Men Complain About Minor Issues With Dating Sites While Women Discuss Being Sexually Assaulted or Harassed by Men They Meet on Dating Sites

Men Complain About Minor Issues With Dating Sites While Women Discuss Being Sexually Assaulted or Harassed by Men They Meet on Dating Sites

This is pretty common: in many ways, men have life much easier than women, but they think they have life harder, especially the sexist, bitter, and/or immature dolt men who post to “red pill,” Men’s Rights, or MGTOW groups online.

So, a lot of men end up complaining about problems that are pretty inconsequential as compared to the ones many women face on a regular basis, as is demonstrated in this article (which I was first made aware of by a lady on Twitter, @DLulabele):

(Link): What happened to Lucy on a Tinder date was chilling. It’s time to investigate dating apps

Excerpts:

March 2020

It all started off pretty routinely: Lucy matched with a guy on Tinder, they chatted on the app, then they decided to meet up in person.

There was dinner, a movie, more banter – it was a fun date.

“He seemed lovely, I really liked him… He was a guy I could see myself dating.”

He drove up into the bush, towards the Dandenong Ranges on Melbourne’s outskirts. It’d be fun and they could sleep in the van, he said, despite Lucy’s protests.

“It was really scary and things definitely progressed more than I had wanted them to.”

Lucy told him she didn’t want to have sex, but her date didn’t listen.

“I was raped that night,” Lucy says.

Divorce Rate Spikes Across China After ‘Couples Spend Too Much Time Together During Coronavirus Home Quarantine’

Divorce Rate Spikes Across China After ‘Couples Spend Too Much Time Together During Coronavirus Home Quarantine’

I guess marriage is not all it’s cracked up to be, and conservative groups and Christians are wrong to keep teaching that marriage is necessary to save society or make people more loving, ethical, or responsible, LOL!

(Link): Divorce Rate Spikes Across China After ‘Couples Spend Too Much Time Together During Coronavirus Home Quarantine’

by Emilia Jiang
March 13, 2020

Divorce rates in China have risen significantly because ‘couples are spending too much time together at home’ during coronavirus self-isolation, according to register offices across the country.

Over 300 couples have scheduled appointments to get a divorce since February 24, said Lu Shijun, the manager of a marriage registry in Dazhou, Sichuan Province of south-western China.

Officials believe the sharp increase of divorce requests could be caused by the fact that partners have spent too much time in close quarters under quarantine.

New Dating Site Launches for Men With ‘Dinky’ Penises

New Dating Site Launches for Men With ‘Dinky’ Penises

(Link): New Dating Site Launches for Men With ‘Dinky’ Penises

Excerpts (this may be more than you ever wanted to know):

Less-than-endowed men now have their own dating site where size really doesn’t matter.

Dinky One, a new matchmaking website, aims to combat penis-size pressure by helping those with smaller phalluses find love.

Prophet Who Raped Male and Female Members of His Own Church Jailed

Prophet Who Raped Male and Female Members of His Own Church Jailed

(Link): Self-styled prophet, 60, who raped female and male members of his church at least 88 times in ‘spiritual baths’ he said had been ordained by God is jailed for 34 years

Excerpts:

A ‘feared’ evangelical pastor who used his trusted position to abuse children and adults over 20 years has been jailed for 34 years after his conviction for multiple rapes of members of his congregation.

Self-styled prophet Michael Oluronbi, originally from Nigeria and living inBirmingham, was found guilty of the offences against six women and a man in January, actions described by a judge as ‘one of the worst cases of sexual abuse of multiple children to come before the courts’.

Some of his offences were carried out after he convinced victims, five of whom attended his church, to take part in ‘spiritual bathing’, which he claimed would ‘cleanse’ them of evil spirits.

Married Couple Raped Their Own Kids During “Swinger” Sessions Where They Allowed Pedophiles To Rape Their Kids Too

Married Couple Raped Their Own Kids During “Swinger” Sessions Where They Allowed Pedophiles To Rape Their Kids Too

A lot of secular conservatives who run pro-marriage, pro-nuclear family groups, and a lot of conservative Christians, such as Al Mohler, often like to release editorials, blog posts, or podcasts arguing that people need to be married with children, because, they maintain, only marriage and parenting can save society, and both are supposedly necessary to make a person more godly, mature, responsible and ethical.

Such conservative groups disparage singleness and the state of being childless.

Now, I happen to be a conservative myself, but I realize that the Bible doesn’t teach that the Nuclear Family will save society, or that God frowns upon singleness (the Bible states quite the opposite in 1 Corinthians 7).

I’m not even opposed to marriage, the nuclear family, or to parenthood, but I am in total opposition of conservatives who have turned any of those things into idols (which most of them have done), and who also disparage singleness or adult singles (or the childless or childfree) in the process (which they do frequently).

Here is yet another example on my blog (I have (Link): many more elsewhere on this blog) demonstrating that being a married parent does not ensure character or morality in a person:

(Link): Evil paedo couple raped their own kids, 3 and 5, during horrific ‘swinger’ sex abuse sessions with predators

March 3, 2020
by April Roach

AN EVIL couple who drugged their own children and forced them to take part in ‘swinger’ sex abuse sessions with paedos have been handed a record jail sentence.

Female Komodo Dragon Conceives Without A Male Partner

Female Komodo Dragon Conceives Without A Male Partner

(Link): Female Komodo Dragon Conceives Without A Male Partner

By Melissa Malamut

Sorry, Kadal, you are not the father!

When the Chattanooga Zoo announced last September that Charlie, the zoo’s female Komodo dragon, birthed three hatchlings, zoo staff weren’t exactly sure how Charlie conceived.

Did she breed with Kadal, the zoo’s male dragon, with whom she was placed in the hopes that they’d mate? Or would she reproduce all on her own?

Turns out, Charlie doesn’t need a man, thank you very much.

Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

Why I am posting a news article about a man who raped his own eight year old son to death with a stick (link is way below):

Conservative Christians today, including but not limited to Al Mohler, and secular conservative secular groups that promote marriage and the family – such as Bradford Wilcox’s “National Marriage Project” and “Institute for Family Studies” keep promoting a false view of marriage, parenthood, and the nuclear family: they all keep insisting that marriage, parenthood, and the Nuclear Family are all necessary to somehow improve culture, or to make people mature, godly, or responsible.

But I have many examples on this blog going back years of married people who are parents, who are in a nuclear family, who have been arrested for child porn, raping their own children, beating their wives, etc.

One can turn to the pages of the Bible and read about the families who sinned. King David was married with children, but he raped and indirectly had a man murdered. That’s but one example.

There is nothing, nothing, nothing about the Nuclear Family, marriage, or parenthood that makes people “better.”

The Bible may say marriage is permissible and children are a blessing, but it nowhere argues that everyone should get married and be in a nuclear family, or that God prescribes marriage and parenthood as a means of “fixing” or improving people or culture.

Here’s yet another example of how being married and a parent did not make a person more godly, loving, mature, or responsible:

(Link): Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

March 2020

by D. Cinone

A DAD accused of killing his son allegedly yanked the boy’s teeth out with pliers, gave him coal for Christmas and raped him to death with stick.

The boy’s parents – Mauricio Alejandro Torres, 50, and Cathy Torres, 48 – allegedly beat their son Maurice ‘Isaiah’ Torres with cables and shoes, a jury heard Monday.

Six-year-old Isaiah reportedly died of septic shock after being horrifically violated during a camping trip in March 2015 [the boy was raped by his father with a stick over eating a piece of cake].

Pat Robertson’s Downer, Bad Advice to Gabby the Mid-30s, Never Married Lady Who’s Not Having Success with Dating Sites

Pat Robertson’s Downer, Bad Advice to Gabby the Mid-30s, Never Married Lady Who’s Not Having Success with Dating Sites

On February 25, 2020, Christian program “The 700 Club” had Pat Robertson answer a question from a mid-30s woman named Gabby who would like to get married, but to summarize her point, she says most of the men who identify as Christian on dating sites are tawdry, gross, etc.

So, she asks Robertson what to do – which is a big mistake.

I’ve said before on this blog that single adults (especially women) should (Link): stop asking Pat Robertson for relationship advice. Because nine out of ten times, his advice will be impractical, insensitive, and/or sexist.

You can listen to the lady co-host read Gabby’s letter, and listen to Pat Robertson’s advice to her around the 45 minute mark (Link): here (CBN’s site)

(They may eventually upload that Feb. 25, 2020 question to their (Link): “Honest Answers” channel on You Tube, I don’t know.)

From what I recall of the segment when I watched it on TV:

Pat Robertson pushes the “be equally yoked” garbage on Gabby, telling her that no matter how desperate she feels, no matter if she worries about becoming “an old maid,” to NOT marry a Non-Christian.

A bit later, Robertson goes on to tell Gabby that maybe God is keeping her single because God wants her all to himself.

I almost barfed and then threw a rock at my television set when I heard that.

Christian Network TBN Now Airing Secular Commercials – Their Holy Land Amusement Park Tanking

Christian Network TBN Now Airing Secular Commercials – Their Holy Land Amusement Park Tanking

Well, this is interesting.

I don’t watch TBN nearly as often as I used to, but every so often, I do flip the channel over to see what is going on over there.

Certainly in the year 2020, TBN has been airing “secular” commercial advertisements for a company called “Car Shield.”

I think they may have been airing these ads in 2019.

Of course, the original founders of TBN have died in the last few years, with the son and his wife running things.

When Ma and Pa Crouch (that is, Jan and Paul) ran the network, they detested commercials.

They used to have “Praise A Thons” where they’d get their regular, money-grubbing, smarmy tele-evangelists to come on 24 hours a day for seven days straight, to lecture people about sending money to TBN, and making bogus “Wealth N Health” promises, that if you just mail Paul and Jan Crouch a few bucks, God would heal your cancer or bestow financial blessings upon  you.

After they died (Jan Crouch (Link): died in 2016), I think the son who took over the station realized that “Praise A Thons” were “Snooze A Thons,” so he dumped them.

Soon after dumping them, he tried 30 minute “infomercial” type blocks, where he and his wife would have a Christian author on to hawk whatever book they had recently published.

The deal was, if you mailed TBN some money, they would mail you a copy of that book. (They also use to sell baubles – if you sent them a donation, they would mail you some Jesus-themed doo-dad in return.)

That went on for a few years.

I wondered at the time if they could sustain their network on just that alone. Apparently not.

The “Dating Market” Is Getting Worse by A. Fetters and K. Tiffany

The “Dating Market” Is Getting Worse b A. Fetters and K. Tiffany

For anyone who cannot wait to get to it, here’s the link to the piece on The Atlantic:

(Link): The ‘Dating Market’ Is Getting Worse

Some of my comments about that piece before I put in some excerpts from it:

About the only “numbers approach” I have ever mentioned on my own blog here is that Christian women really do unnecessarily limit themselves if they try to live out the “Be Equally Yoked” philosophy in regards to dating and marriage, because the reality is, yes, the math is that there are not enough single, Christian men to go around for all the Christian single women who’d like to marry.

So, it makes sense to forgo the “equally yoked” rule, if one is a Christian, to date outside the Christian faith.

At the same time, though, I have seen other adults singles make much too much out of the “numbers game” philosophy on dating sites or comments sections on blogs about dating, where they make finding a romantic life partner sound so cold, or as though they’re shopping for a car.

There’s nothing wrong with having standards, but I am afraid there is a category of single adult who is too stringent or unrealistic with their lists of “must haves.”

I am personally turned off by anyone dispensing dating or “how to get married” advice who behave  as though there is a sure-fire guarantee way to land a spouse – because (Link): there is no such thing.

So, I’m really turned off by the many (sexist) attitudes and lists out there telling women if only the women do X, Y, and Z, they will absolutely get married to a great guy.

One problem is that most of these lists (which go viral on Twitter) are predicated on the notion that all men want and prefer 1950s, submissive, uber-feminine women.

Well, I lived that way for many decades – I was raised in a very traditional family that was into conservative values – so I had many of those prized traits sexist men online say will grant a woman a husband, but I remain never-married into my late 40s.

I was a very meek, docile, passive, sweet woman with traditional values, and no, it didn’t get me a husband.

(As I’ve aged, I’ve realized that it’s not a healthy or safe dating strategy for a woman to fit the picture of docile, overly feminine, passive, etc, that the “dating advice” gurus suggest on twitter and elsewhere, because many abusive, selfish, or controlling men intentionally seek out women with such qualities so that they can control, abuse, or take advantage of them.)

There are many conservatives – including women authors, unfortunately – who keep writing dating advice books for women, or who go on to FOX cable news morning shows, who keep encouraging women to engage in these dangerous dating strategies (of being a doormat, where being “feminine” is associated with doormat behaviors), which I’ve written about before (Link): here and (Link): here, among other blog posts.

The article below states at one point that men out-number women on dating sites. That may be so on some sites, but certainly not all.

Years ago, I had a paid membership on a dating site, and the site was forever claiming they could find no matches for me, most of the time.

For the four or five month paid subscription I had, I was only linked up to a total of about three men in that time.

My research on that particular online dating company found it’s the same with a lot of women, as it had been for me: that site tends to only “dribble out” a tiny number of matches for women, while they send male members more matches per month, every month.

Here are excerpts from…

(Link): The ‘Dating Market’ Is Getting Worse

The old but newly popular notion that one’s love life can be analyzed like an economy is flawed—and it’s ruining romance.

…It’s understandable that someone like Liz [a 30 year old single who is using dating apps to find dates] might internalize the idea that dating is a game of probabilities or ratios, or a marketplace in which single people just have to keep shopping until they find “the one.”

The idea that a dating pool can be analyzed as a marketplace or an economy is both recently popular and very old:
For generations, people have been describing newly single people as (Link): “back on the market” and (Link): analyzing dating in terms of supply and demand.

The Nuclear Family Was A Mistake – by David Brooks – and Related Links

The Nuclear Family Was A Mistake – by David Brooks – and Related Links

If you want to get right to it, here’s the main link:

(Link): The Nuclear Family Was a Mistake by David Brooks  – via The Atlantic (off site link)

Before I paste in excerpts from that editorial by David Brooks below, I wanted to say a few words, and I will be pasting in any relevant links about the Brooks piece even farther below that.

I’ve been saying on this blog FOR YEARS many of the same things that Brooks has outlined in his essay.

Some of what I’ve been saying on this blog for years now includes:
that Christians and conservatives have turned Marriage and The Nuclear Family into idols,
that they have placed weight upon both that the Bible never did, and in the process of advocating marriage, these conservatives and Christians have marginalized the never-married, the divorced, the widowed and the childless or childfree among them, and this is wrong.

The Bible does not teach that marriage – or parenting – are going to “fix” society, or that being married or becoming a parent is necessary to make a person into a moral, upstanding, responsible individual.

If you’re a conservative or a Christian who keeps sounding the alarm about falling marriage rates, you need to accept reality for what it is: most people now are either single and childless by choice or by circumstance.

The United States is simply never going back to the June and Ward Cleaver family structures in mass droves that existed in the 1950s; (Link): so get over it already, and stop trying to punish or guilt trip anyone and everyone who doesn’t marry or have children.

‘I Prefer Cleaning My House Than Having Sex’ -various women talk about how they prefer house cleaning to having sex

‘I prefer cleaning my house than having sex’

(Link): Meet four women who prefer cleaning the house to having sex with their partners

CLEANING is the new sex – that’s what Jessie J says, anyway.

The Do It Like A Dude singer, who is in an on-off relationship with Magic Mike actor Channing Tatum, said: “Cooking, organising and sex are my favourite things, in that order.”

The 31-year-old said tidying was her “love language”, and she’s not the only celebrity who has taken to this new kind of clean living.

Bride Reads Out Cheating Fiancé’s Racy Affair Text Messages Instead of Vows at Wedding

Bride Reads Out Cheating Fiancé’s Racy Affair Text Messages Instead of Vows at Wedding

(Link): Bride Reads Out Cheating Fiancé’s Racy Affair Text Messages Instead of Vows at Wedding

January 2020

A BRIDE took revenge on her cheating fiancé by reading out the saucy messages he sent his lover instead of her vows.

The woman claims she exposed her cheating fiancé for the love rat he really is in front of all their friends and family.

She discovered all the details of her partner’s affair the night before she was due to marry him, and decided to get her own back in a creative way.

The bride – who uses the pseudonym Casey – decided to take drastic measures to humiliate her cheating fiancé .

TikTok’s ‘Nurse Holly’ Facing Ridicule for Encouraging Abstinence Until Marriage

TikTok’s ‘Nurse Holly’ Facing Ridicule for Encouraging Abstinence Until Marriage

As I said about this headline on Twitter yesterday:

In today’s “anti slut shaming” and “pro sex positive, virginity is a social construct” (no, it’s not) society, every sexual behavior choice is supported EXCEPT FOR abstinence, which is mocked by both liberals AND many conservatives

The nurses who criticized “Nurse Holly” for her abstinence, as a group, (Link): are hypocrites. Why do I say that? Because some of them mock women virgins for being virgins when they come in for health screenings.

I can just imagine me, a 40-something virgin, going in to see one of these “sex positive, no slut shaming” nurses as part of a medical visit and them possibly finding out during questioning I’m still a virgin, and I’m sure they’d either roll their eyes or act incredulous or mock me for it – I had an experience like that in my late twenties when I had to see a doctor.

(Link): TikTok’s ‘Nurse Holly’ Facing Ridicule for Encouraging Abstinence Until Marriage– via FaithWire

(Link): TikTok’s ‘Nurse Holly’ Facing Ridicule for Encouraging Abstinence Until Marriage – via CBN News

January 18, 2020
by T. Goins-Phillips

“Nurse Holly” has amassed quite the following on TikTok. She uses her incredibly popular account to talk — and joke — about her career in the medical field. But now she’s facing scorn because she encouraged her 1.7 million followers to wait until they’re married to have sex.

In the video, which has since been deleted, Holly promoted the message, “The best way to prevent STDs is waiting for sex until marriage. Just the truth.”

Holly’s argument is airtight — if you don’t have sex until you’re married to your partner, the likelihood of contracting an STI is greatly decreased. But that (Link): didn’t stop other nurses from dragging her on Twitter.

Outrage As First Transgender Kids’ Doll With Penis and Dress Spotted in Toy Shop

Outrage As First Transgender Kids’ Doll With Penis and Dress Spotted in Toy Shop

When I was little, I was a tom boy. But I sometimes got dolls as presents from people, and I sometimes had play dates at other girls’ homes who had Barbie dolls and other types of dolls. 

And the dolls never had genitals. At most, Barbie had two “blobs” on her chest to roughly indicate breasts, and her boyfriend, the “Ken” doll had a “bulge” in his groin region, but none of this was detailed; there were no nipples or testicles or penises in sight. 

So, if someone is manufacturing girl-looking dolls with penises, I can only deduce it’s either some kind of attempt at humor (to prank the toy buying public), or it’s part of an agenda to promote or normalize trasngederism.

(Link): Outrage As First Transgender Kids’ Doll With Penis and Dress Spotted in Toy Shop

WARNING: GRAPHIC CONTENT — The small doll has divided Russians after it was spotted in the Planeta Igrushek (Planet Of Toys) shop in the Siberian city of Novosibirsk

The doll – pictured with a penis and wearing a dress – sparked debate after being spotted in a Siberian toyshop.

Missouri 7th-Grader Says ‘Virginity Rocks’ Sweater Almost Got Him Suspended

Missouri 7th-Grader Says ‘Virginity Rocks’ Sweater Almost Got Him Suspended

These days, being a virgin or a celibate is really the only “taboo” sexual (non?) behavior left.

We have many (not all, but many) liberals screaming and yelling that every one should accept people with penises being permitted into locker rooms for biological women,
and we have both secular, liberal feminists and conservative Christians jumping on to the ‘Sex Positive’ train, where they defend pre-marital sex and write off adult virginity as being a “social construct,” and say you’re a “slut shamer” if you disagree.

So of course if someone speaks up in favor of virginity (or celibacy), it’s going to be looked at askew (when it’s not being mocked or insulted), as in this story.

I bet if this kid wore a shirt that said “Sex Positivity Rocks,” he would not have gotten into trouble.

This is the kind of world we live in now.

(Link): Missouri 7th-Grader Says ‘Virginity Rocks’ Sweater Almost Got Him Suspended

January 2020
by Jessica Chasmar

A seventh grade boy who wore a “Virginity Rocks” sweatshirt to school in Wentzville, Missouri, was forced to remove the shirt and threatened with suspension if he wore it again, his parents said Wednesday.

Husband Has Metal Nut Attached to His Penis in His Sleep by His Wife as DIY Chastity Device

Husband Has Metal Nut Attached to His Penis in His Sleep by His Wife as DIY Chastity Device

(Link): Husband Has Metal Nut Attached to His Penis in His Sleep by His Wife as DIY Chastity Device

Excerpts

January 2020

A husband had to seek medical help after his wife put a metal nut on his penis to punish him for being unfaithful in Ukraine.

The unnamed victim in his 40s was woken up by pain in the morning and saw his organ being ‘strangulated’ and swollen.

He tried to take the nut off by himself but failed before calling an ambulance and being hospitalised in the city of Zaporizhia, in the south of the country.

After examining the man, doctors called a ‘Kobra’ rescuers crew because they did not have the necessary tools to remove the chastity nut.

Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

(Link): Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

Excerpts:

The head of a Louisiana Bible college sexually assaulted a teen theological seminary student on a flight from Israel to New Jersey over the weekend, according to federal prosecutors.

Cornelius Tilton, 65 — who has been at the helm of the Irish Channel Christian Fellowship church since 1988 and serves as the general president of Christian Bible College of Louisiana — was seated next to a 19-year-old man on a flight from Tel Aviv to Newark Liberty International Airport, prosecutors said in a statement.

Chicago Pastor Accused of Stealing from Food Program to Buy Himself a Bentley

Chicago Pastor Accused of Stealing from Food Program to Buy Himself a Bentley

(Link): Chicago Pastor Accused of Stealing from Food Program to Buy Himself a Bentley

by Jackie Salo

January 2020

A Chicago pastor is accused of stealing nearly $1 million from a food program for needy children — using some of the cash to buy himself a flashy new Bentley, federal prosecutors said.

Over 70,000 Tinder Profiles of Women Just Got Dumped on a Cyber-Crime Forum

Over 70,000 Tinder Profiles of Women Just Got Dumped on a Cyber-Crime Forum

(Link): Over 70,000 Tinder Profiles of Women Just Got Dumped on a Cyber-Crime Forum

Excerpts:

…Aaron DeVera, a member of New York City’s task force on cyber sexual assault, told reporters they discovered the images on a website known for trading in malicious software. (We aren’t disclosing the website’s name for obvious reasons.)

The dump is also accompanied by a text file containing some 16,000 unique Tinder user IDs, which could be the total number of users affected.