The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or Happiness, Meaning, Purpose

The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or with Happiness, Meaning, or Purpose

After entertainer Chelsea Handler uploaded (Link): a Tweet with a video of herself listing the numerous ways she enjoys life due to being childless – I didn’t see anything in the video mentioning abortion – a lot of other conservatives jumped to shame and scold Handler for being happy about being childless and publicly expressing that happiness.

Others have said that Handler had two or three abortions in the past. The fact that Handler previously had abortions does not change the substance of my problems with conservative reaction to Handler’s video.

I am pro-life, not pro-choice, so I don’t agree with Handler’s actions to terminate her pregnancies.

However, again, I don’t recall Handler’s “happy to be childless” video advocating abortion or mentioning anything about abortion.

I don’t think her video criticized or shamed women for being mothers or for wanting to be mothers.

The only possible, even remotely “anti motherhood” take away one can get from her video is that mothers – assuming they are good, non-abusive mothers – invest a lot of time in child-rearing, but Handler doesn’t frame it in an anti-motherhood way.

It’s Okay For Women to Be Childless at Any Age and to be Happy About Being Childless, Just Like It’s Okay For Mothers to Be Happy About Being Mothers

Handler was just showing ways she has more free time because she doesn’t have to participate in childcare – which is not the same thing as being “anti-motherhood,” or telling other women they are wrong to be mothers.

It’s perfectly fine for a woman to be single and childless and to be happy about it.

Women can and should find meaning and purpose apart from marriage and motherhood. It’s unhealthy for any person to wrap up all their happiness, meaning, or purpose into one identity, station of life, or role.

If you are a married mother, your children will grow up, move out, and seldom visit you once they’re gone. Your husband may develop dementia, abuse you, or cheat on you, so that you will be without emotional support or you will have to divorce him.
In all these situations, you will be left with yourself, by yourself, and god help you if you never forged purpose, identity, happiness, or meaning apart from a spouse and children.

There’s no reason to criticize or shame an adult, man or woman, for being single and childless and for being happy about it and posting about it.

My fellow conservatives often push motherhood (via podcasts, tweets, magazine articles, church sermons, blog posts, etc) to a loopy, creepy, fevered pitch, about how super awesome, fulfilling, and wonderful motherhood supposedly is – but goodness forbid a childless woman lists or publicizes the ways she’s happy with being childless – and do so without criticizing motherhood or mothers. That’s a huge double standard.

I also didn’t agree with Handler’s mockery of single women who choose to remain virgins until marriage or to remain chaste (I blogged about that (Link): here a few years ago).

Unfortunately, in the midst of criticizing Handler, a lot of conservatives today were conflating “womanhood” to married motherhood. 

However, a woman remains a woman regardless if she has a child or is infertile, childless, or childfree, or whether she wants to have children or not.

Jesse Kelly (Conservative Host) Really Seems to Take Issue that American Women Have the Right to Vote – He Repeatedly Brings It Up on Social Media

Jesse Kelly (Conservative Host) Really Seems to Take Issue that American Women Have the Right to Vote – He Repeatedly Brings It Up on Social Media

Jesse Kelly is a conservative talk show host. I don’t know that much about the guy.

I don’t think I follow him on Twitter, but some of the conservatives I follow on Twitter do follow Kelly, and they sometimes share his Tweets.

I sometimes agree with some of his Tweets, and sometimes, no.

Months ago, Kelly was complaining about how women vote. I wrote a post about that here:

(Link):  Blaming Women for Election Results You Don’t Like – Both the Left and Right Lambast Women For How They Vote

A few days ago, this Kelly guy once again implied he doesn’t believe American women should vote, because, as a bloc, they tend to vote Democrat.

I will embed and link to his tweets about this issue below.

Do you know who else resents American women having the right to vote? Democrats, progressives, and many liberals, that’s who – when Trump won in 2016, they went rabid with hatred, publishing many hate pieces taking pot shots at white women in particular, because many pundits were saying that all the votes by white women were what helped put Trump over the top.

I did a blog post about that here:

(Link):  The Creepy Crusade Against White Women By Liberals and Trump Haters

I’m a conservative woman. I’ve always been conservative, even back in my teen years.

I’ve never, ever been a Democrat.

Most of today’s Democrats are so far left they are indistinguishable from communists, so I’m by no means a Democrat supporter.

But this Kelly guy suggesting that because many women vote Democrat means no woman in the United States should be allowed to vote is disgusting, sexist garbage.

Kelly recently tweeted out some more comments along these lines, which I will link to and embed below.

Blaming Women for Election Results You Don’t Like – Both the Left and Right Lambast Women For How They Vote

Blaming Women for Election Results You Don’t Like – Both the Left and Right Lambast Women For How They Vote

There’s this guy named Jesse Kelly on Twitter (his account is located here), I take it he’s a conservative.

I happen to be a conservative, too.

In the past couple of months, I’ve sometimes seen conservative journalists or personalities on Twitter re-tweeting this Kelly guy’s comments. I’ve never heard of him before.

Here is how Kelly describes himself currently on his Twitter page:

Host of ‘I’m Right’ on The First. Host of the nationally syndicated Jesse Kelly Show. Anti-Communist. Community college credits.
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Well, okay. I don’t support communism, either.

Kelly tweet quoted a headline by Politico. The Politico tweet read:

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Here is what Kelly said above that Politico headline that he quoted:

57% of women in America voted for a half-functional dementia patient surrounded by communists because the last guy could be a jackass on twitter and now the world is descending into madness and we’re an international embarrassment. Shaping the world indeed.
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Below that Tweet, he tweeted this:

The most disheartening conversations I have are the private ones with GOP congressmen and senators where we talk about the solution to a problem only to have them conclude it can’t even be proposed because they’ll “lose too much of the women vote to get elected.”
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I left this guy a tweet (under the first comment of his) where I said,

I wish people would stop blaming women for election results they don’t like. The left blames white women all the time every time a Republican wins.
(Link): – The Creepy Crusade Against White Women By Liberals and Trump Haters
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I linked him to this previous post on my blog:

(Link):  The Creepy Crusade Against White Women By Liberals and Trump Haters

I am tired of people, both on the left and on the right, blaming women for how they vote, whether they vote Democrat, Republican, or third party.