Christian Woman Married Christian Man She Meet Via Dating Site Who Tried to Murder Her After Their Divorce – Spotting Those Cluster B Red Flags

Christian Woman Married Christian Man She Meet Via Dating Site Who Tried to Murder Her After Their Divorce – Spotting Those Cluster B Red Flags

I am watching an episode of the true crime program “Evil Lives Here,” one which first aired in 2023. The tv guide blurb for this episode reads:

Sara Pitcher thinks Shawn Spink is a man of God, but she’ll soon endure three-and-a-half hours of pure terror to save herself from the darkness within him; police believe Sara’s survival is a miracle – even so, her life will never be the same

The woman in this true crime episode, Sara Pitcher, is a Christian, and she indicated at the top of the episode that when she was looking for a boyfriend or husband on a dating site, she was very clear about what she was looking for – she seemed to suggest she would only date or marry another Christian.

So, she meets Shawn Spink on this site, and they got to know one another. She said he seemed to be a genuinely good guy who really loved God, and she said he knew the Bible well.

When they were thinking about getting married, she wanted a church wedding, so the church required them to get pre-marital counseling at their church, so they met with a counselor.

During this meeting, Sara says (this is my paraphrase of what she said) that Shawn was acting belligerent, he was talking over her, he would speak up and correct her in front of the counselor and say, “that never happened, here’s what happened…”

At one point, Shawn excused himself briefly to use the bathroom, leaving Sara alone with the counselor, who advised her that she should not marry Shawn. Sara rationalized away the counselor’s concerns and continued to date Shawn and consider marriage to him.

Sara says she and Shawn started praying together, attending church together, and reading the Bible together.

There again, notice – this guy she was dating and planning on marrying, Shawn, gave off all the external signs that he must be a Christian. A true Christian. A real Christian.

But he ended up being abusive to her – keep reading, as I’ll get into that later.

I already spotted several red flags before they got around ten or so minutes into the show.

Her now ex husband, Spink, displayed some classic Cluster B personality traits.

A lot of Cluster B disordered or traited persons, whether they are Sociopaths, Narcissists, or BPDs or whatever else (there’s also Psychopathy and HPD), will try to rush you into a relationship or some other huge commitment (like moving in together or having children together) at a very fast pace.

(Once they have you in that committed space, their behavior will often change, and they will become physically, sexually, financially, and/or physically abusive. It may start out as controlling behavior before it escalates.)

And that is exactly what happened in this story – Sara says they “moved fast.”

They went to church regularly, but, his now ex wife said on this show, “he didn’t live that out in his daily life.”

They eventually got married.

When a worker guy stopped by their house to repair something and then left, Shawn asked Sara about it, she replied it was the worker guy there to fix something in their house, Shawn got angry at her, and told her to never invite another man into their house, not even repair guys.

The way this incident was described on the show, Shawn’s anger about it came across as borne of jealousy, paranoia, and it was an over-reaction. No man should be that upset about his wife having a repair guy into the house to fix whatever in the house.

He later engaged in marital rape. He forced himself on her sexually.

Sara found a black punching bag Shawn put in the basement of their home where he had painted her name, “Sara” in white letters on it (the TV show displayed a photo of this).

She asked him about it, and he said he would never actually hit her – he’d rather hit the bag than hit her.

That was just plain weird and troubling. If your husband puts up a punching bag in your house with your name painted on it, he’s sending you a message – and it’s not a loving, normal message.

This guy became more controlling and abusive after they married, and some of  his other behavior became a little more irrational and strange, in other words.

This is also very common of Cluster B persons.
Once they have you trapped in a relationship that is tougher to dissolve or get out of, because you are married, or they’ve socially isolated you, or you’re financially dependent on them, that is when the abuse starts or escalates. Many of them are paranoid, easily jealous, and very controlling.

After awhile – she either separated from him or divorced, she moved out, he tracked her down and tried to suffocate her with a trash bag. He stabbed her face through the trash bag; he was trying to stab her through her eye but missed.

I will include a few links below about this news story.

I personally feel that the “equally yoked” rule as applied to dating and marriage is a waste of time for Christian single adults, especially for women.

I’ve got other examples on my blog of Christian single women who meet purportedly single Christian men in churches or on dating sites, and these Christian men end up being pedophiles or abusive.

You’re better off marrying a kind-hearted, moral, Non-Christian man than a man who professes Christ, even one who attends church regularly and who knows and can quote the Bible, who will end up abusing you, raping you, and trying to murder you by suffocating you with a trash bag.

There are more comments and resources below this link and excerpts:

(Link):  Arizona man who assaulted, stabbed ex-wife sentenced to life in prison

Excerpts:

Prosecutors argued had Sara not fought for 3.5 hours, she would have been killed and she deserves to live the rest of her life without looking over her shoulder.

August 2022

PHOENIX — Sara Pitcher will never look at trash bags the same. It’s been nearly four years since Shawn Spink, her ex-husband, tried to suffocate her with one.

The trash bag was just one of many weapons he used on that September day back in 2018. Another was the knife Pitcher bought him on their wedding day.

“I can still hear the crunching of the knife going into my skull,” Pitcher said.

Father Sentenced to Prison For Trying to Kill His Two Week Old Daughter with Anti-Freeze in Breastmilk Because He Didn’t Want to Pay Child Support

Father Sentenced to Prison For Trying to Kill His Two Week Old Daughter with Anti-Freeze in Breastmilk Because He Didn’t Want to Pay Child Support

Parenthood does not make men or women more ethical, loving, responsible, godly or mature, so my fellow conservatives can stop presenting it as such, and also stop telling single and childless adults that they’re selfish or failed in some way for not being married with children.

(Link): Georgia man who added antifreeze into breast milk for newborn daughter sentenced to prison

Excerpts:

Curtis Jack was booked into the Fulton County Jail early Friday to serve his 50-year prison sentence

 By Elizabeth Pritchett / Fox News
April 12, 2024

A Georgia father was sentenced to 50 years in prison after a Fulton County jury found him guilty of poisoning breast milk for his newborn daughter with antifreeze.

Curtis Jack, who was charged with felony criminal attempt to commit murder and felony first-degree cruelty to children, was found guilty on all counts, the South Fulton Police Department said Thursday evening.

He was sentenced to 50 years in prison with 40 years to serve in custody.

Mother Charged with Murdering Five-Year-Old Daughter was Previously Charged with Neglect After Cops Found Kids in ‘Repulsive Living Conditions’

Mother Charged with Murdering Five-Year-Old Daughter was Previously Charged with Neglect After Cops Found Kids in ‘Repulsive Living Conditions’

Motherhood does not make women more mature, loving, ethical, responsible, or godly, another example below.

(Link):  Mother charged with murdering five-year-old daughter was previously charged with neglect after cops found kids in ‘repulsive living conditions’ – as heartbroken family slam Indiana child services

April 14, 2024
by Stephen M. LePore

An Indianapolis woman, her boyfriend, and her mother have all been arrested in connection with the ‘horrific’ death of the woman’s five-year-old daughter.

On Tuesday, police were called to a report of an unresponsive child at around 5:15pm.

Authorities say they found five-year-old Kinsleigh Welty looking malnourished and thin with sunken eyes and with feces on her feet and in her hair when she was found.

They took her to a local hospital, where she was pronounced dead. The hospital she was taken to said she weighed more at two-and-a-half years old than at five.

The girl’s mother, 29-year-old Toni McClure and her live-in boyfriend, 27-year-old Ryan Smith, were both arrested for child neglect resulting in death, with McClure given a murder charge.

On Friday, 53-year-old Tammy Halsey – Kinsleigh’s grandmother – was taken into custody for neglect of a dependent.

Her death is being investigating by local child abuse detectives and workers for the Indiana Department of Child Services.

IMPD Chief Chris Bailey called the death ‘horrific,’ as court documents reveal that McClure has had past issues.

In December 2018, McClure had gone to the hospital with a medical issue as police in Mooresville were called to a home that she lived in with several children.

A one-year-old and a baby of just three weeks were discovered with completely full diapers while the kids ran and crawled around a floor littered with garbage, dirt and cigarette butts. The toilet had fecal matter that had never been cleaned off.

Former Christian School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

Former School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

Marriage does not improve people. Marriage does not make people more godly, ethical, compassionate, or mature – nor does is fix what is wrong with society. Being married did not keep this couple from sexually abusing a kid:

(Link):  Former School Principal and Teacher Wife Accused of Sexually Abusing Girl for 4 Years

David and Rachel Wakefield have been indicted on multiple counts of sexual abuse

By Liam Quinn

Published on March 4, 2024

A former Oregon Christian school principal and his wife, a teacher, are accused of sexually abusing a girl over a period of four years.

David Alan Wakefield, 60, and Rachel Jean Wakefield, 54, were indicted on numerous counts of sex abuse on Feb. 20, the Clackamas County Sheriff announced. David is facing 20 charges and Jean is facing 11.

 The victim, who is now an adult, was 14 when the alleged abuse began, authorities say.

10-Year-Old Saves His Toddler Brother From Mother Trying to Throw Him in Hot Oven as ‘Punishment for Not Finding Alcohol’: Police

10-Year-Old Saves His Toddler Brother From Mother Trying to Throw Him in Hot Oven as ‘Punishment for Not Finding Alcohol’: Police

Yay on the big brother for saving his kid brother! Boo hiss on the mother for trying to kill the little kid by tossing him in an oven.

This goes to show that motherhood doesn’t make people more godly, responsible, loving, or ethical.

(Link): 10-year-old saves his toddler brother from mother trying to throw him in hot oven as ‘punishment for not finding alcohol’: Police

by Jerry Lambe
February 14, 2024

A 36-year-old mother in Texas accused of abusing her husband and physically and emotionally torturing her children — even trying to put one of them in a hot oven — was arrested this week following a standoff with a SWAT team. Lul N. Top was taken into custody on Monday and charged with six counts of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon, court records reviewed by Law&Crime show.

…Authorities say the investigation into Top began when police on Jan. 8, 2024, were called to the home where she and her family had been living for about a year. The call came after Top allegedly grabbed a piece of wood off a door frame in the home and used it to repeatedly strike her husband while her six children watched in horror. The attack allegedly caused visible injuries to Top’s husband.

The children were removed from the home by Child Protective Services.

Investigators looking into the alleged attack on the husband then interviewed Top’s six children, resulting in additional allegations of physical abuse against Top — the most shocking of which accused her of intentionally trying to roast her 3-year-old child in the oven.

Mom Who Said a Psychotic Break Caused Her to Strangle Her 11 Year Old Son with a Belt Convicted of Murder After Prosecutors Say She Did It to Spite Her Husband

Mom Who Said a Psychotic Break Caused Her to Strangle Her 11 Year Old Son with a Belt Convicted of Murder After Prosecutors Say She Did It to Spite Her Husband

Marriage and parenthood and the Nuclear Family do not cure or rescue society nor make people more godly, ethical, mature, responsible, or loving. Here’s another example below (I have so many more on this blog)

(Link):  Mom Used Belt to Strangle Son, 11, Claiming She Didn’t Want Him to Face Financial Struggles

A Pennsylvania mother was convicted of murder after she strangled her son to death so he wouldn’t have to grow up with financial struggles.

by Liam Quin
Feb 16, 2024

…Matthew’s father called 911 after he noticed the door to the primary bedroom was locked and the family’s Toyota Highlander was missing. Police found Matthew’s body in the bedroom, where he’d fallen asleep with his mother, the district attorney’s office said.

The boy had ligature marks on the front and rear of his neck, his face was swollen and with petechiae to his eyes, authorities said.

… Before his death, Matthew was a sixth-grader at Germantown Academy.

(Link): Mom who said a psychotic break caused her to strangle her son with a belt convicted of murder after prosecutors say she did it to spite her husband

by Alberto Luperon
Feb 15, 2024

A Pennsylvania judge did not buy a mother’s mental health defense, instead convicting her on Thursday of murdering her 11-year-old son.

Ruth DiRienzo-Whitehead, 51, strangled young Matthew Whitehead by using his father’s belt at their home in Horsham Township on April 10, 2023. She then took her Toyota Highlander SUV some 120 miles south to the shoreline of Cape May, New Jersey, leaving it partially submerged. She was arrested in nearby Wildwood Crest, also on the Jersey Shore.

Day Care Worker Arrested on Child Porn Charges in Same Probe Involving Ex-Democrat Transgender State Lawmaker by D. Wallace

Day Care Worker Arrested on Child Porn Charges in Same Probe Involving Ex-Democrat Transgender State Lawmaker by D. Wallace

Yes, sexual predators are in all political parties, Republicans and Democrats, and I’m sure Libertarians too.

So tired of the “Exvangelical” and woke, progressive doofuses on social media who spend all their days pearl clutching or in outrage mode over Trump’s “grab ’em by the pussy” comment and over various evangelicals who get arrested for kid diddling, but they never want to pay attention to the Democrats, liberals, and progressives who are doing the SAME things (or far worse).

On my blog here, I cover stories like this regardless if they’re a progressive, liberal, conservative, Democrat, Republican, Christian, Muslim, Jew, atheist, or whatever they are.

This news story dates from June 2023, but I didn’t see it until 2024. At least, I don’t remember posting about this before – it’s possible I did and forgot about it. There are more and more of these news stories of Democrat, liberal, and progressive deviants who molest children, I am starting to lose track of them.

(Link): Day care worker arrested on child porn charges in same probe involving ex-Democrat transgender state lawmaker

Massachusetts day care worker Lindsay Groves accused of sexually exploiting children after transgender New Hampshire ex-lawmaker Stacie Laughton’s arrest

 By Danielle Wallace Fox News
June 27, 2024

A woman from New Hampshire who worked at a Massachusetts day care was recently accused of taking sexually explicit photos of children and sending them to a former partner in connection to the same investigation that resulted in child pornography charges against a former Democrat New Hampshire state representative who identifies as transgender.

Lindsay Groves, 38, of Hudson, New Hampshire, was charged Thursday with sexual exploitation of children and distribution of child pornography. According to federal investigators, she took nude photos of children at Creative Minds in Tyngsboro, Massachusetts, and texted them to “an individual with whom she was previously in an intimate relationship.”

According to the U.S. Attorney’s Office for the District of Massachusetts, Groves allegedly used natural bathroom breaks for the children – routine diaper/pull-up changes prior to “naptime” – to take multiple photos of the prepubescent children in a private bathroom and then sent the photos to the individual via text message.

Pastor Who Allegedly Hit Kids ‘So Much That He Doesn’t Remember,’ Locked Children in Bathroom for Days Without Food is Arrested with Wife

Pastor Who Allegedly Hit Kids ‘So Much That He Doesn’t Remember,’ Locked Children in Bathroom for Days Without Food is Arrested with Wife

Marriage, contrary to conservative propaganda on the topic (and I’m a conservative, I would know, I hear other conservatives spew this crap constantly) does not improve society, nor does marriage make people more mature, godly, loving, ethical, or responsible – this is yet another example on my bog

(Link): Pastor who allegedly hit kids ‘so much that he doesn’t remember,’ locked children in bathroom for days without food is arrested along with wife

by Jerry Lambe
January 2024

A pastor in Oklahoma and his wife have been arrested for allegedly abusing and neglecting their eight children, beating them with a wooden board and locking them in small rooms for days while depriving them of food and water.

Keith Holt and Candy Holt were taken into custody earlier this month and charged with multiple crimes, court records obtained by Law&Crime show.

Keith Holt is facing three counts of felony child abuse and one count of child neglect while his wife was charged with three counts of enabling child abuse and one count of child neglect.

Police said the couple’s eight children range in age from 2 to 17 years old.

According to a probable cause affidavit, child welfare workers contacted police regarding multiple referrals of the children being physically abused by the Holts, specifically, a 14-year-old female in the home referred to in the document as “T.S.” and a 14-year-old male referred to a “J.C.H.”

Photos allegedly showed the female with severe bruising and a video allegedly showed J.C.H. saying his father had “punched him and thrown him down the stairs.”

Killer Mom Who ‘Intentionally and Systematically’ Tortured Disabled 15-Year-Old Son To Death Gets Life in Prison

Killer Mom Who ‘Intentionally and Systematically’ Tortured Disabled 15-Year-Old Son To Death Gets Life in Prison 

Nothing says motherhood makes women more godly, mature, responsible and loving than a headline about a mother who intentionally tortured her disabled son to death.
(That is sarcasm. The conservatives who shame women for being childless, and who shame married, childless couples for being childless are nuclear family worshipping jack-wagons.)

I hope this “killer mom” gets shivved in prison, the POS.

(Link): Killer mom who ‘intentionally and systematically’ tortured disabled 15-year-old son to death gets life in prison 

By Katherine Donlevy
Jan. 23, 2024

The Michigan mother who starved her disabled teenager to death was sentenced Tuesday to life in prison without the possibility of parole — with a judge ripping into her for the “systemic torture” of the young boy.

Shanda Vander Ark, 44, was found guilty last month in the death of 15-year-old Timothy Ferguson, who weighed just 69 pounds when he was found dead in July 2022 in the glorified closet she forced him to sleep in, wrapped only in a tarp.

“I’ve been trying now for this entire case to wrap my mind around how somebody could do something so horrific, not only to another human being but to their own child,” Judge Matthew Kacel said.

“You intentionally and systematically tortured this child. Let’s call it what it is: It’s torture. You tortured this child … This wasn’t punishment. You weren’t trying to curb his behavior. You tortured him.”

Alabama Pastor Hired Hitman to Murder His Wife in 1989

Alabama Pastor Hired Hitman to Murder His Wife in 1989

Did being married make this pastor more godly, loving, responsible, or ethical? No, it sure did not.

You know what I find weird and sad about this story?
This ain’t the first time a self professing believer in Jesus hired a hitman to bump off his wife, that’s what.

True. I have OTHER news stories on this blog of people (including a few Christians) who killed their spouses, some by hiring hitmen.

There’s one lady who does Bible studies in prison now who shot her husband then stuffed him in a barrel of acid (the medical examiner said he can’t rule out that the husband was still alive when she stuffed him into the barrel).

Meanwhile, jackasses like Matt Walsh and the “trad cons” on social media keep ripping women for being single (and for being single past the age of 25 or 30). I’d rather be never-married at age 30+ then married and murdered by a spouse!

(Link): Alabama CAN put death row inmate to death with nitrogen gas on Jan. 25, judge rules – meaning hit man who murdered pastor’s wife will be first ever American to die by the method

by S. Mann
January 10, 2024

A federal judge has ruled that the state of Alabama will be allowed to put to death a killer later this month using nitrogen gas, a never-before-tried method by the US prison system.

On Wednesday, US District Judge R. Austin Huffaker cleared the way for death row inmate Kenneth Eugene Smith to die by nitrogen gas on January 25.

Smith and his attorneys had previously requested a preliminary injunction on grounds that Alabama is attempting to create a ‘test subject’ out of the prisoner. Huffaker rejected the request.

Smith, who was first convicted in 1989 of killing a local Alabama pastor’s wife in a plot devised by her husband, is working with his attorneys to appeal the decision by Huffaker.

In 2022, Smith, 58, survived the state’s first attempt to kill him via lethal injection when authorities onsite could not connect the two intravenous lines needed to complete the procedure.

The state is planning to use a respirator-like face mask that will go over Smith’s nose and mouth. Breathable air will then be replaced with nitrogen, which will eventually cause death from lack of oxygen.

“I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him

“I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him

Obviously, the Christian advice that you have to achieve some level of perfection before God will grant you a spouse is total bunk. Also: marriage doesn’t make anyone more mature, loving, ethical, responsible, or godly.

(Link): “I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him

by Justin Sandberg

When we think about important things to share in a marriage, trust is such an obvious answer that most folks would move right past it. How can you be in a marriage or even a relationship with someone you don’t trust? But, unfortunately, some people end up revealing their true colors too late.

A woman, despite warning him not to, was the victim of a wedding prank by her (spoiler alert) soon-to-be ex-husband. Bored Panda reached out to Constant-Nebula-1982 via Reddit messenger and will update the story when she gets back to us.

A wedding seems like one of the least appropriate places for a prank

But one woman, despite explicitly telling him no, still ended up pranked at her own wedding

My soon to be ex-husband humiliated me on our wedding day and met his karma instantly.

It has been two days since my wedding day. I had already been with him for 4 years. One year of which I was engaged.

It all started a few months earlier when I noticed my husband Jake watching prank videos. Among other things, these videos showed embarrassing photos of the bride being played on a projector in front of the whole room or the bride’s face being smashed into the cake.

I told him straight away that I didn’t want anything like that at our wedding. He just laughed and said that he wasn’t planning anything like that.
I thought that was the end of it but I kept catching him making strange arrangements with his friends. He suddenly wanted to choose the wedding photographer and the cake.

I thought nothing of it and was just glad that he was helping me with the wedding preparations. Nevertheless, I reminded him the day before that if he did something like that, I would break up with him immediately. When the day of the wedding came, everything went smoothly until the ceremony. Until the moment came when the cake was to be cut.

Dad Who Drowned 3 Kids to Spite Estranged Wife Pleads Guilty: ‘If I Can’t Have Them, Neither Can You’

Dad Who Drowned 3 Kids to Spite Estranged Wife Pleads Guilty: ‘If I Can’t Have Them, Neither Can You’

Parenthood, the Nuclear Family, and Marriage do not make people more godly, loving, responsible and ethical – the Bible says that sin causes a lot of people’s problems, not being single or not being in a Nuclear Family.

(Link):  Jason Karels, 36, who told his wife ‘if I can’t have them neither can you’ before drowning their three kids to be sentenced to LIFE after conviction in heinous murders

December 18, 2023

A Chicago man who told his estranged wife ‘If I can´t have them neither can you’ before drowning their three children in a bathtub pleaded guilty but mentally ill on Friday to three counts of first-degree murder.

Jason Karels, 36, of Round Lake Beach, will be sentenced to life in the Illinois Department of Corrections without the possibility of parole following the plea.

Karels admitted drowning five-year-old Bryant, three-year-old Cassidy and two-year-old Gideon on June 13, 2022.

Round Lake Beach police responded to a call for a welfare check and discovered the lifeless bodies of the kids in their father’s home.

Police recovered a note at the home when they found the children dead that read: ‘If I can´t have them neither can you.’

The children were on a weekend visit at the time, and their mother had planned to pick them up for a doctor’s visit.

Debra was in the process of gaining full custody of the siblings when their father murdered them. Prosecutors say he drowned them one by one. …

(Link): Dad who drowned 3 kids to spite estranged wife pleads guilty: ‘If I can’t have them, neither can you’

By Yaron Steinbuch

An Illinois dad who wrote his estranged wife that “if I can’t have them, neither can you” before murdering their three young children has pleaded guilty to the slayings — though he insists he was suffering from mental illness.

Jason Karels, 36, of Round Lake Beach, will be sentenced to life behind bars without the possibility of parole, Lake County State’s Attorney Eric Rinehart said Friday after the defendant pleaded guilty but mentally ill to three counts of first-degree murder.

Karels admitted drowning 5-year-old Bryant Karels, 3-year-old Cassidy Karels and 2-year-old Gideon Karels in a bathtub on June 13, 2022.