Ed Stetzer’s Series on Christianity and Adult Singles, via CT
Stetzer – who has not always done a great job in the past in discussing adult singleness and aspects related (see this link and this link) – has started a new series at Christianity Today about Christianity and adult singleness, specifically, how churches and Christians have habitually marginalized singles and idolized the family unit.
I think he’s planning on writing one or two more essays in this series; currently, he only has part 1 and part 2 up and running.
As he adds more essays in this series (if he does so, I’m unclear as if to there will be future posts), I think my preference is to edit this post to add links to those posts, rather than making separate posts on my blog about it.
Stetzer is covering issues about this I have been blogging about on this blog for the past several years.
One problem I have with one of these pieces is that Stetzer tells married couples not to shy away from be-friending single adults, because marrieds refusing to friend single adults can unfairly ostracize singles – which is fine advice – I’m all for married people friend-ing single people, yet (here is where the problematic part comes in) –
Yet, however, in 2014, Stetzer essentially told married couples in (Link): another article on Christianity Today magazine article to treat all singles like potential adulterers, to basically practice the “Billy Graham Rule,” and stay away from single adults of the opposite sex, because opposite – sex friendships will all supposedly end in an affair.
Which is not true. I’m a never-married woman, but I would not have an affair with a married man.
Singles are no more prone to committing sexual sins than married people.
There are plenty of examples of married people having extra-marital affairs with another married person. (There are plenty of husbands who have affairs with another man’s wife.)
Marriage does not make adults immune from committing (sexual) sin – note (Link): how many married Christian (and Non-Christian) men have been caught looking at porn, arrested for child molesting, hiring prostitutes, or having affairs.
Here’s the link to his first post in the series, the second is below:
(Link): Singles: A Vital Part of Our Churches, Part 1– by Ed Stetzer
Singles make up half of our churches, so we best learn to treat all people—married or single—equally
Let me just get this out there at the outset: For many, being single in the church can sometimes feel very awkward.
I have heard a number of singles tell me stories that have made me cringe—stories of how the leadership and the marrieds in the church spoke or acted in ways that were silly at best and dishonoring at worst.