Married Mother Having Quasi Affair With Married Father She Met At Church
Oh yeah. This hits several of the spots I routinely discuss on this blog.
Christians have this stupid, unbiblical idea that being married and having children automatically makes a person more godly, giving, and ethical. They also assume that men are sexual beings but women are not, or women don’t cheat.
Christians also get into this equally yoked nonsense, where they tell other Christians it is wrong to date or marry outside the Christian faith.
Here we have a married woman who is also a mother who met a married man who is a father at their church, and they are having some kind of affair.
I see these types of stories on a regular basis. How can Christians keep trying to defend various assumptions and teachings when they obviously are not true and do not work?
Going to church, dating only other Christians, being married, having children – none of that is a guarantee that a person will be more godly, mature, ethical or trustworthy.
Here’s the letter from the man whose wife is cheating on him, from January 2015 (I have one or two comments below this letter):
- DEAR AMY:
- My wife and I are separating after 13 years of marriage. A few months ago she said she was unhappy.
- Then I learned she had formed an “emotional and spiritual connection” with a married man from church, someone I know and whose children play with our children after church every Sunday.
- I believe her lack of interest in working on our marital issues is tied to the fact that there is someone else already in her life, who has taken her focus away from “us.”
- I am torn about telling the man’s wife about this “connection.” Some people have advised me to tell her, because I would want to know if my wife was being secretive.
- Others have said to leave their marriage alone. My wife has told me that the other man has not told his wife; he has told her that I am suspicious of them, because I met with him to talk about his relationship with my wife, and he denied anything but friendship.
- Then to cover himself he made me seem like an insecure, jealous husband who has strange ideas about their “friendship.” My wife excused his behavior by suggesting that I cornered him, and what else was he going to say?
- Should I meet with her and tell her what I know, or leave it alone, in the belief that it will reveal itself eventually?
- — Wronged Husband
It is possible for married people to be platonic friends with both single and married people of the opposite gender… so this part,
- My wife has told me that the other man has not told his wife; he has told her that I am suspicious of them, because I met with him to talk about his relationship with my wife, and he denied anything but friendship.
Has a grain of truth to it. Too many married people are hyper suspicious of their spouse hanging out with an opposite gender person.
But anyway, here you go, another example of how being married (and a parent) is not a guarantee of happiness, getting your needs met, nor is it a defense against infidelity and being unethical.