Her Husband Wanted Her To Go Dress Shopping With Him, For Dresses For Him – Trans Widow Story
I can’t imagine this. You’re single, you’d like to get married, you finally get married, only to discover days, weeks, or months into the marriage that the man you married is either abusive, selfish, a pedophile, or… he says he wants to be trans and wear women’s dresses.
If what she discusses below is marriage, I’d rather stay single.
13th Rule of Misogyny: Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves
Ours was a long marriage. My husband was an affable, good-natured person, perceived by most people, me included, to be “easy going”. Young and naive (though I thought I was experienced and mature), I would adjust myself as required to ensure that our life together was positive, fulfilling and shared.
I did not take on board how one-sided this process was. The more this pattern repeated itself, the more emotionally depleted I became, and the harder it was for me to bounce back.
For many years, I was grateful for my ex’s patience with me, his reassurances that he was fine, I just needed to pull myself together and all would be well. What I took to be his generosity was actually this message: I needed to be and act within a certain range within his presence.
Anything outside of his window of tolerance he would simply reject, and wait for me to re-present myself in a state that he could handle. It took a long time to realise that this was the perspective of a man with autism who lacked insight into other people’s needs.
Children were added to this dynamic, I entered a phase of distress unlike anything I had ever experienced, and I withdrew from him physically, completely. Something in me knew that sex had been all about him, and my own need for connection and intimacy had vanished from the equation. …