I Found Out My Late Husband Was Cheating on Me – He Told Girlfriends I Was Dead by A. Klausner

I Found Out My Late Husband Was Cheating on Me – He Told Girlfriends I Was Dead by A. Klausner

Marriage didn’t make this woman happier. I’d hazard a guess she may regret she ever married in the first place.

Marriage didn’t make the man mentioned in the story more ethical, responsible, loving, or godly.

(Link): I found out my late husband was cheating on me — he told girlfriends I was dead

Feb 28, 2024
by Alexandra Klausner

He’s dead to her now — in more ways than one.

A mom claimed to have discovered that her late husband was cheating on her — after she went through his computer after his death.

A woman, who goes by @cherrybombsquad007 on TikTok, posted a video about her shocking find two days ago and her video has garnered over 2 million views. The video is part of a series of seven videos she called the “late husband chronicles.”

Cherrybomb, whose profile says she’s a stay-at-home mom and certified nursing assistant, lost her husband three years ago.
After he passed, she said she found out that not only did he have a “huge amount of chat feeds with different girlfriends,” he was sending gifts to various women and he spent hundreds on X-rated sites.

She said he also told his girlfriends made-up excuses about his wife which included, “She was in an accident and she’s in a coma I’m all alone.” He also lied and told a woman his wife left him for another man. Ironically he wrote another woman, “My wife just [died] I’m a single dad.”

Sex Offender ‘Held Pregnant Woman Hostage and Forced Her to Have Sex with His Pet Dog’

Sex Offender ‘Held Pregnant Woman Hostage and Forced Her to Have Sex with His Pet Dog’

I consider humans doing sexual things to or with animals a form of sexual abuse, so if this guy broke into my house and told me to have sex with his dog or else he will shoot me dead, I’d opt for being shot dead (I am serious).

I could not bring myself to hurt or degrade an animal by hurting an animal (and I consider sexual acts on animals by humans to be a form of abuse).

(Please note I am not saying this to victim blame the woman in the story. If she felt she had no other choice, if she felt too afraid to say no to this perverted piece of shit who attacked her, I understand.)

I’m usually against rape, but in cases like this, I am more than fine with Police tossing this guy into a jail cell with known rapists, and permitting the inmates to rape this guy (unless they think he would enjoy it), torturing him, then putting a bullet between his eyes.

This lady being pregnant when this happened didn’t keep her from being sexually assaulted – so many of my fellow conservatives make Motherhood out to be an almost magical thing, or a guarantee of happiness and safety. It’s not.

I hope the lady in this news report recovers okay.

(Link): Sex offender 58 ‘held pregnant woman hostage and forced her to have sex with his brown and white pet dog’

April 13, 2024

A pedophile registered sex offender allegedly forced a pregnant woman to have sex with a dog at gunpoint and filmed in on his phone.

Dennis Allen Carter, 58, was charged with bestiality and three counts of aggravated sexual assault after he was arrested in Houston last week.

He was out on parole for another aggravated sexual assault in 1997, and was convicted of sexually abusing a child in 1981.

Carter put a gun to the woman’s head and demanded she perform oral sex on both him and his brown and white pet dog or he would kill her, police alleged.

He ‘kept telling her to “quit screaming” and slapped her multiple times’ during the ordeal on August 7 last year, according to court documents.

Christian Woman Married Christian Man She Meet Via Dating Site Who Tried to Murder Her After Their Divorce – Spotting Those Cluster B Red Flags

Christian Woman Married Christian Man She Meet Via Dating Site Who Tried to Murder Her After Their Divorce – Spotting Those Cluster B Red Flags

I am watching an episode of the true crime program “Evil Lives Here,” one which first aired in 2023. The tv guide blurb for this episode reads:

Sara Pitcher thinks Shawn Spink is a man of God, but she’ll soon endure three-and-a-half hours of pure terror to save herself from the darkness within him; police believe Sara’s survival is a miracle – even so, her life will never be the same

The woman in this true crime episode, Sara Pitcher, is a Christian, and she indicated at the top of the episode that when she was looking for a boyfriend or husband on a dating site, she was very clear about what she was looking for – she seemed to suggest she would only date or marry another Christian.

So, she meets Shawn Spink on this site, and they got to know one another. She said he seemed to be a genuinely good guy who really loved God, and she said he knew the Bible well.

When they were thinking about getting married, she wanted a church wedding, so the church required them to get pre-marital counseling at their church, so they met with a counselor.

During this meeting, Sara says (this is my paraphrase of what she said) that Shawn was acting belligerent, he was talking over her, he would speak up and correct her in front of the counselor and say, “that never happened, here’s what happened…”

At one point, Shawn excused himself briefly to use the bathroom, leaving Sara alone with the counselor, who advised her that she should not marry Shawn. Sara rationalized away the counselor’s concerns and continued to date Shawn and consider marriage to him.

Sara says she and Shawn started praying together, attending church together, and reading the Bible together.

There again, notice – this guy she was dating and planning on marrying, Shawn, gave off all the external signs that he must be a Christian. A true Christian. A real Christian.

But he ended up being abusive to her – keep reading, as I’ll get into that later.

I already spotted several red flags before they got around ten or so minutes into the show.

Her now ex husband, Spink, displayed some classic Cluster B personality traits.

A lot of Cluster B disordered or traited persons, whether they are Sociopaths, Narcissists, or BPDs or whatever else (there’s also Psychopathy and HPD), will try to rush you into a relationship or some other huge commitment (like moving in together or having children together) at a very fast pace.

(Once they have you in that committed space, their behavior will often change, and they will become physically, sexually, financially, and/or physically abusive. It may start out as controlling behavior before it escalates.)

And that is exactly what happened in this story – Sara says they “moved fast.”

They went to church regularly, but, his now ex wife said on this show, “he didn’t live that out in his daily life.”

They eventually got married.

When a worker guy stopped by their house to repair something and then left, Shawn asked Sara about it, she replied it was the worker guy there to fix something in their house, Shawn got angry at her, and told her to never invite another man into their house, not even repair guys.

The way this incident was described on the show, Shawn’s anger about it came across as borne of jealousy, paranoia, and it was an over-reaction. No man should be that upset about his wife having a repair guy into the house to fix whatever in the house.

He later engaged in marital rape. He forced himself on her sexually.

Sara found a black punching bag Shawn put in the basement of their home where he had painted her name, “Sara” in white letters on it (the TV show displayed a photo of this).

She asked him about it, and he said he would never actually hit her – he’d rather hit the bag than hit her.

That was just plain weird and troubling. If your husband puts up a punching bag in your house with your name painted on it, he’s sending you a message – and it’s not a loving, normal message.

This guy became more controlling and abusive after they married, and some of  his other behavior became a little more irrational and strange, in other words.

This is also very common of Cluster B persons.
Once they have you trapped in a relationship that is tougher to dissolve or get out of, because you are married, or they’ve socially isolated you, or you’re financially dependent on them, that is when the abuse starts or escalates. Many of them are paranoid, easily jealous, and very controlling.

After awhile – she either separated from him or divorced, she moved out, he tracked her down and tried to suffocate her with a trash bag. He stabbed her face through the trash bag; he was trying to stab her through her eye but missed.

I will include a few links below about this news story.

I personally feel that the “equally yoked” rule as applied to dating and marriage is a waste of time for Christian single adults, especially for women.

I’ve got other examples on my blog of Christian single women who meet purportedly single Christian men in churches or on dating sites, and these Christian men end up being pedophiles or abusive.

You’re better off marrying a kind-hearted, moral, Non-Christian man than a man who professes Christ, even one who attends church regularly and who knows and can quote the Bible, who will end up abusing you, raping you, and trying to murder you by suffocating you with a trash bag.

There are more comments and resources below this link and excerpts:

(Link):  Arizona man who assaulted, stabbed ex-wife sentenced to life in prison

Excerpts:

Prosecutors argued had Sara not fought for 3.5 hours, she would have been killed and she deserves to live the rest of her life without looking over her shoulder.

August 2022

PHOENIX — Sara Pitcher will never look at trash bags the same. It’s been nearly four years since Shawn Spink, her ex-husband, tried to suffocate her with one.

The trash bag was just one of many weapons he used on that September day back in 2018. Another was the knife Pitcher bought him on their wedding day.

“I can still hear the crunching of the knife going into my skull,” Pitcher said.

Bible Quoting Married Christian Father Has Affair with Married Christian Mother, Has Her Shoot His Wife Dead (in 1990)

Bible Quoting Married Christian Father Has Affair with Married Christian Mother, Has Her Shoot His Wife Dead (in 1990)

If there was ever a single news story that encapsulates everything wrong with secular and Christian Conservative propaganda about marriage, this one may be it!

I am a Conservative, I am not against marriage.
But too many Christians – as well as secular conservatives or Jewish conservatives – try to shame, guilt trip, or pressure single adults into getting married.

They will often insult single adults for being single, and make FALSE promises or FALSE claims, secular and biblical, about marriage.

Marriage did not make anyone here permanently happy, nor keep them safe.

We have a married Christian couple who were regular church members, and the man in the equation started an affair with a younger married woman – I believe he meet her at church?

He manipulated her into killing his own wife by quoting Bible verses at her, and couching the entire ordeal in spiritual terms.

His mistress then shot and killed his wife. Both ended up in prison. The guy served 20+ years in prison and was paroled a few years ago. The mistress died of cancer 20+ some odd years later.

According to the TV show about this, the wife, Dianne, used to be a cheerleader (either in high school or college?), and she used to be very slender.

But after marrying Brian, and having a baby or two, she was diagnosed with Lupus. She endured a lot of joint pain and gained weight as a result. Her husband began nagging her or making negative comments to her about her weight, which I think is rather awful.

In other posts on this blog, I’ve noted that I am somewhere in the middle on the weight topic. I do think both spouses in a marriage should work on their appearance and stay reasonably thin. I said “reasonably.” As we all age, we will tend to put on weight. Some people, like Dianne, develop chronic health problems which either cause them to gain weight, or they’re left unable to exercise, which can also lead to weight gain.

In such cases, I think spouses married to such a person – someone who’s putting on weight due to health problems – such cut their spouse some slack.

I have seen marriages where one partner or the other (it’s sometimes the male) just get lazy – they refuse to work out any more, and they start drinking too much alcohol (which has a lot of calories), or they over eat junk food. Those are the particular situations where I do not have as much empathy for the fat spouse, whether it’s the husband or the wife.

But a lot of men harbor unrealistic expectations – if you marry at age 25, your wife is not likely to be able to maintain her age 25 weight when she’s 40, 50, or 60 years old.
I’m not obese, but I’ve found as I’ve gotten into middle age, it’s more difficult to keep extra pounds off, and I exercise weekly, on a regular basis, and I don’t over-eat.

The TV show said that initially that Brian Hood was okay to pitch in and do more around the house after his wife became sick, but after awhile, he grew tired of it, and I think resented it.

Contrary to Christian teachings on “how to get married” I heard while a teen and into my 20s, God is not with-holding a spouse from marriage-desiring singles until those singles improve themselves or become more godly.

If God had criteria in place on whether to permit a person to marry or not, He would not be sending spouses to these evil people who have their spouses murdered.

This also goes to show that the “equally yoked” teaching as applied to dating and marriage does not work. A guy can attend church regularly and claim to be a Christ-follower – as this guy did – but it amounts to nothing, since he ended up brainwashing his mistress (who was another church goer and also a married parent) into killing his wife.

This news story also shows that broadly practiced by all married Christian men, the Billy Graham Rule is stupid and trash – the BGR often portrays single women as threats to married men, when the reality is most often, that married men seek to have affairs with single women (not the other way around) or with married women.

(Link): Bible-Quoting Husband Recruits Lover To Kill His Wife By Calling The Cold-Blooded Shooting ‘God’s Plan’

Excerpts:

The cold-blooded execution of Colorado mother Dianne Hood led to a sordid conspiracy of sex and religious manipulation.

By Joe Dziemianowicz
Jun 13, 2021

After a young mom was gunned down, investigators uncovered a heinous and unholy plot that began at the victim’s own home.

On September 12, 1990, Dianne Hood, a 32-year-old mother of three, had just left a lupus support group at a community center in Colorado Springs, Colorado when the unthinkable occurred. A masked assailant in military garb grabbed Hood’s purse from behind and then shot her.

[Hood’s husband, Brian, convinced his mistress, Jennifer Reali, to murder his wife Dianne Hood, by shooting her twice. The mistress did so by using an antique gun that belonged to her husband]

… It’s standard procedure to consider family members in a murder, but Brian had an alibi. He was home watching the couple’s three kids. A former all-American football player who stood 6-feet-3, Brian didn’t fit the description of the 5-feet-6 shooter. “We didn’t have any real reason to believe that he was involved,” said Ritz.

A day after the shooting, a lead came in thanks to a local business owner. A florist who’d read about Dianne’s murder called police and said that he suspected an employee, Jennifer Reali, a 28-year-old married mother of two, was having an affair with Brian Hood. 

Disturbing Rise in Teenage Boys Demanding Rough Sex and Choking Girls as Young as 12

Disturbing Rise in Teenage Boys Demanding Rough Sex and Choking Girls as Young as 12

I think it’s more imperative than ever now that parents, especially Christian parents, and pastors everywhere, realize how un-Biblical that “Gender Complementarianism” is, how dangerous it is for girls and women, because it’s not based on the Bible, but on secular stereotypes that teach girls and women falsehoods, such as, but not limited to, women are more emotional men, are not rational, that they should always appease men and be submissive.

The opposite of all that Complementarian teaching (which is identical to Codependency) is to teach girls and women that their needs, feelings, and safety matter, it is okay and acceptable for a girl or woman to tell boys and men “no,” and to have boundaries, that a girl’s and woman’s needs and preferences (sexual or otherwise) are just as valid and important as boy’s and men’s – and that girls and women are not responsible for rescuing or fixing troubled boys and men.

Girls and women are not everyone’s free therapists
(this is also a notice to women out there, including female Borderlines and Vulnerable Narcissists, who continually exploit their empathetic women friends and over-rely on them to get their emotional needs met.)

(Link): Major rise in rough sex among teens, such as choking, prompts warning from doctors

Experts warn that the increase is due to rough sex becoming normalized in pop culture, which is made easier by the broad availability of pornography and social media.

(Link): Disturbing rise in teenage boys demanding rough sex and choking girls as young as 12

April 12, 2024
by James Gordon

There is a disturbing rise in the numbers of teenage boys demanding rough sex and choking partners as young as 12, new research revealed.

A recent survey by Dr. Debby Herbenick, known to be one of the foremost researchers on American sexual behavior, questioned 5,000 women anonymously at a ‘major Midwestern university,’ the New York Times reported.

Almost two-thirds of women who responded said they had been choked by a partner during sex – but an even more worryingly statistic emerged: 40 percent were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time choking happened.

During a previous survey, the figure was far fewer at 25 percent (or one in four).

Experts warned that the normalization of rough sex during popular culture, the widespread accessibility of pornography and social media are driving this trend.

Pastor Sends Sickening Text Messages to 15-Year-Old Girl After ‘Giving her Alcohol and Raping Her In Church and Telling Her that He Prefers Her to ‘Pass Out After the Assault’ Not Before

Pastor Sends Sickening Text Messages to 15-Year-Old Girl After ‘Giving her Alcohol and Raping Her In Church and Telling Her that He Prefers Her to ‘Pass Out After the Assault’ Not Before

This is just beyond deviant. This guy is a POS.

(Link): Florida pastor, 62, accused of giving 15-year-old girl ‘spiked’ drink, sexually assaulting her at church

Excerpts:

Monte Chitty, 62, is pastor at First Baptist Church in Marathon, Florida

By Stephen Sorace
Published March 7, 2024

A 62-year-old pastor in Florida was arrested after he allegedly gave a 15-year-old girl a spiked beverage and sexually assaulted her in the library of a church, authorities said Monday.

An anonymous caller reported overhearing a teen girl telling an adult that she had been raped, according to the Monroe County Sheriff’s Office. The caller said the girl and her grandmother had boarded a dinghy and headed out into the harbor.

…The girl accused Chitty of giving her alcohol that she believed was “spiked” with something that made her feel weak and lose consciousness. She told deputies that when she woke up, Chitty was molesting her.

(Link): Pastor sends sickening text messages to 15-year-old girl after ‘giving her alcohol and raping her telling her that he prefers her to ‘pass out after the assault’ not before

March 6, 2024
by Ruth Bashinsky

A Florida pastor raped a 15 year-old girl whose drink he’d spiked, then texted her to say: ‘I prefer you pass out after I play not before’, cops allege.

Monte Lavelle Chitty, 62, a pastor at First Baptist Marathon in Marathon, Florida, allegedly sexually assaulted the minor on the couch in the church’s library on Sunday.

He was arrested Monday morning on multiple charges including, sexual battery of a minor, lewd and lascivious behavior and contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

Florida Woman, Her Boyfriend, and Her Son Allegedly Live-Streamed Child Rape for Paying Perverts Online Over Many Years

Florida Woman, Her Boyfriend, and Her Son Allegedly Live-Streamed Child Rape for Paying Perverts Online Over Many Years

Motherhood does not make people being more loving, kind, ethical, or godly.

(Link): Florida woman, her boyfriend, and her son allegedly live-streamed child rape for paying perverts online over many years

Excerpts:

Florida woman, her boyfriend, and her son allegedly live-streamed child rape for paying perverts online over many years

by CARLOS GARCIA
MARCH 08, 2024

Florida police say that a woman, her boyfriend, and her son sexually assaulted children and streamed the abuse live online for others to watch.

Investigators said a four-month-long investigation and an FBI raid at a Boca Racon home led to the arrest of 38-year-old Walquiria Cassini, her 20-year-old son Matthew Cassini, and her 38-year-old boyfriend Ryan Londono.

Cassini is charged with sexually abusing two children, including abuse of a 10-year-old that began when he was 5 years old. The other child was 9 years old when the abuse allegedly began. She is also charged with criminal conspiracy and cruelty to a child.

An arrest warrant said FBI found tripods, ring cameras, and other evidence used in live-streaming the abuse videos. They said that they accepted payment through a Venmo account.

Dear Abby: My Terminally Ill Wife is Cheating on Me — I Want to Leave But I Can’t

Dear Abby: My Terminally Ill Wife is Cheating on Me — I Want to Leave But I Can’t

Just because you have a terminal illness doesn’t make adultery any less a sin.

So, this married woman is having an affair with a married man who has children with his wife.

Often, Christians wrongly assume that single, women adults are fornicating horn dogs who run around tempting married men into the sack, when, in reality, married people prey on other married people.

Also, reminder: marriage and parenthood do not improve people or make them more ethical, mature, loving, godly, or responsible.

Usually, I’m in support of one spouse staying with another one who is sick or dying, but considering the terminally sick wife is having an on-going affair with another man…
I think this guy is wasting his time with this woman. She is taking advantage of him. Her having a terminal illness doesn’t change my view of this situation.

(Link): Dear Abby: My terminally ill wife is cheating on me — I want to leave but I can’t

April 7, 2024

DEAR ABBY: 
My wife and I have known each other for 25 years. We married five years ago.

At that time, I was making 500-mile round trips twice a month to visit my children from my first marriage. I was, and still am, crazy about her. 

However, two years ago, my wife admitted to a long-term romantic affair with a married man who has two children.

She also admitted that she was waiting for him to leave his wife, and that he was waiting for her to leave me before moving in and eventually moving away together, and perhaps marrying. 

Shortly after this came out, she became critically ill.

She requires 24-hour care, and I have been at her side, monitoring her health and taking her blood pressure.

Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why. by D. C. Gaze

Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why. by D. C. Gaze

(Link): Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why.

Excerpts:

March 31, 2024
by David C. Gaze

Sex has many beneficial physical and psychological effects…

But there’s a dark side: people sometimes die during or shortly after sex. The incidence is, thankfully, extremely low and accounts for 0.6 percent of all cases of sudden death.

 There are many reasons why this happens to people. In most cases, it is caused by the physical strain of the sexual activity, or prescription drugs (drugs to treat erectile dysfunction, for example), or illegal drugs, such as cocaine – or both.

 The risk of any sudden cardiac death is higher as people age. A forensic postmortem study from Germany of 32,000 sudden deaths over a 33-year period found that 0.2 percent of cases occurred during sexual activity. …

Not just the middle-aged men
Recently, however, researchers at St George’s, University of London, found that this phenomenon is not just limited to middle-aged men.

Naked Man ‘Took Advantage of Planet Fitness Transgender Locker Room Policy’ to Parade His Genitalia in Ladies’ Locker Room and Ask Teen Girls and Women to ‘Shower With Him Then Rub Lotion’ On Him

Naked Man ‘Took Advantage of Planet Fitness Transgender Locker Room Policy’ to Parade His Genitalia in Ladies’ Locker Room and Ask Teen Girls and Women to ‘Shower With Him Then Rub Lotion’ On Him

And this is why it is dangerous, wrong, and dumb to allow men who say they “feel like” women, who claim to be transgender, to have access to women’s areas, such as changing rooms at gyms.

It’s not rocket science to figure out a lot of sexually deviant men will exploit stupid progressive LGBT values, perspectives, and rules to molest, harass, or rape girls and women.

Another article I read about this same news story says that one of the targets of this disgusting deviant was a 17 year old girl – not a grown adult woman, but a teen.

(Link): Naked man ‘took advantage of Planet Fitness transgender locker room policy’ to parade his genitalia in ladies’ locker room and ask women to ‘shower with him then rub lotion on his back’

April 11, 2024

A naked man reportedly took advantage of Planet Fitness’s transgender locker room policy to parade his genitalia around the ladies’ facilities and be inappropriate towards women.

Christopher Allan Miller, 38, was arrested on Thursday for going into the women’s locker room at a Planet Fitness gym in Gastonia, North Carolina.

Miller claimed to be a woman in order to enter the female facilities, but there is no indication that he identified as a transgender woman prior to the incident and his Planet Fitness membership lists him as a male. He also has a beard.

The gym’s policy allows members to use whichever bathroom and locker room that aligns with the gender they identify as as part of the no-judgement motto.

The rule that has sparked a wave of backlash against the gym and has prompted customers to threaten the establishment with boycotts and a $400 million loss in value after multiple incidents in which the transgender policy has been abused.

Gym-goers are concerned about the policy and believe Miller abused the policy as a way to act inappropriately towards female customers, WSOC-TV reported.

Allegations claim that Miller got completely naked in the locker room and even asked a woman to rub lotion on him and shower together.

Long Term Couple: We Were Swingers for 10 Years But Gave Up Because of Cruel Comments

Long Term Couple: We Were Swingers for 10 Years But Gave Up Because of Cruel Comments

When you’re single, celibate, or, you’re in a relationship but have decent morals, this will never happen to you…

(Link): We were swingers for 10 years but gave up because of cruel comments

Excerpts:

by Sarah Hooper
January 22, 2024

A couple who enjoyed swinging for years are now campaigning for clubs and websites to be shut down.

Elvis Sharps, 43, and his partner Tracy Doncaster of Chandlers Ford, Hampshire, said they received death threats and derogatory comments.

For the uninitiated, swinging involves married or long-term couples having sex with other people’s partners.

Elvis and Tracy began the practice more than a decade ago but have since stopped and are campaigning for some clubs and websites to be shut for good.

They said: ‘We got a lot of abuse from the first time we did it, with people calling us fat, saying we look like mother and son. People were judging us by our looks.

Former Christian School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

Former School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

Marriage does not improve people. Marriage does not make people more godly, ethical, compassionate, or mature – nor does is fix what is wrong with society. Being married did not keep this couple from sexually abusing a kid:

(Link):  Former School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

David and Rachel Wakefield have been indicted on multiple counts of sexual abuse

By Liam Quinn

Published on March 4, 2024

A former Oregon Christian school principal and his wife, a teacher, are accused of sexually abusing a girl over a period of four years.

David Alan Wakefield, 60, and Rachel Jean Wakefield, 54, were indicted on numerous counts of sex abuse on Feb. 20, the Clackamas County Sheriff announced. David is facing 20 charges and Jean is facing 11.

 The victim, who is now an adult, was 14 when the alleged abuse began, authorities say.