Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

The news outlets are focusing on the fact that this is a 47 year old cold case that is now solved.

The police got the guy’s DNA off a coffee cup he threw away, and it matched the DNA on the boots of the victim. That is of course a very interesting aspect of this news story, but I wanted to highlight the portions that are more pertinent to my blog.

First of all, many Christians in Baptist or Protestant denominations and churches (at least when I was growing up in the 1980s, and a bit into the 1990s) would teach that God will only send a Christian a spouse later in life if he or she lived a godly life. That turned out to be a totally false teaching.

Secondly, a lot of Christians taught (and some still teach) that getting married is necessary to make a person mature, godly, ethical, responsible, and a whole host of other qualities.

Some Christians teach that parenthood is also a requirement, that if one never has biological children, one is immature, selfish, un-ethical, irresponsible and cannot know what “true (selfless) love” is. All of those beliefs are also a stinking pile of crap.

As we can see from the many examples on my blog (such as the one I’m sharing in a bit), marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, compassionate, or responsible. God does not refuse to allow awful people to get married.

The guy in the news story (Terrence Miller) raped a 20 year old woman, then shot her in the head, leaving her to die (she died on the way to the hospital – someone found her after the attack and tried to help her.)

If God required single adults to clean themselves up, or to become loving, lovable, or responsible, how oh how do slime balls like the rapist-killer in this news story get married FOUR times?

He obviously was not a paragon of virtue, yet he got married – to four different women. He also had kids with one or two of those women.

Also, secular culture (and some portions of complementarian Christianity) falsely teach that you won’t be able to get a partner if you are physically unattractive.

If you’ve ever seen the TV show “My 600 Pound Life,” you know that’s not true. Unless someone has a fat fetish, most people are not going to find someone over 300+ pounds to be smoking hot. And yet, a lot of the morbidly obses persons on that show do have boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses.

The guy in this story – the killer – looks as though he fell out of an ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, as my mother would say. (Some of the news articles published a photo of him that was taken when he was younger. (Link): this news page has a photo of this ugly deviant.)

He is not a good-looking man by any stretch, yet he managed to marry four times.

Another lesson learned: You don’t have to be incredibly sexy by society’s standards to wrangle a spouse.

(Link): How DNA on coffee cup led to arrest in 1972 rape, murder of woman: Officials

Jody Loomis, 20, was shot in the head on August 23, 1972.

A 77-year-old Washington state man was arrested Wednesday decades after he allegedly killed a 20-year-old woman, and police say he was nabbed through the novel technique of genetic genealogy.

Married People Who Use Their Spouse’s Disease or Disability to Excuse Their Adultery – an article by M. Del Russo

Married People Who Use Their Spouse’s Disease or Disability to Excuse Their Adultery – an article by M. Del Russo

I have never had sex outside of marriage, one reason of several is that the Bible says that sex is intended for a man married to a woman – anything outside of marriage is fornication and is considered sin. I am now past the age of 45.

If I can maintain celibacy this long, so too can anyone else, including these people who are in marriages where their spouse is debilitated in some manner, through a physical or mental health issue.

It’s a matter of personal conviction and self control. I do not have some sort of special gifting from God that removes libido. I am not asexual.

So, do I excuse or look on with compassion at these women or men in this article who started affairs with other adults when their own spouses became ill? No, I do not. Going without sex or romance will not kill a person, and you made a vow to your partner.

As for the woman quoted below who says those in her position don’t want to burden their sick spouse with demands for sex – that is all polite and well and good, but has she never heard of masturbation? Why are so many married people under the assumption that the only form of sexual activity is “penis in the vagina”?

(Link): These women care for their ailing husbands. They say dating other men is how they take care of themselves.

Excerpts:

…But the trio’s situation scratches at a question: How do couples sustain relationships and navigate intimacy when disease or disability strikes?

Christina — who asked to be identified by her first name because of privacy concerns — says her marriage was very happy and she loves her spouse deeply, but now that his disease has progressed, she no longer recognizes the person he’s become.

Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

In light of news articles such as this: conservatives need to stop promoting the Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage as being societal fixes. Secondly, Christians need to stop teaching, as some of them do, that marriage (or parenthood) is necessary to develop character in people.

Did marriage or being part of a nuclear family, or being a mother, help the woman in this news story at all? Nope.

(Link): Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police

Excerpts:

by L. Blair

Months after the husband and stepdaughter of beloved Sunday school teacher and professional engineer Jacquelyn Smith claimed she was fatally stabbed by a panhandler, Baltimore police announced Sunday that they have arrested the father-daughter duo for the crime.

Acting Baltimore Police Commissioner Michael Harrison said the late Sunday School teacher’s widower, Keith Smith, 52, and his daughter, Valeria Smith, 28, were arrested by Texas State Police, near the U.S.-Mexico border while trying to flee the country earlier on Sunday, (Link): the Baltimore Sun reported.

Woman Shocked to Discover Her Husband Starring in a Gay Porn Video

Woman Shocked to Discover Her Husband Starring in a Gay Porn Video

There’s little point in being married if the guy you married is running around having sex with other dudes and having sex with those dudes in movies. If this is marriage, life long singleness doesn’t look so bad.

(Link): Woman Shocked to Discover Her Husband Starring in a Gay Porn Video

Excerpts:

by Lydia Hawken

Her husband’s ‘unique tattoos’ left her with no doubt in her mind that it was him

A HORRIFIED woman has recalled the moment she found out her husband has been starring in gay pornography WHILE they were in a committed relationship.

Posting on Reddit’s Relationship Advice forum, the anonymous American woman revealed she “was watching gay porn while my husband slept” only to “click on a random video” and discover her partner was the star.

Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer by L. Blair

Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer, by L. Blair

Another example of why single Christian women should give up on the “equally yoked” rule concerning dating and marriage, and why, perhaps, churches are not a good place to find dates.

One of the articles below says that this guy was married – a lot of Christians teach that marriage is necessary to make people mature, godly, and ethical, but did being married make this guy who was caught with child porn any more godly and ethical? Nope.

Also, some “how to get married” type literature I used to read while growing up – stuff that was written by Christians – usually suggested that if you remain single past the age of 25 or 30, it’s because you are “lacking” in some way.

Such Christian authors would suggest that you’re too sinful or too messed up in some way, and God was trying to “clean you up” before “allowing” you to marry.

When you see news articles below, do you really think that rationale is true? If it’s true that God demands about 100% perfection and godliness before he will send someone a spouse, how is it that Christian pedophiles like the man in this article managed to marry, he had children, grandchildren, and he worked in a church?

Obviously, taking such news stories as the one below into account, God does not hold anyone to a certain standards before he “permits” them to marry or “sends” them a spouse.

(Link): Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer

Excerpts:

A Florida police detective and children’s minister committed suicide after being investigated for having child pornography.

 

Detective Vernon Allan Richardson, a beloved (List): children’s minister and award-winning veteran officer with the Jacksonville Sheriff’s Office, known for his work in helping to locate missing children, killed himself Tuesday as authorities investigated him for possession of child pornography, some of which was found on his church computer.

Christians In Love With Non-Christians (and Their Christian “Friends” Who Object) by John Shore

Christians In Love With Non-Christians (and Their Christian “Friends” Who Object)

(Link): Christians In Love With Non-Christians (and Their Christian “Friends” Who Object)

Excerpts:

[The author reproduces some correspondence from Christian women who say they are or were dating Non-Christian men, but their Christian friends objected]

…You know what else is not a Christian thing to do (or what shouldn’t be, anyway)? Putting religious dogma ahead of being a friend.

Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate by K. Allen

Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate by K. Allen

So much for the Christian teaching that marriage is necessary to make people more mature, godly, and ethical.

(Link): Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate

Excerpts:

Police charged a jail nurse in Missouri with murder after she allegedly poisoned her husband and tried to cover it up by setting their home on fire — all in a bid to marry an inmate.

Amy Murray was arrested on Thursday in connection with the December death of her husband, Joshua Murray, who she allegedly set on fire and poisoned with antifreeze, according to a probable cause statement.

She allegedly set the couple’s bedroom on fire and left with her 11-year-old son and dogs to go to McDonald’s, according to the statement. As an alibi, Murray said she found the house on fire when she returned and the smoke was too heavy for her to go inside, according to a probable cause statement.

Christian School Teacher Whose Spouse Caught Her in Bed With Teen Sentenced by J. Salo

Christian School Teacher Whose Spouse Caught Her in Bed With Teen Sentenced by J. Salo

Does marriage make people more sexually pure, godly, loving, mature, or ethical, as so many Christians and politically conservative talking heads claim?

No, it does not.

This is the 100th millionth example on this blog of a married person who committed a serious sin.

Marriage does not make people more mature, godly, responsible, or ethical; “the family” or “marriage” will not save or fix a society.

Is married Christian sex “mind blowing,” as so much Christian teaching regarding sexual behavior suggests? Apparently not, if Christian wives like this feel the need to have sexual relations with a teen. Her husband wasn’t quite doing it for her.

Does someone have to obtain a standard of moral perfection, or some other criteria, before God will grant that person a spouse, as so many blogs, articles, and sermons by Christians suggest? No, obviously not, otherwise, this woman, who ended up being a skanky pervert, would not have gotten married.

(Link): Christian School Teacher Whouse Spouse Caught Her in Bed With Teen Sentenced by J. Salo

Excerpts:

February 11, 2019

A former Christian school teacher whose husband caught her in bed with a student was sentenced to prison, according to officials.

Andrea Nicole Baber, who taught at Logos Christian Academy, was ordered Friday to serve 20 months in prison for having sex with a student in Springfield, Oregon, (Link): the Register-Guard reported.

The 30-year-old educator pleaded guilty last month to rape and contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor.

Article About Doctor Pedophile from WSJ Mentions His Unmarried Status – Why?

Article About Doctor Pedophile from WSJ Mentions His Unmarried Status – Why?

An article from the Feb 9/10, 2019 issue of the Wall Street Journal – one by Christopher Weaver, Dan Frosch, and Gabe Johnson – details the many instances of pedophilia by a doctor named Weber who worked in a few different government-run hospitals that treated Native American Indians.

(Link): Pedophile Doctor Left Trail of Suspicions – And Abuse

Instead of the government doing anything about his suspected pedophilia, they shuffled him around from hospital to hospital.

In other words, they treated him and covered up the child sex abuse the way so many churches do, by moving the guilty from one church to the next. There was no accountability.  A lot of people looked the other way. People who were whistle-blowers were threatened to keep quiet.

The thing that stood out to me in the article was this comment in the introduction:

At first, officials at the U.S. Indian Health Service overlooked the peculiarities of their unmarried new doctor, including the children’s toys he hoarded in his basement on the reservation.
————–

Please notice the phrase “unmarried… doctor.”

Why is it significant to mention that the predatory doctor was single?

A married man with no children would also seem odd “hoarding children’s toys” in his basement.

Baby Died of Malnutrition, Dehydration, and an E. Coli Infection Caused by Being Left In a Maggot-Infested Diaper for Two Weeks

Baby Died of Malnutrition, Dehydration, and an E. Coli Infection Caused by Being Left In a Maggot-Infested Diaper for Two Weeks

(Link): Baby Died of Malnutrition, Dehydration, and an E. Coli Infection Caused by Being Left In a Maggot-Infested Diaper for Two Weeks

Cheyanne Harris, 21, left the courthouse in Iowa, US, crying after harrowing pictures of four-month-old Sterling Koehn were shown to a jury

A young [mom] accused of leaving her baby son to die in a maggot-infested nappy [diaper] sobbed in court yesterday.

Jurors were shown photos of tragic four-month-old Sterling Koehn at his [mom] Cheyanne Harris’ trial.

Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

(Link): Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

Excerpts:

Feb 2, 2019 by AP

FORT WORTH, Texas — A Texas man who admitted to killing his estranged wife by tying a massive chunk of concrete to her and throwing her off a bridge into a lake has been sentenced to life in prison.

Prosecutors in Fort Worth say Rodolfo “Rudy” Arellano pleaded guilty Wednesday to capital murder. He’ll serve life behind bars without chance of parole.

(Link): Texas Mom Killed After Husband Tied Concrete Chunk to Her Neck and Threw Her Off Bridge Into Lake

by Steve Helling

A Texas man pleaded guilty on Wednesday to murder charges after authorities said he tied his wife to a 119-pound block of concrete before throwing her into a lake to drown.

Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

(Link): Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

Excerpts:

Feb 2019

Lawyer Udeme Otike-Odibi, 47, a British-Nigerian citizen, is accused of hacking her spouse’s privates off and stuffing them in his hand as she brutally attacked him during a blood splattered frenzy

…Then the dual British-Nigerian citizen allegedly placed his severed manhood in his hand and told him it was “better we cut if off”.

Pastor Accused of Choking Woman Pregnant With His Child at Southside Impact Church

Pastor Accused of Choking Woman Pregnant With His Child at Southside Impact Church

Lessons from this news story:

• Equally Yoked is crap. Christian men are not necessarily more godly, mature, reliable, responsible than Non-Christian men, so single Christian women who’d like to marry should consider marrying Non-Christians
•  Marriage does not make people more godly, mature, or sexually ethical – as so many Christians teach it does (assuming the guy in the story is or was married)
• You do not have to obtain perfection or some lofty ideal before God will permit you to get married (many Christians teach if you’d like to marry but still find yourself single, it’s because God is intentionally with-holding a spouse from you because he’s preparing you, getting you ready, making you more Godly – all a bunch of bunk)

Even more atrocious is that this idiot markets himself as a “relationship expert” and has written dating or marital advice books for women! He’s an utter hypocrite.

The article keeps referring to the woman in the story as the “mother of so- and- so’s children,” so I take it they were not married, which I guess, means this preacher was guilty of fornication (sex outside of marriage)?

(Link): Pastor Accused of Choking Woman Pregnant With His Child at Southside Impact Church

Excerpts:

Jan 2019
by L. Blair

Rashan Lamar Wilson, lead pastor of Southside Impact Church in Charleston, South Carolina, was arrested and charged Monday for allegedly strangling the pregnant mother of his children until she passed out.

Wilson is the author of books such as “99 & 1/2 Things A Woman Needs From Her Man: How To Establish and Maintain a Healthy Relationship.”

Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids by T. Gettys

Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids by T. Gettys

Many conservative Christians and conservative, secular think tanks keep arguing that the “nuclear family” and marriage are best for our culture, and that marriage (and parenthood) are supposedly necessary to make people godly, mature, and responsible, though the Bible itself teaches no such thing.

How do these Nuclear Family Idolizing and Marriage Idolizing Christians and secular conservatives reconcile their marriage and family propaganda with news stories such as this one, which clearly demonstrate that marriage does not build character in people:

(Link): Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids 

by Travis Gettys

An Idaho woman faces a possible prison term for failing to report her husband’s sex abuse and instead praying and trying to keep him too busy to molest children.

 Sarah Kester was charged with felony injury to a child, and her husband Lester Kester pleaded guilty in November to molesting five children over two decades, (Link): reported the Idaho Statesman.

The 48-year-old husband faces a possible life term when he is sentenced next week on five counts of lewd conduct with a child younger than 16 years old.

Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

I’m still waiting to see examples of how marriage makes people more godly, mature, and responsible, as 99% of conservative Christians and secular and religious conservative think tanks keep claiming.

I keep seeing examples in the news of married people who rape and murder each other, or other people.

(Link): Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

David Thomas, 74, told the Old Bailey he struck his wife Sheila’s head at their former matrimonial home in Herne Hill, south London – but he denies murder

17 Jan 2019
By Sam Corbishley

…David Thomas, 74, told jurors he struck Shelia, 69, over the head with a walking stick while in a daze.

He said they had been arguing but denied that he had been lying in wait for his wife to ‘seek revenge.’

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

I really do want conservative think tanks, pro-family groups, conservative television host Tucker Carlson, and complementarian or conservative Christians to explain to me how marriage or “the family” makes society better, or how marriage is necessary to make a person mature, godly, or a “true” adult,  when I keep seeing so many news stories of married people who kill each other, or news items about husbands who are caught using child porn, beating their wives, or visiting prostitutes.

Marriage did not do anything to make this woman behave in a godly, mature, kind-hearted nature towards her husband.

I am someone who is over the age of 45, I’ve never been married, and I deeply resent conservative talk show hosts or “pro-family” Christian groups who keep acting as though everyone needs to be married, and if they are not, they are ruining society or are incapable of being godly and mature.

The Bible teaches that being single is fine with God – see 1 Corinthians chapter 7. No where does the Bible teach that marriage is mandatory for any reason – not to “save” culture or to make people more “godly.”

This article says that the wife may have dementia or mental health problems – well, did marriage keep this woman from developing mental health issues? No, it did not.

Christians and conservatives need to stop holding marriage or “the family” up as some kind of magical fix-alls.

(Link): Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

An elderly Florida woman beat her husband to death with a cane on Saturday, police said.

Ramona Maxine Lund, 86, from Pace, is charged with 89-year-old Francis Lund’s murder,the Orlando Sentinel reported. She is the oldest person in the county to be charged with murder, Santa Rosa County Sheriff Bob Johnson said at a press conference Monday.

Polish Man Charged Men £4 to Rape Wife He Fed Semen Sandwiches

Polish Man Charged Men £4 to Rape Wife He Fed Semen Sandwiches

This news story is beyond repulsive.

1. Stories like this one make me feel glad I never married.
2. Marriage does not make people more godly, mature, compassionate, or responsible, contrary to secular and Christian conservative opinion.

Some Christian gender complementarians would say that this woman should’ve stayed married to this abusive pervert no matter what. And complementarians have the audacity to say that their biblical interpretation is respectful of women? No, it’s not.

(Link): Polish Man Charged Men £4 to Rape Wife He Fed Semen Sandwiches

Dec 2018

by Luke Kenton

The woman, who has not been named, was subjected to four years of vile sexual abuse at the hands of her husband – including two locked in a darkened cellar

A man dubbed the ‘Polish Josef Fritzl’ has been sentenced to 25 years behind bars for imprisoning his wife in a dark cellar and subjecting her to years of sexual abuse.

In the small village of Parszczyce, in northern Poland, husband Mariusz Sz. severely abused his wife across a four-year period between 2006 and 2010, locking her in a pitch-black cellar for two of the years.

British Couple Who Named Their Infant After Hitler Was Arrested For Terror Group Membership

British Couple Who Named Their Infant After Hitler Was Arrested For Terror Group Membership

To all the secular and Christian conservatives out there promoting this false idea (and yes, some of them do in fact do this), that being married and being a parent is necessary to make people more godly, mature, and responsible, I present to you yet another example demonstrating that being a parent does not do didley squat didley to improve a person’s character.

(Link): British Couple Who Named Their Infant After Hitler Was Arrested For Terror Group Membership

by Josh Halliday, Dec 2018

A neo-Nazi couple who named their baby son after Adolf Hitler and made their home a “shrine to extreme racism” have been jailed for membership of a terrorist group.

Adam Thomas was pictured cradling his son while wearing the hooded robes of the Ku Klux Klan. His partner, Claudia Patatas, believed “all Jews must be put to death”, a trial at Birmingham crown court heard.

Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women (Many of Whom Are Married Yet Very Lonely)

Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women (Many of Whome Are Married Yet Very Lonely)

We have a problem with this in the U.S.A. as well (i.e, adults feeling lonely, including senior citizens), but American churches are fixated on “The Nuclear Family,” rather than doing what the Bible tells them to do: cater to the out-cast and ignored: the widows, the orphans, never-married adults who live alone, and all the rest of those who do NOT fit the “Married with Kids at Home” demographic.

But notice that some of the women described in this article are in fact married – some even have adult children.

So, does marriage make people more godly, and responsible, as American Christians claim? No. Marriage does not make anyone immune from being sinful and committing crimes.

Does being married or having children mean you’re going to have company and never feel lonely all the days of your life? No, because the married mothers in this article say they feel neglected, ignored, and misunderstood, even by their own husbands and children.

(Link): Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women

Excerpts:

Dec 2018

Lonely seniors are shoplifting in search of the community and stability of jail.
By Shiho Fukada

Every aging society faces distinct challenges. But Japan, with the world’s oldest population (27.3 percent of its citizens are 65 or older, almost twice the share in the U.S.), has been dealing with one it didn’t foresee: senior crime.

Complaints and arrests involving elderly people, and women in particular, are taking place at rates above those of any other demographic group. Almost 1 in 5 women in Japanese prisons is a senior.

Their crimes are usually minor — 9 in 10 senior women who’ve been convicted were found guilty of shoplifting.

 Why have so many otherwise law-abiding elderly women resorted to petty theft? Caring for Japanese seniors once fell to families and communities, but that’s changing. From 1980 to 2015, the number of seniors living alone increased more than sixfold, to almost 6 million.

And a 2017 survey by Tokyo’s government found that more than half of seniors caught shoplifting live alone; 40 percent either don’t have family or rarely speak with relatives.

Dear Advice Lady: ‘My Husband’s Been Having Filthy Online Sex While Wearing Women’s Panties And Now Someone Is Blackmailing Him’

Dear Advice Lady: ‘My Husband’s Been Having Filthy Online Sex While Wearing Women’s Panties And Now Someone Is Blackmailing Him’

I see stuff like this and think, “I’m kind of glad I never married.”

If this is what marriage is, NO THANK YOU.

As to all that conservative Christian garbage about how marriage is necessary to make people godly, sexually pure, and what not – this is clear proof that once again, no, it does not.

Marriage did not keep the guy in this letter from using porn sites, wearing women’s underwear while masturbating, and engaging in phone or e-mail sex with various women online.

(Link): DEAR DEIDRE My husband’s hooked on filthy online sex and wears lingerie to pleasure himself

DEAR DEIDRE:
MY husband has been blackmailed by a girl he was having online sex with and I only found out when I found a letter from the police saying their investigation was complete.

I am 32, he is 34.

We have been together for ten years and have two kids aged eight and six.

I confronted him and he told me the girl added him on Facebook and it quickly escalated to online sex and mutual masturbation talk.

Then she tried to blackmail him. He went to the police but didn’t tell anyone. I feel sorry for him but it feels like the final straw.