Child Free Zones on Air Planes
CALLS have been made for airlines to bring in child-free flights after a “demonic” kid was filmed running riot on a journey from Germany to New York.
Child Free Zones on Air Planes
CALLS have been made for airlines to bring in child-free flights after a “demonic” kid was filmed running riot on a journey from Germany to New York.
New Study Suggests Women With Children Age 11 Years Faster Than Their Child-Free Peers
If going through the pain of labor isn’t enough, a new study published in the journal Human Reproduction seems to suggest that women who give birth age faster than their child-free peers, at least on a cellular level.
Apparently, having a child racks up the equivalent of an additional 11 years on this one measure of biological aging and scientists are not so sure why this is.
This letter comes from the same series of letters I quoted from in a post the other day.
This guy wrote to Dear Abby saying:
• I am currently in a relationship that’s great except for one thing. She knows what “buttons” to push to make me angry, and she’ll continue to push them.
No matter what I do, she’s in my face. It just seems she wants to argue until I reach the point of exploding.
Dear Abby: I Gave Up Dating, and 30 Years Later, I’m Lonely
This post has been edited to add even more reader comments from other sites that published this Abby letter. Virtually nobody is sympathetic with this guy.
I was genuinely feeling empathy and sympathy for this dude, right up until this phrase in his letter to Dear Abby:
“I’m not attracted to women my age, and I don’t see younger women being attracted to an overweight old guy…”
Die alone, ageist rat bastard!
You’re in your 70s, by your own admission, you’re dumpy- or tubby- looking and don’t have a great income, but you pine after some 20, 30, or 40 or 50 year old hottie? (And I bet this sexist pig jerk expects any chick he dates to not only be younger but very thin, too.)
Oh get bent, ten times over!
Is Early Marriage Really THAT Counter-Cultural? I Think Not – Re: Christianity Today Editorial by Rebecca Brewster Stevenson
So, I saw this headline from Christianity Today.
This seems to be an annual thing with Christians.
At least once a year, I see a major Christian magazine or blog publish some kind of article lamenting the declining marriage rates, or the rising age of first marriage, and that also push the idea that people should marry before they hit the ripe old age of 22.
Here we go again. Yet another one. (There will probably be another one in 2019, and one in the year after that, and so on and so forth.)
I notice that often times that the people who write these types of articles admit to having married pre-age 25.
I take it that the REAL motivation is that these people feel defensive about their life choice – they feel as though culture is “looking down their noses” at them for marrying young because most people today are not marrying at all, or not until they get to age 30.
The thing is, though, nobody cares that they married when they were 21! These sorts of articles are largely unnecessary.
If anything, the opposite type of editorial is needed, because authors like this one shame or judge people for not marrying young, or for not marrying at all. Christians continue to push marriage and baby-making as the “norm,” when the Bible does no such thing.
I will excerpt the editorial then comment on it below:
Excerpts from that editorial:
In a world of hookups and cohabitation, he took a leap— and made an act— of faith.
by REBECCA BREWSTER STEVENSON
…Then in 2013, the Knot Yet Report revealed that those averages are higher still: Couples now are postponing marriage to age 29 for men and 27 for women.
Saving Our Sexuality: Is #MeToo Enough? by A. Arndt
…Is #MeToo Enough?
“Carelessness” and “brutality” are two words that certainly typify the sexual “moment” we are in as a culture. How we expect to live in a 50 Shades sexual fantasy world while also managing to avoid it’s unintentional (but by no means unforeseen) ugly consequences totally escapes me.
…I rejoice that with the #MeToo movement we are seeing at least the beginnings of a reckoning—of society’s attempt to say, with a unified voice, “This we will not tolerate.”
But is #MeToo enough? It seems obvious to me that it is not.
As long as the roots of the problem are left unaddressed, the same ugly fruit will continue to spring up from polluted earth—now in one way, now in another. We will keep recycling brutality and abuse.
Wife Chops Off Husband’s Penis and Testicles and Flushes Them Down Toilet
Feb 21, 2018
A woman in India allegedly chopped off her husband’s penis and testicles after accusing him of cheating on her.
Why Millennials not getting married may be a good thing
Video on page:
The reasons millennials give for not marrying, according to this video:
Not financially ready, haven’t found what they’re looking for (the right person), feel too young.
The video also discusses other issues surrounding diminishing marriage rates and so on and so forth.
Why More Women Are Having Babies at 50 and Beyond
….Duckworth [Sen. Tammy Duckworth, D-Ill] is expected to deliver her second child a few weeks after she turns 50, a time when many woman expect the end of fertility and the beginning of menopause to be around the corner.
The Senator said she delayed having children to pursue her career and, by the time she was ready, she had to overcome infertility.”The early part of my career, which was also, [like] for most women, your twenties and early thirties, your prime fertility years,” she told ABC station WLS in Chicago, “were also my career-building years.”
She is not alone. Duckworth is among a growing number of women, including celebrities like Janet Jackson and Sophie B. Hawkins, tackling motherhood in their fifties.
Overall birthrates in the United States have been declining for years, reaching a record low in 2016, according to National Bureau of Health Statistics, and provisional data suggests a new low for 2017.
Tim Challies Needs to Shut His Pie Hole about Many Things, but Especially About Dating, Marriage, Singleness, and Now, Equally Yoked
Tim Challies is the doofus Christian blogger, speaker, and book author who has actually said garbage in the past such as “even fornicators are virgins now” (yeah, (Link): he really said that).
Also bear in mind:
Furthermore, Challies is so vested in his belief of “Christian gender complementarianism,” he doesn’t care that its “male headship” doctrine leads to domestic violence against women and often leads to pressuring women to staying in abusive marriages; you can read more about that here:
(Link, to “Internet Monk” site): Stuck With Their Noses In the Text
Challies is more interested in women obeying the “male headship” and female subordination articles of faith that comprise gender complementarianism than he is in the safety and well-being of women.
As such, if you are a single woman, do you REALLY want to take any sort of relationship advice from this kind of person who does not value YOU as a person?
I would hope not.
Here is the link to the Tim Challies “Equally Yoked” article on Christian Post site (with more remarks by me below the excerpts):
Here are excerpts from that page:
“The Bible makes it very, very clear that a Christian can only marry another Christian. You may not marry somebody who is an unbeliever. You should not marry somebody for whom you’re not certain whether they’re a believer or not. So absolutely, the first thing is, is this person a believer in Jesus Christ? Do we share faith?” Challies advised Thursday in part two of his message on Christian dating.
My Thoughts Regarding the Article The Hard Truth About Mr. Right by Joy Beth Smith
This was an article or a series of excerpts by some up and coming book about singleness. Here are some of my thoughts about it.
(Link): The Hard Truth About Mr. Right by Joy Beth Smith
A few points where I agree with the article: yes, as one gets older (assuming one wants marriage), one feels more and more pressure, and it gets stressful or sad to see one’s peers getting married off while one is still single. Yes, dating can be horrible and exhausting.
I get the feeling that Ms. Smith is in her 20s or 30s, and her article (or book) is perhaps aimed at younger singles.
I’m in between the ages of 45 and 50 myself presently, so maybe I’m older than her target demographic. I was engaged to a guy from my late 20s into my early 30s and broke things off with him, but I have never been married.
I’m not sure if my age matters or not, but my age might mean that I’m able to spot wonky thinking in this article that a younger single may be blind to.
Woman on 700 Club Claims God Told Her To Marry Bearded Guy
I pretty much detest this Christian view that, “God sent me a spouse!”
And wouldn’t you know that just a few days ago on “700 Club” there was a story on there on (Link): their Valentine’s Day (February 14, 2018) episode (at least I’m fairly sure it aired on Valentine’s Day, though I could be wrong on that) where this woman said she broke up with this dude, and she said she “felt the LORD” telling her to do so, that he “had something better” for her.
What’s worse than seeing these stories, or having a Christian show broadcast such stories, is for them to do so on Valentine’s Day, which may be a difficult day for some singles to get through.
Ed Stetzer’s Marriage Article on Christianity Today and C. Allen’ s Response
Christianity Today magazine (Link): tweeted about an article about marriage by Ed Stetzer.
I have written about another Stetzer piece before, this one:
Ed Stetzer’s Advice: “Avoid Any Hint” – More Like: Re enforce UnBiblical Stereotypes About Men, Women, Sex, and Singles
The CT piece I am (Link): referring to in this post is entitled
“Love & Marriage… Go Together Like… A Few Comments on the Covenantal Practice Today ”
with a sub-heading of,
“Marriage is a created good, is not a ‘must,’ isn’t easy.”
Before I could click on and read the Twitter-based link to the CT piece by Stetzer, I saw a set of Tweets below by someone named C. Allen, who I presume is a woman (though Allen could be a man – I’ll just say for the sake of this post that Allen is a woman).
The link to the main tweet is (Link): here, and if you scroll down, you can see the responses by C. Allen.
Before even reading the actual page by Stetzer, C. Allen’s take on it on Twitter was all I needed to know. (I read the Stetzer page later.)
I replied to Allen, telling her I completely agreed with the comments she Tweeted below the CT Tweet.
Here is Allen’s (Link): first comment in that Twitter thread:
In that entire article, only about two brief paragraphs were dedicated to Christian singleness. The rest was lamenting the degradation of the marital institution and reiterating with the same old words why marriage is important. And people wonder why singles feel disenfranchised.
Masturbation kills 100 Germans every year: Study discovers bizarre ways people died pleasuring themselves including a man who tried to melt sliced cheese over himself
Study found up to 100 Germans die a year through risky masturbation practices
One died after tying to melt cheese on his body while sitting next to a heater
Another man was found dead with Christmas tree lights clamped to his nipples
By JULIAN ROBINSON FOR MAILONLINE, Feb 2017
Masturbation kills up to 100 Germans a year, according to a study which has also uncovered the bizarre ways people have died pleasuring themselves.
Study (from 2016) Claims Pre-Marital Virginity is Now ‘Antiquated’ – Is Virginity No Longer Virtuous?
I’ve said this numerous times on this blog, but both within Christianity and in secular culture, all sexual preferences and behaviors are tolerated these days (including asexuality), except for hetero adults who choose to remain virgins or celibate.
I don’t recall seeing anything about this study before, and we’re in 2018. I have no idea how over a year has gone by and this story or study never crossed my radar previously – not that I remember.
Not only do I lack sexual experience, but bonus!, I also lack sexually transmitted diseases, genital crabs, I’ve saved a fortune in not paying for lots of birth control, I’ve never had unwanted pregnancies, and I’ve avoided guys using me for sex only to kick me to the curb right after, all thanks to NOT fooling around.
(Nobody ever seems to count or appreciate the positives of being a virgin past one’s 20s.)
Many people are still confusing having sexual activity with being an adult. I’m in my 40s, have never had sex, but I’m an adult. People need to stop assuming it’s necessary to have sexual intercourse at some stage to reach adulthood, maturity, or what have you.
Realize that American culture asks or expects each of us to respect sexuality in any and all its forms, including pre-martial sex, bisexuality, homosexual behavior – but the groups who ask and expect this toleration or celebration never the less refuse to respect the choice by anyone to remain a virgin over the age of 30.
Adult virginity and adult celibacy are the two choices that un-nerve, anger, and confuse the pro-sex types. (And, by the way, I don’t consider myself “anti sex” merely because I was waiting until marriage to have sex.)
Before I get to the rebuttal piece, here is an article about the study, with some excerpts:
(Link): Has virginity lost its virtue?
By Megan Scudellari / MAY 09, 2016
Throughout history, virginity has been a prized quality before marriage. But though it would come as no surprise to many people, the times are a-changin’: A new look at sexual inexperience in the modern age suggests virginity in America has lost its virtue.
What We Mean When We Say Marriage Is ‘Work’ by A. Calhoun
From (Link): the studies I’ve seen, it’s actually women who bear the brunt of the “emotional labor” that this author who is interviewed for this is talking about.
What these studies and articles say is that many men often expect emotional support from women but refuse to provide it in return. That has certainly been true for me with men I’ve known, including male friends and my ex.
The author interviewed in this actually has the audacity to say that marriage makes people more mature and so on – the same view a lot of Christians put forth in their podcasts, sermons, articles and so on about marriage. No, marriage is not necessary to make people better, more mature, etc – see my list here of (Link): married people who are immature or unethical.
…. Marriage, by this popular analogy, is a job. You work at it. If you succeed, you reap rewards. If you fail, you are fired or quit. This model makes sense to our capitalist brains. We like to be set a chore and to be paid for its completion. But de Marneffe argues that this is a terrible way to think about the actual work required by marriage.
“The work isn’t drudgery,” she says. “The work is staying vulnerable.” A key challenge of any long-term relationship is finding the strength to engage emotionally while getting through the day:
I have to go to work, and then I have to cook, and then I have to care about you too? Ugh. Who among us has not had a grueling 3 a.m. conversation with a partner that they would gladly trade for 40 hours of manual labor? I would rather clean the bathroom. I would rather paint a house.
And yet, de Marneffe says, if you want to be a good partner you really should listen when your husband objects to your booby-trapping the freezer.
After decades of research, development of a male birth control may now be one step closer. My colleagues and I are working on a promising lead for a male birth control pill based on ouabain—a plant extract that African warriors and hunters traditionally used as a heart-stopping poison on their arrows.
…Today, men have just two choices when it comes to birth control: condoms or a vasectomy.
Pastor, Christian College Prof. Allegedly Told Congregant Sex With Him Would Heal Her From Sexual Abuse
There’s no point to Equally Yoked for single Christian women when male Christian perverts such as this one exist.
Secondly, Christians should stop telling singles in their dating advice books, sermons, and blogs that God won’t send them a spouse until they do X (with X = become more mature, become more spiritual, become more godly).
Next, Christians and conservative think tanks need to drop the rhetoric that marriage makes people more godly or is required to make people more sexually ethical or mature. Marriage sure did not make this Christian man and pastor more godly.
And to think my parents often lectured me that church would be the ideal place to meet a clean cut, stand up, genuinely nice guy for a single Christian woman. In light of the many stories I’ve seen like this in years past, I’d say no to that.
I also wonder why so many Christians continue to uphold the unbiblical and ridiculous doctrine of male headship, when so many Christian men clearly are unsuited to be entrusted with leadership positions.
This guy is an absolute pervert, a sexual predator, and should be taken out into the woods and shot in the face by law enforcement. There should be a special place in hell for men who target girls and women who confide in them that they were once sexually victimized.
By L. Blair, Feb 2018
John Wright, a highly rated theology professor at Point Loma Nazarene University and pastor of the English Congregation at the Mid City Church of the Nazarene in San Diego, California, has been accused of rape and sexual harassment by a young woman who says he convinced her to have sex with him so she could be healed of past sexual abuse.
The unidentified woman, referred to as A.M., explains in a lawsuit (Link): cited by the San Diego Reader that she met Wright in 2014 when she was 20.
His wife, Kathy, who he has been married to for almost 40 years, is also a pastor at Mid City Church of the Nazarene.
The woman alleges in the lawsuit that soon after meeting Wright she confided in him that she had been sexually abused for a number of years by a close family member and felt she was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. She said the pastor offered to counsel her.
Men Who Believe ‘Madonna-Whore Dichotomy’ Have Less Satisfying Relationships
By Meera Jagannathan, Moneyish
Clinging to male dominance won’t do your relationship any favors.
Men who buy into the Sigmund Freud-coined “Madonna-Whore dichotomy” — i.e., viewing women as either “good” and chaste or “bad” and promiscuous — are more likely to embrace a “patriarchy-enhancing ideology” and feel less satisfied in romantic relationships, a recent studypublished in the journal Sex Roles found.
“These men may have difficulties feeling attracted to the women they love, or loving the women to whom they are sexually attracted, leading to chronic dissatisfaction in their romantic relationships,” lead author Orly Bareket said in a statement.
Being single has a handful of benefits, scientific research has found. Alone time is one of them.
Single people are more likely to not only embrace solitude, but benefit from it, recent studies have suggested.
Bella DePaulo, a psychologist at the University of California Santa Barbara, advocates the single life and travels the nation to present these findings, which she says are too often dismissed by the larger psychology community.
In a TEDx Talk she gave last spring, she called (Link): living single her “happily ever after.”
Studies suggest she’s onto something.