An Update On My Self-Absorbed Ex Friend “Doug” – The Friend Who Made My Mother’s Death All About Himself
Here is the background on this post – if you want to know more about Doug (not his real name), and why I am angry at Doug, please see this previous post for the details:
(Link): People Really Hack Me Off (Part 2) The Clueless Christian Who Likes To Send You Upbeat Updates About Himself In Reply To Your Announcement of Your Mother’s Death (ex friend of mine named “Doug”)
The very, very short of that post is that…
Doug was a Christian guy who is very self-absorbed, ever since I knew him back in our twenties when we went to college together, and he later made my mother’s death all about him.
He sent me an insensitive reply to my e-mail telling everyone on my e-mail account that my mother had passed, and I had sent this e-mail within a few days of the funeral.
He wrote back to send me a very chipper, upbeat response going on and on about how great his life was going.
“Doug” didn’t care about me or what I was going through. He didn’t hardly comment on my mother’s passing – his e-mail reply was mainly about him, him, him, and him.
For the next two to three years, I stopped all contact with Doug, until I finally sent him a link to a page about how NOT to talk to someone in grief.
I told him in that e-mail he was guilty of doing to me what that page said NOT to do.
Doug wrote back, defended himself, dug his heels in, and he actually had the audacity to lecture me on how he thinks I should be handling and reacting to my own mother’s death.
(At that point in time, he had not even lost anyone close to him, so he was in no place to offer such condescending advice.)
I wrote him back, chewed him out over that, and told him never to write me again.
Doug Tried Contacting Me Again in June / July 2018
I heard from Doug (not his real name) a few weeks ago (July 2018, or maybe late June).
He sent me some kind of private request on Facebook.
It was not a friend request, but some kind of request to talk to me privately on Facebook’s messenger system or something.
There was an “accept” and a “decline” button attached to that notification.