views and thoughts on topics, especially ones pertaining to christianity – with an emphasis on how most christians either ignore or discriminate against unmarried christians – and how christians have turned marriage and parenting into IDOLS and how there is no true support for sexual purity, virginity, or celibacy among christians – this is a blog for me to vent; I seldom permit dissenting views. I don't debate dissenters ————-
The Joy of Sex is Over – National Review
(Link): The Joy of Sex is Over – National Review
Excerpts:
Interviews With Various Adult Celibates
(Link): For Some, It’s No Sex Before Marriage. For Them, It’s No Sex Until…
Interviews With Various Adult Celibates
Excerpts:
My name is Antonia. I’m 42 and I’m from Brooklyn. Before two years ago, I didn’t know that there was such a thing as asexuality. I was writing a dating profile and I was trying to describe myself, and the term I came up with was naturally celibate.
My name is Anthony. I’m 26. I work in Manhattan. Before I fight, I usually choose to abstain for about two months.
There were two or three other interviews on that page.
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Related:
(Link): On ‘Late’-In-Life Virginity Loss (from The Atlantic)
(Link): Why Some People Become 30 Year Old Virgins (Article / Study)
(Link): Asexuality and Asexuals
(Link): Virginity Lost, Experience Gained (article with information from study about virginity)
(Link): Living Myths About Virginity – article from The Atlantic
(Link): Article: Our Born-Again Virgin Bachelor – Secondary or Spiritual Virginity
(Link): Want To Grow Your Church? Advertise Sex (Story via A Little Leaven Blog)
AZ GOP vice-hair calls for sterilizing poor women: If you want a baby, get a job
I am right wing and a Republican. Several left wing sites were reporting this story.
If it’s true, it’s strange and hypocritical. Although I am right wing and socially conservative, I do not agree with the habit of other right wingers and conservative Christians who place too much emphasis on family and marriage.
I’m rather puzzled when any right winger speaks out against helping families or single mothers, as this man has done.
Much of the time, right wingers complain about how single women are having abortions, or they complain about how many women are delaying childbearing or choosing to skip motherhood altogether, or they complain about how secularists and liberals are destroying marriage and the traditional family.
I don’t see how a party can on the one hand, say they support those things, but then turn around and want to punish or shame women who get pregnant prior to marriage but rather than have an abortion, decide to keep and raise the baby? That doesn’t make any sense to me, and I am a right wing Republican myself.
This politician’s views also work against the standard Republican or conservative Christian belief that a woman’s only, or most high calling in life, is to be a wife and mother.
You can’t be consistent by saying on one hand you’re deeply disturbed that women are choosing NOT to be mothers and wish they would chose to be mothers, and also arguing that women were created by God to do nothing but pop babies out (that’s supposedly their “highest calling or role in life”), then turn around and say you want to sterilize women so that they cannot be mothers and have babies.
(Link): AZ GOP vice-chair calls for sterilizing poor women: If you want a baby, get a job
by Travis Gettys
Sept 12, 2014
The recalled Arizona senate president who proposed the state’s controversial anti-immigration law said he could fix public assistance programs by forcibly sterilizing women who receive aid and by requiring drug tests for all recipients.
“You put me in charge of Medicaid, the first thing I’d do is get Norplant, birth-control implants, or tubal ligations,” said Russell Pearce on his weekly talk radio program. Then we’ll test recipients for drugs and alcohol, and if you want to [reproduce] or use drugs or alcohol, then get a job.”
He suggested drastic cuts to food assistance for needy families, (Link): reported Phoenix New Times, and he urged strict limits items that could be purchased what little help was available.
…“No cash for Ding Dongs and Ho Hos, you’d only get money for 15-pound bags of rice and beans, blocks of cheese and powdered milk – all the powdered milk you can haul away,” Pearce said. “If you want a steak or frozen pizza, then you’d have to get a job.”
He also suggested Spartan accommodations and strict rules for anyone who received government housing assistance.
“Ever live in a military barracks?” he said. “You’ll maintain your property in a clean, good state of repair, and your home will be subjected to an inspection at any time, possessions will be inventoried. If you want a plasma TV or an X-Box 360, then get a job.”
Despite his apparent endorsement of draconian policies, Pearce insisted he favored a small-government solution to poverty.
(Link): AZ Republican Wants to Sterilize Poor Women: ‘If You Want to Reproduce, Get a Job!’
(Link): Arizona Republican Advises Sterilizing Women On Welfare
Edit. Sept 23, 2014:
(Link): Russell Pearce’s resignation isn’t enough for protestors
(Link): Top Arizona GOPer Russell Pearce resigns after sterilization comments
The far-right former lawmaker who helped push Arizona’s “papers please” immigration law has resigned as a top official with the state GOP after making comments about sterilizing poor women.
Russell Pearce, a former state senator, resigned as the party’s first vice chair late Sunday, the Arizona Republican Party announced.
On Saturday, the state Democratic Party highlighted comments Pearce made recently on his radio show. Discussing the state’s public assistance programs, Pearce declared:
“You put me in charge of Medicaid, the first thing I’d do is get Norplant, birth-control implants, or tubal ligations…Then we’ll test recipients for drugs and alcohol, and if you want to [reproduce] or use drugs or alcohol, then get a job.”
The comments were quickly repudiated by Republican candidates for several statewide offices.
Related posts:
OFF SITE:
(Link): It’s come to this: Planned Parenthood now attacking GOP plans to expand access to birth control
THIS BLOG:
(Link): Why Are Conservatives Forcing Mothers From Their Kids? by M. Walther
(Link): Former Democrat Mayor Dennis Doyle Arrested for Possession of Child Porn During Term in Office
(Link): Republicans And Women: Single Women Vote Democratic Because They Wish They Were Married, Pundit Says
(Link): Women in Sao Paulo Must Provide Proof of Virginity to Be Hired as Teachers
Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles?
This link below is from 2012 but is as timely as ever. This will still be pertinent and relevant 20 years from now because I predict the whole of American Christianity will still be failing singles into the future.
(Link): Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles? by Sarah Hamaker
How are they responding? Not very well, that’s how.
Most churches continue to ignore singles, except for the sliver who note we exist but who blame and shame us for being single (as I have blogged about before, with links to examples).
Though I must disagree with the person quoted in the article who said, “church is for women.” No, it’s not.
Women are more marginalized at church than males are. Oh yes, they are, more so than males, click here and read this for an explanation.
Males run all churches. Women are barred from leadership in most churches.
It is breath-taking when Baptists and other denominations bar women from leading, preaching, and teaching…
But then these same Christian males (and a handful of the females who support sexism in churches under the names of “biblical womanhood,” and “gender complementarianism”), complain, moan, and gripe in their books and blogs that “Christianity is too feminized, it is feminizing men, and Christianity is not masculine enough.”
Yeah? If that is so, whose fault it is?
Why, it’s the men who are at fault.
You males prohibit women from leading, preaching or having any meaningful input in churches, yet you have the nerve to complain that church is “too feminine”? It is to laugh.
Preacher John Piper wrote some time ago that he believes that “Christianity is masculine.”
This Piper has many nutty views about women which I shall not get into here, but anyway, if you google for it, you can find many pages about his belief that “Christianity is masculine.”
Here is one page of a million on the issue:
(Link): Piper’s ‘Masculine Christianity’ Actually Emasculates
And goodness help you if you are a never-married and childless woman in Christian circles, because you are the lowest of the low on the totem pole in churches, even below the single males.
(Link): Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles? by Sarah Hamaker
One can be the loneliest number, especially in the church. Today, there are more singles in the United States than at any other time in history – 43.6 percent of the U.S. adult population are unmarried, according to the 2010 U.S. Census.
“The number of single adults in the United States has been rapidly approaching the number of married adults, and this is an unprecedented culture shift that is dramatic,” says Barry Danylak, author of Redeeming Singleness. “This is not an American phenomena – it is seen in nearly all of the modernized and industrialized nations.”
The church, long welcoming to married with children congregants, has been slower to adjust to this demographic shift.
“At least 80 percent of every denomination do not have a targeted ministry to single adults,” says Dennis Franck, national director for Single Adult/Young Adult Ministries for the Assemblies of God denomination, headquartered in Springfield, Mo.
“However, the majority of churches are not trying to exclude singles, but they are more marriage and family focused, which means singles are not acknowledged very often.”
The Rev. Alan Fretto, a single senior in Danbury, Conn., points out, “The church is geared toward children, women and couples. There is very little in most churches for singles, and yet singles dominate the church population. Singles need to be encouraged and included in the process of the church, and should be considered a valuable asset to the church.”
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