the Game” to this guy, because it contains the refrain in the lyrics: “Calling all freaks! Calling all freaks!”

(Link):  BEAM ME UP HOTTIE Artist claims he lost his virginity to a busty alien called Crescent and fathered 60 ‘hybrid’ babies

Married Dave Huggins says he’s bedded several extraterrestrials throughout his life

by Margi Murphy

“When I was 17 I lost my virginity to a female extraterrestrial.”

That’s the claim made by artist David Huggins, star of a new film called Love And Saucers.

Huggins claims that a large-breasted alien called Crescent just “got on top of me” when he was just a teen.

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Let’s Talk About Intimacy – and Why it Makes for Better Love and Sex by J. Moorhead

Let’s Talk About Intimacy – and Why it Makes for Better Love and Sex by J. Moorhead

I am not in full agreement with the article’s political commentary, but otherwise, this is a very interesting page.

(Link): Let’s Talk About Intimacy – and Why it Makes for Better Love and Sex by J. Moorhead

The key to a great relationship is more than physical – it’s about taking off the mask and really revealing yourself

Is there anything we still need to know about sex? Apparently, yes: and the missing ingredient is a gamechanger not just for individuals, but entire nations.

Sex has been centre-stage in western culture for decades, but what has been absent, according to Adam Wilder, creator of the world’s first Festival of Togetherness, is the magic element that makes it all meaningful.

“The holy grail,” he says, “is intimacy. Intimacy’s the real taboo in our society – it’s the thing we fear, because it’s about taking off the mask that so many of us hide behind. But it’s the key to being freer, happier and more alive and it could change not only our personal lives, but the political decisions we take as a society.”

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Teens Too Busy Playing Video Games to Have Sex

Teens Too Busy Playing Video Games to Have Sex

(Link): Teens Too Busy Playing Video Games to Have Sex

Sure, New York City parents still worry about their teens having sex, drinking and smoking — but the kids are far more interested in smartphones and video games like Pokémon and Grand Theft Auto, a new survey has found.

Nearly half of city teens — 45.6 percent — spend at least three hours a day playing their computer or video games, according to the 2015 biennial Youth Risk Behavior Survey conducted by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

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Americans Having Less Sex Now, Says 2017 Study

Americans Having Less Sex Now, Says 2017 Study

I have no idea why this article author thinks it’s “disturbing” that less sex is taking place. I don’t recall the article really explaining why the author finds it disturbing.

(Link):  People are having less sex and it’s a sign of something much more disturbing by J Brown

Sex is everywhere nowadays, and we’re certainly not afraid to talk about it.

But that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re having loads of it. In fact, Americans are having less of it than they used to.

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Texas Man Charged with Indecent Exposure After Neighbor Claims He Was Having Sex with Fence

Texas Man Charged with Indecent Exposure After Neighbor Claims he Was Having Sex with Fence

(Link):  Texas Man Charged with Indecent Exposure After Neighbor Claims he Was Having Sex with Fence

March 2017

Austin police arrested a 32-year-old man last week after a neighbor complained to officers that she saw him having sex with a fence.

Eliodoro Estala faces a misdemeanor charge of indecent exposure in Travis County, court records show.

The female neighbor told police that she was looking out of her duplex window on Wednesday morning when she saw Estala urinating on the fence that separates their properties, the Austin American-Statesman reported. The man undressed, put his mouth on the chain-link fence, stuck out his tongue and began having sex with the fence, the woman told police.

The woman took photos and videos with her cell phone and showed them to police, according to theStatesman. Police said Estala appeared to be intoxicated.

Woman Disembowels Pakistani Ex-Husband After Sex Romp: ‘My Intestines Were Out’

Woman Disembowels Pakistani Ex-Husband After Sex Romp: ‘My Intestines Were Out’

(Link): Woman Disembowels Pakistani Ex-Husband After Sex Romp: ‘My Intestines Were Out’

A woman in England stands accused of trying to completely disembowel her ex-husband in an attempt to stop him from leaving the country with their young daughter.

Taxi driver Mohammed Bilal Miah relayed during proceedings at Birmingham Crown Court in the U.K. on Monday how his wife, 35-year-old Dalya Saeed, sliced open his stomach and yanked out part of his small intestine after she requested for him to stop by her Moseley apartment in 2015, the Daily Mail reports.

Sex Robots Would Give Us Only What We Think We Want, and Not What We Truly Desire by R. Pelling

Sex Robots Would Give Us Only What we think We Want, and Not What We Truly Desire by R. Pelling

(Link): Sex robots would give us only what we think we want, and not what we truly desire by R. Pelling

…A study cited by one of the speakers reported that around 40 per cent of men would happily purchase a sex robot given half a chance.

The conference nicked its name from tech whizz and international chess master David Levy’s 2007 best-selling book, Love and Sex with Robots.

Levy said it was now a certainty that humans would be marrying automata (“enormously appealing partners for some people”) by 2050.

Before you scoff, think of the emotions most of us regularly display towards our smartphones: panic, despair and a sense of hopelessness sweep over me if I’m parted from mine for more than an hour. In fact, it’s fair to say I’d rather lose my husband for a week than my iPhone.

Add to this Levy’s assessment that, unlike tricky old humans, “Your robot will be protective, loving, trusting, truthful, persevering, respectful, uncomplaining, complimentary, pleasant to talk to and share your sense of your humour,” and you may start to see the appeal of a robot spouse.

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The Ideal Boyfriend Revealed: Women Love ‘Quietly Confident’ Men Who WAIT for Sex (and Detest Alpha Males)

The Ideal Boyfriend Revealed: Women Love ‘Quietly Confident’ Men Who WAIT for Sex (and Detest Alpha Males)

(Link): The ideal boyfriend revealed: Women love ‘quietly confident’ men who WAIT for sex (and detest alpha males)

by Karen Ruiz

  • Hundreds of women took to Reddit to reveal ‘rare’ qualities they look for in men
  • Many revealed they prefer men who are not afraid to show femininity 
  • Some men admitted they wish they could embrace their feminine side publicly  
  • Other responses include ‘quiet confidence’ and intelligence  
  • Women have revealed the qualities they look for in a potential partner – and it seems that the quintessential alpha male is out of fashion.

    The revelations were made in a (Link): Reddit thread asking women to name the ‘hard to find’ quality they’re attracted to, and a large proportion of the 800 replies revealed that a man who is in touch with his feminine side is top of the list.

    Others chimed in to mention traits such as ‘quiet confidence’ and intelligence, while being willing to wait before having sex for the first time is also a desirable trait.

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Why Sexual Desire is Objectifying and Hence Morally Wrong by R. Halwani

Why Sexual Desire is Objectifying and Hence Morally Wrong by R. Halwani

I’m not sure if I agree or disagree with this. I just thought it would be interesting for this blog.

(Link): Why Sexual Desire is Objectifying and Hence Morally Wrong by R. Halwani

Excerpts:

Once desire becomes suspect, sex is never far behind. [8th-century philosopher Immanuel] Kant implicitly acknowledged the unusual power of sexual urges and their capacity to divert us from doing what is right.

He claimed that sex was particularly morally condemnable, because lust focuses on the body, not the agency, of those we sexually desire, and so reduces them to mere things. It makes us see the objects of our longing as just that ­– objects. In so doing, we see them as mere tools for our own satisfaction.

Treating people as objects can mean many things. It could include beating them, tearing into them, and violating them. But there are other, less violent ways of objectifying people.

We might treat someone as only a means to our sexual pleasure, to satisfy our lust on that person, to use a somewhat archaic expression. The fact that the other person consents does not get rid of the objectification; two people can agree to use one another for purely sexual purposes.

…Sex, though, is different.

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Frustrated Husband Chops Off His Genitals With A Knife After His Wife Hadn’t Had Sex With Him For A DECADE

Frustrated Husband Chops Off His Genitals With A Knife After His Wife Hadn’t Had Sex With Him For A DECADE

Am I the only one who’s heard of the concept of masturbation? If your wife isn’t doing it for you, you can do it for yourself, if you know what I mean.

The article says every time this guy asked for sex, it was when he was drunk, and understandably, his wife was not interested in “getting it on” when he was drunk.

I guess getting married did not guarantee this guy a steady diet of sex, which runs contrary to what Christians tell you – that if you reserve sex until marriage, the sex will be recurrent and great.

(Link): Frustrated husband chops off his genitals with a knife after his wife hadn’t had sex with him for a DECADE

  • Ghasi Ram, 37, cut off his penis after his advances were rejected
  • His wife, Manjhri Devi, said he was regularly drunk and never listened to her
  • The couple have been married for 18 years and have a daughter and two sons
  • It happened in Uttar Pradesh in northern India 

Related Posts:

(Link):  Lonely Life of Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, the Man with the World’s Longest Penis

(Link):  Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

(Link):  Man undergoing minor surgery given vasectomy by mistake

(Link): Husband Forgets How to Have Sex After Botched Cancer Surgery

(Link): Spiritual leader allegedly manipulated 400 men into removing testicles to be ‘closer to God’

(Link):  Ohio Preacher Asked Men if they Performed Oral Sex on Spouses, Asked Males if they Had Large Penises, Asked to Look at their Penises, Asked One Actor if He Shaved His Pubic Hair, Encouraged Women Congregants to Get Abortions, Males to Get Vasectomies / Another Blow to “Be Equally Yoked” Christian Teachings

Ecosexuals Have Sex With Planet Earth

Ecosexuals Have Sex With Planet Earth

And society mocks adult celibates for being celibate. Being celibate is downright normal, especially compared to this lunacy…

(Link):  Deranged Envirohippies Create the ‘Ecosexual Bathhouse’

(Link): No, ‘Ecosexuals,’ Mother Nature Does Not Want To Have Sex With You

(Link): Ecosexuals want to save the planet by having sex — with nature

Nov 3, 2016

Some people recycle to stay green, others give up eating meat to save the environment.

And then there are those who have sex with trees and dirt to chip in.

Part environmental activism and part artform, “ecosexuality” and “ecosexuals”are part of a larger liberal movement that is picking up steam, according to Breitbart. Today, more than 100,000 people identify as ecosexuals.

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‘She’s a traditional girl’: Singer Mariah Carey ‘refused to sleep with ex-fiancé James Packer before marriage’ as it’s claimed they ‘slept in separate beds’

‘She’s a traditional girl’: Mariah Carey ‘refused to sleep with ex-fiancé James Packer before marriage’ as it’s claimed they ‘slept in separate beds’

I don’t know how true this is, but it fits one of several themes I blog about on a recurrent basis…

If this is true, good for Mariah Carey for sticking to her values and personal convictions.

(Mariah Carey is a pop singer who has had a lot of hit songs since the 1990s.)

(Link): ‘She’s a traditional girl’: Mariah Carey ‘refused to sleep with ex-fiancé James Packer before marriage’ as it’s claimed they ‘slept in separate beds’

Oct 29, 2016

  • Mariah’s alleged no sex before marriage rule refutes claims she had an affair with choreographer, Bryan Tanaka
  • Singer still sporting $10 million engagement ring
  • Packer and Mariah have not seen each other in over a month
  • They had a dramatic fight while holidaying in Greece in September

Her ex-husband Nick Cannon previously revealed that they did not sleep together until their wedding night.

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Christian Abstinence Speaker Forces Girl Students to Hear Mandatory Sexual Purity Message While Boys Excused

Christian Abstinence Speaker Forces Girl Students to Hear Mandatory Sexual Purity Message While Boys Excused

I am not opposed to Christians teaching their kids about the benefits or moral basis of remaining a virgin until marriage. I do believe the Bible teaches that position, actually.

However, I do take issue with the fact that Christians almost always emphasize staying a virgin for girls but not for boys. That seems to be the case here.

That the boys were excused for a sexual abstinence message is, in my view, incredibly sexist and sends the wrong message – both to boys and girls. This sort of thing also makes Christians look like backwards, sexist rednecks to the Non-Christians who blogged about this to mock it or criticize it – which they have.

I do think there is at least one possible positive: at least the teen girls are hearing that staying a virgin is a viable option.

Where-as many secular feminists and liberals are always mocking virginity and celibacy, so that they make young girls (and even older women) feel as though they MUST have sex or there is something wrong with them if they are not having sex, or if they don’t want to have sex.

Contrary to what ths Henning guy says, it’s not true that men have higher sex drives than women or are more visually stimulated than women, so Henning can drop that from his materials. God did not “wire men to be more sexual” than women. (I’ve done other blog posts on those topics before, so I’m not going to get into that here.)

It’s not a girl or woman’s responsibility to dress in such a way that a boy or man does not feel aroused, as Henning claims. Each boy and man is capable of controlling himself, regardless of how a girl or woman is dressed. Christians: stop making females responsible for the sexual sins and failings of males – even the Bible does not do this.

(Link):  School Makes Girls Attend Christian’s Abstinence Lecture

Oct 20, 2016

by Mike Allen

Payson High School in Arizona recently required girls to attend an assembly about sexual abstinence, while the boys were given the option to attend, or not attend, an assembly on dating.

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“Jesus Didn’t Die to Save My Hymen” Declares An Anti-Sexual Purity Advocate – My Response

“Jesus Didn’t Die to Save My Hymen” Declares An Anti-Sexual Purity Advocate – My Response

I have addressed topics similar to this before on my blog, so instead of re-hashing all my previous points and arguments, I may just link you to a few of my older posts farther below.

(I should perhaps mention that I’ve had a long day today, am very tired, and currently have a bad headache, so I am not in top form to compose a post right now.)

Here’s the impetus behind this post:

I was reading through my Twitter feed today and saw a post where Janet Mefferd, Christian radio host, shared a comment about how an anti-Sexual Purity article Tweeted by Christian site ‘Relevant’ was Gnostic in nature, in that it talked about ‘sexual soul purity’ vs. ‘sexual bodily purity.’

You can read Mrs. Mefferd’s Tweet (Link): here, with some responses by me below it.

Where-upon an anti-Sexual Purity advocate I follow on Twitter by the name of April, shared Ms. Mefferd’s Tweet or another related Tweet by Mefferd with the comment above it, “Jesus didn’t die to save my hymen.”

You can view April’s tweet (Link): here.

I Tweeted in response to April the following comment:

Taking an anti-sexual purity stance waters down biblical sexual ethics. I’m over 40, still a virgin.  @ April_Kelsey

Well, I don’t recall Ms. Mefferd or myself or anyone else who defends the concept of sexual purity, or who say the Bible does teach the concept of sexual purity, as saying that Jesus died to save your hymen.
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Sex is Holy – by M. Lucado

Sex is Holy – by M. Lucado

(Link):  7 Things God Says Are Holy; What’s Sacred to Us? 

Excerpt:

 Sex is holy.

Many people see sex as recreation; in the same league as golf or sailing. God sees sex as a unique portrayal of divine intimacy. “Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.” (Hebrews 13:4 MSG) God is not anti-sex. After all, he invented it! He regards it as a holy act; a portrayal of the relationship he desires with us.


Related Posts:

(Link):  Virginity is a Sacred Choice, Not a Shameful Status by C. Martin / Giving Sex to a Man is Not A Guarantee for a Lasting Relationship – Contra Comic Chelsea Handler

(Link): When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

Secular Liberal Author Doesn’t Think A Woman Choosing to Be Celibate is A Form of Feminism – Especially if Motivated in Part by Religious Convictions

Secular Liberal Author Doesn’t Think A Woman Choosing to Be Celibate is A Form of Feminism – Especially if Motivated in Part by Religious Convictions

This is another one of those posts I didn’t want to write.

Previously, I blogged about this:

(Link): I’m a 32-Year-Old Virgin, and I’m Living the Feminist Dream by K. Bryan

This editorial by Bryan, which was originally published on The  Washington Post, did not sit well with writer Aimée Lutkin over at left wing feminist site Jezebel. Lutkin spends much of her post summarizing Bryan’s editorial.

Here are excerpts from Lutkin’s piece,
(Link): Purity Culture May Get You What You Want, But That Doesn’t Make It Feminist

Being happy and fulfilled and a woman at the same time does not automatically make one a feminist.

….Considering Bryan’s scholarly pursuits and her immersion in purity culture, it seems likely that her choices are influenced more by her Catholicism than the fight for equality between the sexes.

But hey, if Bryan feels free to disregard the needs of men to pursue goals like learning to scull on the Potomac and working a job she says is the best she’s had in her life, perhaps she has achieved her idea of equality through sexual abstinence.

In a world that frequently feels like it specifically wants to make women miserable, feeling some measure of happiness as an independent woman is a triumph. But although equality is a kind of triumph, triumph is not necessarily equality. Bryan says:

…Personally, my feminist dream definitely includes lots of consensual, joyful, sexual congress outside of marriage, without shame or religious condemnation, but we’re all dreaming a different dream.

Regarding this comment by Lutkin:

But hey, if Bryan feels free to disregard the needs of men…

I’m sorry, but what? Since when is sex a “need,” and who of the female sex cares if men are going without sex? Women are not obligated to give men sex to meet their supposed “need for sex.”

I thought feminists fought against men objectifying women to be used as sex objects? I thought feminists at Jezebel like to say, “Men, we don’t care about your boners.” Now, here we have a feminist writer at Jezebel telling women that they really need to care about men’s boners.

I note that left wing feminists are arrogant enough to think they alone get to determine and define for other women what feminism is.

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Russia BANS Two Porn Sites And Tells Users To “Meet Someone In Real Life”

Russia BANS Two Porn Sites And Tells Users To “Meet Someone In Real Life”

This is funny. And I don’t think their advice is all that bad – get off the naked picture sites and go out and meet real live people.

(Link): Russia BANS Two Porn Sites And Tells Users To “Meet Someone In Real Life”

Russia’s media watchdog has extended its crackdown on internet pornography, banning two of the biggest porn sites in the world.

As of Tuesday, Pornhub and YouPorn now redirect Russian visitors to a page that says they’ve been blocked ‘by decision of public authorities.’

In response to the outcry that has since ensued, the agency behind the move has reiterated advice issued on Twitter last year following the ban of 11 popular porn sites – telling disgruntled users to ‘meet someone in real life.’

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School sex education around the world is out of touch with teens, study finds.

School sex education around the world is out of touch with teens, study finds.

(Link): School sex education around the world is out of touch with teens, study finds.

By DR. KATHRYN J. HORTON

Sep 16, 2016, 4:49 PM ET

…Recent data suggests, however, that schools in many nations are falling short in educating young people effectively about sex and relationships. Students and young adults in different countries express frustration at school-based sex education programs, according to a (Link):  new review published earlier this week in the British Medical Journal.

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Married Church Staffer Arrested for Secretly Filming Upskirt Videos of Girls, Women in Church Bathroom and While They Kneeled During Services – Equally Yoked is BUNK

Married Church Staffer Arrested for Secretly Filming Upskirt Videos of Girls, Women in Church Bathroom and While They Kneeled During Services – Equally Yoked is BUNK 

Way farther below in this post is a link to a news story about a married church staff guy who was a pervert. (I think I first saw this news story via @watchkeep’s Twitter account.)

My Christian parents brought me up to think if I wanted to marry, that the best place for me to meet potential spouses would be at a church. I suppose the assumption with that is that the type of men who attend church regularly are going to be “safer” or better moral choices than the type of dude you might meet at a bar.

However, in the last few years of running this blog, I have seen (Link): so many news stories of church-going Christian men who get arrested for abuse or perversion, I now have my doubts about that.

Secondly, single women out-number single men in churches. I know that every church I’ve been to in person, I’ve been one of the few singles there. The only men in attendance and 80 years old, which would be fine if I were 80 too, but I’m not, and May December relationships (Link): make me want to barf.

Below  is a news report of a church staffer who was caught secretly filming “upskirt” videos of girls and women in church bathrooms and during church services. That is bad enough as-is, but the report says that the church discouraged the women from contacting the police over this.

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