They Put Their Faith in a God-Fearing Man Selling Them Tiny Homes. Now They’re Suing Him For Fraud – Christians: Please Learn the Red Flags, Research Cluster B Personality Disorders

They Put Their Faith in a God-Fearing Man Selling Them Tiny Homes. Now They’re Suing Him For Fraud – Christians: Please Learn the Red Flags, Research Cluster B Personality Disorders

Before I get to the links way below about a self-professing, devout Christian man who was allegedly swindling customers out of their very expensive purchases:

For any of you super trusting people out there – especially if you consider yourself kind, decent, empathetic and/or a Christian (though what I say below is also applicable to kind-hearted Non-Christians as well):

Please, please educate yourselves and accept reality.

There ARE people out there with what are called “Cluster B” personality disorders (such as NPD, malignant narcissism, or, they’re on the narcissism spectrum, or they are sociopathic or psychopathic) who cannot, or will not, have empathy (and on top of an empathy-deficit, sociopaths lack a conscience, too).

Not all of these Cluster B personality disordered persons are serial killers, as is often assumed(*) – but they all lack remorse and empathy and will use and abuse those in their paths, even their own spouses and family members! (*Some Cluster B personality disordered persons love to financially scam other people or financially exploit them, for instance.)

The primary drivers and motivations of Cluster B persons are control and dominance of other people.

These people can be your neighbor, sibling, parent, spouse, a friend, your boss, or a co-worker.

These dangerous persons can work as church pastors, doctors, school teachers, veterinarians, psychologists, therapists, plumbers, IT professionals, UPS delivery persons, mailmen, hair stylists – any and every occupation, even “care based,” charity based, or church ministry related ones!

These people have learned to “pass” as normal. They will pretend to be normal. Many will act as though they have compassion and empathy for others, but they do not.

Just because someone is working in a care-based occupation doesn’t mean they have empathy and are warm, nurturing, and have your best interest at heart.

Some narcissistic or sociopathic persons who work as therapists or as social workers INTENTIONALLY undermine their patients or others in their care. That’s one reason you must be careful when shopping around for a mental health professional, should you want to see one for treatment.

Some of these personality disordered persons will do things like say they are a “Jesus-follower,” a Christian, they will even volunteer for charity work, attend church regularly, and “play act the part” of loving, devoted Christ follower while simultaneously committing financial fraud (or other sins and crimes) against you or others.

And they do NOT CARE AT ALL how much it hurts your feelings or hurts you financially.

They are not sorry, and they never will be. They do not experience remorse or sorrow for how they hurt others.

Even the non-personality disordered abusive persons out there have very large entitlement attitudes, so their view on relationships is that being mean, lying, nasty, and controlling of or to you is getting THEIR needs met for them, their abusive behavior of you is working well for them, so why bother to care about you and your needs and how YOU are being hurt by them in the process?

They feel they have no reason to change for the better (this is from their perspective).

There is nothing you can do to fix, change, save, or help such persons (even most therapists agree such persons are beyond help or fixing), nor is it your responsibility to fix or change them.

Avoid them as much as possible. No amount of compassion, love, attention, pity, or empathy from you or someone else will change or fix such persons.

No amount of church attendance, Bible reading, or exposure to the Gospel or the teachings of Jesus will heal, change, or fix them.

This includes the marriage context: a wife being “more submissive” or “loving” towards a narcissistic or sociopathic husband will not “heal,” change, or fix the husband and cause him to stop hurting his wife.

Please do some research, and stop allowing people to take advantage of you! Look for the red flags.

Perhaps start out by reading books such as “The Sociopath Next Door” by Stout

(though, caution: in an otherwise very good and educational work, I think she sugar coats her descriptions of narcissism in her book too much – narcissists, especially at the moderate to high end of the spectrum, are essentially watered-down sociopaths, so far as I am concerned,
but, in her book, Stout makes narcissists sound more lovable, redeemable, reachable, and friendly than they actually are,
which contrasts what I’ve read in a lot of research by other mental health professionals and accounts by narcissistic abuse survivors who all specialize in the topic of narcissism),

or “Husband, Liar, Sociopath – How He Lied, Why I Fell for It & the Painful Lessons Learned” by O. N. Ward,
or “Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself” by Shahida Arabi.

There are many other books – and free online articles and videos – that describe all these issues.

Just because someone claims to be a Christian and acts really sweet, caring, and nice does NOT mean they will NOT abuse you financially, or will not abuse you physically, verbally, or sexually in private.

Because such people do exist, and they will abuse or exploit you.

Stop thinking the best of people, stop being so trusting, stop assuming that because someone talks favorably of Jesus that this must mean they are trust-worthy, and stop giving people third, fourth, and more chances if they’ve already hurt or lied to you twice!

Stop rationalizing their behavior, stop excusing it on the basis they told you they are having a bad day, they’re under stress, or they were abused as a child (whether they were or not still does not excuse their abusive or dishonest behavior).

Such attitudes and behaviors on your part, where you keep forgiving, pitying, trusting, and grant repeated chances and do-overs, is what enables alleged frauds like the guy in the article below to scam you in the first place.

I am not victim blaming anyone who has been abused or targeted by any of these abusers or scammers.

Here is where I am coming from:
I just want to pull my hair out in frustration in particular at how Christians, in their sermons, books, social media, blogs, and their attitudes, frequently encourage or pressure behaviors or attitudes in believers that encourage them to be very susceptible to attracting abusive people or con artists, or from eliminating them from their lives once they encounter them.

Christians are setting other Christians up to be attractive and easy targets and prey for sociopaths, narcissists, and other troubled and dangerous people.

Misguided Christian teachings about grace, forgiveness, compassion, helping one’s neighbor, turning the cheek, the “no divorce for any reason” teachings, and giving second chances, and Christian complementarians especially are really bad about this.

Christian gender complementarians promote “gender complementarianism,” where they strongly condition girls and women to adopt beliefs and actions that are indistinguishable from Codependency (ie, which includes things like lacking boundaries, being passive, etc), which makes girls and women reluctant to engage in perfectly healthy and normal actions, such as standing up to abusers or bullying behavior, and leaves them vulnerable from recognizing abusive behavior as being abusive in the first place.

Secular culture of course also re-enforces such harmful beliefs and behaviors in girls and women as well, via traditional gender stereotypes (see the book The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker for some examples; research by others has also been done in this area going back years with the same results being shown).

(Link): They Put Their Faith in a God-Fearing Man Selling Them Tiny Homes. Now They’re Suing Him For Fraud

People around the country who have paid Matt Sowash thousands of dollars for the small dwellings after seeing him on TikTok say he never delivered on his promises.

by Sept 20, 2022

By Deon J. Hampton

DENVER — A man who had been convicted of bilking investors out of thousands of dollars and who professed his love for God while selling tiny homes online swindled homebuyers out of their life savings for dwellings that were never delivered, three alleged victims said in lawsuits filed in federal and state courts.

Developer Matt Sowash, founder of the Colorado-based nonprofit Holy Ground Tiny Homes, promoted the small residences on social media, including to his 80,000 TikTok followers, with short videos portraying an upbeat, God-fearing man selling the American Dream — affordable homes with financing and no credit checks.

“For people that can’t pay for a house all at once, we can finance you. Holy Ground Tiny Homes. Get yours today,” Sowash said in one TikTok video.

“Great house, available now, around $45,000 is what this goes for. Come in and take it away,” he said in another video, wearing a T-shirt adorned with “Faith Over Fear.”

Sowash said in an interview that he never set out to take advantage of homebuyers, but he’s not sure he’ll be able to build the 250 homes already paid for, in full or in part.

…A plaintiff in one of three lawsuits filed against Sowash said in an interview that the builder’s persuasiveness and Jesus-loving persona convinced her to part with her hard-earned cash.

“That’s part of what sold me. He’s charming, convincing and I believe in God,” said Clara Virginia Davis, 24, an elementary schoolteacher in upstate New York.

Continue reading “They Put Their Faith in a God-Fearing Man Selling Them Tiny Homes. Now They’re Suing Him For Fraud – Christians: Please Learn the Red Flags, Research Cluster B Personality Disorders”

Florida Couple Is Arrested After Six Year Old Son Found Unconscious With Head in Motel Toilet Bowl As Their Younger Kids with Burns, Scars, and Black Eyes are Rescued

Florida Couple Is Arrested After Six Year Old Son Found Unconscious With Head in Motel Toilet Bowl As Their Younger Kids with Burns, Scars, and Black Eyes are Rescued

The Nuclear Family does not necessarily make a society better, in that it does not, contrary to excessive marriage and parenthood promoters (such as Brad Wilcox, Al Mohler, and other conservatives or conservative think tanks and groups that promote the nuclear family) instantly instill ethics, godliness, good morals, or compassion in a person.

(As a matter of fact, plenty of people who marry and have children together are either alcoholics, drug addicts, or have some kind of treatment-impervious personality disorder such as narcissism,
which makes them too selfish to meet the needs of their children, or else, they abuse their own children.
Raising a kid does not instantly or automatically heal a person of alcoholism, depression, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or whatever they are afflicted with.)

(Link): Florida couple, 22 and 25, are arrested after son, 6, was found unconscious with his head down a motel TOILET BOWL as five younger kids with burns, scars and black eyes are rescued

by Janon Fisher
July 13, 2022

A Florida couple has been arrested and charged with child abuse after their 6-year old son was found unconscious with his head in the toilet, according to the Osceola Sheriff’s Office.

Larry Rhodes Jr., 22, and Bianca Blaise, 25, were taken into custody on July 5, after deputies arrived at the motel room the couple was staying in and found their son, who had swollen eyes and no pulse.

The boy was rushed to Arnold Palmer Hospital with a ‘life-threatening brain bleed,’ cops said, and is now on life support.

The couple claimed the boy had gotten in a fight with his 4-year-old brother the day before and that the two liked to imitate professional wrestling on the motel beds.

But when the sibling, who also had bruises and ‘fresh cuts around the mouth,’ was questioned alone by EMS workers with the Osceola County Fire Rescue, he said ‘Dad hit me.’

Continue reading “Florida Couple Is Arrested After Six Year Old Son Found Unconscious With Head in Motel Toilet Bowl As Their Younger Kids with Burns, Scars, and Black Eyes are Rescued”

Groom is Killed by Lightning Strike While Posing for Engagement Photoshoot

Groom is Killed by Lightning Strike While Posing for Engagement Photoshoot

This is sad, but – it goes to show you that getting married isn’t synonymous with achieving life-long meaning, fulfillment, and happiness – especially not if your spouse dies via a lightning strike or a car accident or a heart attack on or shortly before the wedding day.

I have other examples on this blog of other news stories of a person dying on or before their wedding day.

(Link): Groom is killed by LIGHTNING strike while posing for engagement photoshoot

by Tom Scotson
August 28, 2022

A groom was killed by a lightning strike as he was posing for engagement photos with his fiancée in a popular tourist spot in China.

The horrific incident occurred on Wednesday 24 August at China’s Jade Dragon Snow Mountain in the Yunnan province.

The man, who was named as Ruan by Chinese media, died instantly after being hit by a bolt of lightning while photographers were taking pictures of him and his partner at Spruce Meadow.

Continue reading “Groom is Killed by Lightning Strike While Posing for Engagement Photoshoot”

I Hate Looking After Ill People So I’m Removing ‘In Sickness’ From My Wedding Vows – via AITA and The Sun 

I Hate Looking After Ill People So I’m Removing ‘In Sickness’ From My Wedding Vows – via AITA and The Sun 

This one below is a tough one.  My opinion sometimes goes one way and then the other on this subject whenever I see it turn up every so often in advice columns.

I don’t think it’s as clear cut as some of the people screaming at this lady think it is.

I was a caretaker for one of my dying family members for over a year, and it was physically and mentally draining – no, I wouldn’t want to repeat that, either, not with a spouse or someone else, so I can understand where this woman is coming from.

I am also a recovered codependent, and in the 35 or so years I was a codependent, I ran around ignoring my own needs to take care of other people – and I don’t just mean in caring for physically ill people, and driving car-less neighbors to doctor’s appointments and things like that – but I frequently listened to troubled friends, co-workers and family complain for hours over YEARS about the same problems repeatedly.

It is draining to be a constant care-taker for people, whether it’s caring for a physically ill and dying person, or providing a lot of Emotional Labor for negative or depressed friends and family.

So I don’t know if I can totally view the woman in the post below as being a selfish person. She already cared for one of her sick parents for years, and she understandably doesn’t want to re-live that with a spouse, should the spouse develop a chronic health condition.

But then, I can also see how, at first glance her position does come across as grating.

I wonder how much sexism plays a role in this – American culture expects that women will be care-takers and nurturers, where-as men are not expected to take on that role.

(Link): I hate looking after ill people so I’m removing ‘in sickness’ from my wedding vows

Along with the big white dress and booze-up with friends, the most important part of any wedding is seeing two people commit to each other for the rest of their lives.

Although plenty of couples opt for personal vows to express their love, the most important moment of any ceremony is arguably the bit where they declare to look after one another “in sickness and in health”.

But one bride-to-be has caused uproar online after she explained why she wants to remove this important line on her big day.

Posting on Reddit’s “Am I The A—-le” forum, the woman said she wants to replace “in sickness” with “in happiness”.

She explained: “This is harsh, but I hate taking care of sick people.

“My siblings and I were always taking care of our parents whenever they get sick and I just hate it.

“I’m sick of it and I hate feeling bound or obligated to take care of somebody.

Continue reading “I Hate Looking After Ill People So I’m Removing ‘In Sickness’ From My Wedding Vows – via AITA and The Sun “

Vegan Mom Sentenced to Life in Prison For 18-Month-Old Son’s Starvation Death

Vegan Mom Sentenced to Life in Prison For 18-Month-Old Son’s Starvation Death

For the millionth time on my blog:
I am not opposed to the nuclear family, marriage, and parenthood, but my dog, do I ever not want to see another conservative annoyingly bang on and on about how “the nuclear family” (or marriage) is supposedly commanded by God in the Bible (no, God does not command it), conservatives declaring – falsely- that marriage and the nuclear family heals or fixes a culture, nope, sorry, but the Bible does not prescribe marriage or the family as “sin removers” for a society, or for the individual.

I never want another conservative or conservative think tank to repeat the same bullsh*t about parenthood they usually do: that parenthood makes a person more giving, self-less, loving, and ethical – no, no it does not.

Here’s an idiot who gave birth and didn’t do something as simplistic as feed her child the proper nutrition. So he died.

Motherhood does not make people more mature, giving, loving, responsible than being childless or childfree. Popping out a kid didn’t raise this woman’s IQ or level of common sense.

And no, Fatherhood does not make a man more mature, giving, loving, responsible – the article below says this woman’s husband is in prison for the same offense.

(Link):  Vegan mom sentenced to life in prison for son’s death from ‘severe malnutrition’

Florida ‘vegan mom’ Sheila O’Leary was convicted in June, while her husband awaits trial

(Link): Vegan mother convicted of murder in malnutrition death of her baby gets life

August 30, 2022
by Harriet Alexander

A vegan woman convicted of murder in the malnutrition death of her young son was sentenced on Monday to life in prison.

Sheila O’Leary, 39, whose family followed a strict vegan diet, was convicted in June on six charges – first-degree murder, aggravated child abuse, aggravated manslaughter, child abuse and two counts of child neglect – in the death of Ezra O’Leary.

Her sentencing in Lee County, Florida, had previously been postponed four times. She showed no emotion as the sentence was read out, and told the judge she did not wish to make a statement.

Her husband, Ryan Patrick O’Leary, remains in jail while awaiting trial on the same charges.

Investigators said the couple, who lived in Cape Coral, told them the family ate only raw fruits and vegetables, although the toddler also was fed breast milk.

(Link): Vegan mom sentenced to life in prison for 18-month-old son’s starvation death

By Snejana Farberov
August 30, 2022

The vegan Florida mother convicted of murder in the starvation death of her 18-month-old son after feeding him only raw fruits and vegetables has been sentenced to life in prison.

Sheila O’Leary, 38, learned her fate Monday after her sentencing hearing was delayed four times following her conviction in late June for first-degree murder in the 2019 death of her son, Ezra O’Leary.

The Cape Coral woman also was handed two 30-year sentences for aggravated child abuse and aggravated manslaughter of a child, and an additional five-year term for child abuse and child neglect, to be served concurrently, reported the Fort Myers News-Press.

Continue reading “Vegan Mom Sentenced to Life in Prison For 18-Month-Old Son’s Starvation Death”

Bride’s Wedding Invite Disaster Directs Guests to PornHub: ‘Sorry Mom’

Bride’s Wedding Invite Disaster Directs Guests to PornHub: ‘Sorry Mom’

(Link): Bride’s wedding invite disaster directs guests to PornHub: ‘Sorry mom’

by Asia Grace

This bride-to-be is kicking her wedding off with a bang!

An absent-minded fiancée accidentally directed guests of her upcoming nuptials to PornHub.com — an X-rated content platform with hardcore clips of folks getting their freak on — rather than her official wedding website.

“I got my wedding invitations in the mail today… I made a very large mistake,” confessed the blushing bride, only digitally known as @Squidward.Tentacles, in a TikTok testimonial with over 189,800 views.

“I forgot I put this fun website as a placeholder,” she added, showcasing her gold-trimmed RSVP card and zooming in on the PornHub address where her wedding information should have been printed.

Continue reading “Bride’s Wedding Invite Disaster Directs Guests to PornHub: ‘Sorry Mom’”

Single Woman Who Plans Ahead Refuses to Change Airplane Seats So that Couples and Families Can Sit Together

Single Woman Who Plans Ahead Refuses to Change Airplane Seats So that Couples and Families Can Sit Together

I don’t blame her.

By the way. Marriage and parenthood do not make people more responsible, godly, loving, or ethical. Some married people are very entitled.

(Link): I absolutely REFUSE to switch my airline seat to help families and couples sit together – even when they start yelling, says single traveler JACI STEPHEN in a hilarious confession. So, do YOU sympathize with her?

August 25, 2022
By Jaci Stephen

Every summer, it happens: a family who hasn’t had the nous to book seats together on a plane asks a single passenger to move, in order to accommodate them.

This week, it’s Irish model and mother-of-three Vogue Williams, who publicly berated a fellow passenger for not wishing to give up his aisle seat and move to the window so that she could sit with her family. She was flying to London from Gibraltar, for goodness sake.

It’s a three-hour flight. Read a magazine. Order Duty Free. It’s not his fault that you’re so disorganized you can’t read a plane seat map.

I travel a lot. I have very specific seats I always choose (ask Virgin Atlantic; if I can’t get 8A, I’ll change planes). I like an aisle seat when traveling domestically because I need to use the rest room a lot.

I like to be at the front because I don’t like crowds and invariably need to disembark quickly. I spend weeks, sometimes months, making sure I have my favorite seat.

But I’ve lost count of the times I’ve been singled out as a single woman on her own and asked to change my seat. I suspect it’s because people think we’re going to be the softest touch. Wrong.

Continue reading “Single Woman Who Plans Ahead Refuses to Change Airplane Seats So that Couples and Families Can Sit Together”

Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

I can’t believe I didn’t stumble across this bizarre perversion when it was first published back in 2013 (this is a re-print).

A lot of Americans spend a lot of time shaming adults over the age of 25 or so for still being virgins as being freaks or odd-balls, but the real odd-balls and freaks are people having sex who do gross, weird things like think it may be okay to pawn off their dead wife’s vibrator on their new girlfriend, I mean, WTF?

(Link): Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

Is This Creepy?

August 7, 2022 (originally printed in 2013)
by Slate Staff

Dear Prudence,

In the summer of 2011 my wife and I purchased a top-of-the-line Jopen vibrator. We used it a few times and were just beginning to really integrate it into our sex lives when my wife died suddenly of a heart attack. (The vibrator had nothing to do with that.)

Now, more than a year later, I’ve begun to date again. I’ve met a woman with an open mind, and I’m thinking she might be interested in using the vibrator.

But I’m not sure how, or whether, to suggest it.

Is it creepy to offer a dead woman’s vibrator to someone else?

Continue reading “Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?”

Half-Naked Lawyer Beat Ex-Wife to Death in Front of Children: Officials

Half-Naked Lawyer Beat Ex-Wife to Death in Front of Children: Officials

Contrary to what my fellow conservatives say, marriage and “the nuclear family” do not improve society or make people more loving, ethical, godly, or responsible.

I’m not arguing the opposite, by the way – I am not saying being single or childless makes a person more godly, ethical, etc.

But conservative beliefs that The Nuclear Family will somehow “fix” a broken society is based on pipe dreams – nor is it mentioned in the Bible that marriage is a cure for a sin-filled world.

The Bible does not prescribe marriage or parenthood as fixes for society. The Bible says that marriage detracts a person’s attention from God and helping others to a spouse (see 1 Corinthians 7).

Jesus said your allegiance as his follower was supposed to be him and other believers, not to a spouse or biological family. Jesus never married or had children.

Did being married and a father make this man more godly, ethical, moral, loving, and responsible? Nope.

(Link): Half-naked lawyer beat ex-wife to death in front of children: officials

by Michael Ruiz,
August 25, 2022

A North Dakota lawyer allegedly beat his ex-wife to death in Minnesota on Tuesday as she clung to the youngest of their five children and two others screamed for help, according to the Marshall County Sheriff’s Office.

The younger boy, 2, was so traumatized that he didn’t respond to questions from deputies after they had his father in custody and rushed his mother to the hospital.

Anders Odegaard, 31, and Carissa Odegaard, also 31, divorced last year, court records show.

In a custody dispute this week, he allegedly refused to let her take their kids to church and a fight broke out, deputies wrote in the criminal complaint after interviewing the children.

Continue reading “Half-Naked Lawyer Beat Ex-Wife to Death in Front of Children: Officials”

30 People Who Got Married To The Popular Kids In School Reveal What They Are Like Now

30 People Who Got Married To The Popular Kids In School Reveal What They Are Like Now

(Link): 30 People Who Got Married To The Popular Kids In School Reveal What They Are Like Now

Excerpts:

Example 4.

I hate to be the one that bursts everyone’s bubble, but my husband was the good-looking athletic guy with a great sense of humor that all of the girls adored. I was the petite blue-eyed blonde cheerleader that he chased for all four years in high school.

We ended up getting together after high school graduation and were engaged 6 months later.

I should have kept running from him like I did in school.

He’s now an addict who is verbally and emotionally abusive.

He’s a compulsive liar and he’s stolen prescription medication from me to get high.

Continue reading “30 People Who Got Married To The Popular Kids In School Reveal What They Are Like Now”

Preacher Matt Chandler To Take Leave of Absence Following Inappropriate Online Behavior

Preacher Matt Chandler To Take Leave of Absence Following Inappropriate Online Behavior

This post has been edited since publication to add additional content.


Chandler is the same guy who tried to shame and pressure a woman into staying married to her perverted, pedophile husband, he sort of mocked Christians with doubts by dismissing their position as being a sexy trend, and he’s given some very questionable advice to Christian single adults over the age of 30 who’d like to be married but who’ve not found Mr. or Ms. Right yet, and who are considering marrying outside the faith.

A lot of online chatter I’ve seen about this indicates many people do believe that there is something “sexual” about Chandler’s banter with a married woman (that’s right, both Chandler and the woman he was direct messaging are both married to other people), despite the church’s statement to the contrary.

Take note that both persons in this situation are MARRIED – very often in secular and Christian culture, single adults (especially women) are regarded as threats to married people, who are actively seeking to sleep with married persons. Quite often, it’s the opposite: married adults seek out affairs with singles or with other married people.

Married Christians need to maybe impose some kind of “Billy Graham Rule” of married people shouldn’t be alone with other married people.

This incident just goes to show yet again that men lack good judgement, lack self control, and cannot be trusted in leadership positions in churches; churches should get rid of the “man only” rule and put women in charge going forward. 😘

Contrary to the usual conservative rhetoric: marriage does not make a person more godly, mature, ethical, or loving than being single. Let this be example one thousand on my blog so far!

Marriage apparently did not prevent Chandler from making a questionable action towards another married person (this is assuming there was something sexual or otherwise “off” with his texts to the woman).

From the reports, things are so vague, it’s hard to tell exactly what happened.

The Billy Graham Rule is stupid, so if this ends up being a harmless case of a married church guy making small talk with a married lady, and he had no ulterior motives, I don’t have a problem with that, except for the church’s over-reaction to this situation.

That is to say, unlike 99% of married (usually Christian) people out there, I don’t think platonic friendship between a married person and another married person (or a married person and a single person) is impossible or inappropriate.

So, if this ends up being an over-reaction to a platonic, private chit chat between two adults (who happen to be married), I will eye roll so hard my eyeballs will fall out of my head.

But it’s hard to say at this point exactly what is going on.

(Link): Matt Chandler To Take Leave of Absence Following Inappropriate Online Behavior

Excerpts:

by Dale Chamberlin
August 2022

On Sunday (August 28), The Village Church (TVC) announced that Matt Chandler would be taking a leave of absence from preaching and teaching following an inappropriate direct messaging relationship with a woman who is not his wife.

While not romantic or sexual, Chandler described the messaging relationship as being characterized by “familiarity” and “coarse and foolish joking.”

Chandler further described his online behavior as “unguarded and unwise,” and his leave of absence is both “disciplinary and developmental.” He further expressed his agreement with and submission to the elder board’s decision, which came after an independent, third-party investigation.

Continue reading “Preacher Matt Chandler To Take Leave of Absence Following Inappropriate Online Behavior”

Cop Named Detective of the Year, Who Is a Married Father, Only Gets a Misdemeanor Charge After Sending Sexually Explicit Messages to Someone He Thought Was a 14- Year- Old Girl

Cop Named Detective of the Year, Who Is a Married Father, Only Gets a Misdemeanor Charge After Sending Sexually Explicit Messages to Someone He Thought Was a 14- Year- Old Girl

This is a news story about a married guy who has a child of his own who was caught trying to engage in sex acts with someone he believed to be a teen girl – marriage does not make a person  more ethical, godly, loving, responsible, or moral.

Married people are destroying marriage all on their own, with no help from progressives.

That deviants like this man get married goes to show that common Christian teachings about marriage – at least in the content I saw when growing up years ago – is false; one does not have to become perfect, or improve themselves in some way, before God will grant the person a spouse or allow them to get married.

If God is permitting perverts like this man to get married, rest assured, he’s more than likely not with-holding a spouse from you over far lesser sins or mistakes.

This also belies the common misperception by Christians that married sex is so great and mind-blowing that married people won’t commit sexual sin. Despite being married, this married guy was trying to find a way to have sex with a 14 year old girl… obviously, being married doesn’t make a person immune from sexual sin.

(Link): California ‘Detective of the Year’ busted for sending sexually explicit messages in child sex sting

A veteran police officer who was named “Detective of the Year” in 2019 was charged with exchanging sexually explicit messages with someone he thought was a 14-year-old girl.

(Link): ‘Detective of the year’ accused of sending graphic messages to girl he believed was 14

(Link): One-Time ‘Detective Of The Year’ Allegedly Sent Sexual Messages To Woman He Thought Was A Child

(Link): California cop named ‘Detective of the Year’ only gets a misdemeanor charge after sending sexually explicit messages to someone he thought was a 14-year-old girl

August 3, 2022
by Melissa Koenig

A California cop who was once heralded as a Detective of the Year is now facing a misdemeanor charge after he allegedly sexted someone he thought was a 14-year-old girl.

Gregory Daniel Beaumarchais, 43, a married father of one, faces a maximum sentence of one year in prison on a misdemeanor charge of annoying or molesting a victim believed to be under the age of 18.

He will also have to register as a sex offender if convicted.

Authorities say the Santa Ana officer exchanged sexually explicit messages with someone posing as a 14-year-old girl on social media from December 2021 through January 2022.

Continue reading “Cop Named Detective of the Year, Who Is a Married Father, Only Gets a Misdemeanor Charge After Sending Sexually Explicit Messages to Someone He Thought Was a 14- Year- Old Girl”