Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

The letter is much farther below. I wanted to comment on it first.

Here is the set up:

A friend of a divorced guy wrote to Hax, an advice columnist.

 I’m not sure if this friend is a man or woman; let’s just assume it’s a man for my post.

My interest in this letter is not in the advice aspect: friend is upset because divorced guy keeps asking him for advice but then gets offended and explodes in anger when Friend gives him advice.

My interest in this letter pertains to two or three other facets:

The letter writing friend says his divorced friend is age mid-40s, while the wife who dumped him was in her early 30s.

I am (Link): not a  believer in “May December” relationships, for starters.

A mid- 40s guy should be dating women who are age early- to- late 40s, not an early- 30s woman.

And what in the hey is the age early- 30s woman doing even considering dating some dude who is 14, 15 years her senior?

This is something I have pondered since thinking about dating again: the rebound issue. There is no way I’d date a guy who was divorced (or widowed) for only two years, or less.

If you date a guy who just divorced (or his wife died) two weeks ago, or six months ago, he is not ready for a serious relationship – he’s not even ready for a healthy, casual, fun one.

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Necrophiliac Charged With Banging Three Dead Women, Admits to Doing 100+ Corpses – Are We Allowed to Necrophiliac-Shame?

Necrophiliac Charged With Banging 100 Corpses – Are We Allowed to Necrophilia-Shame?

Some guy was caught having sex with corpses, and admitting to having sex with like 100 dead bodies at some morgue on night shift. This happened over a period of months, not that he boinked all 100 dead people the same night.

(Link): Morgue Employee Admits To Having Sex With Up To 100 Corpses While Working Night Shifts

I still believe it’s okay to have sexual standards and judge things like this as being wrong, but all the weepy, touchy feely folks, or the outraged progressive Christians, traitor conservative Christians, and secular feminists who rant against “sexual purity culture,” or anyone choosing to stay a virgin until marriage (see previous post for just such an example of that) might tell us that to shame a man for having sex with a corpse is a form of “Necrophilia shaming,” and so we shouldn’t say a peep about it.

One article says this guy is MARRIED. So much for the evangelical, fundamentalist, Reformed, and Baptist position that marriage makes a person
1. more godly
2. mature
3. immune from sexual immorality or perversion

Some Christians teach that God will not send you a spouse unless you clean yourself up first and become good, or God has to clean you up… that is you have to be godly to merit a spouse. Say what you will about a lot of Christian singles over the age of 30, but I doubt any or most are having sex with corpses. Yet, this guy who gets a stiffy in his pants for stiffies has a living wife at home. Looks to me like a person doesn’t have to be perfect or godly to get a spouse.

(Link): Morgue attendant had sex with up to 100 dead women

    PUBLISHED: 01:25 EST, 17 August 2014
    UPDATED: 08:23 EST, 17 August 2014

    Kenneth Douglas worked as an employee for Ohio’s Hamilton County

    He admitted to having sex with the bodies of April Hicks, Karen Range and Charlene Appling

    Speaking about Appling, Douglas said ‘I do remember going in the freezer, pulling her in one of the rooms in the back’

    Douglas attributed his behavior to drug and alcohol abuse in a deposition

    The county employee’s DNA was connected to Range in 2008, and later Appling and Hicks
    Hamilton County is facing a lawsuit from their families

    An Ohio morgue employee revealed he may have had sex with ‘a hundred’ corpses and continued to do so even after his wife had tipped off authorities.

    Speaking about the incidents in deposition audio obtained by WCPO, Hamilton County employee Kenneth Douglas said ‘I would get on top of them and pull my pants down.’

    When talking about the body of victim Charlene Appling, Douglas said ‘I do remember going in the freezer, pulling her in one of the rooms in the back’ before he told an investigator he ‘had sex with her.’

    When asked about the number of corpses he had sex with, Douglas answered ‘It could have been a hundred’ in the deposition audio.

    Douglas attributed his behavior to drug and alcohol abuse in the deposition.

    ‘If I wasn’t drinking, or hadn’t had anything to drink when I went to work, it wouldn’t happen. I would do crack and go in and I would drink and go in,’ he said.

    His wife was featured in a deposition video obtained by WCPO, in which she said she tried to contact someone about her husband’s behavior – but she was dismissed.

    At the time, she also said her husband ‘gets undressed and he reeks of [expletive].’

    WCPO said Douglas admitted to having sex with the bodies of April Hicks, Karen Range and Charlene Appling. Both Appling and Range were murder victims.

    ‘[In 2008] DNA connected him to semen found in Range,’ the affiliate station said. ‘[…] In 2008, Douglas pleaded guilty in the Range case and was sentenced to three years in prison. In 2012, he pleaded guilty again in the Appling and Hicks cases. Their families sued that year.’

(Link): Court: Families can sue county after morgue worker had sex with corpses

(Link): Pervert morgue assistant admits to having sex with up to 100 bodies

    A man in Ohio has admitted in court to having sex with up to 100 corpses while he worked at a morgue.

    The shocking admission by Kenneth Douglas has send shockwaves around the community in the town of Hamilton.

    Depraved Douglas told a court he was usually high or drunk and would “just get on top of them and pull my pants down”.

Christians should marry Muslims to tackle Islamophobia, says peer

Christians should marry Muslims to tackle Islamophobia, says peer

(Link): “Christians should marry Muslims to tackle Islamophobia, says peer”

    CHRISTIANS should be encouraged to marry Muslims as a way of tackling Islamophobia, a senior peer claimed today.

Ho ho ho, NO. No, no, no, no.

Islam is a perverted, sexist, violent religion.

Muslims are a billion times worse than Christian gender complementarians, who regularly and ignorantly advise Christian wives to stay in abusive marriages and “submit” even more to an abusive Christian loser husband (based in large part on sexist interpretations of the Bible – see John “Christian wives should endure being smacked around for the night” Piper, Christian author and former preacher, as one example).

Muslims are into honor killings (where they will kill a female even over trivial issues, e.g., for dating a Christian, dating an American, or for totally unjustifiable, victim-blaming ones, such as a woman being a rape victim).

Muslims are into FGM (female genital mutilation).

Some Muslims shoot little girls in the head for wanting an education.

Do an internet search for the phrase “Boko Haram” and look up stories on Malala Yousafzai, who was a girl shot in the head by Muslims for wanting to go to school (see (Link): Boko Haram on Wiki, (Link): Malala_Yousafzai biography on Wiki).

If you would like to see endless laundry lists of the sexism, and more violence and perversions of Muslims, do visit (Link): this site or (Link): this one for examples.

On a tangent here, I love that this is my blog and I can say what I want.

I so tire of the “#NotAllMuslims #NotAllMuslims!” propaganda garbage I see from left-wingers on other sites whenever crimes and sins of Muslims are brought up.

I know, Lori Liberal, (you even have a dopey “COEXIST” bumper sticker on your car), that your best friend “Muslim Moe” who lives in Podunk, USA right next door to you, is a super nice guy, but unfortunately, 90% of his Muslim compatriots around the world hate Christians, Hindus, atheists, Jews, Americans, Brits, and regularly try to slit our throats or blow us up.

Sunni Muslims hate Shia Muslims and vice versa, so you have Muslims killing each other, too. The fun and hilarity never stops with these guys who believe in the Koran.

I don’t know if the guy suggesting in this article that Christians marry Muslims considers himself a Christian or not. I think he is. He mentions that several of his family members are Christians who married Muslims.

First of all, Christians are not “Islamophobic,” but the majority of Muslims are “Christophobic,” that is, Muslims hate Christians and murder them, and their religious texts tell them to do so.

Secondly. This sure flies in the face in the non-stop “be not unequally yoked” stuff I heard from other Christians growing up.

There were several guys I could have dated or married in my past, (some very good looking and financially well off), but they were not Christians. I was a Christian at the time and used to believe strongly in “be not yoked,” so I did not give those guys a chance (I would now, though).

Given that many Christians (and hypocritically, usually the ones who are now age 55, married at 17, who met their spouse while in high school or Sunday school at church) lecture the rest of us Christians singles who over over age 30 and still single, to hold out only for a Christian spouse, this whole view that “Christians should marry Muslims,” coming from some Christians now, is quite odd.

Given that many devout Muslim men are abusive, sexist, murdering weasels (yes, take your “#Not All Muslims” view point and cram it where the sun don’t shine: #Most-Muslim-Men-Are-Abusive-Violent-Maniacs-Yes-Indeed-They-Are), it is dangerous.

(Link): “Christians should marry Muslims to tackle Islamophobia, says peer”

    CHRISTIANS should be encouraged to marry Muslims as a way of tackling Islamophobia, a senior peer claimed today.

by Owen Bennett – Political Reporter
Jul 8, 2014

Lord Scott, a former Supreme Court Judge, cited his own family – in which two of his four children married Muslims – as an example of how interfaith families can thrive.

The peer, who sits as a crossbencher in the Lords, made the comments during a debate on how to improve relations between the Muslim community and other faith groups in the UK.

He said: “Of my two sons one has become a Muslim and of my two daughters one of those has become a Muslim, and I have 12 lovely grandchildren, seven of whom are little Muslims.

… “I do just wonder that if an improvement is needed between the faith groups, one way of promoting that might be to encourage interfaith marriages.”

According to Christian theology, Jesus Christ is the only way to God (see John 14:6).

Ergo, his daughters who have renounced Christ for Allah (quoting Jesus: “But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.” (link to that)), and his sweet, cute little baby Muslim grand children, when they get to whatever the age of accountability is, will go to Hell when they die, unless they convert at some point.

That’s not so “lovely,” there, fella. Sacrificing their souls to be politically correct isn’t lovely. What a loon.

I’m not on board with the “equally yoked” teaching anymore, but if there was one type of Non-Christian I would never marry, Muslim would be it.

(Hat tip to radio host Janet Meffered, which is how I first saw a link to this article earlier today – she tweeted a link to it.)

Related posts this blog:

(Link): Hypocrisy of Left Wingers and Atheists and the #NotAll Hash Tag or Rhetoric

(Link): Muslim Cleric Dies After Being Castrated by One of His Wives for Planning to Marry Again

(Link): A Critique of – 10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry by J. Lee Grady / And on Christians Marrying Non Christians -and- Unrealistic, Too Rigid Spouse Selection Lists by Christians

(Link): The Dating Swamp: How Finding Love in DC May Be Impossible For Young Trump and GOP Staffers – Liberals Hypocritically Insist You Date Transgender Persons But Not Trump Voters

(Link): Majority of Heterosexuals Say They Won’t Date Trans Folk and That’s Discrimination Somehow – by Brett T.

(Link): Why Christians Need To Stress Spiritual Family Over the Nuclear Family – People with no flesh and blood relations including Muslims who Convert to Christianity – Also: First World, White, Rich People Problems

(Link): Christian Host Pat Robertson Tells Christian Woman Who Married Christian Man Who Turned Out to Be Totally Unethical That She has Discernment of a Slug – Single Women: toss Be Equally Yoked teaching in the trash can

(Link): Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke

(Link): Typical Incorrect Conservative Christian Assumption: If you want marriage bad enough, Mr. Right will magically appear

(Link): Gender Complementarian Advice to Single Women Who Desire Marriage Will Keep Them Single Forever / Re: Choosing A Spiritual Leader

(Link): Married Christian Rock Singer in Legal Trouble for Hiring Hit Man To Kill His Wife – he also had drug addiction

(Link): Married Southern Baptist and Calvinist Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

(Link): Wife of Preacher Shoots, Kills Him, Recounts Years of Physical and Sexual Abuse – So Much for the Equally Yoked Teaching and the Notion that Christian married sex is Mind Blowing

(Link): Another Example of Why the Equally Yoked Teaching is A Joke for Single Christian Women : Baptist Preacher Arrested for Allegedly Fire Bombing Ex Girlfriend’s House While She Was In It

Off Site Link:
(Link): Is Interfaith Marriage Always Wrong, Given that the Bible Teaches Us Not to Be ‘Unequally Yoked’?

Married Southern Baptist and Calvinist Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

Married Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

News links farther below: married Baptist preacher and father of seven year old boy – who had the boy with him at the time – exposed his penis to a 15 year old girl.

One of these news stories mentions that the guy believes in Calvinism. I guess he was predestined from before the foundation of the world to flash his penis at teenaged girls?

(The purpose of posts such as this one) Countering popular Christian stereotypes about dating, marriage, parenthood, and sex:

    • 1. Marriage does not make a person more godly or mature
    • Conversely: notice this was not a single man, an unmarried man, hitting on this teen girl, it was a MARRIED man.

2. Parenting does not make a person more godly or mature

3. Marriage does not make people immune from committing sexual sin or behaving in a vulgar manner

4. Assuming this preacher in the news story below is married, married Christian sex is not “mind blowing,” because if it was, one would not find this guy exposing his penis to a teen girl to get his socks off

5. The “Be Equally Yoked” doctrine should be discarded in- so- far as marriage and dating are concerned.

That self- professing Christian men are just as perverted and unethical as some Non-Christian men means single Christian women might as well date Non-Christian men also.

I’d like to add a sixth point:

        • 6.

      Gender complementarianism

    • (sometimes referred to as “Biblical Manhood / Womanhood”) is a joke: women are asked and demanded, by gender complementarian Christians, to “submit” to men, even perverts like this one, in the story below.

There’s something very faulty with a doctrine that asks almost unquestioning allegiance and unquestioning obedience from one entire group of people (females) to another, and at that, based on something like biological sex.


    • 7. Males need to be hit harder with purity teachings.

Instead of churches and Christian literature and blogs telling women to “dress modestly,” this is an example of how and why MALES need to hear they should keep their genitals covered up.

If you are going to teach “modesty” and “purity” beliefs, you need to do so equally, to both genders: men need to hear that they need to mind how they dress and how much they reveal of their bodies.

This preacher obviously feels it’s perfectly fine to whip his penis out in front of a girl, so obviously, some Christian males do not understand that “modesty” applies to males as well as to females.

Notice that although we have yet another example of a Christian man who is a father and husband (and one who works as a preacher to boot) who was arrested for being sexually inappropriate…

That most Christians will probably still continue to harbor stereotypes against adult singles and to depict all single adults (or childless / child free adults) as being sexual sinners, perverts, and harlots, even though we adult singles not the ones whipping our genitals out in front of teen aged kids.

By the way, how “godly” and “perfect” was this Baptist preacher pervert that God sent him a spouse? I mean, often, Christians will say if you are still single past the age of 30 or 35, it’s because you are a horrible sinner or deeply flawed in some way, and God will not send you, will not reward you with, a spouse, until you fix yourself, or God cleans you up.

Please explain to me how someone such as myself – I’m a normal person, decent morals, not a pervert – is still single at my age, but God permits a total pervert like this one below, who displays his penis to girls in stores, is married?

There is something amiss with the Christian propaganda that one has to “earn” a spouse by being good when I see so many reports of married Christians who are found guilty of sexually inappropriate behavior. And I see this thinking pop up on Christian blogs or sometimes in books about dating and marriage.


Before I get to the links themselves:
I have yet to figure out why so many males feel that women or girls want to look at a penis. Are these males motivated by the mistaken idea that women/girls think they are sexy to look at?

As I blogged about months ago, most females find the penis repulsive-looking, grotesque to ridiculous, and as far as looks go, size does not matter.

Most females are grossed out by what a penis looks like, not turned on by them. So it’s beyond me why males expose themselves or send photos of their genitals to women on dating sites.

Do most women enjoy a good looking man (as in a man with six pack abs, good looking face, and broad shoulders)? Yes and HELL YES. But we are not turned on by male genitalia.

We appreciate other body parts on a good-looking man but a penis is not one of them. It’s the very rare woman who gets turned on by seeing a penis. Most of us recoil in disgust at the sight.

So I just wonder about men like this who whip their penises out – either he was trying to shock or scare the girl, or he assumes she would find it sexy?

(Link): Pastor Arrested for Exposing Himself to Child in Store

    • RUSSELLVILLE, Ky. (WBKO) — A pastor has been arrested for exposing himself to a child at an outlet store in Russellville.

Kevin Lohse, the pastor of Woodlawn Baptist Church, was arrested Thursday.

(Link): Local pastor busted for exposing himself to young girl

    • by Chris Cooper Managing Editor
    • Feb 2014

According to a police report, Kevin Lohse, pastor at Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, confessed to investigators that he inappropriately exposed himself to a young girl in Burke’s Outlet on Feb. 13, with his seven year old son in tow.

The Russellville Police Department had received a report of indecent exposure at the store after a mother reported that her juvenile daughter was subjected to Lohse’s inappropriate behavior while shopping. The female stated that Lohse had a small child with him and that he possibly left the scene in a van.

…. According to police, the video showed footage of Lohse with his seven year old son at Burke’s on the day of the incident. He can clearly been seen manipulating the zipper of his pants to expose his genitals, and presenting himself to the juvenile female who was shopping in the junior’s section of Burke’s.

Soon after, a warrant was issued for Lohse’s arrest. He was taken into custody and booked at the Logan County Detention Center.

(Link): Facebook helps police nab Baptist preacher

    • Police in Kentucky say social media helped identify a man accused of indecent exposure as a

Southern Baptist pastor who was shopping with his 7-year-old son

    • By Bob Allen 
  • A Southern Baptist pastor in Kentucky was charged with indecent exposure in an arrest that police credit to social media.

Kevin Lohse, pastor of Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, Ky., was arrested Feb. 26 after police identified him as the man seen on surveillance video exposing himself to a girl shopping in the junior section of a local department store.

The Russellville Police Department posted a still image of the suspect on Facebook Feb. 17. One week and 646 shares later, Lohse turned himself in and confirmed he was the man in the security footage, according to a police report quoted by WBKO television in Bowling Green, Ky. Police called it “a prime example of community policing.”

Lohse, a graduate of Liberty University, accepted a call as senior pastor at Southern Baptist-affiliated Woodlawn Baptist Church in June 2013. Before that he was on staff at Pathway Baptist Church Calvert City, Ky., an independent Baptist congregation that identifies with Founders Ministries, a group formed in 1982 to promote Calvinism in Southern Baptist life.

… At the time of the incident, police said Lohse’s 7-year-old son was with him in the store. The mother who reported the indecent exposure said the suspect had a small boy with him as he left the scene, possibly in a van.

(Link): Local pastor busted for exposing himself to young girl

    • February 27. 2014 2:06PM
    • Chris Cooper Managing Editor

An arrest was made Wednesday, Feb. 26th in connection with an indecent exposure case that played out in a local department store on Feb. 13

According to a police report, Kevin Lohse, pastor at Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, confessed to investigators that he inappropriately exposed himself to a young girl in Burke’s Outlet on Feb. 13, with his seven year old son in tow.

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TV Pervert Claims Not to Be A Pervert and Laughably Claims “All of America is Having Sex”

TV Pervert Claims Not to Be A Pervert and Laughably Claims “All of America is Having Sex”

This guy is a pervert but claims not to be one. The part that killed me though, was this quote of his: “All of America is having sex.”

I know we are living in a sex-saturated culture, and even Christian culture is creepily obsessed with sex, and it sure seems as though everyone is having sex, but it’s not true that “everyone is doing it.”

I hate to say it, but this a big, big assumption not just with polygamyist perverts like that guy and the Non Christians, but is a view that is shared among evangelical, Baptist, fundamentalist, and Reformed Christians.

Many conservative Christian groups, including, sadly, a lot of preachers, assume that nobody is celibate anymore, and they pattern their materials, commentary, and sermons to follow suit. These sorts of Christians assume everyone who is not married yet by their mid-20s caves in and starts having pre-marital sex.

One result of this false thinking is that Christian adults who are still virgins (as they have not married) past the age of 30, get no support from other Christians.

There are no sermons, books, or radio broadcasts which discuss the needs and problems of adult celibates, or that encourage them to hang on and not give in. Adult, Christian celibates are without a support system.

(Link): ‘We’re normal times five’: Polygamist stars of ‘My Five Wives’ ask people not to judge their unconventional family

    PUBLISHED: 22:22 EST, 3 March 2014

    Just because he has five wives and 24 children doesn’t mean Brady Williams isn’t normal.

    Or at least that’s the message he wanted America to receive during an interview with the Huffington Post in which the polygamist stars of TLC’s ‘My Five Wives’ spoke candidly about hopes to dispel the myths surrounding their unconventional lifestyle.

    ‘All of America’s having sex,’ Brady said. ‘And it’s no big deal to just answer it and to just say ‘Duh no we’re not perverted, we’re not twisted, we’re just normal.’

(Link): ‘My Five Wives’: Meet TLC’s newest polygamist family

    The “Sister Wives” aren’t the only polygamist family on TLC. Meet the Williams family, the polygamist Utah clan profiled on the network’s newest reality series, “My Five Wives,” premiering Sunday, March 9 at 10 p.m. ET/PT.

    Patriarch Brady Williams is 43 years old and was raised a Mormon. Now, however, he and his five wives live a non-denominational plural lifestyle. He’s been married for 21 years to his first wife, Paulie, and his second wife, Robyn; 19 years to his third wife, Rosemary; 16 years to his fourth wife, Nonie; and 14 to his fifth wife, Rhonda. Between all five of his wives, he has 24 children.

Related posts this blog:

(Link): Douglas Wilson and Christian Response FAIL to Sexual Sin – No Body Can Resist Sex – supposedly – Re Celibacy

(Link): Why So Much Fornication – Because Christians Have No Expectation of Sexual Purity

This also discusses typical, flawed Christian views about adult singleness and celibacy:
(Link): Preacher Mark Driscoll Basically Says No, Single Christian Males Cannot or Should Not Serve as Preachers / in Leadership Positions – Attempts to Justify Unbiblical, Anti Singleness Christian Bias

(Link): False Christian Teaching: “Only A Few Are Called to Singleness and Celibacy” or (also false): God’s gifting of singleness is rare – More Accurate: God calls only a few to marriage and God gifts only the rare with the gift of Marriage

(Link): Singles and the Church: Why It Sucks to be Unintentionally Overlooked (from The Sexy Celibate blog)

(Link): Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says – Single Xtian Ladies: Kick that Be Equally Yoked Teaching to the Curb! Also: Marriage and Parenthood do not make people more godly or mature or loving or ethical

Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says – Single Christian Ladies: Kick that Be Equally Yoked Teaching to the Curb!

Why exactly do married Christians keep demanding that Christian single ladies hold out for a Xtian man, when so many Christian men are closeted homosexuals or abusive jackholes?

I don’t think Christian single ladies should base their entire romantic destiny on a single 1,900 year old sentence that asks “what fellowship does light have with darkness,” or whatever.

Look at what happens when you DO marry a Christian guy, you get this (by the way, this guy is also a FATHER – and a homosexual – if you’re a hetero woman, the Christian dude you marry may dump you for another dude –
Also: I guess Christian married sex must not be “mind blowing” like Christians promise, since this guy dumped his wife to run off with some other guy):

(Link): Children’s Pastor Accused of Murdering Wife Wanted New Life with Boyfriend: Authorities

(Link): Pastor, 53, arrested at the airport after ‘stabbing his wife to death was heading to Europe to marry his boyfriend’

    PUBLISHED: 12:23 EST, 17 January 2014

-Richard Shahan was arrested at Tennessee airport in January although he was required to stay in the country as police investigated his wife’s death
-Claimed he had been with his son at the time of her death last July and that he was leaving the country for a three-year mission
-But police said inconsistencies led them to suspect him
-Prosecutors said 3,000 emails revealed ‘he was hoping to leave U.S. and eventually settle in the U.K., where he was going to marry his boyfriend’

(Link): Alabama pastor accused of murdering wife wanted to marry boyfriend: prosecutors

    Prosecutors say Rev. Richard Lee Shahan, formerly of Birmingham’s First Baptist Church, had plans to flee to Europe to marry his boyfriend. The minister has been charged with murdering his wife, Karen Louise Shahan.

(Link): Children’s Pastor Arrested at Airport in Wife’s Brutal Murder

(Link): Affidavit accuses ex-Homewood pastor Richard Shahan of cutting, stabbing wife to death

(Link): Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says

    By Kelsey Stein

on January 16, 2014 at 4:16 PM,

  • IRMINGHAM, Alabama – Bond for the former Homewood pastor charged with murder in his wife’s stabbing is set at $100,000 after prosectors said he tried to leave the country to marry his boyfriend.
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    Woman Stabs Husband with Ceramic Squirrel For Not Buying Beer (another time I’m glad I’ve never married)

    Woman Stabs Husband with Ceramic Squirrel For Not Buying Beer

    Anytime I feel blue over not being married, I see stories like this and feel relief, pure, sweet relief, that I am single.

    I love the one Christian fable that an individual must achieve full maturity and godliness before God will grant a person a spouse.

    I’m more mature and non-violent than this bitch who attacked her spouse with a ceramic squirrel. I may have my own set of flaws, but stabbing people with ceramic chotchkies in a fit of rage for not buying beer (or whatever other reason) ain’t one of them. Yet, according to married people Christian logic, God somehow saw fit to send this psycho woman a husband, but not one for me.

    (Link): Helen Ann Williams Stabbed Beerless Husband With Ceramic Squirrel: Police

    (Link): South Carolina woman stabs husband with ceramic squirrel in beer dispute

    By David Ferguson
    Saturday, December 28, 2013 13:36 EST
    A woman in North Charleston, South Carolina was arrested on Christmas after she stabbed her husband for coming home without any beer. According to Charleston, South Carolina’s News Channel 2, Helen Ann Williams, 44, attacked her 41-year-old common law husband with a ceramic sculpture of a squirrel.

    Police arrived at Williams’ home shortly after midnight Wednesday and found a man bleeding from a deep gash that ran from his shoulder to his chest. Initially Williams tried to convince police that the man had fallen and cut himself.

    Police then asked Williams why she had blood all over her hands and clothes and she told them it had come from someone else. Finally, she broke down and admitted that she sent her spouse to the store for beer. Finding the store closed, he returned home empty handed.

    It was at that point that the woman flew into a rage and attacked him. The man was treated at a local hospital and released. Williams remains incarcerated on $10,000 bond. Police charged her with criminal domestic violence of a high and aggravated nature.

    Related Posts:

    (Link):  Woman accused of beating husband with nunchucks because he refused sex

    (Link): Woman Throws Frozen Porkchop at Boyfriend’s Face

    (Link):  Vietnam man, 44, stabs a wedding guest to death after he was booed off stage during a tragic karaoke performance

    Wife Tried To Frame Husband For Child Porn Say Police

    Wife Frames Husband For Child Porn

    Talk about those times I’m glad I’ve never married.

    People often assume you are some kind of weirdo or loser if you’ve never married, but I see stories like this and wonder “how did this kook (or loser) get a spouse?”

    (Link): Police: Wife tried to frame husband for porn

    (Link): Western Pennsylvania woman accused of trying to frame husband with child porn

    (Link): Woman charged after telling cops hubby had porn

    (Link): Pennsylvania woman busted trying to frame husband with child porn: authorities

      Meri Jane Woods, 42, sparked the child pornography investigation when she went to Pennsylvania State Police and said her husband sexually abused children. But investigators later determined that Woods installed the graphic images on the computer after her husband moved out of their Cherry Hill Township home.

      By Joe Kemp / NEW YORK DAILY NEWS

      A Pennsylvania woman was busted for putting child pornography on a home computer in a failed bid to get her estranged husband arrested, state police said.
      Meri Jane Woods, 42, sparked the investigation last August — when she strolled into a state police barracks in the town of Indiana to report her husband had sexually abused children, authorities said.

      Woods, of Cherry Hill Township, also told investigators that her unidentified husband had downloaded several images of the abuse on their home computer.
      But troopers soon found that all of the lewd files on the computer were installed just three days before Woods went to the police. The probe also found that Woods’ husband, Matthew Woods, had moved out of the home the month before.

    Related posts this blog:

    (Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

    (Link): How Did this Idiot Get A Wife? – ‘They’re Married?!’ Series

    (Link): Entitled Controlling Bridezilla Makes Outrageous Picky Demands of Her Bridesmades

    (Link): *They’re Married?!?* (Part 3) Does God Require Singles to Be Perfect Before He Will Send Them a Spouse

    (Link): One of the Very Few Times I Have No Sympathy For A Former Domestic Abuse Victim – Letter to Amy From “Conflicted”

    (Link): The Wrong People Marry Quicker (from the “Unedited” blog)

    One of the Very Few Times I Have No Sympathy For A Former Domestic Abuse Victim – Letter to Amy From “Conflicted”

    One of the Very Few Times I Have No Sympathy For A Domestic Abuse Victim

    I’m usually very sympathetic towards women who are married to abusive men, or who have been. I think this may be one exception.

    This woman KNOWS the guy is a womanizing, abusive dirt bag, divorced him, knows he is seriously dating another woman, but is having sex with him in the meantime.

    Note that this woman is having sex with this abusive ex; she must enjoy and like sex. I mention this because usually, evangelical and fundy Christians behave as though most females (especially married ones) are not the least bit interested in sex.

    There is a gender stereotype among Christians that women only like “emotional” intimacy and never feel sexual desire, much less want to act on sexual desire.

    By Amy Dickinson, Published: December 2

      DEAR AMY:
      My conscience is bothering me. Two years ago, I divorced my husband of five years. It was a second marriage for both of us. We loved each other, but our marriage was deeply troubled.

      I frequently caught him lying. He had many inappropriate relationships with other women. His spending was out of control, putting me in serious financial jeopardy.

      Worst of all, during a two-year period of our marriage and on five occasions, he was physically abusive. Not a slap or a shove, but full-out rage. I thought he would kill me.

      Fast-forward to today: He and I continue to be close. We see each other frequently and have a lively sexual relationship. I have no illusions about his other activities and have always assumed that he is dating other women, as I have been dating other men.

      Still, I was shocked to learn that he has been in a serious relationship with a lovely young woman. I looked her up on social media, and I can tell she is head over heels in love with him.

      He has told me they are talking about marriage and children, although he is conflicted (about me). While she knows about our continued “friendship,” she has no idea how entrenched we continue to be, nor does she know that he has been sexually intimate with me the entire time he was courting her. Further, she does not know that he owes thousands of dollars on credits cards and has not filed his taxes in two years. Creditors call me daily looking for him. Clearly, he also has not told her about his history with domestic violence.

      As a mother, I feel protective of her innocence and cluelessness about him. She seems to want children and the white picket fence. I believe he will ruin her life. What obligation do I have to share any of this information with her? I don’t know what to do.

    When I read lunacy like this, I am glad that I have never married.

    Lousy Marriages (and Lousy Boyfriends) – Guy Marries Lesbian, Other Guy Fakes Kidnapping To Get Away from Wife etc

    Lousy Marriages – Guy Marries Lesbian, Other Guy Fakes Kidnapping To Get Away from Wife etc

    There are times when I am glad I am single.

    There are some marriages (or dating relationships) so awful, so shitty, people want divorce badly, or they fake being kidnapped to avoid their spouse.

    Christians as well as secular culture need to stop over-selling and romanticizing marriage (and other romantic relationships), as they often do.

    Sometimes marriage (or a boyfriend) sucks.

    Sometimes the person you marry (or are dating) does not or cannot meet all or even most of your needs.

    Sometimes the person you marry is emotionally or physically abusive, or has multiple affairs. Some women later find out that their husband is a pedophile.

    Here are some examples:

    (Link): My wife left me for a woman — could I please have my divorce now?

      I’ve been through hell for two and a half years, and I’d really like this marriage to be officially over!

      Dear Cary:

      My wife left me almost two and a half years ago for a woman. After having worked through everything involving the infidelity, the gay issue, custody of our then 1-1/2-year-old daughter (although I’m not sure I’ll ever be OK with that), etc., I’m ready to move on with my life.

      We decided to go to a mediator, as neither of us was financially able to hire lawyers to take care of the divorce. The first year of mediation was rocky, as I felt I was getting the short end of the stick, and I was fighting for custody of my daughter. Time has cooled things out, and we are what you might call “amicable,” although I don’t really believe that’s how things are.

      I think that I’ve become amicable and she’s become vindictive and controlling. My (still) wife presents a veneer of kindness and responsibility (she’s an ESL teacher and “wonderful” mother).

      However, she for some reason cannot let go. I’ve taken care of all the paperwork, even redoing all of it when both of us moved to different counties.

      Continue reading “Lousy Marriages (and Lousy Boyfriends) – Guy Marries Lesbian, Other Guy Fakes Kidnapping To Get Away from Wife etc”

    Pro Ball Player Convicted for Kid Diddling Three Kids Claims to be an Outstanding Christian (and he’s married with a kid of his own) – again, why should Christian single gals limit themselves to only marrying Christian men? The Whole “Being Yoked Equally” thing is irrelevant and unduly limiting for singles

    Pro Ball Player Convicted for Kid Diddling Three Kids Claims to be an Outstanding Christian (and he’s married with a kid of his own) – again, why should Christian single gals limit themselves to only marrying Christian men? The Whole “Being Yoked Equally” thing is irrelevant and unduly limiting for singles

    I was told my whole life by Christians it would be wrong for me to marry a Non-Christian because the Bible has one sentence that says “do not be yoked to an unbeliever.”

    I ran into a few decent Non-Christian guys growing up, but no, couldn’t get into a romantic relationship with them or marry them, because according to Christian folklore, if I just kept “trusting in the Lord” and praying about my marital future, in due time God would send me a Christian Prince Charming.

    I find myself still never-married in my early 40s.

    There is no, there was no, Christian Prince Charming that was my reward for staying a virgin, for being a good Christian girl who prayed, had faith, and waited on “God’s timing” or for “God’s Best.”

    Meanwhile, as a single, other singles and myself go ignored by the Christian community, when they are not harboring insulting stereotypes about older singles (such as all unmarried women are harlots that will steal married men).

    Supposedly, the unmarried are not as godly, sexually pure and loving as married people with children.

    Then we come across stories such as this by a guy who says he is a swell Christian – and I’m not sure, but I think he might be married with children of his own?

    I cannot believe Christians expected me to hinge my entire marital relationship destiny on one measly biblical verse that contains the phrase “be not yoked to an unbeliever,” and upon reflection, I wonder what in the hell does that verse even mean?

    Maybe Apostle Paul was only talking about tennis partners, for all we know.

    The end result of holding that verse up as the end- all, be- all of marriage advice is tragic, though: lots of single Christian ladies like me who wanted marriage are single into our 40s.

    I cannot believe a perverted guy like this gets a spouse while decent people such as myself, despite wanting to be married, can’t so much get a date for Friday night.

    Oh yes, this story also works against another secular and Christian stereotype: that older, never-married men are sexual predators. Here we have a story about a MARRIED man who is a FATHER who was convicted of child sexual abuse.

    (Link): Sex offender Chad Curtis says his victims are lying and he’s a “Christian servant”


      Curtis claims he’s “living faith every day” — and thinks he and his victim could write a book together


      Former major league outfielder Chad Curtis says he tries to “live my faith every day.” Chad Curtis is a recently convicted sex offender.

      On Thursday in Hastings, Mich., the 44-year-old was sentenced to seven to 15 years in prison on six counts of second-, third- and fourth-degree criminal sexual conduct. The victims were three teenage girls he knew during his time as a high school volunteer weight-room strength trainer two years ago. When he was initially suspended from his position last year, he told reporters, “I’d ask [the community] to pray for us and pray that this would be resolved in a way that is honoring to God.”

      Now, in a courtroom statement the prosecution called “an arrogant, self-serving hour-long soliloquy,” Curtis, who played for the Yankees in two winning World Series, steadfastly maintained that his victims were liars, saying, “The truth will set her free. I think this whole thing is an unfortunate situation where the whole truth has not been told. I believe her [the victim] and I could write a book someday and it would have a positive impact on a whole lot of people.” It’s a horrible, desperately insensitive thing to say, but it’s an illuminating window into the mind of a convicted sex offender – one who still bafflingly seeks connection with his accuser.

      The girls all tell similar tales — of Curtis groping them under the guise of giving them athletic massages. In her account of his actions, one of his teenage victims said that he’d “he exposed her breast, covered it with his mouth and simultaneously groped her crotch.”

      When she began crying, she says he swore that “he would never again succumb to his immoral impulses” and asked her to pray with him.

      She says that when she refused he told her, “Prayer is always good.” According to Michigan Live, it was the same scenario with the other two victims: “Each would hear an apology. Each would receive a promise that it would not happen again.” Yet if he expressed contrition during his encounters with the victims, there was none of the kind on display during his trial or sentencing.

    (Link): Former MLB Outfielder Chad Curtis Sentenced for Sexual Abuse

      Judge calls the former Yankees team member a predator during sentencing

      By Courtney Subramanian
      Oct. 03, 2013

      New York Yankees’ ex-outfielder Chad Curtis was sentenced Thursday to seven to 15 years in prison for sexual abuse by a Michigan circuit judge who called him a predator and a community threat.

      Curtis, whose career spans from 1992 to 2001 and includes two World Series wins with the New York Yankees, was convicted of six counts of criminal sexual conduct in August. During a stint volunteering as a weight trainer at a Barry County high school, the ex-MLB star inappropriately touched three teenage girls.

      Two 15-year-olds said he touched their buttocks while a 16-year-old girl said he touched and kissed her breasts. The 44-year-old told the court Thursday that the three girls lied, while calling himself a Christian servant.

    (Link): Chad Curtis blames his victims in court speech, offers to write a book with one

      HASTINGS, MI – As Chad Curtis delivered what a prosecutor called an arrogant, self-serving hour-long soliloquy, the three teen victims of his sexual crimes could take no more and walked out of the courtroom.

      But they returned in time to hear Barry County Circuit Court Judge Amy McDowell sentence the former major leaguer and school athletic mentor to seven to 15 years in prison for his sexual assault of three girls at Lakewood High School.

      “I feel like I’ve got to a point now where I have done all I can do and I can move on with my life,” said the 18-year-old, who was the victim of Curtis’ crimes in 2011 when he committed third-degree criminal sexual conduct against the then-high school senior. The crime involves sexual penetration.

      … For his part, Curtis talked for an hour and accused all the victims of lying during the week-long trial in August, during which Curtis was found guilty of six counts of criminal sexual conduct.

      Curtis talked of how he was playing for the Detroit Tigers, one of six teams he would play for in a 10-year career ending 2001, when he decided he wanted to become a servant of God.

      Curtis talked at length about all the students he helped by getting his teaching certificate at Cornerstone University. He talked about the people he brought to Christ through his example and the lives he helped turn around even as he waited sentencing in the Barry County Jail.

      “I wake up every morning and ask, ‘How can I be a positive influence in this little cell?” Curtis told the judge. “I live my faith every day.”

      Curtis took exception to being called selfish by the victims and their parents, and he seemed intent on making sure the judge knew that he was not selfish.

      Curtis also said he was the one rebuffing advances from the girls, who accused him of getting them alone in the school weight room and then molesting them under the guise of athletic conditioning.

      He said the girls will have to come to terms with their wrong-doing.

      “The truth will set her free,” he said of one of his victims.

      “I think this whole thing is an unfortunate situation where the whole truth has not been told, Curtis said. “I believe her (the victim) and I could write a book someday and it would have a positive impact on a whole lot of people.”

      Barry County Prosecutor Julie Nakfoor Pratt said Curtis’ statement showed an utter lack of remorse and showed that he needed to be put in prison.

      “That was the most selfish, self-serving, victim-blaming statement I’ve heard in my career as a prosecutor,” Pratt said. “It speaks volumes about his character, or lack thereof.”

      Following the sentence hearing, defense attorney David Dodge gathered with supporters of his client, including Curtis’ wife and daughter, as they met in a circle and prayed in the courthouse parking lot.

    Related posts this blog:

    (Link): Being Equally Yoked: Christian Columnist Dan Delzell Striving to Keep Christian Singles Single Forever

    (Link): Forget About Being ‘Equally Yoked’ – Article: ‘My Abusive ‘Christian’ Marriage’

    (Link): Why I Now Reject “Be Equally Yoked” – and on Becoming More Agnostic
    -(this page also contains many links to news stories with examples of Christian married men who were arrested for rape, murder, or other crimes, and articles about high rates of porno use among Christian men)
    On Christianity Today:
    (Link): Is Interfaith Marriage Always Wrong, Given that the Bible Teaches Us Not to Be ‘Unequally Yoked’?

    Speak For Yourself, Melissa Gorga (reality TV star supports marital rape)

    Speak For Yourself, Melissa Gorga (reality TV star supports marital rape)

    People like this get married, and people like me remain single. Something is definitely amiss.

    This is another example of…
    1. I’m glad I’ve never married.
    2. Christians are lying when they tell you that marital sex will be awesome

    She gets into this thing where she claims “all women want to be dominated.” No, we do not. Do not speak for me. (Correction: one site says that is her husband’s comment in the book – that is his view on women.)

    (Link): ‘Real Housewife’ Melissa Gorga’s New Book Advocates Marital Rape

      Real Housewives of New Jersey star Melissa Gorga has written an advice book, Love Italian Style, for people who want a marriage as hot and happy as the one she has with her husband Joe. Her entire ethos on the subject boils down to this sentence: “Husbands want their wives to submit; wives want our husbands to dominate.”

      The amount of sexism, gender essentialism, and caveman logic within its pages is so appalling that it’s difficult to believe that her book is anything but a cry for help.

      It’s very clear—from her anecdotes, observations, and tips—that she’s married to a controlling asshole that barely views her as human, let alone an equal. He won’t “allow” her to go on overnight trips without him, he has a say in the clothes she wears, didn’t want her to get a job (even before she became a mother), and he has gotten violent when Melissa does things that he doesn’t like.

      … On why your whore single friends are bad for your marriage [excerpt from book- example of ISOLATION OF SINGLE WOMEN]:

      Listen, we all love to hang out with our single friends. Who’s more fun? But, let’s call a spade a spade. You can’t make a habit of it when you are married. It’s always better for your relationship to go out with people who have more in common with you. You are less likely to get yourself in trouble…[T]oo many…”Girls’ Nights” with the single ladies can only lead to temptation.

    (Link): Real Housewife Melissa Gorga ‘supports marital rape’ in her book

      A Real Housewife has come under fire for promoting ‘marital rape’ in her book about how to ‘keep the romance alive and the home fires burning’.
      Melissa Gorga who came to fame for her role on Real Housewives of New Jersey has penned a book about her marriage and one portion that her husband Joe contributed is causing outrage.

      ‘Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says “no,” turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated,’ he wrote.

      ‘Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.’

      The couple’s sex life is discussed at length in the book by both of the Gorgas, and Melissa advocates both ‘real passionate sex and maintenance sex’.

      ‘Maintenance sex keeps the wheels greased, the lines of communication open, and the fights to a minimum,’ she wrote, according to Jezebel.

      Her frequent mentions of fights that are avoided using sex has raised some eyebrows about their tempestuous relationship.

      ‘In the beginning, Joe wanted to have sex every single day, at least once, if not twice or three times…If I didn’t give it to him once a day, he’d get upset,’ she wrote.

    Your husband is an entitled, selfish, immature asshole.