“I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

“I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

The male entitlement is strong with her douche bag of a husband.

You don’t owe him anything, lady.

(Link): “I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

Dear How to Do It [advice column],

My husband wanted to try anal. I didn’t want to. I let myself be talked into trying. I hated it. We tried again. I hated it. We tried with toys of slowly increasing sizes. I hated it.

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Teen Vogue Magazine Promoting Anal Sex (2017)

Teen Vogue Magazine Promoting Anal Sex

One wonders if this teen magazine ever offers celibacy or virginity as choices for teen girls? Probably not. Liberals generally do not support a girl or woman’s choice to sexually abstain, but will mock it.

I don’t think the vast majority of women want to have anal sex with a man but are usually pressured into it by a boyfriend. Ditto on oral sex and other non-missionary style forms of sex. (But perhaps the article was aimed at LGBT individuals.)

If you are a teen girl (I cannot imagine why a teen girl would be reading my blog, but regardless…) you can do with your body as you please. If you do not want to have any sex at all, then do not have sex. If you do not want to have anal sex, then do not have anal sex.

Do not allow feminists, boyfriends, magazines, or Hollywood pressure you, shame you, or guilt trip you into doing sexual activity you feel conflicted about or don’t want to participate in.

If you have a boyfriend who is pressuring you to have sex or to engage in a particular sex act you’d rather not perform, please realize it is better to be single than to stay in a relationship with a guy who guilt trips you, uses threats of breaking up, or whatever, to get his way with you sexually.

If a guy does not respect your boundaries and wishes in the area of sexuality, break up with him!  Please stop wasting your time with him. You will eventually get another boyfriend later. There is nothing wrong with being single.

(Link): Teen Vogue’s Bizarre Anal Sex Article Shows Women Are Still Being Defined in Relation to Men


The supposedly progressive piece, intended for teenage girls, refers to women as ‘non-prostate owners’, ignores the organ for female pleasure and fails to mention any potential dangers

Defining women by the men around them is an issue feminists have sought to address, and correct, for years.

…It would stand to reason that we could assume that in 2017 any work aimed at women would be sure to avoid such regressive patterns.

However, in (Link): Anal Sex: What You Need To Know for Teen Vogue, sex educator and feminist activist Gigi Engle managed to harp back to a time where women were defined by their relationship to men.

…Not only is any potential pleasure a woman may feel during anal sex reduced to the lack of male body parts (she is a “non-prostate owner”) but the clitoris, the actual hub of female sexual pleasure, has been removed. The lack of a male body part is the focus of what defines the female body, and what is actually there isn’t identified at all.

What is this teaching the audience of a magazine aimed at teenage girls? It tells them their identity is not “woman”, but rather “non-man”.

It tells them that should they consent to anal sex, their body is just a hole for the man to penetrate, and the part of their body that is most sensitive and reliable for the female orgasm is so irrelevant that it doesn’t even warrant a label.

It tells them that consenting to anal sex is not about their pleasure, but about their partner’s.

What it fails to tell them is the potential dangers of anal sex. The possibilities of fissures and tears which can become infected very easily due to contamination by faeces, severe enough to need surgery, or lead to anal abscesses which increase the chances of catching HIV.

By treating anal sex as an equivalent to vaginal sex, you increase the chances that your audience will not understand the potential damage they can do to their own or their partner’s body, and in turn increase their chances of becoming seriously ill.

(Link): Parents outraged over Teen Vogue anal sex how-to column (but magazine still defends it)

Teen Vogue is defending its decision to publish a graphic tutorial to anal sex for children and teenagers – (Link): calling critics homophobic.

“This is anal 101, for teens, beginners and all inquisitive folk,” author Gigi Engle wrote in “A Guide to Anal Sex.”

… (Link): The original article did not include any references to practicing safe sex – but was later amended to include a line about condoms being “non-negotiable.”

“Here is the lowdown on everything you need to know about butt stuff,” the writer declared.

Parents across the nation became enraged upon learning that Teen Vogue wanted to turn their children in sexual deviants.

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Anal Sex Ruined This Woman’s Relationship

Anal Sex Ruined This Woman’s Relationship

I first read this editorial a few weeks ago; I think I first saw it on Salon. There are copies of it on Alert Net and other sites.

I don’t remember everything in it in detail. I don’t want to re-read it, either. Parts of it were rather graphic and disgusting.

You can visit the page and read it yourself if you so choose:

(Link):  How Anal Sex Ruined My Relationship (on Alert Net – same editorial is on (Link): Salon)

  • By Marilyn Freedman
  • The evening was so perfect I thought he might propose. But he had a very different proposition in mind.

This woman (who I believe is in her twenties) didn’t really seem enthusiastic about having anal sex.

Based on what I recall from reading it a few weeks ago, she really only went along with having anal sex because she thought her boyfriend was “Mr. Right,” (she was very keen on wanting to get married soon), and she was afraid if she did not cave in and allow him to perform this particular sex act on her, he may dump her.

So, the aspect of this I wanted to address was her being so desperate for marriage that she allowed herself to be used in a sexual manner she was not comfortable with.

I am stunned that we are in the year 2015, and women are still so codependent, and still so afraid to be single and live alone, that they will allow themselves to participate in conduct they consider physically painful or shameful, and all to hold on to a boyfriend.

The woman said that in spite of her having anal sex with the guy, they ended up breaking up anyway, and she sat around heartbroken for weeks afterwards. She also seemed to find the entire sexual experience (in particular anal sex) deeply humiliating.

I have read of women, and I have known some women personally, who say that anal sex is physically painful.

All I can say is if you are a woman, never ever lower your boundaries for anyone for any reason, and certainly not in the area of sex, and certainly not out of fear that if you don’t put out or engage in a certain sex act, your boyfriend may dump you.

You are better off refusing to do sexual acts you don’t want to do, and if your man chooses to break up with you over your refusal, you are better off without that loser.

Being single or staying single is not the worst thing in the world. There are worse things than being single.

You should not be so desperate to snag a spouse that you will bend your rules or ethics or debase yourself to get or keep a boyfriend or to get a marriage proposal.

And look: even though the woman who wrote the editorial caved in and performed a sex act she did not want to do, her boyfriend dumped her ANYWAY. She went through a humiliating sexual act all for nothing. You are better off sticking to your guns than caving in to your boyfriend on things like this.

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(Link): Teen Vogue Magazine Promoting Anal Sex (2017)

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(Link): “I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya