How To Deal With Chronic Complainers, by Guy Winch, Ph.D.
(Link): How to Deal with Chronic Complainers, by Guy Winch Ph.D.
What they want and what they need are very different things.
….Understanding what Chronic Complainers Don’t Want
Most chronic complainers truly see their lives as full of hardship and challenge. (Some people’s lives are full of hardship or tragedy, but I refer here to people whose lives are actually not unusual in that regard).
Chronic complainers’ perceptions about their hardships are deeply embedded in their personality and sense of identity.
Therefore, although they tell others about their problems all the time, they are not really looking for advice or solutions.