Anti-Porn Activist: ‘Ethically Sourced’ Porn ‘Sounds Like an Oxymoron’

Anti-Porn Activist: ‘Ethically Sourced’ Porn ‘Sounds Like an Oxymoron’

The following is a response to this article (Link): Lutheran Pastor Defends ‘Ethically Sourced Porn,’ Wants to Remove ‘Shame’ From Industry

I have a comment or two to make below these excerpts….

(Link): Anti-Porn Activist: ‘Ethically Sourced’ Porn ‘Sounds Like an Oxymoron’

By Michael Gryboski , Christian Post Reporter | Nov 13, 2018 7:42 AM

An anti-pornography activist has taken issue with an Evangelical Lutheran Church in America pastor’s support for “ethically sourced porn” and the removal of shame from the sex entertainment industry.

“What she is saying about shame sounds to me like a condemnation of shame in general, that there is nothing good about it,” Peggy Cairns, Education chairperson with the Maryland Coalition Against Pornography, told The Christian Post. “I would contend that there is a place for shame in life, it’s part of how our consciences work, and we need more of it rather than less in today’s compass-less world.”

Lutheran pastor and author Nadia Bolz-Weber recently argued that there should be no shame in consuming pornography, especially if it is “ethically sourced.”

Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? America is in a Sex Recession – by K. Jullian

Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? America is in a Sex Recession –  by K. Jullian – via The Atlantic

(Link): Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? America is in a Sex Recession – via The Atlantic

These should be boom times for sex.

The share of Americans who say sex between unmarried adults is “not wrong at all” is at an all-time high. New cases of HIV are at an all-time low. Most women can—at last—get birth control for free, and the morning-after pill without a prescription.

If hookups are your thing, Grindr and Tinder offer the prospect of casual sex within the hour. The phrase If something exists, there is porn of it used to be a clever internet meme; now it’s a truism.

BDSM plays at the local multiplex—but why bother going? Sex is portrayed, often graphically and sometimes gorgeously, on prime-time cable. Sexting is, statistically speaking, normal.

…But despite all this, American teenagers and young adults are having less sex.

To the relief of many parents, educators, and clergy members who care about the health and well-being of young people, (Link):teens are launching their sex lives later …

…Over the past few years, Jean M. Twenge, a psychology professor at San Diego State University, has published research exploring how and why Americans’ sex lives may be ebbing.

What Happens to Men Who Stay Bachelors Forever, According To Science by L. Vinopal

What Happens to Men Who Stay Bachelors Forever, According To Science by L. Vinopal

(Link): What Happens to Men Who Stay Bachelors Forever, According To Science by L. Vinopal

Excerpts:

Men who never get married and have children are many things—and not all of them are as sad and lonely as Uncle Rob.

Despite plenty of studies that show how parenthood and marriage benefit men, a growing body of research reveals that it’s more of a mixed-bag for bachelors than scientists previously thought. There are plenty of upsides (and some downsides) to staying alone forever. Here’s what science has to say about being that guy.

Single Men Make Less Money…

Men who stay unmarried make anywhere from 10 to 40 percent less than married men, studies show. There’s evidence that fathers make up to 21 percent more than men without children, and studies suggest men with wives and kids work longer hours and put up with more workplace bullshit than single men.

Why Black Church Leaders Often Get Away With Sexual Misconduct, and the Woman Breaking the Silence

Why Black Church Leaders Often Get Away With Sexual Misconduct, and the Woman Breaking the Silence

(Link): Why Black Church Leaders Often Get Away With Sexual Misconduct, and the Woman Breaking the Silence

Excerpts:

By Leonardo Blair , Christian Post Reporter | Nov 10, 2018 9:36 AM

…In recent months, Garrison said, she thought her relationship with the preacher [Couzens] was exclusive.

He even led her to believe that she could become his wife.

And Couzens kept her believing until one cold day in October, Garrison discovered he had proposed to another woman and didn’t bother to tell her.

…Now, after hearing from several other deceived women she says are too afraid to speak out publicly against Couzens [church pastor] , Garrison wants to use her voice as a wrecking ball against the culture of silence that has enabled rogue pastors like Couzens to exploit women in the black church without penalty.

She is also pushing to mobilize other women who have also been mistreated to force churches that have tolerated their behavior to start renouncing their sin.

…Prevalence of Misconduct

The Rev. Donald H. Matthews is an ordained minister who has taught at numerous universities and seminaries in the areas of black studies, religious ethics, sociology, and psychology. He has more than 40 years of experience in ministry.

In his 2012 book, Sexual Abuse of Power in the Black Church: Sexual Misconduct in the African American Churches, Matthews pointed to research suggesting that black females are likely to experience three times the amount of sexual abuse compared to their counterparts in white churches.

Megachurch Pastor Fired for Viewing Porn Talks About Overcoming His Addiction, New Pastor Job – Bible Says This Dude is Permanently Disqualified from Ministry

Megachurch Pastor Fired for Viewing Porn Talks About Overcoming His Addiction, New Pastor Job – Bible Says This Dude is Permanently Disqualified from Ministry

The Bible has some pretty straight forward guidelines on the type of people who can or should hold ministry positions in a church – something like viewing porn is a permanent disqualifier, yet this guy, in spite of being found out as a porn user or porn addict, is once more working as a church pastor.

Some Christians still claim to be against sexual sin, but they’re not – when you watch them in action, they will excuse and excuse and justify sexual sin. This guy sexually sins up, down, and sideways, and he is given yet another ministry job. Meanwhile, honest to god celibates – people like me who are sexually abstaining because we are single – get no support from Christians.

I see headlines like this, and I don’t see it as a beautiful, nice testament to “God’s grace” but I only see how the contemporary church has sold-out and become very lax about sexual ethics.

He says that technology was his downfall – was it? I use the internet quite a bit but don’t make a habit out of viewing porn or visiting porn sites.

I believe this article says that this guy is married – contrary to what many Christians teach, especially Baptists and evangelicals, marriage does NOT make adults more godly, ethical, or responsible. Being married didn’t stop this guy from viewing porn, after all.

(Link): Megachurch Pastor Fired for Viewing Porn Talks About Overcoming His Addiction, New Pastor Job – Bible Says This Dude is Permanently Disqualified from Ministry

By Samuel Smith , CP Reporter | Nov 11, 2018 8:43 AM

Pastor Scott Crenshaw said he felt like a rock star when he was senior pastor of the multicampus New River Fellowship Church based in Weatherford, Texas.

After helping Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church in Houston grow its young adults worship ministry, Crenshaw went onto become New River’s senior pastor and helped expand the congregation from one campus to three and from about 500 members to over 2,500.

But that all came to a crashing halt in 2016 when his departure from the church for “viewing inappropriate images” on his church computer made national headlines.

Avid Motorcyclist 39, Crashes and Dies Just Months After He Staged FAKE Accident to Propose to His Girlfriend

Avid Motorcyclist 39, Crashes and Dies Just Months After He Staged FAKE Accident to Propose to His Girlfriend

(Link): Avid motorcyclist, 39, crashes and dies just months after he staged FAKE accident to propose to his girlfriend

An motorcyclist died in a tragic in an accident just months after he staged his own accident to propose to his girlfriend.

Miguel Angel Pena, 39, was enjoying another ride along the Dominican Republic’s resort town of Las Terrenas with a group of other bikers when he lost control of his motorcycle on a highway on Friday.

The Creepy Crusade Against White Women By Liberals and Trump Haters

The Creepy Crusade Against White Women By Liberals and Trump Haters

This whole post is another big case study in why I can never, ever be a liberal.

I was saying in a post or two in months past on this blog that liberals have thrown women under the bus, especially white women.

Liberals (Link): really dislike white people, but they dislike white women most of all, especially white women who are hetero, cis, and who are conservative and/or who vote Republican.

Over a year ago, I meant to do a blog post on the topic of “intersectionality” but never got around to it – I should have done it, because sometimes, hatred of caucasian women is done under the auspices of this feminist concept.

If you would like, you can read Wikipedia’s page that offers an explanation on (Link): what Intersectionality is.

On the one hand, a lot of liberals claim to stand for equality, they say they are opposed to sexism, but, they have a “pecking order” of victim groups, where some groups are more worthy of their protection than others – and white, cis, hetero women (especially who vote Republican) are at the very bottom.

That is to say, as I’ve (Link): explained before, if the concerns or needs of one favored liberal pet group clashes with that of white/ cis/ hetero women, the liberals will always, always, throw the women (especially if white / cis) “under the bus.” It’s creepy as hell.

Not only are white women subjected to sexism by all men, but they’ve been attacked or marginalized by all these other factions (which are usually liberal).

Singlism: How Serious Is It, Really? by B. DePaulo

Singlism: How Serious Is It, Really? by B. DePaulo

(Link): Singlism: How Serious Is It, Really?

Excerpts:

….This time, the person [arguing with DePaulo] argued that singlism — stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single — does not even exist.

A different version of the objection concedes that there are ways in which single people are viewed and treated more negatively than married people, but insists that those instances are so inconsequential that they should simply be ignored.

After all, there are other “isms” that are far more serious than singlism.

…Singlism can be financially devastating.

In part because of laws, policies, and practices that favor married people and couples over single people, the costs of living single can be staggering.

For example, married people, with all their opportunities to draw from their spouse’s benefits, can get far more out of Social Security than single people do. Housing costs, health costs, and taxes are higher for single people.

A 69 Year Old Man Wants to Self Identify as a 40-Something to Increase His Chances on Dating Sites

A 69 Year Old Man Wants to Self Identify as a 40-Something to Increase His Chances on Dating Sites

I wonder if this man, named Ratelband, is like 99% of men – a sexist ass clown, who, despite being 60-something, only wants to date 20 -something women?

This man says in one of these articles that when he joins dating sites and states his age as 60-something that he gets no responses, but I bet he does – probably from other 60- something women, but he probably only wants to date 21 year old women.

Most men are sexist, ageist douche canoes like that; they don’t want to date women their own age, nope; they feel entitled to women 10 or more years their junior.

(By the way, this dude thinks he has the face of a 40-something (he says so in one of the articles)? I am currently in my 40s as I compose this post, and no, honey, you don’t look like a 40-something man. You don’t even appear to be an attractive 60 something man, sorry.)

(Link): Man, 69, sues to lower age 20 years: ‘You can change your gender. Why not your age?’

Excerpts:

Ratelband cites several reasons as to why he wants to lower his age from 69 years to 49 years.

The Dutchman, who is a motivational speaker and media personality in the Netherlands, says that he’d likely have better luck dating, gaining employment, and making large purchases, such as homes or vehicles, if he were younger on paper.

…Ratelband adds, “When I’m on Tinder [dating site] and it says I’m 69, I don’t get an answer. When I’m 49, with the face I have, I will be in a luxurious position.”

“You can change your name. You can change your gender. Why not your age?” he asks.

Meet the Men In Love With $7,000 Sex Dolls

Meet the Men In Love With $7,000 Sex Dolls

This is not only creepy, but it’s sad and pathetic.

(Link): Meet the Men In Love With $7,000 Sex Dolls

The men in love with $7,000 sex dolls: Subculture of ‘iDollators’ who marry and develop romances with inanimate partners after swearing off ‘flesh and blood’ women

November 2018
by Shelia Flynn

…John and Jackie are the stars of new documentary Silicone Soul, which chronicles the lives of men who’ve fallen in love with dolls – as well as other doll enthusiasts who have interests and motivations separate from sex or romance, such as a female artist who uses dolls for photography and friendship.

In addition to John – who purchased Jackie for $7,000 – the film follows a man named ‘Davecat’ in Detroit who’s married to doll Sidore and owns another, Elena, with whom he’s involved (they’re polyamorous, he says).

There’s also a New Jersey husband going by the pseudonym of ‘Ben’ who keeps several dolls in the basement as surrogates for his severely ill wife.

And they’re far from the only people choosing such a lifestyle, according to director Melody Gilbert, who was wholly unacquainted with the phenomenon before embarking upon this project – though it immediately fascinated her.

Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

(Link): Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

by Will Stewart, November 9, 2018

A 35-year-old widow and her 12-year-old son have been stabbed to death by a violent criminal she met on a dating website.

[Photo caption: Ekaterina [the murder victim] (left) had met Batygin [the killer] on a dating website after her 61-year-old husband Vadim (together right) had died from a heart attack]

Ekaterina Smirnova was killed by Dmitry Batygin, 30, at her home in Moscow which was then filled with gas in the hopes it would explode and destroy evidence.

Police say Batygin carefully planned the murders, wearing shoe covers to disguise his shoe-prints and gloves so as not to leave fingerprints behind.

Woman Sues Her Ex-Boyfriend Claiming His ‘Abnormally Long Penis’ Stretched Her Vagina

Woman Sues Her Ex-Boyfriend Claiming His ‘Abnormally Long Penis’ Stretched Her Vagina

This article comes from the UK site “The Sun.” I swear, that paper publishes the most weird or disturbing news stories I usually see.

This is another one of those news stories that make you think, “I’m glad I’m celibate and NOT having sex.”

If I am understanding this article right, this guy she was having sex with was married at the time – so I guess they were committing adultery.

(Link): Woman Sues Her Ex-Boyfriend Claiming His ‘Abnormally Long Penis’ Stretched Her Vagina

A LONG SHOT Woman sues her ex-boyfriend claiming his ‘abnormally long penis stretched her vagina leaving her needing reconstructive surgery’
Silindile Mangena, 29, reportedly wants her ex-lover to pay for the £800 procedure

by Chris Murphy
Nov 9, 2018

A WOMAN is suing her ex-boyfriend after his “abnormally long” penis allegedly overstretched her vagina.

Silindile Mangena, 29, wants to undergo reconstructive surgery following her relationship with Mugove Kurima, 37.

Pop Singer Kylie Minogue, 50, is Surprised She’s Found Love Again

Pop Singer Kylie Minogue, 50, is Surprised She’s Found Love Again

Kylie Minogue is a pop and dance singer who’s had a lot of hit songs since the 1980s.

If you don’t know who she is, here are links to some of her hit songs on You Tube:

(Link):  Can’t Get You Out Of My Head

(Link): Come Into My World

I’ve done blog posts before with examples with celebrities who explain that in spite of all their money, good looks and fame, they remain single though they’d like to be married.

(Link): Pop Singer Kylie Minogue, 50, is Surprised She’s Found Love Again

She is in the throes of a passionate romance with her boyfriend Paul Solomons.

And Kylie Minogue confessed she was surprised to find love again during a cosy chat on the Jonathan Ross show after the end of her relationship with ex Joshua Sasse.

The I Should Be So Lucky hitmaker, 50, enthused her new love is ‘fabulous’ and ‘great’ as the six-month romance continues to flourish.

‘I Was So Worried About My Non-Stop FARTING It Ruined My Love Life’ Says Emma

‘I Was So Worried About My Non-Stop FARTING It Ruined My Love Life’ Says Emma

Heh heh, I hardly know what to say. This is an honest to goodness article from “The Sun.”

Every so often, if I’m feeling down about my life, I occasionally see stories like this one below and think, “Holy cow, my life is a cake walk by comparison!” I have my problems, but thank god this is not one of them….

(Link): ‘I Was So Worried About My Non-Stop FARTING It Ruined My Love Life’ Says Emma

Nov 2018

GONE WITH THE WIND I was so worried about breaking wind non-stop it ruined my love life

 by Lydia Hawken

Having suffered from embarrassing stomach issues from the age of 15, Emma decided ‘it would be easier to stay single’ than break wind on a date

A MUM-OF-ONE has revealed that her chronic gastro problems and incessant breaking wind left her feeling so embarrassed that it RUINED her love life.

Emma, 30 from London had suffered with stomach pains since she was just 15 years old.

Emma’s sensitive stomach meant she has suffered from severe bloating and wind after EVERY single meal.

Christian Couple Dies in Helicopter Crash Hours After ‘Fairytale’ Wedding

Christian Couple Dies in Helicopter Crash Hours After ‘Fairytale’ Wedding

Well, well, well.

Here’s another news story (I have a few more on this blog I made in months past) that demonstrate that getting married, as opposed to what many secular rom com movies teach, and opposed to what Christian teach, is not a guarantee of having a happily ever after.

I have other news stories on my blog (see links at the end of this post for those stories) of married couples who die within hours of getting married, and one news item about a newly wed couple who could not have sex after marrying because the wife has some sort of debilitating physical disease or issue that prohibits her from having sex.

(Link):  Pilot in helicopter crash that killed newlyweds “very experienced,” official says

(Link): Texas newlyweds killed in helicopter crash shortly after their wedding

(Link):  Reaching wreckage of helicopter in which newlyweds died leaving their wedding will be ‘difficult’

(Link): Christian Couple Dies in Helicopter Crash Hours After ‘Fairytale’ Wedding

Excerpts:

by Leonard Blair, November 5, 2018

Less than two hours after getting married in a “fairytale wedding” on Saturday, a young Christian couple from Texas died after a helicopter they were traveling in crashed into the side of a hill on their family farm.

Divorced 50-Something Lady Named Andy Says Her Ex Husband Gave Her an STD

Divorced 50-Something Lady Named Andy Says Her Ex Husband Gave Her an STD

On the November 6, 2018 episode of “The 700 Club” the Christian show host received a letter from a 54 year old woman named “Andy.”

I do not as of yet see this letter uploaded on (Link): the 700 Club You Tube account,  (it would probably be uploaded under the “Your Questions, Honest Answers” section – edit: the just uploaded the ENTIRE day’s episode, the letter comes towards the end of the show/video), and I saw this letter only one time, so I am having to go on memory here.

(Whoever runs the 700 Club You Tube account has dropped the ball over the past year: they used to promptly upload each and every episode and the “Answers to Questions” segments every day within an hour after airing on TV, but they’ve not been doing that lately I have noticed. Anyway.)

From what I can recall, this Andy lady (who is apparently a Christian) said she was married to her husband for about twenty years.

Andy said at one stage of their marriage that her husband had an affair with another woman, which resulted in the husband contracting a very bad STD (sexually transmitted disease), and he passed it on to her.

This played a role in why she divorced her husband. She remains single now.

Watching a Movie is Best as a Solitary Experience, Which is Something that We Just Need to Admit to Ourselves By Hayley Schueneman

Watching a Movie is Best as a Solitary Experience, Which is Something that We Just Need to Admit to Ourselves By Hayley Schueneman

Well, this is a switch. I usually see articles by single adults saying how uncomfortable they feel dining publicly alone, or going to the movie theater alone.

I don’t go to the movies myself that much anymore – maybe once or twice a year, sometimes zero times a year – but it’s not so bad. People don’t seem to notice or care if you’re there by yourself.

The first few times I went solo to a movie, I felt weird, but after you’ve done it over a period of years, you get so used to it, it doesn’t feel weird.

Never Married Adult Man Named Stephen Asks Christian Host Why God Has Not Answered His 3-Decades Long Prayers to Send Him A Wife

Never-Married Adult Man Named Stephen Asks Christian Host Why God Has Not Answered His 3-Decades Long Prayers To Send Him A Wife

On the November 2, 2018 episode of “The 700 Club,” some guy named Stephen wrote in with a question about singleness and marriage, and host Gordon Robertson answered it.

You can find the question on You Tube (Link) here, and that part of the show is in the last 5 – 10 minutes of the show. You can also watch that same episode on (Link): The 700 Club web site.

I will discuss the letter from Stephen more below.

First, I wanted to say…
Within the past 2 – 3 weeks, 700 Club has been running more than their usual number of questions from viewers about singleness and asking why hasn’t God sent them a spouse, such as this one:

(Link): James the 40 Something Year Old Single Guy Asks Why Don’t Churches Help Single Adults Get Married

I have watched this 700 Club show daily since around 2005, and sporadically prior to that, for years (my mother used to watch this show when I was a kid in the 1970s, so I’ve seen plenty of it).

Well, in most episodes, 700 Club rarely, rarely addresses adult singleness. They mostly feature married couples who are having affairs or financial problems.

They rarely address singleness, unless they have a 30- or 40 -something female co-host who is single.

60 Year Old, Never- Married Woman Asks Christian TV Host Pat Robertson If Some Are Just Not Meant to Marry

60 Year Old, Never- Married Woman Asks Christian TV Host Pat Robertson If Some Are Just Not Meant to Marry

Below, in this post, is a video on You Tube, via ‘700 Club,’ uploaded on October 25, 2018, in which a 60 year old woman says she “never found a godly man to marry” and her church never has any men her age there.

She asks Robertson if some people are just never meant to marry.

As I’ve been saying on this blog for ages now, you cannot count on God, prayer, churches or Christians to fix you up with a spouse, because they won’t (churches will even shame and scold you for asking).

The woman says she’s never found a “godly” man to marry – I think that is Christian code-speak for “I haven’t found a Christian man to marry.” This woman has probably been brain-washed into accepting (Link): the “Equally Yoked” teaching.

Single ladies, if you are Christian and want marriage, the numbers are stacked against you, as I’ve explained in numerous posts before. You need to get away from this “I must marry a  Christian and only a Christian” belief, or you will end up in your 40s, never married like me, or like this 60 year old woman.

It’s better to find a kind-hearted, loving Non-Christian man to marry than end up at 60 never having been married because you could not find a compatible Christian man – there are no single Christian men in churches for you to meet and marry who are over age 30 and under age 80. They don’t attend church.

James the Single 40-Something Guy Asks The 700 Club’s Pat Robertson Why Churches Don’t Help Singles Get Married

James the Single 40-Something Guy Asks 700 Club’s Pat Robertson Why Churches Don’t Help Singles

On an October 31, 2018 airing of television program “700 Club,” host Pat Robertson responded to a question from a 48 year old guy named James who says he is single and wants to know why churches don’t do anything to help single adults get married, because (he seemed to imply), they sure as heck are not helping him.

As of today, I do not see the October 31, 2018 “Questions” section of the show on 700 Club’s You Tube channel.

As of this writing, though, you can view the “Questions” portion (which comes during the last ten minutes of the show) on the full episode (Link): here on You Tube.

You might also be able to view the Questions segment (in the full length show) on the (Link): 700 Club site here.

The gist of James’ letter was – he says he’s 48 years old, single (he did not specify if he is divorced, widowed, or never-married), the Bible says it’s better to marry than burn in lust, but what if there are no options (like in his case – I think he meant there are no single women in his life or church), and the church isn’t doing anything to help a Christian single get married?