views and thoughts on topics, especially ones pertaining to christianity – with an emphasis on how most christians either ignore or discriminate against unmarried christians – and how christians have turned marriage and parenting into IDOLS and how there is no true support for sexual purity, virginity, or celibacy among christians – this is a blog for me to vent; I seldom permit dissenting views. I don't debate dissenters ————-
…. It seems that being single in the church is a difficult situation these days. Many churches have made marriage and family somewhat of an idol. There have probably been millions of sermons delivered on dating, courting, marriage, waiting for marriage, etc.
But it is not often that our pastors preach to the adult singles in the pews, or encourage people to embrace their singleness.
Valentine’s Day, the Church and Single Awareness Day? by J. Storment
I don’t think I am actually going to make a Valentine’s Day post this year ON the day itself, or shortly before.
Valentine’s Day is this Sunday, so you can consider this here post this blog’s annual Valentine’s Day (Singles Awareness Day) post.
Unless I come across a really groovy, outstanding V-Day post between now and then, this is it, then I will consider logging in and making a new post – but I will be kind of busy later this week, so I don’t know if I will have time.
The following is a blog post that covers much of the same ground my own blog has addressed:
So unfortunately this year Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday.
I say unfortunately because in most of the churches I’ve seen in life make a really big deal about marriage and families and romance and kids and happily ever after, and rightfully so. Those are good gifts from God in many people’s lives.
But what is so unfortunate about Feb 14th falling on a Sunday this year, is that many (most) churches have gone beyond celebrating marriage and family.
For the past several decades we’ve all but idolized it.
… Stanley Hauerwas points out that when Christianity first was introduced to the pagan world it changed the way they viewed marriage because it de-idolized it. After all, there was no more radical act in that day than to live a life without producing heirs.
Meet the most vitriolic Valentine’s Day haters around the world
If you are single and bummed out over being single on Valentine’s Day, I’ll share one thing with you that makes it easier.
In my family, Valentine’s was never presented as a “romantic” holiday. My mother used to give me candy in a heart shaped box on Valentine’s when I was a kid, I usually got a card from her, and my father sometimes gave me cards.
Over the years, I’ve sent Valentine’s Day cards to an Aunt of mine (she lives alone), my sister, and I’ve bought flowers for friends. In college, a platonic buddy of mine gave me red roses and a Valentine’s Day card.
Valentine’s Day does NOT have to be about erotic or romantic love, I don’t care WHAT Hallmark cards say.
If you view February 14th as a day to express your fondness of, or non-romantic love for, friends, co-workers, and family, it’s not so bad. I actually kind of like Valentine’s Day. It’s a sweet little holiday without the stress of major ones, like Thanksgiving or Christmas.
Ironically, the only aspect of Valentine’s I’ve hated in the past was the insistence of OTHERS to hype it into a romantic holiday.
I remember in high school, I never got any flowers from guys. I always felt bad when the schools I went to had a flower drive, and in every class, at least one girl would get dozens of them (presumably from male admirers), which made you feel terrible if you got zero.
All the commercials showing a husband buying his wife a diamond pendant for Valentine’s Day and that sort of advertising – that is what rubs me the wrong way.
I wasn’t really planning on doing a Valentine’s Day post this year, as I’ve done the last couple of years. But I saw this:
Tongue-in-cheek “Anti-Valentine’s Day” parties are de rigueur in cities from (Link): Los Angeles to (Link): Singapore these days. But in some other parts of the world, opposition toward the holiday runs much deeper and is tangled up in politics, religion, and national identity.
A Marxist group called Kakumei-teki himote doumei (“Revolutionary Alliance of Men That Woman Are Not Attracted To”) is calling on supporters to march against the holiday in Tokyo’s Shibuya district.
The group, founded in 2006 by a man named Katsuhiro Furusawa after he was dumped by his girlfriend (Link): states on its website: “The blood-soaked conspiracy of Valentine’s Day, driven by the oppressive chocolate capitalists, has arrived once again. In order to create a brighter future, we call for solidarity among our unloved comrades, so that we may demonstrate in resolute opposition to Valentine’s Day and the romantic industrial complex.”