The War Over Marriage Is Raging; Single People Are Winning by B. DePaulo

The War Over Marriage Is Raging; Single People Are Winning by B. DePaulo

(Link):  The War Over Marriage Is Raging; Single People Are Winning

Excerpts:

Once again, the claim that marriage is greedy has people riled up

July 11, 2019

To everyone who has been rooting for, and working on, the telling of a more accurate and affirming story about single people, and the shattering of myths about married people, there is good news: We are winning.

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Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student by L. Blair

Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student by L. Blair

Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.

(Link): Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student

Excerpts:

By Leonardo Blair, Christian Post Reporter

A pastor’s wife and teacher from Burbank, Illinois, has been arrested and charged after she allegedly supplied alcohol to a 15-year-old student at Jordan Baptist School, a ministry of Jordan Baptist Church, and had sex with him at least five times before it was legal for her to do so.

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Deviant Father Who Raped His Screaming One Year Old Infant Daughter for Dark Web Jailed

Deviant Father Who Raped His Screaming One Year Old Infant Daughter for Dark Web Jailed

Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.

Did being married and being a father cause this man to behave in a loving, godly, ethical, responsible manner? Why no, it did not.

Also, ask yourself this: is this guy perfect? No, obviously he is not perfect. Yet, growing up, I often read in Christian content about singleness that if one wants to marry one day, that one must become perfect, or a really great and morally upstanding person if one wanted to be granted a spouse by God.

Obviously, such teaching is total bunk, seeing as how many examples I have on this blog of people who did get a spouse but later went on to be arrested for pedophilia, murder, or God knows what else.

If there is a deity, that deity obviously does not with-hold a spouse from people if they are not “perfect,” since that deity is permitting dirt-bags to marry.

(Link): Deviant Father Who Raped His Screaming One Year Old Infant Daughter for Dark Web Jailed

Jimmy McCloskey
Friday 12 Jul 2019

James Lockhart, 31, received the maximum sentence possible at a court hearing Thursday for producing the four videos between March 2016 and February 2018.

Harrowing court documents said that during at least one of the clips, the young victim ‘continues to scream and cry’ as she is sexually assaulted by her father.

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Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.

(Link): Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Excerpts:

William Choyce raped and murdered three women and sexually attacked several others – he is now on death row

William Choyce seemed like the perfect, middle-class family man – but he was hiding a dark secret behind his respectable facade.

To the outside world, he looked like the perfect husband and father but Choyce is hiding a sinister sexual deviation.

Crime+Investigation’s I Lived With A Killer examines what drove a seemingly devoted dad and partner to become a serial rapist and murder .

Growing up in “good” family, Choyce wanted for little and along with his parents, went along to church every Sunday.

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Study Says More American Couples Meet Online and in Bars Now than Through Family, Friends (2019)

Study Says More American Couples Meet Online and in Bars Now than Through Family, Friends (2019)

I think it’s sad, frustrating, and unfortunate for Christian singles who’d like to marry that so many churches and Christians do NOT want to take practical steps to help marriage-desiring singles to get married.

And as this study shows, when that happens, when friends, family, and church community refuse to get involved, people use bars and dating sites.

I don’t understand the Christians who promote the “Equally Yoked” rule and yet won’t help Christian singles who’d like to marry – if you’re an “Equally Yoked” advocate (I am not one), wouldn’t you want to ensure that your Christian single friend marries another Christian, rather than take her chances and dates Non-Christians she meets on dating sites and at night clubs?

(Link): Our Deepest Fears Realized: Most Couples Meet Online Now

Meeting online is trending upward, and fewer and fewer people are meeting at work, school, or through friends or family.

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Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

I don’t know what’s more distressing: that men feel it’s acceptable to verbally or physically attack women who reject their advances in the first place, or the men I see online who were defending guys who do this (and assume the teen-aged girl in question did something to “deserve it”),
or the idiotic and oblivious Christian men (like the one I debated with today on social media about this)
-and other types of men- online who assume that single men have life and relationships worse than women do – when men don’t face attacks like this from women when they are out and about.

I read two articles about this: the girl in the story had just left a club with a male friend of hers, when a man and his two friends started following her down the street. The girl in this news item had NOT been flirting with this man inside the club, nor was she accepting drinks from him inside the club.

I mention that fact because one sexist asshole who left a comment under one of the news tweets about this story said something like, “She was probably taking drinks off men like him all night then blowing them off when they flirted, so she deserved this.”

I tweeted at the guy that the man was not even in the club with her when this started – at no time did he buy her a drink, and even had he, it would still not give him the right to attack this girl or to harass her or intimidate her as she walked home.

In all my years of collecting links to place on this blog, I’ve seen only a few where women attack men – usually their boyfriends or husbands – when their male partner refuses to have sex with them. (I have a few examples of this on my blog.)

However! The vast majority of news items I see where one person rejects the advances of another features male-on-female violence. Yet some men want me to believe they have dating or single life just as hard as women do.

No, you men do not – you men don’t have dating and singleness any where near as difficult as women do.

(Link): Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

July 2019

AN 18-YEAR-OLD girl was punched unconscious after telling a man who followed her home from a nightclub that she wasn’t interested.

Gabrielle Walsh was on a night out with her friend Kyle McKeown in the Manchester city centre over the weekend when they were attacked.

They were walking from Club Bloom in the Gay Village at about 3.30am when three men approached them.

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Mother of a Two-Day-Old Baby That Was Burned To Death as Part of a Satanic Ritual Has Been Caught by Police (Child’s Father Also Involved in Baby’s Murder)

Mother of a Two-Day-Old Baby That Was Burned To Death as Part of a Satanic Ritual Has Been Caught by Police (Child’s Father Also Involved in Baby’s Murder)

In light of the appearance of news stories such as this one (link below), I never again want to hear Christians or “pro family” propaganda organizations acting as though single or child-free or childless adults are “less” than married people who have children.

I never again want to see their pro-Nuclear Family, pro-Marriage propaganda spewed, where they frequently argue or suggest that marriage (or parenthood) makes (and is necessary to make) people more godly, responsible, mature, and ethical.

(Link): MOTHER OF BABY BURNED TO DEATH IN SATANIC RITUAL ARRESTED AFTER TWO YEARS ON THE RUN

Excerpts:

July 2019
by A. Joyner

The mother of a two-day-old baby that was burned to death as part of a satanic ritual has been apprehended by police after evading capture for two years.

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Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

(Link): Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

Excerpts:

Who really needs relationships anyway? They’re a pain in the ass. Partners are difficult. They want us to be our best selves, to quit drinking, to stop leaving dirty socks in the bathroom.

Partners have feelings, emotional realities, flatulence, bad breath, opinions, debts, wants, needs and desires than can clash with our own.

Partners want things from us even when we just want them to shut up and get cozy. But the worst thing about partners, the worst part about romance, is the potential for rejection.

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No One Told Me Exactly What to Expect From Menopause. But the Messages I Did Get Were Very Wrong by D. Steink

No One Told Me Exactly What to Expect From Menopause. But the Messages I Did Get Were Very Wrong by D. Steinke

(Link): No One Told Me Exactly What to Expect From Menopause. But the Messages I Did Get Were Very Wrong

Excerpts:

I was 50 when I woke in my dark attic bedroom in Brooklyn, my heart speeding and my body incandescent with heat. I did not feel simply hot, no, I was being smothered by an internal fire that seemed to pool inside my body like lava.

At first I thought it was a heart attack.

After more flashes, over my morning bowl of oatmeal, as I rode the subway under the East River and while I taught, I realized it was not a heart attack. It was a hot flash.

I had entered menopause, that fraught transition in every woman’s life, known in an earlier time as The Dangerous Age.

Earlier life stages, going through puberty and giving birth, had opened up new worlds, the excitement of sexuality and motherhood.

But menopause arrived without absorbing directives. Instead of new obsessions and responsibilities, I felt a nothingness.

It’s a void created in part by our oversexed patriarchal culture, a world that has little respect for older women.

Valued most for our sexuality and role as mothers many women feel, once that phase is over, as I did. Marginalized. The message, never stated directly but manifesting in myriad ways, is an overwhelmingly nihilistic one: your usefulness is over. Please step to the sidelines.

…..I searched for books that might help me understand what was happening to me. I read Suzanne Sommers’ The Sexy Years and Gail Sheedy’s Silent Passages.

Both are fear-based.

Both authors are frantic to keep the veneer of a fertile femininity intact.

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The ‘Let’s Have Intercourse’ Song

The ‘Let’s Have Intercourse’ Song

(Link): Let’s Have Intercourse (song on You Tube)

Partial Lyrics:

UNFORTUNATELY, I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU
I DON’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED, MAYBE YOU LOST SOME WEIGHT FOR SOME REASON,
YOU’RE NOW ON THE TOP OF MY TO-DO LIST
LET’S GET THIS OVER WITH, SO I CAN FOCUS ON OTHER TASKS
LET’S HAVE INTERCOURSE
JUST PRETEND I’M SEDUCING YOU
COME ON LET’S QUICKLY HAVE INTERCOURSE SO I CAN MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE MY BUSY LIFE
YOU AND I ARE BOTH HIGHLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE ALTHOUGH I’M IN MUCH BETTER PHYSICAL SHAPE ONCE WE DO IT IT’LL BE LIKE, WELL THAT’S WHAT THAT WAS LIKE THEN YOU’LL HOPEFULLY GO BACK, TO SEEMING WEIRD TO ME

What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

The following article (book review) from Christianity Today covers several topics about singleness and the church I’ve been pointing out on this blog for literally years now.

One big point it brings up that I have: there are more single Christian women in the church than there are single Christian men. This means if a Christian single female insists upon following the “equally yoked” rule (that states a Christian may only marry another Christian), she will remain single.

If you are a single Christian woman who desires marriage, it is imperative you ditch the ‘equally yoked’ rule. You must learn to judge men based on their character, not what their stated religious beliefs are.

(Link): What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

Excerpts:

New survey research sheds light on how believers navigate the stickier matters of dating and marriage.

July 10, 2019

Over the years, Christians have produced and read far more books on how relationships and singleness should work than on how these things actuallydo pan out. Vicky Walker’s new book Relatable: Exploring God, Love, & Connection in the Age of Choice, based on a survey of more than 1,400 people, aims to change that.

Walker writes from a more-or-less Protestant British perspective, but American Christians will find much they recognize.

Over the course of 12 chapters and several appendices, Relatable covers everything from the history of marriage to typical teachings on gender roles to, of course, sex. But she also gets into stickier matters like the role of technology and the church’s significant sex-ratio gap—the latter a topic that raises questions of dating outside the faith.

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Inside Secret World of Incels Who Turn To Murder Because They’ve Never Had Sex by J. Lavender

Inside Secret World of Incels Who Turn To Murder Because They’ve Never Had Sex by J. Lavender

Ah, male entitlement. I’m a celibate, hetero woman who had hoped to marry (and hence be having sex with a husband), I’m still single and celibate over age of 45, but I don’t run around killing men because of it.

I do not believe men owe me sex or marriage. Too bad our culture largely sends a message to boys and men in movies, magazine ads, and so on, that they are all deserving and owed marriage, sex, or dates.

Rejection is a part of life, whether we’re talking about not getting what we want romance-wise (no marriage, no dates, no sex, etc), or in other areas. You can go out on a lot of job interviews and be rejected by employer after employer.

Notice that in some of these cases, men are also harmed by incels: incels don’t always just target women, they also kill men in their rampages.

(Link): Inside secret world of Incels who turn to murder because they’ve never had sex

July 2019

WARNING: DISTRESSING CONTENT Elliot Rodger butchered six people because he was a virgin and had been constantly rejected by women

When Elliot Rodger slaughtered six university students he had never met, the world united in grief.

But when it emerged that the 22-year-old had carried out the senseless murdersof innocent victims because he was virgin who had been rejected by women, grief turned to horror.

Rodger’s horrific actions exposed a chilling online underworld of the Incels, meaning involuntarily celibate.

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Missing Tinder Date Woman Found Cut Into 14 Pieces, As Murder Suspect Blames ‘Rough Consensual Sex’ – by S. Lock

Missing Tinder Date Woman Found Cut Into 14 Pieces, As Murder Suspect Blames ‘Rough Consensual Sex’ – by S. Lock

(Link): Missing Tinder date woman found cut into 14 pieces, as murder suspect blames ‘rough consensual sex’

July 2019

A WOMAN who was murdered and found dumped in garbage bags after failing to return home from a Tinder date was cut up into 14 pieces, a court has heard.

Sydney Loofe, 24, was savagely murdered and dismembered before she was found dead and dumped in a field in December 2017 near Edgar, south-west of Omaha, about a month after she disappeared.

Aubrey Trail, 52, and his girlfriend Bailey Boswell, 25, have been chargedwith her murder.

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Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’ by Debbie White

Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’ by Debbie White

Ah, tell me again, Southern Baptist talking head Al Mohler and other conservative Christians and secular conservatives how parenthood supposedly makes people more godly, responsible, giving, self-less, and ethical, especially in light of headlines such as this one.

(Link): Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’

Excerpts:

July 8, 2019

A MUM and dad “fantasised about committing incest with their unborn baby” after sexually assaulting their two-year-old daughter, horrific court papers reveal.

Gerrad Coddington, 25, and Christina Nelson-Coddington, 29, allegedly handcuffed, beat and raped the toddler, says an affidavit lodged in Oklahoma, US.

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What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse – What if marriage is not the social good that so many believe and want it to be? by M. Catron

What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse

What if marriage is not the social good that so many believe and want it to be? by M. Catron

This is similar to a study that came out a few years ago that I blogged about, where researches dubbed marriages “Greedy Marriages,” because when people get married, they tend to turn inwards and ignore neighbors and family members (single adults generally do not do this, according to the study).

(Link): What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse

Excerpts:

July 2019

In America today, it’s easy to believe that marriage is a social good—that our lives and our communities are better when more people get and stay married.

There have, of course, been massive changes to the institution over the past few generations, leading the occasional cultural critic to ask: Is marriage becoming obsolete? But few of these people seem genuinely interested in the answer.

More often the question functions as a kind of rhetorical sleight of hand, a way of stirring up moral panic about changing family values or speculating about whether society has become too cynical for love.

In popular culture, the sentiment still prevails that marriage makes us happy and divorce leaves us lonely, and that never getting married at all is a fundamental failure of belonging.

But speculation about whether or not marriage is obsolete overlooks a more important question: What is lost by making marriage the most central relationship in a culture?

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It’s Never Too Late for Love: Widows, 100 and 102, Marry After a Year of Dating by J. Hahn

It’s Never Too Late for Love: Widows, 100 and 102, Marry After a Year of Dating by J. Hanh

(Link): Meet the Cooks. He’s 100, she’s 102, and they just got married.

(Link): It’s Never Too Late for Love: Widows, 100 and 102, Marry After a Year of Dating

July 2019

John and Phyllis Cook fell for each other in their shared assisted living facility

A senior couple is proving that it’s never too late to find love, even if it comes many years after your first.

According to NBC 24, John and Phyllis Cook have been dating for a year after meeting in their shared assisted living facility in Ohio. Their love blossomed over the course of their courtship, and on Wednesday, the two sealed the deal and secured a marriage license, making their union official.

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This Is What Therapists Tell People Who Are Sick Of Being Single

This Is What Therapists Tell People Who Are Sick Of Being Single

I’m going to link to this page (farther below in this blog post) with a caveat.

The following page I am linking to is aimed primarily at adult singles who are around ages 20 to 39. As I write this post, I am over the age of 45, and I have never married.

This is the sort of article that doles out the standard, cliched advice that tells marriage-desiring adults  who are still single and worried about being single that “when you least expect it, that’s when you will meet Mr. (or Ms.) Right.”

It’s similar to the stereotyped and un-true Christian advice on this topic, which tells Christian singles that the moment they become “content in their singleness,” that is supposedly when God will send them their spouse.

  • As a now over- age- 45 adult who had wanted to be married,
    and as an adult who had expected and hoped to be married by age 35,
  • who once was a very devout Christian who believed the Christians who told me if I just prayed and trusted in God that God would send me a spouse,
  • and as an adult who has been content with her singleness on and off over the years,

I can tell you this:

None of this advice works, certainly not for everyone.

That is, you can be content being single and still not meet “Mr. Right.”

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Cross-Dressing Four Foot Ten Inch Pervert Disguised Himself As A Granny To Grope Young Women And A Schoolgirl

Cross-Dressing Four Foot Ten Inch Pervert Disguised Himself As A Granny To Grope Young Women And A Schoolgirl

If this took place in the United States, all this perverted sicko (who is a biological man) has to do with American liberals is claim he is “identifying as a woman,” and the liberals would gladly allow him access to women’s / girl’s locker rooms and bathrooms, where he would proceed to sexually abuse actual women and girls.

But since when do most liberals (who claim to be feminist) actually CARE about the safety of girls and women? They do not – they’d rather protect Transgenders and Muslims at the expense of (cis / hetero) girls and women.

Anytime the safety or needs of actual, honest to god women come into conflict with the liberal favored pet groups of Muslims and Transgenders, the liberals always choose their pet group and throw women under the bus…

Some secular liberal feminists (and even some of the religious, progressive Christians) are fine with putting girls and women at risk if it meets the goals of their “progressive” politics.

(Link): Cross-Dressing Four Foot Ten Inch Pervert Disguised HImself As A Granny To Grope Young Women And A Schoolgirl

Excerpts:

July 1, 2019
By Richard Wheatstone

A CROSS-DRESSING pervert who disguised himself as a granny to prey on young women has been caged for three years.

Paul Reed, who is just 4ft 10in, donned a coat, wooly hat and scarf wrapped across his face to take on his ‘old lady’ persona.

The 57-year-old then targeted two young women and a teenager outside transport stations and hospitals.

Reed, from Chatham, Kent, had previously been banned from chatting with females while with females while wearing the disguise after being convicted of sex offences in 2007.

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Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date

Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date by Greg Evans

(Link): Woman Shares Story Of How A Group of Women Helped Her Narrowly Avoid Being Kidnapped While On A Date

Excerpts:

June 2019

Dating someone who is relatively unfamiliar can be a bit of a nightmare, especially if that person turns out to be not as decent as they make out.

This can be even more troublesome, should a man turn out to be not who he said he was when he started messaging.

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Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

I happen to be a conservative, but I remain frustrated at how other conservatives – not just Christians, but also secular conservatives – keep promoting marriage and the “nuclear family.” These groups think – or some insist – that marriage and parenthood are necessary to make adults into giving, ethical, and responsible people. This is false.

I have many examples on my blog of married people or parents who rob, rape, and murder other people (sometimes their own biological children!). Here is another sad example.

If being married or becoming a parent were necessary to make a person sinless, godly, more loving or responsible, the Bible would surely say so some where – but it does not. The Bible actually says in 1 Cor. 7 it is better to remain single!

(Link): Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

Excerpts:

July 2, 2019
By TERRI-ANN WILLIAMS FOR MAILONLINE

A mother ‘murdered her two young daughters within days of each other because they got in the way of her lifestyle’.

Model Louise Porton had been ‘offering sex to men for cash’ and a court heard how her children had become a ‘burden’ and had started to ‘get in the way’ of her lifestyle.

The 23-year-old is accused of killing three-year-old Lexi Draper and 16-month old Scarlett Vaughan, by obstructing their airways.

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