I didn’t see the option of “none’ on the list.
Pharmacist Allegedly Refused To Fill Teen’s IUD-Related Prescription
M.S.’s daughter, who was twelve at the time, had a period that wasn’t going away with other birth control methods, so her doctor suggested she get an IUD, according to a statement from the ACLU of New Mexico. The doctor prescribed three medications to help the IUD insertion go more smoothly— a pain reliever, an anti-anxiety medication, and Misoprotol —but Garrett said he was only able to fill two of the three and M.S. would need to go to another Walgreens for the third.
He allegedly refused to fill the Misoprotol, which is used to treat stomach ulcers, but is also often prescribed for reproductive health, such as inducing an abortion and to soften the cervix prior to an IUD insertion.
When M.S. later asked Garrett why he couldn’t fill the prescription, she was told that they did have the pill at the store but that particular pharmacist wouldn’t fill the prescription due to “personal beliefs.”
He told her that he “had a pretty good idea” why her daughter needed the medication, insinuating that she either needed to have an abortion or that she was getting an IUD for sexual activity.
Self-Absorbed Man Hi-Jacks Wedding Ceremony
There goes the stereotypical evangelical Christian propaganda that the reason you’re still single past the age of 30 is because you’re still too (insert one or more: selfish, immoral, irresponsible, immature, ugly) to get a spouse, and God won’t send you one ’til you get your stuff together.
Forget that. The idiot in this following story was proposing marriage to someone…
The Internet is (Link): straight-up livid about this egregious wedding etiquette offense, and you will be too.
A recent bride wrote in to (Link): Slate’s advice columnist Dear Prudence (a.k.a. Mallory Ortberg) about “John” ― her huband’s best friend, best man, and wedding officiant ― who had the audacity to propose to his longtime girlfriend and announce their pregnancy DURING the ceremony.
On top of that, “John” ― not his real name ― found other ways to make the rest of the day about him and his fiancée “Jane.” The bride explained:
I Wore a Wig to See If Men on Dating Sites Really Do Prefer Long Hair Over Short Hair by K. Dougher
Oh geeze, this is a Cliche’! As a woman I got this one all the time, even in Christian articles and books on dating and marriage (usually ones that were complementarian in nature, that were big promoters of traditional gender roles) – they all declare that all men prefer long hair on women, so, the authors all say, you should grow your hair long to get a boyfriend, or else, you will die single and alone.
Well, over most of my life, I’ve worn my hair short or medium. Long hair is a pain in the ass to take care of. Takes too long to shampoo, comb, style, blow-dry, so a big no thanks.
This lady’s experience went to show that men she came across on dating sites preferred her with SHORT hair.
She started this experiment assuming that she’d get more interest with her hair long, but that was not the case.
…when I recently found myself single and on Tinder for the first time, I couldn’t help but wonder (in my best Carrie Bradshaw voice): Do men on dating sites prefer short hair or long hair?
…By the end of my little experiment, I had to conclude that not only was my hypothesis completely incorrect, I was also apparently carrying around an incorrect assumption about the way men view women with short hair.
This forced me to take a moment to unpack my reasons for this.
The Hottest Body Part? For a Sapiosexual, It’s the Brain
In a society obsessed with physical appearance, sexual attraction for some people is based on intellect, and not necessarily on looks.
Pastor, Wife Face Prison After Pleading Guilty to Stealing Thousands From Summer Food Program
As you can see from this news story, these people were not godly before they married and marriage did not make them godly or more ethical.
God allows jerks and dishonest people to get married all the time.
God does not expect anyone to become more mature, godly, or up-standing before he will send them a spouse. Jerks and losers get married all the time.
Most Christians deny this and tell Christians, “the reason you are still single is God is still preparing you or cleaning you up before he will allow marriage into your life.” If that were true, we would not see dishonest people like the ones in this story get spouses, now would we?
Robbie Wilkerson, the founding pastor of New Birth Christian Center church in Chicago, Illinois, and his wife, Tasha, are both set to spend some time in prison along with three of their associates after they plead guilty to defrauding a summer food program for low-income children on Tuesday.
The U.S. Attorney’s Office for the Central District of Illinois announced in a press release that Pastor Wilkerson pled guilty to wire fraud and money laundering while his wife pled guilty to theft of government funds.
Wilkerson, his wife and associates were indicted in 2015 for embezzling approximately $450,000 they received to operate the 2010 Summer Food Service Program. The embezzled amount was more than one-half of the funding for the program.
This Woman Took Photos of 100 Penises and Learned Quite a Bit About Them in the Process by L. Beck
Photographer Laura Dodsworth has put together a book of photos of all different sorts of penises — long ones, short ones, skinny ones, fat ones, old ones, young ones, and every other sort of penis you can ~dream~ up.
The book is called Manhood,….
What Men Looked For in Women in the 1930s Versus What They Want Now by J. Brown
Please visit their page to see the whole article and their infographic:
(Link): What Men Looked For in Women in the 1930s Versus What They Want Now by J. Brown
Researchers examined preference trends from as far back as 1939 to see what women and men look for in a partner. And they found some big changes.
In 2008, mutual attraction and love was the number one trait men looked for in a partner. Also in the top ten were good looks, education and intelligence and sociability. In 1939, these traits ranked further down.
Married Father of Six, Preacher Matthew Tague, Arrested for Forcibly Molesting a Minor – Christians, Dump the Equally Yoked Teaching
So. Christians keep arguing that single adult Christians should only marry other Christians (equally yoked rule).
Next, we have falsehoods in Christianity that single, childless adults are not as godly or mature as married parents. Marriage and parenthood are necessary ingredients to make a person godly, mature, or loving, most Christians teach.
But I have a non-stop parade of married parents who are FREAKS and DEVIANTS listed on this site, who’ve been charged with, or found guilty of things ranging from soliciting prostitutes, to raping kids, to having sex with dogs.
Also, God does not require that a person clean herself up, become perfect, get more ethical or mature, or more pretty, or more ‘whatever’ before God will send that person a spouse.
If God is allowing deviants like alleged child rapist Tague get a wife, there is no reason in holy hell God would not be permitting some Average Smoe, who is living an Average Life (one that does not involve raping kids), to have a spouse, too.
Please, Christians, explain to me how a CHILD RAPIST somehow ‘merits’ a spouse more than someone like me, who doesn’t rape kids! I’d love to hear that explanation. (I may have my flaws, some shortcomings, but raping kids is not one of them!!, holy smokes.)
Don’t tell me that marriage or parenthood makes a person more loving and godly, when I am forever seeing these type of sick, disgusting news stories:
A California pastor was arrested Wednesday after being accused of forcibly molesting a minor.
San Diego Sheriff’s Department Child Abuse Unit detectives arrested Matthew Tague, 43, for multiple counts of lewd and lascivious acts with one victim under the age of 14. Two of the counts are forcible, according to Gospel Herald.
San Diego County Sheriff’s Office Lt. Karen Stubkjaer did not disclose the child’s age or gender.
…Tague has been married for 20 years and has six children, three by birth and three adopted.
(Link): Carlsbad Pastor Accused of Child Molestation Pleads Not Guilty – NBC News
Matthew Tague, a pastor at the North Coast Calvary Chapel, was arrested for 16 counts of lewd and lascivious acts with one minor victim
A pastor at a Carlsbad church accused of repeatedly molesting a child over the course of about a year pleaded not guilty in court Friday.
Girl, 11, Forced to Marry Rapist by Her Church After Becoming Pregnant
This is one reason of several why I rid myself of the Christian “equally yoked” teaching.
Some of the Christians who believe in this “equally yoked” stuff, and in strict traditional gender roles, are also often the very same ones who hold very low, sick views of girls and women.
I refuse to take dating or life advice from anyone who believes it’s morally acceptable to scold or shame a woman to stay married to a pedophile, to a verbal or physical abuser, or, in this case, to pressure a little girl into marrying her rapist. This is just absolutely revolting.
I swear to dog that some Non-Christians have better morals at times on some issues than most ‘Bible believing,’ gender complementarian, equally- yoked- pushing Christians do.
The guys who raped this girl – two were church-going men – presented themselves as being Christian! Christian men are of no more guarantee to be virtuous and loving than your average Non-Christian, so I see absolutely no sense in single Christian women in restricting their dating pool to only Christian men.
Sunday 28 May 2017 4:56 pm
Sherry Johnson is from Florida, a state in which where there is still no minimum age to marry. The man she was made to marry – her rapist – was 20 years old at the time.
Sherry told the (Link): New York Times that a number of other young girls her age at her conservative Pentecostal church were made to marry much older men – which she says was usually to hide rapes by church elders.
She said she herself was raped by both a minister and a parishioner, and gave birth to her first daughter when she was just 10 years old.
Marrying her rapist was one way for the community to end the investigation into the rapes. Even the judge approved the marriage in order to end the police probe, telling the young girl in court, ‘What we want is for you to get married’.
(Link): The Selfish, Lazy Husband Who Kept Blowing Off His Stressed Wife to Go on World War 2 Reenactments – Male Entitlement in Relationships: Why Women Divorce Men – and Churches and Culture Support This Male Entitlement
“Choose Porn Over Real Sex Any Day” – Re: Porn-Sexuals by G. Mullin
(Link): “Choose porn over real sex any day” – Re: Porn-Sexuals by G. Mullin
A new sexual orientation to describe those who love porn even more than sex in real life has reportedly emerged.
Pornosexuality refers to those who identify with only being aroused by pornography and experience pleasure alone rather than through human interaction.
It differs from other sexual orientations because it’s a learned behavior that’s void of attachment or bonding with others.
People are more likely to become a pornosexual by watching X-rated material frequently as it desensitizes the brain and body, according to sex addiction therapist Christene Lozano.
She told Medical Daily: “The convenience of getting off online without the potential work, vulnerability, intimacy, and connection with others can be appealing to some.”
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Society Has It Wrong: Married People Shouldn’t Get Benefits That Single People Do Not by V. Larson
…Except for one thing: single people still don’t have access to the legal benefits and protections the government grants to those who get married.
….Spouses in the US can pass on Medicare, as well as Social Security, disability, and veterans and military benefits. They can get health insurance through a spouse’s employer; receive discounted rates for homeowners’, auto, and other types of insurance; make medical decisions for each other as well as funeral arrangements; and take family leave to care for an ill spouse, or bereavement leave if a spouse dies.
These privileges are unavailable to the unmarried in the US, yet most single people would benefit if they were.
Thoughts Regarding the Essay “3 Things Every Single Person Needs to Stop Doing”
Over at SCCL, this Relevant editorial was under discussion – (Link): here, on Facebook. You may want to read the comments there – this is one of those times I am in agreement with some (or most) of the SCCL commentators
Here is the article itself:
(Link): 3 Things Every Single Person Needs to Stop Doing by Q. Ross
I feel some of the advice on the page is okay – the author, Ross, basically tells you if you’re a single who wants to be married, go out and live your life – go on a cruise or whatever, don’t just sit around waiting for your life to start. That’s not necessarily bad advice.
In her editorial, Ross coaches singles not to complain about being single, which is a point I don’t agree with. Singles should be permitted to complain about being single if it helps them cope with the hurt, stress, or frustrations of being single, especially if the single in question had wanted to be married.
Singles needs to be heard (included any negative thoughts or emotions they’d like to share about singleness), not shushed by Christians who are uncomfortable with strong emotion. Singles don’t need any more platitudes, either.
Where things go south is where she suggests that if you’re still single, it’s because you have something wrong with you – God, she implies, is waiting for you to meet some kind of criteria before he will send you a spouse.
For example, Ross writes this:
Instead of complaining, show God that you are content with him alone and then maybe He’ll trust you with a relationship. He wants to know that when He does bring someone into your life, you won’t bail on Him and worship the gift rather than the gift-giver.
As I’ve said time and again on my blog, I’ve seen far too many losers, weirdos, and violent people – whether Christian or not – who get married to believe that God requires people to become wonderful, mature, godly, or what have you, to earn a spouse.
Liberals and White People
In the past few weeks, I’ve seen more and more headlines about liberals complaining about white people, and stories along the lines of college kids wanting to exclude white people from campuses, for at least a day.
There are college kids who want non-white dorm buildings.
Liberals also go on quite a bit about “white privilege.”
I also saw a headline or two about some kooks who wanted to “kill all the white people,” and one of these kooks was arguing that anyone and everyone in culture be permitted to kill all whites.
There is also a headline or two about left wing college instructors who think society would benefit if all white people were dead.
One thing I cannot comprehend about this is how do multi-racial people fit in?
Not everyone out there has two white parents or is descended purely from white people.
In my family, for instance, both sides inter-married with full-blooded Native American Indians, from more than one Native American Indian Nation.
So, I’m not totally a “Person of Color” (or whatever liberals would call it), nor am I totally Caucasian. I’m a little of both. I’m not sure where I would fit in within the liberal scheme of things.
So, when these college kids call for “No Whites” day at their college, and if I were a student at their school, would they argue I could attend, or would they demand I stay at home that day? And on what would they base their response?
What do these liberals do with guys such as former American President Barack Obama, in that, I believe one of his parents was white and one was black?
A few decades ago in American culture, white racists did not want black people to be in the same areas as white people, so everything was segregated. Why in the holy hell do today’s liberals want to now segregate everyone? They’re reverting back to 1950s or 1960s-era culture. Very odd.
I’m still very curious as to how liberals would address people who are not 100% white or who aren’t descended from only white people.
If you’re advocating for killing white people – not that I think one should – but if you are, how can you be sure the person you’re killing is 100% white?
To some people, I may appear white, but others see I have Native American features.
What if you kill a person thinking she’s white, but in reality, she was only partially white?
Are you liberals advocating for this disgusting view (of killing all whites) going to do DNA testing on every person to make sure everyone you send to the gas chamber is totally white?
And what do you do with people of color who are married to 100% white people? (Previous post on this blog: (Link): More Americans Are Marrying People of Other Races Than Ever Before)
Do you really think a black person, Asian, or Hispanic person who is married to a 100% white person is going to stand idly by while you send his or her spouse off to a killing camp?
Here are some links about liberals calling for the killing of white people, or arguing for non-white spaces, and other related subjects:
Professor Thomas Curry presented the case for “killing white people in context” in a 2012 radio interview. He also suggested that black people have to kill white people “as self-defense” on the road to equality, Campus Reform reports.
(Link): Evergreen College closed for 3rd day after receiving ‘new threat information’ (Update) – June 5, 2017
About Trinity College:
June 22, 2017, by Katie Reilly
A professor at Trinity College in Connecticut has fled the state after receiving death threats over inflammatory social media statements that he says were taken out of context.
Johnny Williams, who has been a sociology professor at Trinity since 1996, recently shared a (Link): Medium article by an author known as “Son of Baldwin” that ended in a “call to show indifference to the lives of bigots,” Trinity President Joanne Berger-Sweeney said.
The article included an accusation that House Majority Whip Steve Scalise — who was shot last week during a congressional baseball practice and saved by Capitol Police officers who are black — holds racist views. “What does it mean, in general, when victims of bigotry save the lives of bigots?” the article said.
“Saving the life of those that would kill you is the opposite of virtuous,” it added. “Let. Them. F—ing. Die.”
Williams shared the article on his personal Facebook and Twitter accounts and used the hashtag #LetThemF—Die, including the expletive, prompting an outcry as the posts spread on social media.
What would liberals do about this baby:
Single Workers Aren’t There to Pick Up the Slack For Their Married Bosses and Colleagues
(Link): Single Workers Aren’t There to Pick Up the Slack For Their Married Bosses and Colleagues by B. DePaulo
Too often, employers believe that single, childless people are emotionally untethered and financially untroubled, which means they ought to be free to stay late, travel on weekends, show up on holidays, and take whatever vacation slots married employees haven’t already claimed— all of which puts singles in a highly unfair (not to mention undesirable) position. It’s time that employers stopped taking advantage of single employees—and started recognizing the truth about their lives.
Single people have important ties to friends, family, and community
Negative stereotypes about single people hold that they are isolated, lonely, and focused only on themselves—perfect candidates to come in to work, or to stay there, when no one else wants to. But research shows otherwise.
…In fact, single people do more to maintain their relationships with their friends, neighbors, siblings, and parents than married people.
…Single people are rooted in their communities and towns in significant ways. They participate in public events more often, and take more music and art classes. They volunteer more than married people do for a wide variety of organizations.
…The financial fragility of people who are single
Years before my employer mindlessly presumed that I had no one to support, my mother was widowed. But he never stopped to consider whether she needed my financial support. Other single people are providing support in other ways—for example, quietly accumulating college funds for their nieces and nephews, or welcoming them into their homes when times are tough.
Dear Abby: Woman Worries Lazy Fiance Will Also be Lazy Husband
He’s not going to magically change just because you put a gold band on his finger. If you’re unhappy with him now, you’ll be unhappy with him after you marry him, if you marry him.
My fiance, “David,” and I are getting married soon. We have been living together and engaged for a year, and together eight years. It takes him forever to get things done around the house or buy things we need. I have tried lists and constant reminders.
David recently lost his job and is interviewing to find another one. He loves sports, so he plays softball with his friend in a league, which takes up an entire day of the weekend. When he comes home, he wants to watch sports on TV. The house is old (it was my grandfather’s), and there’s always something that needs doing or fixing.
Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka – via Relevant Magazine, and the SCCL Push-Back
The essay “Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex” by Rachel Pietka was discussed over at Facebook group SCCL (Link): here a few days ago.
The consensus by the SCCL readership is that the page – by R. Pietka – is that it’s awful. Many in the SCCL thread did not approve of it or agree with it.
I don’t know why the SCCL readership largely condemned the page, because some of it is right in line with the ex-Christian, or liberal Christian views, about sex and sexual purity.
I’ll give you a long excerpt from the page before discussing it a bit more below:
(Link): Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka
What Christians need to remember about God’s design for sex.
…While the [Christian based sexual abstinence] movement is great at detailing— and exaggerating—the benefits of saving sex for marriage, it is dishonest about the challenges abstinence presents to couples who eventually tie the knot.
…Jessica Ciencin Henriquez recently detailed how the abstinence movement affected her sex life and marriage in a revealing article titled, (Link): “My Virginity Mistake.”
Henriquez relays how she pledged herself to Jesus at a purity ceremony at age 14, remained a virgin until she married six years later, and wound up divorced after she and her husband could not make things work in the bedroom.
Looking back, Henriquez states if she had not insisted on waiting for sex until marriage, she could have prevented her divorce.
Henriquez’s story is important because it highlights an issue the abstinence movement rarely acknowledges: sexual incompatibility within marriage.
While this issue may seem irrelevant, it is actually fundamental to traditional Christian beliefs about sex. The fact that sexual compatibility does not matter to Christians when choosing a spouse makes the shocking and countercultural statement that sex is not our God.
TV Show Triggers Chinese Virginity Debate
(Link): TV Show Triggers Chinese Virginity Debate by Y. Zhao
“He asked me whether I am a virgin,” says Qiu Yingying, bursting into tears.
She has just found out her relationship with boyfriend Ying Qin is over, after he found out she had had sex in the past.
The scene from China’s biggest soap opera right now, Ode to Joy, has triggered much discussion on whether virginity is still a prized asset for women in modern China.
Ode to Joy, now in its second season, tells the stories of five beautiful women from different walks of life who live in the same floor of an apartment complex in Shanghai.
The show, a less risque version of Sex and the City, is popular among women for its focus on romance, careers, friendships and the difficulties women face in the big city.
Sex education in China is often poor. There are stories of male biology teachers skipping details of the female reproductive system in class and ask students to learn it by themselves.
And parents very rarely share information about sex with their children.
What almost all parents do, however, is warn their daughters not to have any dates before they graduate from university, fearing that they get hurt or become pregnant.
Chinese communities also traditionally expect chastity before marriage.
That means TV dramas are very influential in shaping audiences’ values. They are windows for young audiences, especially young women, to understand sex and sexuality and the ways views are changing.
Double standards on virginity
Zi Yin, a Shanghai-based film assistant producer, told the BBC that even debating the topic was old-fashioned in the 21st Century. She thought it was “disgusting” for the show to make an issue of it.
Vietnam man, 44, stabs a wedding guest to death after he was booed off stage during a tragic karaoke performance
I guess they take their karaoke real serious over there.
May 25, 2017
- Nguyen Ngoc Diep, 44, was singing at wedding in southern Vietnam on Thursday
- He was furious when a guest mocked his singing and stole his microphone
- Diep began brawling with the guest, who ended up seriously injured in hospital
- Attacker then stabbed another guest Le Hong An, 35, when he tried to stop him
- Diep has been arrested since going on the horrific rampage, local media said
A man at a wedding in Vietnam stabbed a fellow guest to death and seriously injured another after he was booed off stage during a karaoke performance.
Pat Robertson’s Unrealistic, Unhelpful Advice to the Unemployed
Pat Robertson is the main host of a Christian television program called “The 700 Club.” This program comes on Monday through Friday. He takes viewer questions at the end of many of the episodes.
I usually give out links to the episodes I discuss, but I didn’t plan on being online tonight, it’s growing late, I’m getting sleeping, and frankly, I’m too sleepy and lazy to google for the link.
On an episode of 700 Club that aired this week – the week of May 22, 2017, or possibly the last part of last week (like around May 18 or 19, 2017), Robertson took a question from some guy who was out of work.
It seems about twice per year, every year, Pat Robertson’s show receives a question from a lady or a man who says they are out of work, they have sent out hundreds of resumes, yet they are not getting employed, and nobody is even calling them in for job interviews.
They sometimes add that they pray constantly and ask God to send them a job, but so far, their prayers seem to be going un-heard, and they want to know why God isn’t helping them.