Romantic Relationships Turn Off Women More Than Men by Bella DePaulo

Romantic Relationships Turn Off Women More Than Men by Bella DePaulo

(Link): Romantic Relationships Turn Off Women More Than Men

Excerpts:

Women with previous romantic partners are more likely to want to stay single.

Updated April 3, 2024

Marriage and romantic relationships are relentlessly celebrated in the US and other nations. In popular culture, romantic plots are ubiquitous. Characters who love being single and want to stay single – I call them “single at heart” – are rare. …

[Previous studies have shown that more people are not interested in obtaining romantic relationships]

… How Previous Romantic Relationship Experience Matters in Opposite Ways for Men and Women

…For those who did have previous romantic relationship experience, the results were exactly the opposite. Women were more likely than the men to say that having a romantic partner was not at all important.

Among those who had previous romantic relationship experience, but had never been married, more than 40 percent of the women said that having a romantic partner was not at all important, compared to just over 20 percent of the men who said the same thing.

Among those who had previously been married, more than half of the women (about 55 percent) said that having a romantic partner was not at all important, compared to just over 30 percent for the men

Another way to think about the findings is this: For the heterosexual men, if they have romantic relationship experience, they are more likely to want more; for the women, if they have romantic relationship experience, they are less likely to want more. In fact, for the women who were previously married, more than half say that having a romantic partner is not at all important. …

[The article concludes by mentioning that more than 1 in 4 heterosexual, American adults have never had a romantic relationship at all, and they feel self conscious or bad about it, but the authors want to reassure you there’s nothing wrong with having no romantic relationship experience]

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I was engaged to be married when I was in my early to mid 30s, and that relationship did not bring me happiness.

You can be in a serious, long term, romantic relationship with someone, but if the person you’re in the relationship with is abusive or incredibly self absorbed or has some other on-going issue, you will not be happy in the relationship – you won’t be getting your needs met.

There’s little point in being in a romantic relationship if it’s not stable and bringing you some kind of joy in life.

You will be happier and more content single than in a relationship with a crummy partner.

That can be hard to believe or accept if you’re single and wanted to be married but are still single, but it is true – this is something you will begin to see and really take to heart as you get older.

You’ll start seeing your friends – who married from the ages of 25 – 35 – get divorced as you and they get into their 40s and 50s, and some of them may confide in you that the guy they married when they were 25 or 32 was a serial cheater, or he was verbally abusive or what not – and you’ll realize that their marriage wasn’t a romantic fairy tale that brought them peace and joy.

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  1. I’m a guy a I quit dating ten years ago and honestly don’t miss it. I just put it in God’s hands and will let Him put someone in my life if He decides to put someone there. Otherwise, I’m fine. Single is way better than much of what I’ve experienced.

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