We’re Casual About Sex and Serious About Consent. But Is It Working? by J. Zimmerman
And left wing, secular feminism actually encourages some of the very behavior that so many women find hurtful and damaging that is described in this editorial. This is one area where feminists really do deserve some blame.
There is nothing liberating, feminist, or empowering or freeing about women having casual sex with men at any age.
Nor is there anything feminist about feeling pressured into having sex because some left wing feminists insist women of all ages should be engaging in casual sex to be “real women” or to be sexually liberated, or whatever nonsense they spout.
(Link): We’re casual about sex and serious about consent. But is it working? By Jon Zimmerman / October 13, 2015
… That’s a question about intimacy, not just about consent. And the discussion about emotional connection and communication is mostly missing from the endless role-plays, workshops and online courses that we foist upon our students when they get to college.
In fact, it’s the great contradiction at the heart of our college sex wars.
University administrators take it for granted that a certain amount of sex will be “casual,” that is, devoid of intimate emotion or connection.
But our rules now require the sharing of feelings, even in an encounter that is by definition divorced from them.
We simply assume that virtual strangers will be having sex. But we urge them — or, even legally enjoin them — to communicate openly and explicitly about it.
Good luck with that. We might succeed in cajoling more students into some kind of verbal consent. But that’s a script, a bedroom contract between sexual vendors.
Yes, it will make the whole transaction legal. But consensual? Really? If you met somebody an hour ago, how can you tell what they want? And since you know so little about them, aren’t you more likely to do something that they don’t want, no matter what kind of “consent” they have given?