Federalist Magazine Staff Annoyed that Other Outlets Publish the Down Side of Motherhood and Are Requesting Sunny Motherhood Propaganda Pieces – As If Conservatives Haven’t Pushed for Motherhood Enough? The Mind Boggles

Federalist Magazine Staff Annoyed that Other Outlets Publish the Down Side of Motherhood and Are Requesting Sunny Motherhood Propaganda Pieces – As If Conservatives Haven’t Pushed for Motherhood Enough? The Mind Boggles

I apologize if you’re actually a regular reader of this blog (do I have any regular readers?, I don’t know!) and if you get really tired of me repeating myself, but I never know who is reading whatever blog post I write (it may be their first visit), and I don’t want anyone to misunderstand where I’m coming from.

At first glance, most conservatives would probably confuse me for a nuclear family-hating, man-hating, feminist liberal, merely because I criticize other conservatives for their inaccurate, at times insensitive, or non-stop, abnormal and un-biblical obsession with promoting marriage, motherhood, and the nuclear family.

I’m a conservative, I am not a feminist, and I don’t hate marriage, parenthood, or the nuclear family.

But you damn skippy I am going to call out other conservatives when I see them over-hyping marriage, parenthood and families, and especially when they do so by insulting singles for being single or the childless for being childless (whether by choice or by circumstance).

I sure don’t support the vast  majority of opinions and causes of liberals, feminists, and progressives, but occasionally, I concede they may have a legitimate point or concern on some topic or another.

I actually meant to blog about this (and a million other articles from other sources) a few months ago but didn’t get around to it at the time:

(Link): BuzzFeed Should Stop Publishing Only Negative Takes On Motherhood

The author, it says, is a “Karin Agness Lips,” which totally sounds like a made up name 😂.  The piece was published on May 18, 2022.

Here are some excerpts (and of course, below these excerpts, I’ll state where I disagree):

(Link): BuzzFeed Should Stop Publishing Only Negative Takes On Motherhood

Stories about parental regret might get clicks, but BuzzFeed acting as a PR machine against motherhood might also influence people’s decision to become a parent.

by Karin Agness Lips

As BuzzFeed contemplates its future, the website should reconsider its approach to motherhood.

…In April, BuzzFeed ran an article headlined, “Mothers Are Revealing How They Realized They Regret Having Children And How They’re Coping Now, And They’re Such Nuanced And Valid Feelings.” The first mom the article quotes said, “I regret having children because of what’s going on in the world. I feel a SEVERE feeling of doom and anxiety when I think about her future. She will probably never be able to afford a house and struggle with debt, climate change, scarce resources, and inequality. I am truly terrified, and I feel so guilty. If I was childless today, I would 100% not have any children.”

This is such a pessimistic view of motherhood and society. Yet it is a view that is getting more attention.

… [The author goes on to cite famous persons who have expressed that they will only have one or two kids and no more.

She also cites statistics showing that more and more people are opting out of parenthood – while later in the article stating that more and more people supposedly want to have children – I don’t know how one squares that circle. Maybe she means to suggest a lot of people want to have kids but feel like they cannot afford them(??).]

… Yet very little of what we see elevated in popular culture focuses on the joy and satisfaction that nurturing children brings mothers also.

… It seems like popular culture spends more time promoting the “wine mom” narrative that women need alcohol to get through mothering and less time honoring women for the work they put into mothering. Just because caregiving can be tough doesn’t mean it is not worth our time, shouldn’t be done, or is bad.

[The author links to several articles at BuzzFeed by parents who say they regret having had children.]

…We get it, BuzzFeed wants its readers to know that not everyone is happy with her decision to have children. But BuzzFeed is doing more than this. It is promoting a narrative that conflicts with what Americans want.

A huge majority of Americans have or want children. Only 5 percent of American adults do not want children.

[The author surmises that perhaps women who are mothers who enjoy motherhood are simply not writing about the joys of motherhood, so that perceptions on the subject may be skewed, since online, we seem to be hearing more from people who admit to disliking being a parent or dislike aspects of parenthood.

The author ends her piece by expressing upset that there are so many “motherhood regret” essays being published and encouraging women who enjoy motherhood to start cranking out essays about how great motherhood is.]
— end excerpts —

Where the author states:

Stories about parental regret might get clicks, but BuzzFeed acting as a PR machine against motherhood might also influence people’s decision to become a parent.
— end —

This is clearly a double standard by this author, for most conservatives are, and have been for decades, acting as a “PR machine” in FAVOR OF motherhood to influence women to get married young and to have children.

That non-stop portrayal of motherhood or marriage as being a woman’s only or highest godly role or design in life, with an underlying, sometimes unspoken promise by conservatives, that motherhood and marriage will totally fulfill a woman and bring her purpose and identity, is precisely the reason that the ladies on the left have been pushing back against this for years, because those points are false.

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Police Apologize to Mother Whose Baby Was Stolen, Raped, Tortured, and Murdered by the Step Father (Australia)

Police Apologize to Mother Whose Baby Was Stolen, Raped, Tortured, and Murdered by the Step Father (Australia)

Some people are vile. One article says that the man who raped, tortured, and killed the infant was the infant’s own father (but from what I’ve read, I think the man was a step-father?)

If that is so, what have I said repeatedly?

While I am not anti-parenthood, I am opposed to other conservatives that emphasize parenthood to the point where I’ve seen some of them say or suggest that anyone who doesn’t have children, for whatever the reason, is not as loving, godly, ethical, or responsible as people who do have children – which is clearly a false sentiment, since there are so many parents, both biological and adoptive, who abuse children in their care!

Parenthood, or marriage, are not necessary to make a person mature, loving, ethical, or responsible.

(Link): Tamica Mullaley pardoned over conviction for police assault on night baby Charlie abducted

by Keane Bourke, June 2022

A woman whose baby was abducted and brutally murdered by her ex-partner after he bashed her and left her naked and bleeding in a Broome street has received an apology and pardon from the WA government.

(Link): ‘Enormous support’ for inquest into Charlie Mullaley’s brutal murder

Ten-month-old Charlie Mullaley was tortured and killed by his own father in WA in 2013 – now his family is finally pushing for justice.

by Natalie Brown / May 25, 2021

An online petition for an inquest into the horrific murder of Charles “Charlie Boy” Mullaley has gained over 26,400 signatures.

In March 2013, Tamica Mullaley’s 10-month-old son was abducted, sexually assaulted and then killed by her partner, Mervyn Bell, after he left the then-28-year-old Yamatji woman naked and bleeding on a street in Broome, in Western Australia’s Kimberley.

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Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)

Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)

By Julia Duin, who has also written and has been interviewed about how churches have let down single adults over the age of 30, and who wrote a wonderful book called “Quitting Church.”

This article discusses how so many evangelical churches encouraged Christian couples to adopt babies (usually from foreign nations), but once those adopted babies grew up to have all sort of developmental or personality disorders, churches would not help these parents.

This is like so much of American, evangelical, Baptist and Protestant Christianity:
Sell a certain deed, or a type of life style (or whatever it may be – let’s call it “X,” whether it’s adopting a baby, or whatever it is) as being so “godly” and “pure,” but once you live X out, and X either does not work out, or it creates a whole new batch of problems, those same Christians, or ones like them who promote X, refuse to help you.

I went through something similar in regards to adult singlehood. I wrote about that (Link): here.

I followed all the Christian dating advice I was taught as a teen and 20- something, Christian advice that taught me if I wanted to get married I would, if I just followed “biblical” wisdom, and the Christian persons, books, and magazine articles spelled it out for me.

However, when I remained single into my mid-30s, in spite of having followed the Christian teaching I had been given by other Christians when younger, and when I began asking Christians online (on various blogs and discussion forums) who dish out this swill to singles, why I didn’t have the husband I had been promised according to their teaching, interpretations, and worldview, I was yelled at, judged, and criticized by these Christians.

I was told God didn’t owe me anything, etc, and how dare I expect God to “reward” me with a spouse just because I did Z, Q, and R (i.e., just because I had followed Christian teaching and advice on the topic).

Christians will do this to you – they will sell you and market you on doing X, and so you carry out X, but five, ten years later, X did not work out and maybe even left you with a set of problems you need help with, the same Christians that sold you X in the first place are now not willing to help you, and may even insult you when you go to them telling them that X did not work, and you could use their help.

You end up getting punished for taking the very life-style advice, for buying the marketing, these Christians sold you, guilt tripped you, or conned you into taking in the first place. đŸ˜€đŸ€ŹđŸ˜ĄđŸ˜ŁđŸ˜«

It’s demonic and perverse, I swear.

It is crazy-making and despicable how Christians set people up in these no-win or stressful or miserable situations, then fault those people when they try the Christian advice, and admit to defeat, stress, and they ask for help.

Christians set people up for failure with their stupid advice, then have the audacity to victim-blame those people (who earnestly took and followed the advice) for failing. đŸ˜ĄđŸ˜€đŸ€Ź

After having read through the testimonies of the parents on this page (see below, link with excerpts), it sounds like exhausting, hellish work to raise these adoptive children who turn out to have medical and behavioral problems.

I cannot, in good conscience, condemn any adult who realizes after so many months or years, they don’t have the mental or physical strength to keep parenting such children and so decide to return these children back to the adoption agency.

I appreciate the work Dee of Wartburg Watch has done against abuse, but I recall years ago, she ripped into famous Christian speaker Beth Moore, because Moore returned one of her adoptive children back to his mother.

I wrote about that situation (Link): here, towards the end of the post, under the sub-heading “Beth Moore / Judgementalism.” (You can scroll down that page to find the Beth Moore section, which is buried under a long discussion about YEC.)

It’s very easy to sit in judgment of someone else when or if your life is more or less going okay at the time and the person you’re criticizing has a life that is falling apart, or they’re in the middle of a calamity, or you may have a different temperament or inner strength the person you’re criticizing lacks.

I personally do not think I’d have the fortitude, endurance, or patience to put up with an adoptive kid who acts out constantly, even into their late teens. I’d want a break from that, too.

I have way, way more comments below this long excerpt, so please keep scrolling to read everything; thank you:

(Link): Evangelical adoptions: Churches are AWOL in helping parents of special needs kids

Excerpts:

by Julia Duin
June 2022

For years, evangelical Christians were enthusiastic supporters of adoption by sponsoring conferences, targeting adoption-friendly Sundays and staging adoption fairs in parish halls.

… Parents now say that the churches that encouraged them to adopt in the first place aren’t there for them now.

…Few statistics exist on the number of adoptions gone wrong, other than a 10-year-old study by the US Department of Health and Human Services reporting “adoption disruptions” ranging from 10-25 percent. This little-known statistic points to a meltdown in the industry and a sign that adoption and foster care have become a landmine for many families who believed God had called them to help these children.

No one told them there could be an aftermath. Here are some of their stories.

[I will not be pasting in ALL stories. These are just a few from the page]

Evangelicals adopted at a higher rate than others
“Joy” was a social worker in Tacoma, Washington, who adopted a 9-year-old boy in 2000, hoping for the best. She had 32 years of experience working for the state and a Christian agency where she’d helped more than 600 people adopt foster children.

The divorced mother of two was prepared for challenging behavior, including attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and developmental delays and PTSD from the child’s six years with mentally ill biological parents.
What stunned her was that by age 15, her son was a registered sex offender. Bad relationships, drug abuse and a child out of wedlock followed. Now 30, he cannot hold down a job.

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Mother Ties Up Five-Year-Old Girl on Roof to Burn in Scorching 43C (109F) Delhi Heat As ‘Punishment for Not Completing Homework’

Mother Ties Up Five-Year-Old Girl on Roof to Burn in Scorching 43C (109F) Delhi Heat As ‘Punishment for Not Completing Homework’

Christians and social conservatives who revere motherhood and the nuclear family too much often like to say that parenthood is necessary to make a person more godly, loving, and responsible. They shame women who never marry or never have a kid for never marrying or for not having a kid.

I’ve never had  a kid, but if I did, I would NOT tie a child up on a burning hot roof just because she didn’t do her homework, FFS. That is an excessive punishment.

(Link):  Mother charged with tying up 5-year-old on scorching roof for not doing homework 

An Indian mother has been charged after she allegedly tied up her 5-year-old daughter on a scorching-hot roof to punish her for not doing her homework.

The horrific incident took place in the Khajuri Khas section of New Delhi on June 2, when temperatures reached 113 degrees, reported the Indian news agency ANI.

Police said the girl’s mother tied up the kindergartner’s arms and legs with a rope — and then left her on the roof of the family’s home to punish her for laziness.

(Link): Mother ties up five-year-old girl on roof to burn in scorching 43C (109F – fahrenheit) Delhi heat as ‘punishment for not completing homework’

by Lizzie May
June 9, 2022

A cruel mother in India tied up her five-year-old daughter and left her on the roof to burn in scorching Delhi heat as punishment for not completing her homework.

Disturbing video shows the girl kicking and screaming as she tries to free herself while the painfully hot 43C (109.4F) sun of India’s capital Delhi beats down on her.

A neighbour recorded the footage in the north east of Delhi, in Khajury Khas on 2 June at around 2pm in the afternoon.

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Midwifery Students At A University in Scotland Were Instructed on How To Care For a “Birthing Person” Who Has Male Genitalia (ie., Teaching that Men Can Give Birth)

Midwifery Students At A University in Scotland Were Instructed on How To Care For a “Birthing Person” Who Has Male Genitalia (ie., Teaching that Men Can Give Birth)

(Link): University Midwifery Students Taught Biological Men Can Give Birth

 April 29, 2022
by Jeremiah Poff, Education Reporter

Midwifery students at a university in Scotland were instructed on how to care for a “birthing person” who has male genitalia.

The instruction at Edinburgh Napier University was part of an online module on the proper use of a catheter while providing care for a “pregnant or birthing person.” A catheter drains the bladder and is sometimes used by pregnant women while they are giving birth.

“It is important to note that while most times the birthing person will have female genitalia, you may be caring for a pregnant or birthing person who is transitioning from male to female and may still have external male genitalia,” the lesson said.

(Link): Scots midwifery students taught that men can get pregnant as backlash sparked over ‘dangerous advice’

by Paul Rodger
April 29, 2022

Student midwives in Scotland are being taught how to care for pregnant men, prompting a backlash.

Those studying the medical speciality are being shown how to look after biological males who have given birth or are preparing to, including how to apply catheters.

At Edinburgh Napier University, students are being taught about it as part of an online module.

In a change to its advice on catheterisation, Napier switched “women” to “birthing people”.

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Florida Parents Allegedly Attempted to Light Their Own Baby on Fire at New York Truck Stop, Sheriff Says

Florida Parents Allegedly Attempted to Light Their Own Baby on Fire at New York Truck Stop, Sheriff Says

(Link): Parents charged with attempted murder, accused of trying to light baby on fire

May 17, 2022

A grand jury indicted a man and woman from West Palm Beach with attempted murder for trying to set a baby on fire in New York.

The Seneca County Sheriff’s Office said 28-year-old Jamie Avery and 25-year-old Lisbeth Collado face charges of attempted aggravated murder, second-degree attempted murder, second-degree arson, second-degree attempted arson, and first-degree attempted assault.

The charges stem from an incident on May 3 at the Love’s Travel Plaza near Waterloo.

Deputies responded to a report of several fires at the plaza. They said Avery and Collado tried to light their 1-year-old child on fire.

Authorities found the child covered in a flammable liquid. They found a second child, a 4-year-old, with head injuries, abandoned in a tractor-trailer.

Both children are out of the hospital and expected to make a full recovery

(Link): Florida parents allegedly attempted to light baby on fire at New York truck stop, sheriff says

The parents are accused of causing multiple fires inside of a Love’s Travel Plaza and allegedly attempted to light their 1-year-old child on fire

 by Adam Sabes
May 18, 2022

Two parents in New York have been charged with attempted murder after allegedly attempting to light their 1-year-old child on fire at a truck stop on May 3.

Seneca County Sheriff’s Deputies responded to a report of several fires inside a Love’s Travel Plaza in Tyre, New York, and took Jamie L. Avery, Jr., 28, and Lisbeth Collado, 25, into custody after they allegedly caused the fires and attempted to “light a one-year-old child on fire,” according to authorities. The parents are from West Palm Beach, Florida.

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‘I’m 61 and Want a Baby with My Husband, 24 – People Say We Should Adopt’ by S. Bull

‘I’m 61 and Want a Baby with My Husband, 24 – People Say We Should Adopt’ by S. Bull

(Link): ‘I’m 61 and want a baby with my husband, 24 – people say we should adopt’

April 20, 2022

SHE’S a 61-year-old grandmother of 17.

But her age isn’t stopping Cheryl McCain from wanting to start a family with husband Quran, 24.

Cheryl took to TikTok to share a video of herself and her spouse, as she described herself as “61 with 7 kids and 17 grandkids”.

“24 and ready to start a family with me,” she wrote over Quran.

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Man Found Guilty of Sex Trafficking, Extortion of Daughter’s Sarah Lawrence Schoolmates

Man Found Guilty of Sex Trafficking, Extortion of Daughter’s Sarah Lawrence Schoolmates

Al Mohler and other marriage-and-parenthood-idolaters often say that being a parent (or being married) makes a person godly, mature, ethical, or responsible.

Well, here we have a news story about a guy who is a father who sexually trafficked his daughter’s classmates – did being a father make him more loving, ethical, godly or responsible than a person who is childless and childfree? The answer is NO. No it did not.

(Link): Man Found Guilty of Sex Trafficking, Extortion of Daughter’s Sarah Lawrence Schoolmates

“Let me be very clear. Larry Ray is a predator. An evil man who did evil things,” the prosecutor said.

April 6, 2022

By Minyvonne Burke and The Associated Press

A New York man was convicted Wednesday on charges that he moved into his daughter’s dorm room at Sarah Lawrence College and abused students at the elite school in a nearly 10-year scheme.

Lawrence Ray, 62, was found guilty of extortion, sex trafficking, forced labor, money laundering and other charges.

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Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

If you’re a single adult with children, be careful who you date – this guy was targeting single women with children, so he could gain access to their children to molest or rape their children.

I remember when dating sites began getting more acceptable (now, people have moved on to apps), Christians would regularly advise their lovelorn single adult friends to “just try a dating site, that’s how my cousin Pam met her spouse Hank!” – er, no.

Your cousin’s luck not with standing, there are a lot of kooks, crazies, abusers, and selfish asshats on dating apps and sites of all ages (contrary to some 20 something lady’s post I recently saw, it’s not just today’s 20-something men who are selfish, rude, and sexist – this is true of men of all ages, and it was true of 20 something men on dating apps around the early to mid 2000s, back when I was using such sites).

So, to the married couples out there, please stop telling your single, lonely friends who want a spouse (or steady squeeze of some kind) in your perky, overly-optimistic voice, “Just try a dating site; it worked for my mailman Frank!”

The article says that this pervert is married!
I apologize for being so repetitive on this blog, but as so many social and religious conservatives continue to promote marriage, parenthood and The Nuclear Family to such an unhealthy degree, I have to remind them: marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, mature, loving or ethical, nor will any of that “fix” sin in a culture.

This also goes against all the Christian guidance I read about dating and marriage in the 1980s and 1990s, which portrayed marriage as some kind of lofty achievement that one will only be granted by God if and when one reaches some level of spirituality, or maturity, or whatever.

The fact that so many jerky, abusive, loser, wacko Christian and Non-Christian people manage to get married goes to disprove those earlier Christian teachings that God will with-hold a spouse from you until you achieve perfection, when obviously less-then-perfect people manage to get married on a regular basis.

Now, I will say – the healthier you become (psychologically speaking), you will likely attract more healthy people in your life. If you continue on through life being a huge people pleasing, codependent doormat, you will likely attract narcissists, abusers, weirdos, the emotionally needy, and exploiters.

There are perverts like this guy on these dating sites and apps:

(Link): Accused sex predator targeted single mothers in Texas via dating apps, sheriff says 

March 30, 2022

The Montgomery County Sheriff’s Office is asking for potential victims who may have interacted with a suspect in an aggravated sexual assault of a child to come forward.

Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez has been arrested in connection to the case.

During the investigation, deputies learned Jimenez was targeting women with children through dating apps using the alias “Harley.”

The suspect allegedly asked to spend time with the women and their children.

(Link): Authorities seeking victims of man who targeted women with children through dating apps

According to the investigation, Jimenez is accused of targeting women with children through dating apps and then asking to spend time with their children under the alias “Harley.”

(Link): Man used dating apps to target single moms to get to their children, police say

(Link): Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

Authorities say that 42-year-old Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez went by the name “Harley” on dating sites and specifically looked for women with children

By Steve Helling
March 31, 2022

A Texas man has been charged with sexual assault of a child — and authorities allege he has been targeting single moms through dating apps, then asking to spend time with their children.

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Couple Accused of Using Electric Shock Device on Their Children

Couple Accused of Using Electric Shock Device on Their Children

There’s nothing about parenthood that makes a person more loving, godly, mature, self-less, or ethical than being childless – despite all the conservative, pro-natalism propaganda to the contrary.

(Link): Couple Accused of Using Electric Shock Device on Their Children

Couple in jail without bail

by Josh Marcus

A mother and her boyfriend have been arrested in Utah for allegedly using an electric shock device on the woman’s young, handcuffed children.

The couple were arrested on Saturday by police in the city of Ogden on Thursday, after an officer reviewed security camera footage of the alleged abuse.

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Marriage Counselors Share 30 Mistakes Couples Make

Marriage Counselors Share 30 Mistakes Couples Make

I have a quibble with #14 on the list. It says you’re not supposed to “keep score” in a relationship.

I think I see what they mean, but…. there are times in your life when you’re in a relationship, whether it’s dating, a work relationship, friendship, marriage, whatever type of relationship, where the other person is in fact self-absorbed, selfish, and/or narcissistic, which means, you will start to notice after so many months or years that you are definitely doing most of the giving most of the time but the other person hardly gives back.

When you’re in an imbalanced relationship, you can’t help but start to notice and feel resentful, and that type of relationship is not sustainable. It’s NOT petty or immature to start noticing and getting angry, resentful, or tired of being exploited by another person. That’s actually a normal reaction.

Point 3 below reminds me of a variation of friendships or other non-romantic relationships: when you, for example, call a family member because you’re upset, sad, stressed or angry about X, but the family member uses YOUR phone call about YOUR problem to say something like, “That sounds bad, but let me tell you about MY bad day / week / month / marriage / job problems.”

And before you know it, you end up listening to THEM talk about THEIR problem for an hour and a half, when you phoned them seeking a sounding board or empathy for YOUR problem.

I’ve had numerous friends and family over my life pull that on me, and it’s totally infuriating.

I was too bashful for years to do anything about it, but a few years ago, when one of my Aunts tried pulling something similar on me – she tried to commandeer the phone call to make it all about HER.

I listened to a moment for her to talk about her, I made a brief comment about “oh, I’m sorry to hear about that,” but then I said, “but anyway, like I was saying to you a moment ago, I’m upset lately, because blah blah blah…” (I pivoted the phone call BACK TO ME).

I didn’t let this Aunt, who is notorious for hijacking of conversations to turn it all back to her and her life, to get away with it yet again.

Here is the list:

(Link): Marriage Counselors Share 30 Mistakes Couples Make

Excerpts:

March 23, 2022
by Ieva GailiĆ«tė and Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Anyone in a long-term relationship can tell you it’s no easy walk in the park. Just think about the heated arguments, compromises, and misunderstandings — navigating the ups and downs is quite a task right there, especially when it comes to marriage. Well, no one is immune to the occasional blips and bumps in the road, and this viral thread is here to prove it.

Reddit user Zorra_ decided to find out what blunders happen after people tie the knot and say “I do”. They raised a question on the Ask Reddit online forum: “Marriage counselors, what are the most common mistakes couples make?” Hundreds of professionals rolled up their sleeves and typed some of the things they witnessed during their careers.

…..1. [Relationship Should Take Priority Over Marriage]

I’m not a marriage counselor but my wife posted a very meaningful and controversial article the other day and tagged me in it because I agree with its philosophy.

It was titled “Your kids should not be the most important part of your marriage.”

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Parents Charged with Killing Daughter, 16, by Allowing Her To Become Morbidly Obese

Parents Charged with Killing Daughter, 16, by Allowing Her To Become Morbidly Obese

(Link):  Kaylea Titford: Parents of obese girl charged with causing her death

March 22, 2022
Alun Titford and Sarah Lloyd-Jones are accused of failing to ensure their daughter’s dietary needs were met, leading to morbid obesity. They did not enter pleas when they appeared before magistrates.

(Link): INVESTIGATION Parents face charges after morbidly obese daughter (16) found dead in her bed 

An earlier inquest heard spina bifida sufferer Kaylea, who was immobile, suffered “multiple medical issues” through her life

Neil Fetherstonhaugh
March 23 2022

Two parents have appeared in court after their morbidly obese daughter was found dead in her bed.

Kaylea Titford (16) died in her family home in Newtown, Powys, in Wales in October 2020.

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