Society Has It Wrong: Married People Shouldn’t Get Benefits That Single People Do Not by V. Larson

Society Has It Wrong: Married People Shouldn’t Get Benefits That Single People Do Not by V. Larson

(Link): Society Has It Wrong: Married People Shouldn’t Get Benefits That Single People Do Not by V. Larson

Excerpts:

…Except for one thing: single people still don’t have access to the legal benefits and protections the government grants to those who get married.

….Spouses in the US can pass on Medicare, as well as Social Security, disability, and veterans and military benefits. They can get health insurance through a spouse’s employer; receive discounted rates for homeowners’, auto, and other types of insurance; make medical decisions for each other as well as funeral arrangements; and take family leave to care for an ill spouse, or bereavement leave if a spouse dies.

These privileges are unavailable to the unmarried in the US, yet most single people would benefit if they were.

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Thoughts Regarding the Essay “3 Things Every Single Person Needs to Stop Doing”

Thoughts Regarding the Essay “3 Things Every Single Person Needs to Stop Doing”

Over at SCCL, this Relevant editorial was under discussion – (Link): here, on Facebook. You may want to read the comments there – this is one of those times I am in agreement with some (or most) of the SCCL commentators

Here is the article itself:

(Link): 3 Things Every Single Person Needs to Stop Doing by Q. Ross

I feel some of the advice on the page is okay – the author, Ross, basically tells you if you’re a single who wants to be married, go out and live your life – go on a cruise or whatever, don’t just sit around waiting for your life to start. That’s not necessarily bad advice.

In her editorial, Ross coaches singles not to complain about being single, which is a point I don’t agree with. Singles should be permitted to complain about being single if it helps them cope with the hurt, stress, or frustrations of being single, especially if the single in question had wanted to be married.

Singles needs to be heard (included any negative thoughts or emotions they’d like to share about singleness), not shushed by Christians who are uncomfortable with strong emotion. Singles don’t need any more platitudes, either.

Where things go south is where she suggests that if you’re still single, it’s because you have something wrong with you – God, she implies, is waiting for you to meet some kind of criteria before he will send you a spouse.

For example, Ross writes this:

Instead of complaining, show God that you are content with him alone and then maybe He’ll trust you with a relationship. He wants to know that when He does bring someone into your life, you won’t bail on Him and worship the gift rather than the gift-giver.

//end excerpt

As I’ve said time and again on my blog, I’ve seen far too many losers, weirdos, and violent people – whether Christian or not – who get married to believe that God requires people to become wonderful, mature, godly, or what have you, to earn a spouse.

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Liberals and White People

Liberals and White People

In the past few weeks, I’ve seen more and more headlines about liberals complaining about white people, and stories along the lines of college kids wanting to exclude white people from campuses, for at least a day.

There are college kids who want non-white dorm buildings.

Liberals also go on quite a bit about “white privilege.”

I also saw a headline or two about some kooks who wanted to “kill all the white people,” and one of these kooks was arguing that anyone and everyone in culture be permitted to kill all whites.

There is also a headline or two about left wing college instructors who think society would benefit if all white people were dead.

One thing I cannot comprehend about this is how do multi-racial people fit in?

Not everyone out there has two white parents or is descended purely from white people.

In my family, for instance, both sides inter-married with full-blooded Native American Indians, from more than one Native American Indian Nation.

So, I’m not totally a “Person of Color” (or whatever liberals would call it), nor am I totally Caucasian. I’m a little of both. I’m not sure where I would fit in within the liberal scheme of things.

So, when these college kids call for “No Whites” day at their college, and if I were a student at their school, would they argue I could attend, or would they demand I stay at home that day? And on what would they base their response?

What do these liberals do with guys such as former American President Barack Obama, in that, I believe one of his parents was white and one was black?

A few decades ago in American culture, white racists did not want black people to be in the same areas as white people, so everything was segregated. Why in the holy hell do today’s liberals want to now segregate everyone? They’re reverting back to 1950s or 1960s-era culture. Very odd.

I’m still very curious as to how liberals would address people who are not 100% white or who aren’t descended from only white people.

If you’re advocating for killing white people – not that I think one should – but if you are, how can you be sure the person you’re killing is 100% white?

To some people, I may appear white, but others see I have Native American features.

What if you kill a person thinking she’s white, but in reality, she was only partially white?

Are you liberals advocating for this disgusting view (of killing all whites) going to do DNA testing on every person to make sure everyone you send to the gas chamber is totally white?

And what do you do with people of color who are married to 100% white people? (Previous post on this blog: (Link): More Americans Are Marrying People of Other Races Than Ever Before)

Do you really think a black person, Asian, or Hispanic person who is married to a 100% white person is going to stand idly by while you send his or her spouse off to a killing camp?

Here are some links about liberals calling for the killing of white people, or arguing for non-white spaces, and other related subjects:

(Link):  Police Tell Prof He’s in Danger for Not Participating in Evergreen State College’s Campus ‘No Whites’ Day By Tom Knighton [VIDEO]

(Link):  No Campus For Professors Opposed To Anti-White Racism 

(Link):  ‘White people dying has generally worked’: Black professor draws outrage for classroom remarks

(Link):  Professor Argued For ‘Killing White People As Self-Defense’

Professor Thomas Curry presented the case for “killing white people in context” in a 2012 radio interview. He also suggested that black people have to kill white people “as self-defense” on the road to equality, Campus Reform reports.

(Link): Student Mob Demands Professor Resign for Questioning No-Whites ‘Day of Absence’…

What would liberals do about this baby:

(Link):  ‘I can’t let them do this to another family’: White lesbian mother who was inseminated with black man’s semen ‘after sperm bank mixup’ says she wanted blonde-hair blue-eyed baby

Or this:

(Link):  What Adopting a White Girl Taught One Black Family

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Single Workers Aren’t There to Pick Up the Slack For Their Married Bosses and Colleagues by B. DePaulo

Single Workers Aren’t There to Pick Up the Slack For Their Married Bosses and Colleagues

(Link): Single Workers Aren’t There to Pick Up the Slack For Their Married Bosses and Colleagues by B. DePaulo

Excerpts:

Too often, employers believe that single, childless people are emotionally untethered and financially untroubled, which means they ought to be free to stay late, travel on weekends, show up on holidays, and take whatever vacation slots married employees haven’t already claimed— all of which puts singles in a highly unfair (not to mention undesirable) position. It’s time that employers stopped taking advantage of single employees—and started recognizing the truth about their lives.

Single people have important ties to friends, family, and community

Negative stereotypes about single people hold that they are isolated, lonely, and focused only on themselves—perfect candidates to come in to work, or to stay there, when no one else wants to. But research shows otherwise.

…In fact, single people do more to maintain their relationships with their friends, neighbors, siblings, and parents than married people.

…Single people are rooted in their communities and towns in significant ways. They participate in public events more often, and take more music and art classes. They volunteer more than married people do for a wide variety of organizations.

The financial fragility of people who are single

Years before my employer mindlessly presumed that I had no one to support, my mother was widowed. But he never stopped to consider whether she needed my financial support. Other single people are providing support in other ways—for example, quietly accumulating college funds for their nieces and nephews, or welcoming them into their homes when times are tough.

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Dear Abby: Woman Worries Lazy Fiance Will Also be Lazy Husband

Dear Abby: Woman Worries Lazy Fiance Will Also be Lazy Husband

He’s not going to magically change just because you put a gold band on his finger. If you’re unhappy with him now, you’ll be unhappy with him after you marry him, if you marry him.

(Link): Dear Abby: Woman worries lazy fiance will also be lazy husband

Dear Abby:

My fiance, “David,” and I are getting married soon. We have been living together and engaged for a year, and together eight years. It takes him forever to get things done around the house or buy things we need. I have tried lists and constant reminders.

David recently lost his job and is interviewing to find another one. He loves sports, so he plays softball with his friend in a league, which takes up an entire day of the weekend. When he comes home, he wants to watch sports on TV. The house is old (it was my grandfather’s), and there’s always something that needs doing or fixing.

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Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka, and the SCCL Push-Back

Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka – via Relevant Magazine, and the SCCL Push-Back

The essay “Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex” by Rachel Pietka was discussed over at Facebook group SCCL (Link): here a few days ago.

The consensus by the SCCL readership is that the page – by R. Pietka – is that it’s awful. Many in the SCCL thread did not approve of it or agree with it.

I don’t know why the SCCL readership largely condemned the page, because some of it is right in line with the ex-Christian, or liberal Christian views, about sex and sexual purity.

I’ll give you a long excerpt from the page before discussing it a bit more below:

(Link):  Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka

What Christians need to remember about God’s design for sex.

…While the [Christian based sexual abstinence] movement is great at detailing— and exaggerating—the benefits of saving sex for marriage, it is dishonest about the challenges abstinence presents to couples who eventually tie the knot.

…Jessica Ciencin Henriquez recently detailed how the abstinence movement affected her sex life and marriage in a revealing article titled, (Link): “My Virginity Mistake.”

Henriquez relays how she pledged herself to Jesus at a purity ceremony at age 14, remained a virgin until she married six years later, and wound up divorced after she and her husband could not make things work in the bedroom.

Looking back, Henriquez states if she had not insisted on waiting for sex until marriage, she could have prevented her divorce.

Henriquez’s story is important because it highlights an issue the abstinence movement rarely acknowledges: sexual incompatibility within marriage.

While this issue may seem irrelevant, it is actually fundamental to traditional Christian beliefs about sex. The fact that sexual compatibility does not matter to Christians when choosing a spouse makes the shocking and countercultural statement that sex is not our God.

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TV Show Triggers Chinese Virginity Debate

TV Show Triggers Chinese Virginity Debate

(Link): TV Show Triggers Chinese Virginity Debate by Y. Zhao

“He asked me whether I am a virgin,” says Qiu Yingying, bursting into tears.

She has just found out her relationship with boyfriend Ying Qin is over, after he found out she had had sex in the past.

The scene from China’s biggest soap opera right now, Ode to Joy, has triggered much discussion on whether virginity is still a prized asset for women in modern China.

Ode to Joy, now in its second season, tells the stories of five beautiful women from different walks of life who live in the same floor of an apartment complex in Shanghai.

The show, a less risque version of Sex and the City, is popular among women for its focus on romance, careers, friendships and the difficulties women face in the big city.

‘Out-of-dated topic’

Sex education in China is often poor. There are stories of male biology teachers skipping details of the female reproductive system in class and ask students to learn it by themselves.

And parents very rarely share information about sex with their children.

What almost all parents do, however, is warn their daughters not to have any dates before they graduate from university, fearing that they get hurt or become pregnant.

Chinese communities also traditionally expect chastity before marriage.

That means TV dramas are very influential in shaping audiences’ values. They are windows for young audiences, especially young women, to understand sex and sexuality and the ways views are changing.

Double standards on virginity

Zi Yin, a Shanghai-based film assistant producer, told the BBC that even debating the topic was old-fashioned in the 21st Century. She thought it was “disgusting” for the show to make an issue of it.

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Vietnam man, 44, stabs a wedding guest to death after he was booed off stage during a tragic karaoke performance

Vietnam man, 44, stabs a wedding guest to death after he was booed off stage during a tragic karaoke performance

I guess they take their karaoke real serious over there.

(Link):  Vietnam man, 44, stabs a wedding guest to death after he was booed off stage during a tragic karaoke performance

May 25, 2017

  • Nguyen Ngoc Diep, 44, was singing at wedding in southern Vietnam on Thursday
  • He was furious when a guest mocked his singing and stole his microphone
  • Diep began brawling with the guest, who ended up seriously injured in hospital
  • Attacker then stabbed another guest Le Hong An, 35, when he tried to stop him 
  • Diep has been arrested since going on the horrific rampage, local media said

A man at a wedding in Vietnam stabbed a fellow guest to death and seriously injured another after he was booed off stage during a karaoke performance.

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Pat Robertson’s Unrealistic, Unhelpful Advice to the Unemployed

Pat Robertson’s Unrealistic, Unhelpful Advice to the Unemployed

Pat Robertson is the main host of a Christian television program called “The 700 Club.” This program comes on Monday through Friday. He takes viewer questions at the end of many of the episodes.

I usually give out links to the episodes I discuss, but I didn’t plan on being online tonight, it’s growing late, I’m getting sleeping, and frankly, I’m too sleepy and lazy to google for the link.

On an episode of 700 Club that aired this week – the week of May 22, 2017, or possibly the last part of last week (like around May 18 or 19, 2017), Robertson took a question from some guy who was out of work.

It seems about twice per year, every year, Pat Robertson’s show receives a question from a lady or a man who says they are out of work, they have sent out hundreds of resumes, yet they are not getting employed, and nobody is even calling them in for job interviews.

They sometimes add that they pray constantly and ask God to send them a job, but so far, their prayers seem to be going un-heard, and they want to know why God isn’t helping them.

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Christian School Punishes Pregnant Student Who Chooses Life

Christian School Punishes Pregnant Student Who Chooses Life

(Link):  Student’s pregnancy tests a Christian school’s values

“She made the courageous decision to choose life, and she definitely should not be shamed,” said Kristan Hawkins, the Students for Life president, who tried unsuccessfully to persuade the administrator of Heritage Academy to reverse the decision. “There has got to be a way to treat a young woman who becomes pregnant in a graceful and loving way.”

…Runkles’ story sheds light on a delicate issue: how Christian schools, which advocate abstinence until marriage, treat pregnant students.

…Navigating that balance is exceedingly difficult for Christian educators, and schools respond in various ways, said Rick Kempton, chairman of the board of the Association of Christian Schools International, which represents about 3,000 schools in the United States and many others overseas.

“There’s a biblical term that many Christian schools use, and it is the whole idea of grace: What would Jesus do?” Kempton said. Of Runkles, he added: “She’s making the right choice. But you don’t want to create a celebration that makes other young ladies feel like, ‘Well, that seems like a pretty good option.’”

…In 2009, the National Association of Evangelicals, drawing on figures from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, reported that 80 percent of young evangelicals engaged in premarital sex. A spokeswoman for the evangelical group said its own research, however, suggested that the figure was much lower.

Slightly more than half of women who have abortions — 54 percent — identify as Christians, according to the Guttmacher Institute, a research organization that tracks abortion policy.

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‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Called NeatClub – article by J. Burns

‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Called NeatClub – article by J. Burns

So sad we’re living in a day and age where this sort of thing is necessary. And yes, there are advantages to being celibate… like avoiding getting STIs.

You don’t need funding or a government program to avoid getting an STI – being celibate will do the trick, and it’s free.

(Link): ‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Is Startup Culture Via Nutshell: Frank, Unchecked, Inevitable

Again, the idea behind NeatClub isn’t totally surprising, and could easily be tempting for anyone who’s experienced the fear surrounding STIs and exposure to them.

By phone, founder Ashka Shah noted that medical experts have described the ongoing rise in STI cases in the United States as an epidemic–one that particularly affects gay and bisexual men, and which the CDC credits in large part to related funding cuts in recent years, Slate pointed out.

Despite this, sexually active folk aren’t showing up for testing like they should, and often for different reasons, according to Shah. “My research showed it was partially stigma and partially ignorance,” she said.

By inviting daters to get their status and any disclosure thereof settled at the start, Shah said, she hopes the app will help break down some of that stigma while helping to keep people safer.

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The Left Can Be Just as Bad as the Right – The SCCL Pence Post

The Left Can Be Just as Bad as the Right – The SCCL Pence Post

Over at Liberal- to Ex- Christian (and sometimes atheist) SCCL Facebook group, Stephanie Drury linked to an editorial (her link),

“I Was Trained for the Culture Wars in Home School, Awaiting Someone Like Mike Pence as a Messiah”

“”Christofascists have been wanting someone like Pence in the White House and, until now, didn’t have a way to get one in.”

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More Americans Are Marrying People of Other Races Than Ever Before

More Americans Are Marrying People of Other Races Than Ever Before

(Link): More Americans Are Marrying People of Other Races Than Ever Before

On June 12, 2017, it will have been 50 years since the U.S. Supreme Court decided that Americans should in fact be allowed to marry a partner of whatever race they want. Since then, many American couples have availed themselves of that right, although white people remain much less likely to marry another race than people of other races, according to a new report from Pew Research.

…The newlyweds most likely to be intermarried are Asian or Hispanic. Almost 30% of Asians who married in 2015 wed someone of another race, and about 27% of Hispanics married a non-Hispanic, says Pew.

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Gallup: Record Low 24% Believe Bible Is Literal Word of God

Gallup: Record Low 24% Believe Bible Is Literal Word of God

(Link):   Record Few Americans Believe Bible Is Literal Word of God

(Link): Gallup: Record Low 24% Believe Bible Is Literal Word of God by A. Cone

Excerpts:

May 16, 2017

Fewer than one in four Americans believe the Bible is “the actual word of God, and is to be taken literally, word for word” — a record low in 40 years of surveys conducted by Gallup.

The 24 percent of literal believers is a 4 percentage point drop from the last (Link): Gallup survey in 2014.

Among respondents, 26 percent believe the Bible is “a book of fables, legends, history and moral precepts recorded by man” — the first time that the biblical literalism view is not greater than biblical skepticism. In 2014, 21 percent were non-literal believers.

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2017 Study Urges Caution in Dating Co-Workers

2017 Study Urges Caution in Dating Co-Workers

(Link):  The Surefire Way to Turn Your Worklife Into a Living Hell

Excerpts:

“We are spending more time at work,” said Elaine Swann, a lifestyle and etiquette expert. “Relationships are now becoming more acceptable — especially because our work environments have become a lot more casual than they were in yesteryear.”

This comes as we are spending more time than ever in the workplace — the average work week in 2015 was 38.7 hours, compared with 38.1 hours in 1980 — and more than half of American employees didn’t take all their vacation days in 2015.

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A New Experiment Regarding Dating Sites Found that Personality Always Trumps Attractiveness by Q. Fottrell

A 2017 Experiment Regarding Dating Sites Found that Personality Always Trumps Attractiveness

I can believe it, which is why although I’m picky about looks in guys, I will still give a less than stellar looking guy a chance if he has some other quality that off-sets “meh” looks, like he treats me really nice, or has a great sense of humor.

I’m afraid that 99% of American men have yet to figure this out, though – if you go through life judging women based mostly on their looks (you’re unwilling to date anything less than a stick figure Victoria Secret’s model who must be under the age of 30), as most men do, you’re either going to die a lonely, single man, or, you’re going to end up with a very pretty yet very snobbish, catty, or money grubbing bitch for a wife, and you’ll end up divorced eventually.

(Link): A new laboratory experiment found that personality always trumps attractiveness

Excerpts:

…The results [of the experiment]? After rating their conversation partners for attractiveness, social attractiveness, fun, humor and charisma, the dates with the best personalities had the biggest bump post-meeting in their overall attractiveness as potential partners.

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Women In 30s Now Having More Babies Than Younger Moms in U.S.

Women In 30s Now Having More Babies Than Younger Moms in U.S. 

(Link):  American Women are Opting to Wait Longer to Have Kids

(Link): Women in Their 30s Now Having More Babies Than Younger Moms

Women in their early thirties are for the first time having more babies than younger moms in the United States, according to new data released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. According to health experts, the shift was caused by more women choosing to wait longer to have children, as well as a steady national drop in teen births. Now, the birth rate for women in the 30-to-34 age group is about 103 per 100,000.

(Link):  For the First Time Ever, Thirty-Something Women Are Having More Babies Than Their Twenty-Something Counterparts

In many ways, this attitude, and the milestone marked by the new CDC data, represents a gain for women. As Rebecca Traister wrote in her 2016 book All the Single Ladies, the social permission to delay marriage and childbirth—as well the as the biological ability to do so, first through the use of reliable birth control, now with the help of the booming fertility industry—has given women the freedom to define themselves through means other than motherhood. As recently as 1970, the mean age of first birth was just 21, giving most women precious little time to pursue education, adventure, and professional achievement.

However, the rise of older parenthood is also a response to a workplace paradigm that levies penalties on mothers. The U.S. is (Link): the only wealthy nation in the world without a federal paid parental leave policy, and childcare in this country is (Link): exorbitantly expensive and (Link): frighteningly under-regulated. Together, these factors push many women to put off pregnancy in the name of professional success or financial stability.

In her 2012 book Ready: Why Women are Embracing the New Later Motherhood, University of Houston professor Elizabeth Gregory analyzed census data from 2000 and found that delaying motherhood measurably increased women’s earnings.

(Link): Women In 30s Now Having More Babies Than Younger Moms in U.S.  – May 2017

For the first time, women in their early 30s are having more babies than younger moms in the United States.

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“Marriageable Men” Are No Longer a Hot Economic Commodity, New Study Says by M. Solis

“Marriageable Men” Are No Longer a Hot Economic Commodity, New Study Says

(Link): “Marriageable Men” Are No Longer a Hot Economic Commodity, New Study Says – May 2017, by Marie Solis

Turns out, she’s just not that into you.

According to a paper from the National Bureau of Economic Research, fewer women are relying on stable, high-earning male partners to have children.

Researchers from the University of Maryland discovered this trend when they examined the fracking boom, a “positive economic shock” which they said caused wage spikes for non-college educated men. In the past, these kinds of income increases have been associated with accompanying spikes in heterosexual marriage rates, as with the coal booms of the 1970s and ’80s.

But that’s not the case in 2017.

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Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies

Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies

(Link): Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies – May 2017

Several women are accusing a Florida man of faking stage 4 cancer and manipulating them to get food, money, and shelter, just weeks after his wedding to a long-lost love went viral.

Ken Boyer, 60, of Palm Bay, first gained notoriety when (Link): WKMG-TV covered his wedding to a Missouri woman named Michelle Kimbrel in May. Boyer claimed he “reconnected” with Kimbrel on Facebook a few weeks before they tied the knot.

When Boyer’s story went viral, women across Florida started contacting the station, claiming they recognized Boyer as a former fling.

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Sologamy – Marrying Yourself

Sologamy – Marrying Yourself

Personally, I feel this is weird.

But I get it. Women get tired of people asking them, “When are you going to marry” as though a woman’s not truly valid until she gets a husband.

I note that many of my fellow conservatives are totally mocking it – but most of these people have been married for decades and are blind to how bad society idolizes marriage and shames anyone who is still single past the age of 29.

I wouldn’t marry myself, as I find it an odd concept, but I can see how other singles might do something like this to send the message they are valuable on their own, and they are tired of friends and family asking them when they are going to marry.

(Link):  Women across the world are ditching men for Sologamy, here’s why we have mixed feelings about this trend

(Link):   What is a ‘sologamist’ and why are people doing it?

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