Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles?
This link below is from 2012 but is as timely as ever. This will still be pertinent and relevant 20 years from now because I predict the whole of American Christianity will still be failing singles into the future.
How are they responding? Not very well, that’s how.
Most churches continue to ignore singles, except for the sliver who note we exist but who blame and shame us for being single (as I have blogged about before, with links to examples).
Though I must disagree with the person quoted in the article who said, “church is for women.” No, it’s not.
Women are more marginalized at church than males are. Oh yes, they are, more so than males, click here and read this for an explanation.
Males run all churches. Women are barred from leadership in most churches.
It is breath-taking when Baptists and other denominations bar women from leading, preaching, and teaching…
But then these same Christian males (and a handful of the females who support sexism in churches under the names of “biblical womanhood,” and “gender complementarianism”), complain, moan, and gripe in their books and blogs that “Christianity is too feminized, it is feminizing men, and Christianity is not masculine enough.”
Yeah? If that is so, whose fault it is?
Why, it’s the men who are at fault.
You males prohibit women from leading, preaching or having any meaningful input in churches, yet you have the nerve to complain that church is “too feminine”? It is to laugh.
Preacher John Piper wrote some time ago that he believes that “Christianity is masculine.”
This Piper has many nutty views about women which I shall not get into here, but anyway, if you google for it, you can find many pages about his belief that “Christianity is masculine.”
Here is one page of a million on the issue:
(Link): Piper’s ‘Masculine Christianity’ Actually Emasculates
And goodness help you if you are a never-married and childless woman in Christian circles, because you are the lowest of the low on the totem pole in churches, even below the single males.
- February 29, 2012
One can be the loneliest number, especially in the church. Today, there are more singles in the United States than at any other time in history – 43.6 percent of the U.S. adult population are unmarried, according to the 2010 U.S. Census.
“The number of single adults in the United States has been rapidly approaching the number of married adults, and this is an unprecedented culture shift that is dramatic,” says Barry Danylak, author of Redeeming Singleness. “This is not an American phenomena – it is seen in nearly all of the modernized and industrialized nations.”
The church, long welcoming to married with children congregants, has been slower to adjust to this demographic shift.
“At least 80 percent of every denomination do not have a targeted ministry to single adults,” says Dennis Franck, national director for Single Adult/Young Adult Ministries for the Assemblies of God denomination, headquartered in Springfield, Mo.
“However, the majority of churches are not trying to exclude singles, but they are more marriage and family focused, which means singles are not acknowledged very often.”
The Rev. Alan Fretto, a single senior in Danbury, Conn., points out, “The church is geared toward children, women and couples. There is very little in most churches for singles, and yet singles dominate the church population. Singles need to be encouraged and included in the process of the church, and should be considered a valuable asset to the church.”