Dear Abby – She Wants A Divorce From the Husband Who Hid His Vulnerable Narcissism (Emotional Abuse, Extreme Pessimism, Victim Mentality, etc) While They Were Dating

Dear Abby – She Wants A Divorce From the Husband Who Hid His Vulnerable Narcissism (Emotional Abuse, Extreme Pessimism, Victim Mentality, etc) While They Were Dating

What an interesting and informative letter to Dear Abby (I’ll get to the actual link and letter below, but I had some comments to make about it first).

It appears to me that the woman (who calls herself “Worn Out Wife”) married a classical Vulnerable Narcissist (sometimes also called a “Covert Narcissist” or a “shy” or “closeted” narcissist). The guy has all the usual traits for one.

From what I’ve read on the topic, when Narcissists of all varieties date someone, or are trying to win someone over (could also include a friend or co-worker, not just a romantic prospect for marriage), they start out trying to win you over – they will use what is called “love bombing,” mirroring, etc., and in the love bombing stage, they turn up the charm and fake compassion and fake kindness to a very high degree.

Narcissists of all types lack empathy, are highly entitled, rude, and abusive in private with those closest to them. (Well, that’s generally how it goes; not all narcissists exhibit or practice the same usual narcissistic patterns or behaviors as other narcissists.)

“Love Bombing” can appear different depending on the type of Narcissist we’re talking about, and sometimes a Narcissist with one predominant style – a Grandiose one, for example – may dabble in a few of the Covert Narcissistic type behaviors, or vice versa.

The Grandiose ones are known for being really charming upfront, while the love bombing of the Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissist usually involves them playing on and exploiting your empathy and heart strings by presenting themselves as a great big victim in life, whom everybody has hurt or let down at one time or another.

Early in a relationship (whether dating, friendship, or workplace) Vulnerable Narcissists will go on and on about all the heartaches and set backs they’ve experienced from their childhood into adulthood – they therefore get you to pity them and want to help, rescue, and save them – and at least initially in a relationship, the Vulnerable Narcissist will pretend to care deeply about your heartbreaks and pain in life.

(But Vulnerable Narcissists don’t really, truly care about your feelings or your problems – they only pretend to care in order to draw you into a relationship, and some do this to get you to share YOUR personal problems with them, so they can weaponize your shame, regrets, and vulnerabilities against you later.
They may occasionally pretend to care as a relationship drags on, if they are interested in holding on to you, so they may toss you the occasional “crumb” of empathy. But they don’t have any empathy for you and don’t genuinely care about your pain or problems).

(Getting you to pity and feel sorry for them also causes you to lower any normal boundaries you may usually have, and you let this toxic person into your life. Sociopaths and psychopaths also play at this same game.)

It sounds to me like this woman’s husband is predominantly a Vulnerable type of Narcissist but that he used more of the usual Love Bombing techniques of a Grandiose one while he was dating this lady.

Once they got married, though, he didn’t feel the need, or have the energy, to keep maintaining the false mask of “Mr. Charming,” “Mr. Sensitive, Mr. Kindness,” chucked all that aside, and only THEN (once he had her) allowed his true Vulnerable Narcissistic nature to appear,
which consists of a super sour, pessimistic, bitter, “negative nancy” attitude, with a huge side order of victim mentality, along with common Vulnerable Narcissistic behaviors of constantly complaining, joy killing, and constant fault finding (of a spouse, or whomever is closest to them privately).

And yes, as this woman says of her husband – he’s miserable – Vulnerable Narcissists are usually miserable people.

Vulnerable Narcissists truly, honestly think they have life harder than other people, they believe that God “picks on them” specifically, they believe that others haven’t had as many obstacles in life as they have had, they further believe that if only God, or people, had given them more chances and breaks in life, they could’ve been more successful.

Vulnerable Narcissists also tend to be jealous of other people – other people’s success, homes, marriages, beauty, achievements, etc.

Another thing I learned about Vulnerable Narcissists from reading works by psychologists who specialize in Narcissism is that they will only show interest in, or want to talk about, topics that are of interest to them personally.

If you try to bring up a topic that you’re “into,” but that the Vulnerable Narcissist is not, they find that boring and will usually ignore you and not have anything to say. They will either fade away, leave the room, or try to pivot the conversation on to a topic that they are interested in.

Vulnerable Narcissists only get interested and animated regarding topics that they’re already interested in themselves.

I certainly experienced that dynamic with (Link): an online ex-friend who seemed to be on the Vulnerable Narcissist spectrum (she also exhibited some of their other well known traits). I’ve also known a few other people in my life who’ve had the same, or similar, behaviors.

And no, no matter how hard you try to make the Vulnerable Narcissist happy, it’s never good enough.

Whether it’s with a Covert or a Grandiose, no matter how hard you try to win them over, make them happy, or appease or please them, they will always find something to nit pick about and criticize. They will sometimes move the goal posts, so you can never, ever win.

In her letter, the lady says this:

He has taken the things away from me that I love — flowers, gardening, pets, books, friends, etc.

I wish the letter writer had elaborated on that portion a little more, because I’m not totally sure what she means.

I have a few Narcissists in my own life, and I do know that once they find out what your hobbies are, or a goal or dream you have, they will mock it and make fun of it to the point (and the Vulnerable Narcissists may complain about it to the point) that you get rid of those hobbies, dreams, or goals.

You may find it easier to cave in to their wish that you stop doing X (whatever X is) then to listen to your Vulnerable Narcissist husband, boyfriend, sibling, or whomever it is, bitch, moan and gripe about the same thing repeatedly (whether it’s doing X or having a pet in the house or whatever it is),
until their non-stop complaining about it drives you nuts, and so you will do anything to get them to shut the hell up, to stop the complaining about it (I also went through that with the ex fiance of mine).

I’m not sure if that is what the letter writer was getting at or not.

Lastly, people should stop blaming women for marrying abusive or controlling men.

I’ve seen so many Christian preachers victim-blame women who write in for advice on Christian television shows (or podcasts, magazines, or blogs) on what to do about their abusive marriage, and many preachers will shame the woman and say,
“Didn’t you see what kind of man he was before you married? You should have. Now you’re stuck with him.”

The problem is that a lot of abusive people (including women, not just men) HIDE their true abusive natures while they’re dating.

This is also true in other areas. That is to say, if someone is a pathological Narcissist, they’re usually not going to advertise their Narcissistic attitudes and behaviors openly at church, friendships, or in jobs – they will only reveal their nasty behavior in private around a few select targets,
or, if they’re the leader in a church or boss at a job, where they know they are immune from consequences, they may openly emotionally and verbally abuse their staff, for instance.

But concerning marriage, most abusers conceal their controlling, constant fault finding, verbally abusive behavior (and other terrible tendencies) during the dating stage, and only allow it to show after they marry the person and/or know that the person they’re in a relationship is committed to them, is financially and/or socially dependent on them (many abusers isolate their targets from friends and family).

Most people are not going to walk freely, knowingly, willingly, and openly into a marriage to someone they can see and know is controlling, constantly critical, a user, or abusive.

If the abuser quite openly abused and behaved obnoxiously during the dating stage, no woman would ever marry these guys – that’s why abusers pour on the charm and hide the violence or psychological abuse until AFTER they marry.

This is very much a “bait and switch” phenomenon, where the Narcissist lies about who they are; the Narcissist presents upfront one way, while in the dating stage, but then differently, after the person is in their clutches.

As such, the Christians who still advocate for the “permanence of marriage” view, or ones similar (that don’t allow emotional abuse, for example, as a grounds for “biblical” divorce) are in error.

I don’t think most Christians have bothered to study Cluster B personality disorders or Narcissistic Abuse at all. Perhaps if more did, they’d be more open to re-interpreting the Bible and realizing God doesn’t expect anyone to stay married to an abuser until death.

And this is not a problem just in marriage – I don’t want to get into it too much here and now, but where abuse and mistreatment arises in the workplace or in friendships, Christians are also ignorant clowns who end up doing a lot of damage to targets.

For example, if you’re being bullied in your place of employment by a jerk, depending on the particular circumstances, it may be very counter-productive to take the usual, naive, un-workable Christian advice of “turn the cheek and pray for the enemy” towards your workplace bully.

The reality is, most bullies have to be stood up to. You cannot sit back, be passive, be loving to your workplace enemy, just pray that God removes the bully, and hope things just work out.

If you’re dealing with a “Cluster B” bully, the best way may be to go “grey rock” on that individual and then try to change jobs as fast as you can.

Here is the letter from the lady who seems to be married to what sounds an awful lot like a Vulnerable Narcissist:

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(Link): Dear Abby: I want to divorce my husband but he has cancer

by Dear Abby
January 24, 2023

DEAR ABBY:
My husband and I have been married for nine years. While we were dating, he was kind, considerate and loving.

After we married, he turned into a chronic complainer, something he later confessed he had been hiding while we dated.

He talks to me like I’m trash and then gets nice when he wants something.

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Wife Attacks Thai Sex Worker She Found Having Sex With Her Husband – Marriage Doesn’t Make People Happier or More Ethical

Wife Attacks Thai Sex Worker She Found Having Sex With Her Husband – Marriage Doesn’t Make People Happier or More Ethical

I think the wife’s anger is mostly misdirected. She needs to be kicking her husband’s ass, not the prostitute’s.

Anyway. Another example of how marriage doesn’t make people happy or more mature, godly, loving, responsible, or ethical.

(Link): Wife attacks Thai sex worker she found having sex with her husband

January 28, 2023

This is the shocking moment a furious wife attacked a naked sex worker she caught romping with her husband.

The cheated-on woman reportedly found pictures of the pair on her partner’s phone and then followed him to the massage parlor in Phuket, Thailand, on January 25.

He had already left but she discovered the petite prostitute sitting on a chair. Footage shows how she ripped a towel from the girl exposing her body then launched a volley of kicks and slaps for more than five minutes.

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Woman, 26, Shoots and Kills Her Missionary Parents Then Herself in Yard of their Home in Murder-Suicide They ALL Consented To – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People Happy

Woman, 26, Shoots and Kills Her Missionary Parents Then Herself in Yard of their Home in Murder-Suicide They ALL Consented To – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People Happy

While I am not opposed to the Nuclear Family, I say SHAME on other conservatives who continue to propagandize on behalf of it, by saying that Nuclear Families somehow are necessary for a society (they’re not), and by trying to argue that forming one will make a person happy, healthy, and whole – news stories like the one below show this is false.

(Link): Missionary parents didn’t want to live without suicidal daughter so they decided to die together 

Excerpts:

by Leonardo Blair

A missionary couple from York County, Pennsylvania, were found dead at their home along with their 26-year-old daughter in what local police say is the result of a tragic suicide pact triggered by their daughter’s struggle with mental illness.

….In a separate PennLive report, one neighbor, who did not want to be identified, said the family had grown isolated over the years and withdrew altogether from the community during the COVID-19 pandemic.

(Link): Friend claims woman who died with parents in suicide pact was oppressed by strict religious upbringing

Excerpts:

by Leonardo Blair
Feb 2, 2023

A childhood friend of 26-year-old Morgan E. Daub, 26, who was found dead at home along with her missionary parents in York County, Pennsylvania, last week, in what authorities claim was a suicide pact, suggested she might have been driven insane by her parents’ strict religious upbringing.

“She grew up in a very uptight Christian household. 
. Her family life, according to CPS, was perfect, but the amount of control her parents had over her was crazy. She wasn’t allowed to go out with friends. She wasn’t allowed any social media. Anything fun that she liked to do she was only allowed to do it with supervision. It was kinda like she was a prisoner in her own home,” the friend, identified only as Samantha told YouTube personality Molly Golightly in an interview on Monday.

The friend also said she did not know which denomination her family followed, amid speculation from some that they were not Christian and might have been Jehovah’s Witnesses. …

…Samantha, 23, said she became friends with Morgan when she was 10 but stopped communicating regularly with her at the age of 18. She said her grandmother and Morgan’s parents were neighbors. She also said she suspects the deaths might not have been a suicide pact, but a murder-suicide because Morgan’s parents would not have believed she would actually harm them.

(Link):  Woman, 26, shoots and kills her parents then herself in yard of their home in murder-suicide they ALL consented to – as her bizarre YouTube videos are revealed

by Lewis Pinnock
Jan 26, 2023

A 26-year-old Pennsylvania woman shot dead her parents then herself in a planned suicide pact after posting a bizarre video to YouTube proclaiming to be the Antichrist.

Morgan Daub killed her mom, Deborah, 59, and father, James, 61, with gunshots to the head, before turning the weapon on herself.

The massacre in the backyard of the family home in York County on Wednesday happened two months after Daub shared an eight-minute video to YouTube in which she referred to herself as the Antichrist and said she would ‘abdicate the throne of the United Kingdom’.

Authorities in West Manchester Township said ‘the three family members had pre-planned their deaths’.

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Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Updates Below

(Link): Man accused of torturing woman he held captive is using dating apps while on the run, police warn

(Link): Oregon torture suspect using dating apps to lure new victims, police warn

January 28, 2023
By Patrick Reilly

Oregon police have warned the public that an attempted murder suspect accused of holding a woman hostage is using dating apps to potentially lure new victims.

Benjamin Obadiah Foster, the subject of a multi-agency manhunt, could also be using the apps to recruit others who will help him evade capture, the Grants Pass police department said Friday.

The search for Foster, who was convicted in Nevada of keeping another woman in captivity, comes after he allegedly bound and severely beat a woman into unconsciousness near Grants Pass, Oregon on Tuesday, police said.

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Suburban LGBTQ Pedophile Ring -Re: Progressive Homosexual Married Couple Who Sexually Assaulted Their Adopted Sons and Allowed Other Pedophiles To Rape the Boys – reporting by Mia Cathell

Suburban LGBTQ Pedophile Ring -Re: Progressive Homosexual Married Couple Who Sexually Assaulted Their Adopted Sons and Allowed Other Pedophiles To Rape the Boys – reporting by Mia Cathell

Previously: Homosexual Couple Charged with Using Their Adopted Children to Make Child Porn


One take away of several on this awful news story: Fatherhood does NOT make a man more godly, loving, or ethical, as my fellow conservatives often like to insist.

Parenthood does not magically instill character into a person. (Marriage also does not instill character into a person, either.)

(Link): Townhall Report: Gay Couple Arrested for Sexual Abuse & Exploitation of Adopted Sons 

(Link): Georgia couple accused of sexually abusing adopted boys, husband bragged about molesting son: report

The Georgia couple allegedly engaged in sexually abusive acts against their adopted boys and tried to recruit others to participate, according to an indictment obtained by Townhall

(Link): ‘Born This Way’ Gay Married Couple Caught Raping and Pimping Their Adopted Special Needs Boys 

Townhall’s Mia Cathall just released the grueling details she learned from a months-long, exclusive investigation into a gay activist couple who have been arrested for raping their two adopted sons.

(Link): Adoptive gay couple charged with sodomizing their adopted sons also ‘pimped them out to local men and sent out videos of them raping the boys’: Full horror of mysteriously wealthy couple’s sordid lives revealed in jaw-dropping court docs

A mysteriously wealthy gay couple from Atlanta who have been charged with sodomizing their adopted sons also pimped them out to other local men, disturbing new documents reveal.

…In August, the pair admitted a range of heinous sexual crimes, including rape and forcing their young sons to perform oral sex on them, after a midnight raid on their home during which one of the adults was hauled naked from the house.

Now, thanks to an investigation by Townhall, it has emerged that not only did the sick pair abuse the boys – they also stand accused of offering them up to other local men.

(Link): UPDATE: Gruesome Details Released in Gay Activist Couple’s Crimes on Their Adopted Sons (Warning on Content)

What you are about to read is the epitome of pure evil. A journalist from Townhall.com wrote a horrifying story Tuesday about an LGBTQ ring involving a gay couple allegedly raping and pimping out their adopted children to pedophiles in the Atlanta, Georgia suburbs.

The Gateway Pundit previously reported that both men were accused of making porn with the children, who are adopted siblings. The children were rescued and taken by officials.

William and Zachary have since been indicted by a grand jury on the following charges: incest, aggravated sodomy, aggravated child molestation, felony sexual exploitation of children, and felony prostitution of a minor.

…Before their arrests, William and Zachary were prominent gay rights activists in the Atlanta area. They marched in the Atlanta Pride Parade and AIDS Walk Atlanta on a regular basis.

Zachary is also a huge Biden fan and devoted supporter of Black Lives Matter. Even more disturbingly, he backs the minor-attracted persons (MAPs) movement which wants to normalize adult relations with children.

(Link):  Gay couple charged with molesting their adopted sons also pimped them out to pedophile ring, report claims 

By Yaron Steinbuch
January 20, 2023

A gay couple from Georgia charged with molesting their two adopted sons and using them to record child porn also allegedly pimped them out to members of a local pedophile ring, according to a disturbing new report.

A months-long investigation by Townhall revealed that William Dale Zulock, 33, and Zachary Jacoby Zulock, 35, allegedly used social media to prostitute their two elementary-aged sons.

William Zulock, a government worker, and Zachary Zulock, a banker, were indicted in August 2022 on charges of of incest, aggravated sodomy, aggravated child molestation, felony sexual exploitation of children and felony prostitution of a minor.

But the shocking investigation reveals in more detail the sickening abuse the boys suffered.

For the first time, it was revealed that the men allegedly pimped out their older sons, now 11 and 9 years old, to two other men in a pedophile ring.

Continue reading “Suburban LGBTQ Pedophile Ring -Re: Progressive Homosexual Married Couple Who Sexually Assaulted Their Adopted Sons and Allowed Other Pedophiles To Rape the Boys – reporting by Mia Cathell”

Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

My fellow conservatives are really bad about over-promoting marriage, parenthood, the nuclear family – they even go so far as to mistakenly suggest that marriage makes people happier, and that the nuclear family can save a culture.

Well, the nuclear family doesn’t and cannot save a culture (the Bible teaches only individuals can be redeemed and “fixed” via saving faith in Jesus), and marriage does not guarantee happiness, safety, or great health. Here’s another example below.

(Link): Wife murdered politically-active husband on Christmas, prosecutors say

Dec 27, 2022
by C. Weil

A New Jersey woman is currently in custody after she shot and killed her husband on Christmas, police say.

Shortly after 10 p.m. on Sunday, the Township of Hamilton Police Department received a call about “an injured male” at a residence in Mays Landing, an unincorporated area of Hamilton Township, about a half-hour northwest of Atlantic City.

When police arrived, they discovered David Wigglesworth, 57, in serious medical distress after sustaining “an apparent gunshot wound,” a report from the Atlantic County Prosecutor’s Office states. Wigglesworth was later pronounced dead at the scene.

That same evening, police arrested Wigglesworth’s wife, Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and charged her with his murder. She has been booked into the Atlantic County Justice Facility. It is unclear whether she has any criminal history or whether she is currently being represented by counsel.

(Link): Mystery as ‘happily married’ mom ‘shoots dead’ her Republican-activist husband at home on Christmas Day

December 27, 2022

The brother of a New Jersey woman accused of shooting dead her husband at home on Christmas night has told DailyMail.com exclusively: ‘They could argue about anything.’

Francis Gallagher, 58, said sister Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and politically-active spouse David were very ‘off and on’ – despite the couple posting happy pictures of themselves on social media.

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Writers at WND and Real Clear Wire Sound Like They’re Freaking Out Over Increasing Numbers of Single Women Who Aren’t Marrying or Having Children

Writers at WND and Real Clear Wire Sound Like They’re Freaking Out Over Increasing Numbers of Single Women Who Aren’t Marrying or Having Children

I saw this headline go through my Twitter feed earlier (this is how the writers at WND chose to word their headline – WND says this article at their site originally appeared at another site called “Real Clear Wire”):

“Single women could push U.S. into ‘demographic decline’ like in Japan”

It’s hard for me to say if the writers at WND are stating that “matter of factly,” but at first glance (and realizing they’re conservatives, with many of my fellow conservatives being very grossly obsessed about promoting marriage and the nuclear family), it sounds as though it’s blaming and criticizing women for being single and for choosing not to reproduce.

As a conservative woman myself, who’s never married or had children, I abhor both liberals (or progressives) AND conservatives shaming or criticizing people (women especially) over whether to marry or have children or not.

Both sides need to back off. Allow women to decide for themselves if they’d like to marry and/or have children.

Men seldom get as much pressure, shaming, criticism, and guilt tripping to marry and have children as women do – and it’s sexist.

Women do not exist merely to marry and have kids and assist a man (husband) make HIS goals and dreams come to pass.

Most of the article itself at WND isn’t too bad – it seems to be straight up reporting. I only spotted two or three possible subtle, sexist digs at single women.

In the past week, I’ve seen two or three other headlines from other sources, such as The Daily Mail, go through my feed about how there are more and more single women in the USA now (including large numbers of never married women), and how a lot of these women tend to vote Democrat.

I am always alarmed when such news stories and surveys are released, because unfortunately, every time such studies or stories are published, the sexist asshole conservative and Republican men (and conservative / Republican women who are traitors to their own biological sex as a group) become aware of such news reports, and they immediately begin tweeting and blogging their revolting, sexist, anti-single-women propaganda, and their “women shouldn’t have the right to vote” garbage.

Many of these conservatives, when they begin catching wind of whatever recent news reportage of women staying single and childless, begin their face-palming, vomit-worthy lamentations about how America in 2023 isn’t the same as good old 1952 America, where every woman got married by age 23 and had five children.

Many such conservative-penned tweets and articles, and Tucker Carlson on his nightly FOX news show, will demonize single women for being single, will attempt to make marriage look like nirvana (never mind that a lot of husbands cheat on their wives or murder them), and in yet others, these authors or cable news commentators attempt to lecture, scold, or shame single women into marrying immediately and popping out ten kids, whether these women want to or not, and whether or not these women even know many single men they can date.

I could go on for ten more pages about why such utterly predictable material is disgusting and sexist, but one thing I wanted to point out is that these excessively pro-marriage idiot conservatives never factor in is that getting married is not easy.

I myself had wanted to be married, and in spite of having friends fix me up on dates, in spite of going to singles classes at churches, in spite of joining dating sites, I couldn’t find a compatible mate.

Even if a single woman wants to get married, it’s no easy task to find a decent, compatible guy.

So, if you’re a conservative, unless you’re willing to actually help marriage-desiring single women to get married, to fix them up on dates with decent single guys you know, or to get your local church to host more singles mixers and so forth so these singles can meet and marry, shut up with browbeating single women to get married.

A single woman cannot wave a magic wand and make a husband magically appear before her – it involves going out on dates with various men, and that is no guarantee of finding a suitable marital partner.

Some of those men women go on dates with or see on dating sites may be perverts, controlling, immature, selfish, or personality disordered -in other words, none of those types of men are marriage material.

Shaming and hounding single women to get married does nothing to actually HELP a single woman run into and marry an eligible single man. So shut up, conservatives, shut up about scolding women for not marrying.

I find that conservatives generally ignore single women. But this comes in cycles.

Conservatives will annoyingly ignore single, childless women and their concerns unless and until

  • another new study appears discussing how more and more women are staying single and childless which may impact future demographics, or,
  • until a major election cycle where a Republican loses to a Democrat, because, it’s found, single, childless women as a bloc voted for the Democrat, helping the Republican to lose.

Then, all the sudden, only in these very limited contexts, will these anti-singles idiot conservatives and Republicans start frothing at the mouth and pearl clutching and writing their singles-shaming editorials and tweets that are chock full of sexism about “why aren’t women marrying and making babies any more.” The rest of the time, we single and childless women do not exist on their radars.

Hey, fellow conservatives:
Why don’t you pro-marriage, pro-motherhood, pro-nuclear family assholes start investing into single and childless women at all times, not just when your favorite Republican loses an election? Start reaching single, childless women where they are and start offering them incentives to vote Republican.

(Link):  Single women could push U.S. into ‘demographic decline’ like in Japan

Excerpts:

‘One of the great untold stories of American politics’

By WND News Services
Published January 21, 2023

[Editor’s note: This story originally was published by Real Clear Wire.]

By Joel Kotkin & Samuel J. Abrams

Soccer Moms are giving way to Single Woke Females – the new “SWFs” – as one of the most potent voting blocs in American politics.

Unmarried women without children have been moving toward the Democratic Party for several years, but the 2022 midterms may have been their electoral coming-out party as they proved the chief break on the predicted Republican wave. While married men and women as well as unmarried men broke for the GOP, CNN exit polls found that 68% of unmarried women voted for Democrats.

The Supreme Court’s August decision overturning Roe v. Wade was certainly a special factor in the midterms, but longer-term trends show that single, childless women are joining African Americans as the Democrats’ most reliable supporters.

Their power is growing thanks to the demographic winds.

The (Link): number of never married women has grown from about 20% in 1950 to over 30% in 2022, while the percentage of married women has declined from almost 70% in 1950 to under 50% today.

Overall, the percentage of (Link): married households with children has declined from 37% in 1976 to 21% today.

A (Link): new Institute for Family Studies analysis  of 2020 Census data found that one in six women do not have children by the time they reach the end of their childbearing years, up from one in ten in 1990.

Single adult women now total some (Link): 42 million, comparable to the key African American voting bloc (46 million), while vastly larger than key groups like labor union members (14 million) or college students (20 million).

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Woman Butchered Boyfriend, Giggled While Showing Pal Dead Body: Prosecutors

Woman Butchered Boyfriend, Giggled While Showing Pal Dead Body: Prosecutors

She sounds completely delightful (< that would be sarcasm).

The murdered boyfriend had been texting a 13 year old girl – if he was grooming the teen girl, he’s not a winner, either.

(Not saying he deserved to be murdered by the girlfriend over that, but it’s also difficult for me to fall to pieces for a grown man who’s apparently hitting on a 13 year old girl.)

If you’re single and bummed out about being single – it’s better to be single than in an abusive relationship with someone who will mistreat or murder you.

(Link): Woman butchered boyfriend, giggled while showing pal dead body: prosecutors

by Olivia Land
January 20, 2023

A British woman with an interest in serial killers is accused of viciously stabbing her boyfriend to death and then giggling over his corpse during a video chat.

Shaye Groves is currently on trial for the July 17 murder of her lover, Frankie Fitzgerald, 25.

Jurors at Winchester Crown Court heard this week how the mother-of-one allegedly knifed Fitzgerald 22 times in his sleep, the Daily Mail reported.

According to prosecutors, Groves, 27, was “obsessed” with Fitzgerald’s “performance in the bedroom,” and attacked him at her home a jealous rage after she discovered he was exchanging messages with a 13-year-old girl.

Groves’ former friend, Vikki Baitup, testified that the accused killer video called her after the attack, and that she was “giggling away.”

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A Newly Published Survey Shows that Only Half of US Women Under 45 Have Children

A Newly Published Survey Shows that Only Half of US Women Under 45 Have Children

I am not anti-marriage or anti-Nuclear Family, but I also don’t support conservatives who marginalize or shame adult singles for being single (and/or for being childless) and who slavishly focus on things like the marriage or birth rate declining.

All my fellow conservatives will do when or if they see reports like the one below (about half of women not having children) is to write more propaganda pieces shaming women for being childless, when they should accept the situation for what it is and start asking themselves how can they, or society, support childless adult women better?

No amount of conservative shaming will cause women to suddenly run out and start having children.

As to the women who’d like to marry prior to having children – they don’t believe in or want to have children out of wedlock – conservatives have no solutions, including Christian ones.

Christians scream and yell at single Christian women to marry, but there are no single men for Christian women to marry, unless they are willing to marry Non-Christian men, and the Christians who cling to the “equally yoked” rule won’t tolerate that.

All these conservatives – Christians and otherwise – won’t lift a finger to actually help a single women who’d like to marry (and possibly have children) to marry.

If you’re a conservative who complains about single women being single (and/or childless), and yet, you’re not lifting a finger to actually help marriage-desiring single women to marry, you are part of the problem and have not earned a right to opine on these issues. So keep your nuclear-family- and pro-natalism- worshipping pie hole shut.

All those types of conservatives do is shame women for being single (and childless) and complain about women being single and childless…. shaming women for being single or childless won’t help women get married and / or have children, and complaining about a problem will not solve a problem.

Writing editorials extolling the supposed wonders of motherhood will not actually bring a husband into a woman’s life.

Help the single women get married first, then those women can have children (if they choose to have children).

Shaming, guilt tripping, pressuring, or lecturing women into marrying and/or having children does not work, and it may end up in some women making some very long lasting harmful decisions – and those pushing these women into marriage and motherhood won’t be there to pick up the pieces.

(Link):  US births continue to decline as nearly half of women under 45 are childless: study 

January 12, 2023

The number of births in the US has continued to decline — repeating a decades-long trend — as nearly half of American women under 45 are childless, according to a new study.

(Link): U.S. birth rates reach record lows – even though number of kids most people say they want remains steady 

(Link):  The modern family size is changing. Four charts show how.

Delayed parenthood and fewer kids: An analysis of new fertility data shows how the modern U.S. family has evolved over time.

January 12, 2023

By Aria Bendix and Joe Murphy
Families are smaller and people are waiting longer to have children than in years past, according to an NBC News analysis of data released this week by the National Center for Health Statistics.

The overall fertility rate in the U.S. declined from 2015 to 2020, additional NCHS data shows, reaching a low of fewer than 6 births per 100 women ages 15 to 44. (The rate then rose 1% from 2020 to 2021, though the overall trend still faces downward.)

The U.S. birth rate — the number of births per 1,000 women — declined from 2018 to 2019 among women in their 20s and early 30s but increased among women ages 35 to 44, the report showed.

Sociologists pointed to a few factors that may explain these trends. One is that contraception has become more reliable, while another is that people are getting married later in life, and most births in the U.S. still happen within marriage.

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Pennsylvania Woman Accused of Murdering Her Elderly Parents and Dismembering Them with an Electric Chainsaw – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Fix Society or Make People More Ethical

Pennsylvania Woman Accused of Murdering Her Elderly Parents and Dismembering Them with an Electric Chainsaw – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Fix Society or Make People More Ethical

For the record, I am a conservative who is not anti-Nuclear-Family, but I reject the usual conservative obsession with promoting the Nuclear Family constantly.

Just because Democrats are anti-Nuclear Family Marxists does not make it acceptable for conservatives to turn the Nuclear Family into an idol.

Two wrongs do not make a right.

Being in a Nuclear Family did not make this woman more godly, responsible or loving. Being married with children did not keep this elderly couple safe.

(Link): Daughter allegedly shoots parents, dismembers bodies with CHAINSAW in Pennsylvania

A Pennsylvania woman has been taken into custody after allegedly shooting her elderly parents in the head and dismembering their bodies with a chainsaw.

Verity Beck, 43, faces charges of first and third-degree murder for the killing of 73-year-old Reid Beck and 72-year-old Miriam Beck, and is currently being held without bail.

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Utah Man Kills Wife, Five Kids in Murder-Suicide After Wife Files for Divorce – Nuclear Families Don’t Make People Happier or Fix Society; Marriage Doesn’t Make People More Loving and Ethical

Utah Man Kills Wife, Five Kids in Murder-Suicide After Wife Files for Divorce – Nuclear Families Don’t Make People Happier or Fix Society; Marriage Doesn’t Make People More Loving and Ethical

(Link): Utah man kills wife, five kids in murder-suicide after wife files for divorce

Jan 5, 2023
By Snejana Farberov

A 42-year-old Utah man gunned down seven family members, including his five children between ages 4 and 17, then turned the gun on himself — two weeks after his wife had filed for divorce, authorities said.

Officials in Enoch City on Thursday identified the suspected gunman in the murder-suicide as 42-year-old Michael Haight, and the victims as his wife, Tausha Haight, 40, their three daughters, ages 17, 12 and 7, and two sons, ages 7 and 4.

Also killed was Tausha Haight’s mother, 78-year-old Gail Earl, according to a press release from the Enoch City government. Each of the victims appeared to have gunshot wounds.

Court records showed wife Tausha had filed for divorce from Michael on Dec. 21, but it was not immediately known why she had sought to end their marriage.

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Church Pastor, Wife Sentenced After Using Homeless for Forced Labor, Stealing Benefits – Christian Marriage Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People More Ethical

Church Pastor, Wife Sentenced After Using Homeless for Forced Labor, Stealing Benefits – Christian Marriage Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People More Ethical

It’s more and more difficult for me to want to stick with the Christian faith at all when I see so few people who claim to be Christians actually consistently live out a Christian lifestyle, or who commit such obviously anti-biblical actions.

Also let this serve as yet another example of how “hyper pro marriage, hyper pro Nuclear Family” views put out by Christians simply is not true: Christian marriage didn’t make this couple more godly, mature, loving, or ethical, nor did this marriage improve society.

Further, Gender Complementarian teaching (which includes “male headship” teaching) is clearly false, since so many self professing Christian men are unethical dirt balls.

(Link): Pastor Who Used Homeless as Forced Labor, Three Others Plead Guilty to Benefits Fraud 

(Link): California pastor gets jail time for using homeless in benefits fraud scheme: ‘Appalling abuse of power’

Victor Gonzalez and wife were part of church labor trafficking scheme, according to prosecutors

by Jon Brown

A California pastor and his wife were sentenced to prison time earlier this month after pleading guilty to a charge related to what federal prosecutors described as a church labor trafficking scheme that victimized the homeless.

Victor Gonzalez, the head pastor of California-based Imperial Valley Ministries (IVM), was sentenced to six months in prison and another six months of house confinement after pleading guilty in a San Diego federal court to conspiracy to commit benefits fraud, according to the San Diego Union-Tribune.

His wife, Susan Gonzalez, who pleaded guilty to the same charge, received a time-served sentence.

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