views and thoughts on topics, especially ones pertaining to christianity – with an emphasis on how most christians either ignore or discriminate against unmarried christians – and how christians have turned marriage and parenting into IDOLS and how there is no true support for sexual purity, virginity, or celibacy among christians – this is a blog for me to vent; I seldom permit dissenting views. I don't debate dissenters ————-
Christians In Love With Non-Christians (and Their Christian “Friends” Who Object)
(Link): Christians In Love With Non-Christians (and Their Christian “Friends” Who Object)
Excerpts:
[The author reproduces some correspondence from Christian women who say they are or were dating Non-Christian men, but their Christian friends objected]
…You know what else is not a Christian thing to do (or what shouldn’t be, anyway)? Putting religious dogma ahead of being a friend.
Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate by K. Allen
So much for the Christian teaching that marriage is necessary to make people more mature, godly, and ethical.
(Link): Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate
Excerpts:
Police charged a jail nurse in Missouri with murder after she allegedly poisoned her husband and tried to cover it up by setting their home on fire — all in a bid to marry an inmate.
Amy Murray was arrested on Thursday in connection with the December death of her husband, Joshua Murray, who she allegedly set on fire and poisoned with antifreeze, according to a probable cause statement.
She allegedly set the couple’s bedroom on fire and left with her 11-year-old son and dogs to go to McDonald’s, according to the statement. As an alibi, Murray said she found the house on fire when she returned and the smoke was too heavy for her to go inside, according to a probable cause statement.
Christian School Teacher Whose Spouse Caught Her in Bed With Teen Sentenced by J. Salo
Does marriage make people more sexually pure, godly, loving, mature, or ethical, as so many Christians and politically conservative talking heads claim?
No, it does not.
This is the 100th millionth example on this blog of a married person who committed a serious sin.
Marriage does not make people more mature, godly, responsible, or ethical; “the family” or “marriage” will not save or fix a society.
Is married Christian sex “mind blowing,” as so much Christian teaching regarding sexual behavior suggests? Apparently not, if Christian wives like this feel the need to have sexual relations with a teen. Her husband wasn’t quite doing it for her.
Does someone have to obtain a standard of moral perfection, or some other criteria, before God will grant that person a spouse, as so many blogs, articles, and sermons by Christians suggest? No, obviously not, otherwise, this woman, who ended up being a skanky pervert, would not have gotten married.
(Link): Christian School Teacher Whouse Spouse Caught Her in Bed With Teen Sentenced by J. Salo
Excerpts:
February 11, 2019
A former Christian school teacher whose husband caught her in bed with a student was sentenced to prison, according to officials.
Andrea Nicole Baber, who taught at Logos Christian Academy, was ordered Friday to serve 20 months in prison for having sex with a student in Springfield, Oregon, (Link): the Register-Guard reported.
The 30-year-old educator pleaded guilty last month to rape and contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor.
Article About Doctor Pedophile from WSJ Mentions His Unmarried Status – Why?
An article from the Feb 9/10, 2019 issue of the Wall Street Journal – one by Christopher Weaver, Dan Frosch, and Gabe Johnson – details the many instances of pedophilia by a doctor named Weber who worked in a few different government-run hospitals that treated Native American Indians.
(Link): Pedophile Doctor Left Trail of Suspicions – And Abuse
Instead of the government doing anything about his suspected pedophilia, they shuffled him around from hospital to hospital.
In other words, they treated him and covered up the child sex abuse the way so many churches do, by moving the guilty from one church to the next. There was no accountability. A lot of people looked the other way. People who were whistle-blowers were threatened to keep quiet.
The thing that stood out to me in the article was this comment in the introduction:
At first, officials at the U.S. Indian Health Service overlooked the peculiarities of their unmarried new doctor, including the children’s toys he hoarded in his basement on the reservation.
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Please notice the phrase “unmarried… doctor.”
Why is it significant to mention that the predatory doctor was single?
A married man with no children would also seem odd “hoarding children’s toys” in his basement.
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Baby Died of Malnutrition, Dehydration, and an E. Coli Infection Caused by Being Left In a Maggot-Infested Diaper for Two Weeks
Cheyanne Harris, 21, left the courthouse in Iowa, US, crying after harrowing pictures of four-month-old Sterling Koehn were shown to a jury
A young [mom] accused of leaving her baby son to die in a maggot-infested nappy [diaper] sobbed in court yesterday.
Jurors were shown photos of tragic four-month-old Sterling Koehn at his [mom] Cheyanne Harris’ trial.
Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison
(Link): Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison
Excerpts:
Feb 2, 2019 by AP
FORT WORTH, Texas — A Texas man who admitted to killing his estranged wife by tying a massive chunk of concrete to her and throwing her off a bridge into a lake has been sentenced to life in prison.
Prosecutors in Fort Worth say Rodolfo “Rudy” Arellano pleaded guilty Wednesday to capital murder. He’ll serve life behind bars without chance of parole.
(Link): Texas Mom Killed After Husband Tied Concrete Chunk to Her Neck and Threw Her Off Bridge Into Lake
by Steve Helling
A Texas man pleaded guilty on Wednesday to murder charges after authorities said he tied his wife to a 119-pound block of concrete before throwing her into a lake to drown.
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Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan
Excerpts:
Feb 2019
Lawyer Udeme Otike-Odibi, 47, a British-Nigerian citizen, is accused of hacking her spouse’s privates off and stuffing them in his hand as she brutally attacked him during a blood splattered frenzy
…Then the dual British-Nigerian citizen allegedly placed his severed manhood in his hand and told him it was “better we cut if off”.
Pastor Accused of Choking Woman Pregnant With His Child at Southside Impact Church
Lessons from this news story:
Even more atrocious is that this idiot markets himself as a “relationship expert” and has written dating or marital advice books for women! He’s an utter hypocrite.
The article keeps referring to the woman in the story as the “mother of so- and- so’s children,” so I take it they were not married, which I guess, means this preacher was guilty of fornication (sex outside of marriage)?
(Link): Pastor Accused of Choking Woman Pregnant With His Child at Southside Impact Church
Excerpts:
Jan 2019
by L. Blair
Rashan Lamar Wilson, lead pastor of Southside Impact Church in Charleston, South Carolina, was arrested and charged Monday for allegedly strangling the pregnant mother of his children until she passed out.
Wilson is the author of books such as “99 & 1/2 Things A Woman Needs From Her Man: How To Establish and Maintain a Healthy Relationship.”
Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids by T. Gettys
Many conservative Christians and conservative, secular think tanks keep arguing that the “nuclear family” and marriage are best for our culture, and that marriage (and parenthood) are supposedly necessary to make people godly, mature, and responsible, though the Bible itself teaches no such thing.
How do these Nuclear Family Idolizing and Marriage Idolizing Christians and secular conservatives reconcile their marriage and family propaganda with news stories such as this one, which clearly demonstrate that marriage does not build character in people:
(Link): Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids
by Travis Gettys
An Idaho woman faces a possible prison term for failing to report her husband’s sex abuse and instead praying and trying to keep him too busy to molest children.
Sarah Kester was charged with felony injury to a child, and her husband Lester Kester pleaded guilty in November to molesting five children over two decades, (Link): reported the Idaho Statesman.
The 48-year-old husband faces a possible life term when he is sentenced next week on five counts of lewd conduct with a child younger than 16 years old.
Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’
I’m still waiting to see examples of how marriage makes people more godly, mature, and responsible, as 99% of conservative Christians and secular and religious conservative think tanks keep claiming.
I keep seeing examples in the news of married people who rape and murder each other, or other people.
(Link): Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’
David Thomas, 74, told the Old Bailey he struck his wife Sheila’s head at their former matrimonial home in Herne Hill, south London – but he denies murder
17 Jan 2019
By Sam Corbishley
…David Thomas, 74, told jurors he struck Shelia, 69, over the head with a walking stick while in a daze.
He said they had been arguing but denied that he had been lying in wait for his wife to ‘seek revenge.’
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Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane
I really do want conservative think tanks, pro-family groups, conservative television host Tucker Carlson, and complementarian or conservative Christians to explain to me how marriage or “the family” makes society better, or how marriage is necessary to make a person mature, godly, or a “true” adult, when I keep seeing so many news stories of married people who kill each other, or news items about husbands who are caught using child porn, beating their wives, or visiting prostitutes.
Marriage did not do anything to make this woman behave in a godly, mature, kind-hearted nature towards her husband.
I am someone who is over the age of 45, I’ve never been married, and I deeply resent conservative talk show hosts or “pro-family” Christian groups who keep acting as though everyone needs to be married, and if they are not, they are ruining society or are incapable of being godly and mature.
The Bible teaches that being single is fine with God – see 1 Corinthians chapter 7. No where does the Bible teach that marriage is mandatory for any reason – not to “save” culture or to make people more “godly.”
This article says that the wife may have dementia or mental health problems – well, did marriage keep this woman from developing mental health issues? No, it did not.
Christians and conservatives need to stop holding marriage or “the family” up as some kind of magical fix-alls.
(Link): Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane
An elderly Florida woman beat her husband to death with a cane on Saturday, police said.
Ramona Maxine Lund, 86, from Pace, is charged with 89-year-old Francis Lund’s murder,the Orlando Sentinel reported. She is the oldest person in the county to be charged with murder, Santa Rosa County Sheriff Bob Johnson said at a press conference Monday.
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Polish Man Charged Men £4 to Rape Wife He Fed Semen Sandwiches
This news story is beyond repulsive.
Some Christian gender complementarians would say that this woman should’ve stayed married to this abusive pervert no matter what. And complementarians have the audacity to say that their biblical interpretation is respectful of women? No, it’s not.
(Link): Polish Man Charged Men £4 to Rape Wife He Fed Semen Sandwiches
Dec 2018
by Luke Kenton
The woman, who has not been named, was subjected to four years of vile sexual abuse at the hands of her husband – including two locked in a darkened cellar
A man dubbed the ‘Polish Josef Fritzl’ has been sentenced to 25 years behind bars for imprisoning his wife in a dark cellar and subjecting her to years of sexual abuse.
In the small village of Parszczyce, in northern Poland, husband Mariusz Sz. severely abused his wife across a four-year period between 2006 and 2010, locking her in a pitch-black cellar for two of the years.
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British Couple Who Named Their Infant After Hitler Was Arrested For Terror Group Membership
To all the secular and Christian conservatives out there promoting this false idea (and yes, some of them do in fact do this), that being married and being a parent is necessary to make people more godly, mature, and responsible, I present to you yet another example demonstrating that being a parent does not do didley squat didley to improve a person’s character.
(Link): British Couple Who Named Their Infant After Hitler Was Arrested For Terror Group Membership
by Josh Halliday, Dec 2018
A neo-Nazi couple who named their baby son after Adolf Hitler and made their home a “shrine to extreme racism” have been jailed for membership of a terrorist group.
Adam Thomas was pictured cradling his son while wearing the hooded robes of the Ku Klux Klan. His partner, Claudia Patatas, believed “all Jews must be put to death”, a trial at Birmingham crown court heard.
Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women (Many of Whome Are Married Yet Very Lonely)
We have a problem with this in the U.S.A. as well (i.e, adults feeling lonely, including senior citizens), but American churches are fixated on “The Nuclear Family,” rather than doing what the Bible tells them to do: cater to the out-cast and ignored: the widows, the orphans, never-married adults who live alone, and all the rest of those who do NOT fit the “Married with Kids at Home” demographic.
But notice that some of the women described in this article are in fact married – some even have adult children.
So, does marriage make people more godly, and responsible, as American Christians claim? No. Marriage does not make anyone immune from being sinful and committing crimes.
Does being married or having children mean you’re going to have company and never feel lonely all the days of your life? No, because the married mothers in this article say they feel neglected, ignored, and misunderstood, even by their own husbands and children.
(Link): Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women
Excerpts:
Dec 2018
Lonely seniors are shoplifting in search of the community and stability of jail.
By Shiho Fukada
Every aging society faces distinct challenges. But Japan, with the world’s oldest population (27.3 percent of its citizens are 65 or older, almost twice the share in the U.S.), has been dealing with one it didn’t foresee: senior crime.
Complaints and arrests involving elderly people, and women in particular, are taking place at rates above those of any other demographic group. Almost 1 in 5 women in Japanese prisons is a senior.
Their crimes are usually minor — 9 in 10 senior women who’ve been convicted were found guilty of shoplifting.
Why have so many otherwise law-abiding elderly women resorted to petty theft? Caring for Japanese seniors once fell to families and communities, but that’s changing. From 1980 to 2015, the number of seniors living alone increased more than sixfold, to almost 6 million.
And a 2017 survey by Tokyo’s government found that more than half of seniors caught shoplifting live alone; 40 percent either don’t have family or rarely speak with relatives.
Dear Advice Lady: ‘My Husband’s Been Having Filthy Online Sex While Wearing Women’s Panties And Now Someone Is Blackmailing Him’
I see stuff like this and think, “I’m kind of glad I never married.”
If this is what marriage is, NO THANK YOU.
As to all that conservative Christian garbage about how marriage is necessary to make people godly, sexually pure, and what not – this is clear proof that once again, no, it does not.
Marriage did not keep the guy in this letter from using porn sites, wearing women’s underwear while masturbating, and engaging in phone or e-mail sex with various women online.
(Link): DEAR DEIDRE My husband’s hooked on filthy online sex and wears lingerie to pleasure himself
DEAR DEIDRE:
MY husband has been blackmailed by a girl he was having online sex with and I only found out when I found a letter from the police saying their investigation was complete.
I am 32, he is 34.
We have been together for ten years and have two kids aged eight and six.
I confronted him and he told me the girl added him on Facebook and it quickly escalated to online sex and mutual masturbation talk.
Then she tried to blackmail him. He went to the police but didn’t tell anyone. I feel sorry for him but it feels like the final straw.
Couple Put Kids In Car Trunk for 900 Mile Drive So Dogs Could Sit on Back Seat
And 99% of conservative Christians go on and on about how being a parent is necessary to make a person a true adult, and to make someone more loving, giving, and godly. What a bunch of crap.
Here’s another example of how parenthood did not make people more loving, giving or godly:
(Link): Couple Put Kids In Car Trunk for 900 Mile Drive So Dogs Could Sit on Back Seat
by Jimmy McCloskey
Friday 7 Dec 2018 3:42 pm
A couple admitted putting two young children in a car trunk for a 900 mile drive so their German shepherds could ride on the back seat.
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The Green River Serial Killer and Necrophiliac Was A Christian Married Father
There was a television special on a few days ago about Gary Ridgway, who is the Green River serial killer.
Several aspects of this pervert’s life are relevant to subjects I discuss regularly on this blog, so keep on reading…
Ridgway had upwards of around 70 women victims, most in age of about 15 to their early 20s, though a few may have been around 12 or 13 years old.
Most of Ridgway’s victims were prostitutes, some were runaway kids.
Ridgway later admitted to authorities to occasionally going back and having sex with the dead bodies of his murder victims.
Here is how this pervert’s story is relevant to this blog:
Point 1. Marriage and Parenthood Do Not Make People Into Godly, Mature, Responsible Adults
I grew up in Southern Baptist churches. Both my parents were Southern Baptists.
Like many other conservative Christian groups, Southern Baptists peddle some untrue and un-biblical notions about marriage, natalism, and the family unit: they tend to assume and they will also sometimes teach, that marriage or parenthood are necessary to make a person fully adult, mature, godly, responsible, and ethical.
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Mother Sexually Abused Her Own Infant Son While Breastfeeding Him And Video Taping It
The link to the news story is much farther below.
If I am understanding this article correctly, this woman sexually abused her own infant son as she was breastfeeding him, took video of it, and uploaded the video somewhere.
In the article, she says she made these child sex abuse videos because she has low self esteem because the father of the infant son she was abusing dumped her – he left her.
I grew up hearing from Christians – Christians in churches I went to, in Christian literature, and even now, sometimes I see on Christian magazine sites and blogs, that the nuclear family, marriage, and kids are all-important are the only things that can fix American culture.
Further, a lot of conservative Christians will teach that marriage and parenthood are necessary to make a person a true, full adult. They will teach that anyone who remains single and/or childless has stunted development, is immature, ungodly, and irresponsible.
Actor Stephen Baldwin, Who is Married, Christian, and a Father, Accused of Having a Two Year Extra-Marital Affair
A few days ago, I saw headlines about a woman claiming that actor Stephen Baldwin had an affair with her for two years. I saw another headline where Baldwin is denying this.
I think it’s probably true. Several years ago, Baldwin was a frequent guest on Christian TBN, on various shows.
He was, at least for a time, making “extreme sports” films aimed at teens and with a Christian message.
Baldwin seemed to be one of those “family values” type of guys.
Over the duration of my life, I have listened to so many Christians, and so many secular conservatives, rail against liberals for not supporting traditional values or the “nuclear family.”
I’ve listened to other conservatives (yes, I am also a conservative) complain about how liberals or the culture doesn’t support (hetero) marriage.
I’ve also sat through sermons, or have seen blog posts and articles online, where conservatives and Christians, go on and on about how important (hetero) marriage is, and they insultingly conflate adult maturity with marriage. They will argue that adult singles are not as mature as married adults. Some Christians also mistakenly believe that married people are more godly, responsible, or sexually pure than adult singles – all of which is not true.
Reports such as this one (and I think it is true) – about conservative, married men who are also fathers who claim to be Christian – demonstrates that being married, embracing family values, and being a parent, does not make a man more decent, godly, sexually pure, or responsible than it does someone who is single, childfree or childless.
(Link): The born-again Christian was seen on video getting cozy with a masseuse.
The born-again Christian was seen on video getting cozy with a masseuse.
(Link): STEPHEN BALDWIN IS CHEATING ON HIS WIFE AND DENIES EVERYTHING
(Link): Stephen Baldwin Denies Having an Affair With Masseuse Ruth Perez Anselmi
(Link): Stephen Baldwin Denies Reports He’s Having An Affair After Incriminating Photos Emerge
by R P West, Nov 2018
Ruth Perez Anselmi, 39, says she and Stephen Baldwin began a sexual relationship during his business trips to LA
The married actor, 52, met Anselmi at a Reseda physical therapy school in the summer of 2016 in LA where she was learning how to be a masseuse
In an exclusive interview with DailyMailTV she said: ‘I guess I love Stephen but we can’t be together, he wants to keep me secret ‘
She said the two ‘made a list of 15 sexual fantasies’ including role-play, using sex toys, threesome sex with another woman, and she once even dressed as a man
Megachurch Pastor Fired for Viewing Porn Talks About Overcoming His Addiction, New Pastor Job – Bible Says This Dude is Permanently Disqualified from Ministry
The Bible has some pretty straight forward guidelines on the type of people who can or should hold ministry positions in a church – something like viewing porn is a permanent disqualifier, yet this guy, in spite of being found out as a porn user or porn addict, is once more working as a church pastor.
Some Christians still claim to be against sexual sin, but they’re not – when you watch them in action, they will excuse and excuse and justify sexual sin. This guy sexually sins up, down, and sideways, and he is given yet another ministry job. Meanwhile, honest to god celibates – people like me who are sexually abstaining because we are single – get no support from Christians.
I see headlines like this, and I don’t see it as a beautiful, nice testament to “God’s grace” but I only see how the contemporary church has sold-out and become very lax about sexual ethics.
He says that technology was his downfall – was it? I use the internet quite a bit but don’t make a habit out of viewing porn or visiting porn sites.
I believe this article says that this guy is married – contrary to what many Christians teach, especially Baptists and evangelicals, marriage does NOT make adults more godly, ethical, or responsible. Being married didn’t stop this guy from viewing porn, after all.
By Samuel Smith , CP Reporter | Nov 11, 2018 8:43 AM
Pastor Scott Crenshaw said he felt like a rock star when he was senior pastor of the multicampus New River Fellowship Church based in Weatherford, Texas.
After helping Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church in Houston grow its young adults worship ministry, Crenshaw went onto become New River’s senior pastor and helped expand the congregation from one campus to three and from about 500 members to over 2,500.
But that all came to a crashing halt in 2016 when his departure from the church for “viewing inappropriate images” on his church computer made national headlines.
