Candace Cameron Bure Says It’s ‘Not Too Much’ to Ask That Her Adult Kids Date People Who Love Jesus
I am going to try to be nice about this. This is a topic that can set me off, and I can get mouthy, but my impression of Mrs. Cameron-Bure is that she sincerely means well and actually tries to live out the Christian faith consistently, which I respect.
So I will try to keep the tone of this respectful and not get too… how do the kids say it today, “salty.” I’ll try to keep sarcasm out of this.
I will paste in some excerpts from the page and below those, offer some of my thoughts.
By Jeannie Ortega Law, Christian Post Reporter
Hollywood actress Candace Cameron Bure recently revealed that she has one specific desire concerning the people her children date, and it’s that they love Jesus.
The “Fuller House” star told Us Weekly that she has asked her three adult children, Natasha, 22, Lev, 21, and Maksim, 19, all of whom are actively dating, to bring home someone who’s Christian.
“When it comes down to it, I just want [their significant others] to love Jesus the way I love Jesus,” Bure shared in her video interview.
“That’s all I really want,” she added. “Is that too much to ask for? … It’s not too much.”
…Bure revealed that she wants her children to be with people who share in that same hope. The star of Hallmark Christmas movies said she is even open to the idea of setting her kids up with a date if she knows the other person’s background.
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She seems like a genuinely kind person, and I understand she’s a devout Christian, so I can see where she’s coming from with wanting her now-adult children to marry another Christian if they marry.
I don’t want to harp and harp on this, but as a never-married, middle-aged woman who used to be a very devout Christian from childhood up into my mid-40s, marriage never did happen for me
– and I am convinced that one factor is that “be equally yoked” rule that Mrs. Mrs. Cameron-Bure is alluding to.
The “be equally yoked” rule (sometimes phrased as “don’t be unequally yoked”) is the belief held by some Christians that Christians should only date and/or marry another Christian.
Which sounds nice, but it doesn’t work out in real life – not for every one.
If you’re a single, Christian woman, there are no single men of your age at most churches you step foot in, and most dating apps and sites are filled with Christ-professing single men who sound like dirty, repulsive, kinky freaks who you’d rather not date.
This insistence that a Christian woman can or should only date Christian men results in a lot of marriage-desiring single Christian women staying single either indefinitely, or for much longer than they had hoped or expected – into their late 30s and older.
That’s one reason of a few I have said many times on this blog that Christian single women who’d like to marry need to widen their dating pool by getting rid of this guilt-tripping, unhelpful dating rule that stipulates that a Christian can only date another Christian.
If you keep holding out for a “Christian Mr. Right” you will end up dying single
If that’s not what you want, you need to consider dating non-Christian men.
Also: stop expecting God to “send you” a spouse. I tried praying and having faith for years and year that God would send me a spouse, and it did not work. The older I get, the more I think it relies on human effort and sheer luck – so if you’re single, and you want marriage, you need to take steps to make it happen, like get out of the house more, let friends know you’re looking (have them set you up with single, male friends of theirs, etc).
Churches are filled with male abusers and perverts (if they have any young men at all) – churches don’t want to help single adults to get married – so, you’re best off not wasting your time attending church and hoping to meet a “Mr Right” at your local church.
God bless this nice lady for wanting her kids to only marry another Christian, but that strategy kept me single for far longer than I wanted, and it’s also happened to many other adult, Christian singles.
The whole “be equally yoked” rule is stifling marriage prospects for so many women who’d like to be married.
I refer you to the other posts on my blog about these topics, some of which are right below under “Related Posts.”
(Link): How the Dating Scene Became Stacked Against Women – via CT, by Gina Dalfonzo
(Link): What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis (from TIME) (ie, Why Are Conservative Religious Women Not Marrying Even Though They Want to Be Married. Hint: It’s a Demographics Issue)