Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

The A&E channel is airing a program about people (mostly women) who have been raped, robbed, or murdered by men they met for dates via dating sites.

From what I gather so far about this program, the show is high lighting that dating sites are not legally responsible for your safety, nor do they care to be, and there are all sorts of crazies and violent people using these dating sites.

By the way, one of the serial rapists mentioned on this show was a married man – so much for the conservative think tank and Christian propaganda that marriage makes people “better” or more responsible and ethical.

(Link): Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story | A&E

(Link): Dating App Horrors – About

(Link): Match.com predator stabbed a woman who dumped him after they dated for just 10 days then drew up a ‘kill list’ and murdered another girlfriend he met online: TV show explores the dark side of finding love on an app

-After Mary Kay Beckman’s partner died, she decided to go on Match.com
-Through the site, she met Wade Ridley and they went on a few dates in 2010
-After 10 days, she decided to stop seeing Ridley and moved on
-In January 2011, Ridley attacked her, stabbed her 10 times and left her for dead
-In February 2011, Ridley murdered Anne Simenson, another woman he met on a dating app
-Beckman’s story is part of an upcoming episode, ‘Dating App Horrors: The Untold Story’

(Link): Georgia woman recalls meeting serial rapist from dating app in doc: ‘He just looked like a normal, nice guy’

by Stephanie Nolasco

Kelly couldn’t have predicted that a clean-cut, charismatic suitor she met on a dating app was a serial rapist living a double life.

Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

The news outlets are focusing on the fact that this is a 47 year old cold case that is now solved.

The police got the guy’s DNA off a coffee cup he threw away, and it matched the DNA on the boots of the victim. That is of course a very interesting aspect of this news story, but I wanted to highlight the portions that are more pertinent to my blog.

First of all, many Christians in Baptist or Protestant denominations and churches (at least when I was growing up in the 1980s, and a bit into the 1990s) would teach that God will only send a Christian a spouse later in life if he or she lived a godly life. That turned out to be a totally false teaching.

Secondly, a lot of Christians taught (and some still teach) that getting married is necessary to make a person mature, godly, ethical, responsible, and a whole host of other qualities.

Some Christians teach that parenthood is also a requirement, that if one never has biological children, one is immature, selfish, un-ethical, irresponsible and cannot know what “true (selfless) love” is. All of those beliefs are also a stinking pile of crap.

As we can see from the many examples on my blog (such as the one I’m sharing in a bit), marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, compassionate, or responsible. God does not refuse to allow awful people to get married.

The guy in the news story (Terrence Miller) raped a 20 year old woman, then shot her in the head, leaving her to die (she died on the way to the hospital – someone found her after the attack and tried to help her.)

If God required single adults to clean themselves up, or to become loving, lovable, or responsible, how oh how do slime balls like the rapist-killer in this news story get married FOUR times?

He obviously was not a paragon of virtue, yet he got married – to four different women. He also had kids with one or two of those women.

Also, secular culture (and some portions of complementarian Christianity) falsely teach that you won’t be able to get a partner if you are physically unattractive.

If you’ve ever seen the TV show “My 600 Pound Life,” you know that’s not true. Unless someone has a fat fetish, most people are not going to find someone over 300+ pounds to be smoking hot. And yet, a lot of the morbidly obses persons on that show do have boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses.

The guy in this story – the killer – looks as though he fell out of an ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, as my mother would say. (Some of the news articles published a photo of him that was taken when he was younger. (Link): this news page has a photo of this ugly deviant.)

He is not a good-looking man by any stretch, yet he managed to marry four times.

Another lesson learned: You don’t have to be incredibly sexy by society’s standards to wrangle a spouse.

(Link): How DNA on coffee cup led to arrest in 1972 rape, murder of woman: Officials

Jody Loomis, 20, was shot in the head on August 23, 1972.

A 77-year-old Washington state man was arrested Wednesday decades after he allegedly killed a 20-year-old woman, and police say he was nabbed through the novel technique of genetic genealogy.

Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

In light of news articles such as this: conservatives need to stop promoting the Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage as being societal fixes. Secondly, Christians need to stop teaching, as some of them do, that marriage (or parenthood) is necessary to develop character in people.

Did marriage or being part of a nuclear family, or being a mother, help the woman in this news story at all? Nope.

(Link): Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police

Excerpts:

by L. Blair

Months after the husband and stepdaughter of beloved Sunday school teacher and professional engineer Jacquelyn Smith claimed she was fatally stabbed by a panhandler, Baltimore police announced Sunday that they have arrested the father-daughter duo for the crime.

Acting Baltimore Police Commissioner Michael Harrison said the late Sunday School teacher’s widower, Keith Smith, 52, and his daughter, Valeria Smith, 28, were arrested by Texas State Police, near the U.S.-Mexico border while trying to flee the country earlier on Sunday, (Link): the Baltimore Sun reported.

Oklahoma Man Crashed His Car Into Adult Novelty Store Then Stole Hundreds of Dollars Worth of Sex Toys and Lingerie by Ella Torres

Oklahoma Man Crashed His Car Into Adult Novelty Store Then Stole Hundreds of Dollars Worth of Sex Toys and Lingerie

(Link): Oklahoma Man Crashed His Car Into Adult Novelty Store Then Stole Hundreds of Dollars Worth of Sex Toys and Lingerie

Feb 19, 2019

One man took joyriding to a new level when he stole hundreds of dollars worth of sex toys and lingerie from an Oklahoma adult novelty store, which he gained entry to by crashing his car into the shop, officials said.

The incident took place around 3 a.m. Monday at Hustler Hollywood in Tulsa, the city’s police department said. However, it wasn’t reported until around 8:45 a.m. when an employee saw the damage.

Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate by K. Allen

Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate by K. Allen

So much for the Christian teaching that marriage is necessary to make people more mature, godly, and ethical.

(Link): Missouri Jail Nurse Allegedly Poisoned Husband, Set House On Fire In Bid to Marry Inmate

Excerpts:

Police charged a jail nurse in Missouri with murder after she allegedly poisoned her husband and tried to cover it up by setting their home on fire — all in a bid to marry an inmate.

Amy Murray was arrested on Thursday in connection with the December death of her husband, Joshua Murray, who she allegedly set on fire and poisoned with antifreeze, according to a probable cause statement.

She allegedly set the couple’s bedroom on fire and left with her 11-year-old son and dogs to go to McDonald’s, according to the statement. As an alibi, Murray said she found the house on fire when she returned and the smoke was too heavy for her to go inside, according to a probable cause statement.

Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

(Link): Man Who Tied Concrete To Wife And Threw Her Off Bridge Gets Life In Prison

Excerpts:

Feb 2, 2019 by AP

FORT WORTH, Texas — A Texas man who admitted to killing his estranged wife by tying a massive chunk of concrete to her and throwing her off a bridge into a lake has been sentenced to life in prison.

Prosecutors in Fort Worth say Rodolfo “Rudy” Arellano pleaded guilty Wednesday to capital murder. He’ll serve life behind bars without chance of parole.

(Link): Texas Mom Killed After Husband Tied Concrete Chunk to Her Neck and Threw Her Off Bridge Into Lake

by Steve Helling

A Texas man pleaded guilty on Wednesday to murder charges after authorities said he tied his wife to a 119-pound block of concrete before throwing her into a lake to drown.

Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

(Link): Vengeful Wife Chopped Off Cheating Husband’s Penis With Kitchen Knife After Battering Him Round Head With Frying Pan

Excerpts:

Feb 2019

Lawyer Udeme Otike-Odibi, 47, a British-Nigerian citizen, is accused of hacking her spouse’s privates off and stuffing them in his hand as she brutally attacked him during a blood splattered frenzy

…Then the dual British-Nigerian citizen allegedly placed his severed manhood in his hand and told him it was “better we cut if off”.

Woman Who Worked As Model Strangled To Death After Refusing To Have Sex With Photographer

Woman Who Worked As Model Strangled To Death After Refusing To Have Sex With Photographer

(Link): Model, 20, ‘strangled to death after refusing to have sex with photographer’Model, 20, ‘strangled to death after refusing to have sex with photographer’

January 2019

Mansi Dixit was hit on the head with a wooden stool and strangled for refusing sex during a photoshoot in Oshiwara, India, it is alleged

A 20-year-old model was killed by an aspiring photographer for saying no to sex, according to reports.

Man Arrested For Killing Family, Stealing $210,000 To Send To Woman He Met on Porn Site

Man Arrested For Killing Family, Stealing $210,000 To Send To Woman He Met on Porn Site

I cannot figure out why other conservatives (including Christians) remain so keen on the whole “Defend the Nuclear Family” shtick, when it’s obvious that nuclear families, parenting, or marriage do not make people more moral, kind, responsible, and all the other things they say it will.

(Link): Man Arrested For Killing Family, Stealing $210,000 To Send To Woman He Met on Porn Site

Excerpts:

Grant Amato said he had argued with his parents over his relationship with the woman and that they told him he could have no contact with her if he wanted to continue living at their home.

January 29, 2018

SANFORD, Fla. — A Florida man killed his parents and brother after he was kicked out of his home and accused of stealing $210,000 from his family to send to a woman he had met on a porn website, according to a sheriff’s office.

Grant Amato, 29, has been charged with three counts of first-degree murder in the deaths of his parents, Chad and Margaret Ann Amato, and brother Cody.

 Seminole County Sheriff’s Office deputies found the victims’ bodies Friday in their Chuluota home after a co-worker reported that Cody Amato had not shown up for work.

Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

I’m still waiting to see examples of how marriage makes people more godly, mature, and responsible, as 99% of conservative Christians and secular and religious conservative think tanks keep claiming.

I keep seeing examples in the news of married people who rape and murder each other, or other people.

(Link): Husband ‘Killed Wife Who Taunted Him About Sex and Left Him For Old School Pal’

David Thomas, 74, told the Old Bailey he struck his wife Sheila’s head at their former matrimonial home in Herne Hill, south London – but he denies murder

17 Jan 2019
By Sam Corbishley

…David Thomas, 74, told jurors he struck Shelia, 69, over the head with a walking stick while in a daze.

He said they had been arguing but denied that he had been lying in wait for his wife to ‘seek revenge.’

Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

So, Lester Winningham murdered Deborah Houchin – I believe this was around the year 2005.

Houchin was in her 50s, she was divorced. After being single for several years after the divorce, she wanted to remarry, her friends said.

So, she joined a dating site or two – I think one news source says she tried “Match .com”.

Houchin went on dates with a lot of men who ended up being creepy or weirdos, until she met Winningham, who seemed to be a great match – he seemed normal and kind. I guess he didn’t give off any red flags, not immediately.

Well, as it turned out, Winningham murdered Houchin.

Prior to that, he proposed marriage, but one of her friends suggested before she accepted, that she get him to sign a pre-nup, because she was financially well-off.

When Houchin brought up wanting a pre-nup with Winningham, he became infuriated, very hostile, and it frightened Houchin; she told one of her friends that he acted like a totally different man.

The police detectives later found out in their research on Winningham that he was broke, and in a lot of debt. He had only wanted to marry Houchin for her money.

Houchin had met Winningham on a dating site.

The kicker to this is that the murderer, Winningham, worked as a marriage counselor!

Sort of reminds me of the blog post I did a few years ago about a husband who had written a marital advice book (on how to have a great marriage) who (Link): shot his wife in her head and killed her.

Here are a few links about this horrible news story:

(Link): Marriage counselor convicted of killing ex-fiance

A marriage counselor was convicted today of fatally shooting his ex-fiance.

 Lester Winningham, 59, faces up to life in prison in the murder conviction. Jurors were expected to begin deliberating his punishment later today.

Winningham, a licensed psychologist, is accused of shooting Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005. During three days of testimony, the jury was told how the couple fought often in the months before her death.

(Link): Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

A marriage counselor was sentenced to life in prison Friday for fatally shooting his ex-fiancee.

Earlier in the day, jurors convicted Lester Winningham, 59, of murder.

Authorities say the licensed psychologist shot Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005.

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

I really do want conservative think tanks, pro-family groups, conservative television host Tucker Carlson, and complementarian or conservative Christians to explain to me how marriage or “the family” makes society better, or how marriage is necessary to make a person mature, godly, or a “true” adult,  when I keep seeing so many news stories of married people who kill each other, or news items about husbands who are caught using child porn, beating their wives, or visiting prostitutes.

Marriage did not do anything to make this woman behave in a godly, mature, kind-hearted nature towards her husband.

I am someone who is over the age of 45, I’ve never been married, and I deeply resent conservative talk show hosts or “pro-family” Christian groups who keep acting as though everyone needs to be married, and if they are not, they are ruining society or are incapable of being godly and mature.

The Bible teaches that being single is fine with God – see 1 Corinthians chapter 7. No where does the Bible teach that marriage is mandatory for any reason – not to “save” culture or to make people more “godly.”

This article says that the wife may have dementia or mental health problems – well, did marriage keep this woman from developing mental health issues? No, it did not.

Christians and conservatives need to stop holding marriage or “the family” up as some kind of magical fix-alls.

(Link): Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

An elderly Florida woman beat her husband to death with a cane on Saturday, police said.

Ramona Maxine Lund, 86, from Pace, is charged with 89-year-old Francis Lund’s murder,the Orlando Sentinel reported. She is the oldest person in the county to be charged with murder, Santa Rosa County Sheriff Bob Johnson said at a press conference Monday.

Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Some Christians insist that single Christian women can and should marry only Christian men.

But why on earth should any Christian woman bother dating or marrying Christian men, when some of them do things like murder other people? See the news coverage below.

(Link): Trial Begins for Preacher Accused in Decapitation of Handyman – 1988

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) _ A minister went on trial Monday on charges of beheading a handyman and burning down his church in an alleged attempt to assume a new identity and disappear with $50,000 in church money.

Jury selection is expected to take most of the week in the first-degree murder and arson trial of the Rev. John David Terry, who faces the death penalty if convicted.

Terry may take the witness stand to break his yearlong silence in the decapitation of James C. Matheny.

The slaying and fire on June 15, 1987, at Emmanuel Church of Christ Pentecostal Oneness stunned Terry’s parishioners. Some have stuck by him since Matheny’s body was found rolled up in a scorched carpet.

(Link): Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death

This week “Grave Secrets” examines the case of Rev. John David Terry, a pastor who took a very dark path indeed.

Nashville, June 16, 1987, and the 44-year-old pastor is found dead after a fire at the church where he preached but the investigation soon reveals something is amiss.

 Terry’s path to crime partly stemmed from his feeling of having failed in life, a feeling he claimed became stronger after his mother died in 1983.

He then hatched a plan to fake his own death and befriended 32-year-old down on his luck father of one James C. Matheny.

He wanted to fake a robbery that would result in his heroic death and claimed that his plan was to include Matheny in the plot.

However, the detectives believe that he lured Matheny to the church and then shot him in the back of the head.

Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

(Link): Woman slain with 2 children, mother was recently widowed

Excerpts:

A suburban St. Louis woman who was killed along with her two children and her mother had started dating her alleged killer after her husband died of cancer

Dec 2018

The man accused of killing a suburban St. Louis woman, her children and her mother began dating the woman as she rebuilt her life following her husband’s death from cancer.

Serial Rapist Used Job As Photographer to Drug and Attack Male Models

Serial Rapist Used Job As Photographer to Drug and Attack Male Models

(Link): Nigel Wilkinson: Drug rape photographer guilty of more attacks

(Link): Convicted rapist Nigel Wilkinson revealed he had ‘many more victims’ to prison inmate, court hears

(Link): Rapist photographer who preyed on male models ‘liked robbing their masculinity’

(Link): Serial Rapist Used Job As Photographer to Drug and Attack Male Models

Excerpts:

December 18, 2018

A serial rapist used his job as a fitness photographer to ‘lure men to his house where he drugged and raped them’. Nigel Wilkinson, 45, was found guilty of nine offences against six men at court today.

He was jailed for 11 and a half years in 2016 after admitting two counts of rape and three counts of administering a substance with intent to rape.

Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

(Link): Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

March 2017

ABINGDON, Va. –A Galax man accused of killing a woman and her daughter will serve 60 years in federal prison on child pornography charges.

Richard Nofsinger, 37, previously pleaded guilty to three counts of producing child pornography. On Tuesday, in a United States District Court, Judge James P. Jones sentenced Nofsinger to 60 years in federal prison.

Nofsinger is also charged with first-degree murder in the deaths of Galax resident 28-year-old Alyssa Kenny and her 21-month-old daughter. He has not yet gone to trial on those charges, according to WDBJ.

The mother and daughter were found dead inside their home on Laurel Street in Galax on March 10. The town of Galax is located off Interstate 77, near the Virginia-North Carolina line.

Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women (Many of Whom Are Married Yet Very Lonely)

Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women (Many of Whome Are Married Yet Very Lonely)

We have a problem with this in the U.S.A. as well (i.e, adults feeling lonely, including senior citizens), but American churches are fixated on “The Nuclear Family,” rather than doing what the Bible tells them to do: cater to the out-cast and ignored: the widows, the orphans, never-married adults who live alone, and all the rest of those who do NOT fit the “Married with Kids at Home” demographic.

But notice that some of the women described in this article are in fact married – some even have adult children.

So, does marriage make people more godly, and responsible, as American Christians claim? No. Marriage does not make anyone immune from being sinful and committing crimes.

Does being married or having children mean you’re going to have company and never feel lonely all the days of your life? No, because the married mothers in this article say they feel neglected, ignored, and misunderstood, even by their own husbands and children.

(Link): Japan’s Prisons Are a Haven for Elderly Women

Excerpts:

Dec 2018

Lonely seniors are shoplifting in search of the community and stability of jail.
By Shiho Fukada

Every aging society faces distinct challenges. But Japan, with the world’s oldest population (27.3 percent of its citizens are 65 or older, almost twice the share in the U.S.), has been dealing with one it didn’t foresee: senior crime.

Complaints and arrests involving elderly people, and women in particular, are taking place at rates above those of any other demographic group. Almost 1 in 5 women in Japanese prisons is a senior.

Their crimes are usually minor — 9 in 10 senior women who’ve been convicted were found guilty of shoplifting.

 Why have so many otherwise law-abiding elderly women resorted to petty theft? Caring for Japanese seniors once fell to families and communities, but that’s changing. From 1980 to 2015, the number of seniors living alone increased more than sixfold, to almost 6 million.

And a 2017 survey by Tokyo’s government found that more than half of seniors caught shoplifting live alone; 40 percent either don’t have family or rarely speak with relatives.

Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

Well, if you’re single, your chances are high you’re not going to have to deal with any of this. If you’re a celibate guy, you’re not likely to have any Viagara around, nor a girlfriend who’s going to kill you.

(Link): Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

The 62-year-old known only as Silvia M slipped her boyfriend sleeping pills so he would “be quiet and go to sleep”

A wife accidentally killed her 73-year-old partner after giving him sleeping pills because she couldn’t keep up with his high sex drive.

Missouri Woman Clubs Boyfriend, Sits On His Face For Refusing Oral Sex

Missouri Woman Clubs Boyfriend, Sits On His Face For Refusing Oral Sex

Sometimes I see news stories, and I think to myself, “People make poor decisions in life.” This is one of those times.

Regarding her mug shot: this is not an attractive woman. She’s rather unattractive and a wacko – women like this get boyfriends, but not me.

(Link): Missouri Woman Clubs Boyfriend, Sits On His Face For Refusing Oral Sex

Excerpts:

By Natalie Musumeci
Dec 6, 2018

A “very violent” mohawked Missouri woman clobbered her live-in lover as she demanded he perform oral sex on her, the victim and authorities said.

Amy Nicole Parrino, 43, was busted on charges of domestic assault and sexual abuse for the Sunday night incident that occurred at Parrino and the man’s Boone County home, according to a probable cause affidavit obtained by The Smoking Gun.

Woman Arrested AGAIN for Battering Man who Declined to Have Sex with Her…

Woman arrested AGAIN for battering man who declined to have sex with her…

It’s usually men who react violently to sexual rebuffs or dating rejection, but in this case it’s a woman.

(Link): Woman arrested AGAIN for battering man who declined to have sex with her… 

Second time Floridian, 31, busted after sex advances were spurned

November 2018

NOVEMBER 26–A Florida Woman battered her boyfriend after he “said no and went back to bed” after she “grabbed his genitals wanting to have sex” on Thanksgiving night, cops say.

Rebecca Lynn Phelps, 31, was arrested for domestic battery following a confrontation in the Tampa-area home she shares with the victim and the couple’s child.