Women Reveal What It Feels Like To Be In A Sexless Marriage by K. Borresen
Before I give you the link to the article, I wanted to say…
I’ve mentioned this before in my years of blogging here and will continue to mention this, but: the Christianity I grew up with in the 1970s to the 1990s emphasized that if a person just sexually abstained until marriage, that married sex would be great and frequent.
We were also taught by Christians, especially of the complementarian variety, that only men want and “need” sex, while all women supposedly hate sex and have to be convinced through those frequent, annoying, male-entitled sermons by sexist idiot male Christians, that wives should put out more for their husbands, because God supposedly “wired” men to want sex more (which is a lot of crap).
At any rate, almost all examples I have on my blog of sexless marriages (and yes, even Christians can end up in sexless marriages), are of married WOMEN who say they MISS sex and aren’t having any because their HUSBAND (for whatever the reason) does not want to have sex.
This goes to reveal that conservative and complementarian assumptions about men and women’s sexuality is completely incorrect.
This below, from Huffington Post, is quite long, so I will not be copying the entire piece to my blog, only a few excerpts.
Coping with rejection, frustration and low self-worth can take a toll on both partners in the relationship.
By Kelsey Borresen
11/08/2019 02:59pm EST
When a couple stops having sex, it doesn’t just affect things in the bedroom — it often puts a strain on the entire relationship.
If both partners are content with little to no sex, then those dry spells (which are (Link): quite common, by the way) may not pose a problem. But in relationships in which one or both partners value their sex lives, a dead bedroom can bring up painful emotions, fears and resentments that just push them further and further apart.