Conservative (Christian?) “Not The Bee” Account Blocked Me On X – For Pointing Out They’re Marriage and Parenthood Idolizers and Hypocritical about Sexual Mores, Singleness, Childlessness
Sometime the evening of January 28, 2023, the clowns at “Not The Bee” blocked me!
The Not the Bee account blocked me over this post on X (Twitter), and I put a screen cap of it here below (I will resume commentary about this situation below the screen capture):
I recently published a blog post about how yes, Planned Parenthood is wrong to publish anti-virginity content as they’ve done before,
but I pointed out to various conservatives who posted against it on “X” that they’re often the VERY SAME conservatives who insult or scold single, childless adults for being single and childless.
(That post is here: (Link): Planned Parenthood Hammered After Sharing Video Redefining Sex Act as Whatever ‘You’ Want It To Be)
Which is rather hypocritical.
You can’t (if you want to be consistent) simultaneously support virginity for teens and young adults…
but then turn around and criticize those same adults for still being a single virgin (hence no children) years later – when they’re age 30+ and still not married with children –
but that is exactly what hyper-pro-marriage/parenthood types like Matt Walsh, Lyman Stone, Al Mohler, Eric Conn, and accounts like “Not the Bee” do.
(That is also what marriage- and motherhood-idolizing Southern Baptists have done for years; I wrote a little bit about it in this post.)
Before I continue, I should state that I am a conservative.
I am not a liberal nor a progressive.
I am also not opposed to marriage, parenthood, or the nuclear family, but I’ve noticed for years now that too many other conservatives, especially religious ones, have turned marriage, parenthood, and the nuclear family into Golden Calves that they worship. 
Such conservatives go far, far beyond what the Bible teaches about marriage, parenthood and family, to turn all three into idols, then they frequently lash out and shame any adult who is over age 25 or so who is still single (whether by choice or by circumstance), and they mock any adult (single or married) who does not have children.
Jesus speaking:
“Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. (Matthew 10:37)
That is quite the odd thing for Jesus to say if Jesus – being God in the flesh – was nearly as “pro Nuclear Family” and into singles-shaming as are the average conservatives of today.
The fact that a minority of people on the far left may make anti-nuclear family (or anti-parenthood) commentary does not mean the correct way, wisest way, or most advantageous way, of dealing with such rhetoric, is to bash, shame, and insult adults for being single and childless.
It is not necessary to defend the state of marriage or of having children by ridiculing or bashing singleness (or childlessness), or to mock or shame anyone for being single and childless, but conservatives often do so.
(You’re not going to shame or chide many people into marrying any more over those tactics, though some younger ones may unfortunately fall for the pressure and the propaganda – and end up married to an abusive spouse as a result and divorce later:
I was actually following the “Not The Bee” account for a few years.
In so far as they report general interest news stories or call out the lunacy of Democrats, that is all well and good (that’s why I followed that account in the first place).
However, the people behind the “Not The Bee” account have a tendency to be hypocritical about topics like singleness, celibacy, marriage, etc., as I mentioned above.
Their fellow account – The Babylon Bee (which I think I also follow but which has not blocked me yet) – also regularly mocks and shames childless and single women for being single and childless, and they also recently mocked DINKs (married couples who are childless).
The “Not the Bee” account especially tends to insult single, childless adults any time fellow marriage idolizing conservatives – such as Matt Walsh – starts a trend of bashing a particular single, childless woman
– in Walsh’s case, that has so far been comic Chelsea Handler and a 20-something woman named Julia Mazur who had uploaded a brief video saying she’d like to marry some day, but in the meantime, as a single, she explained how she likes to spend her weekends, which Walsh rudely and strangely mocked her over.
He also wrote an essay criticizing married childless couples.
Once Walsh, or one of those other marriage and parenthood worshipping guys, starts a flurry of activity on “X” by bashing single or childless adults for being single and childless, other conservative accounts, such as “Not The Bee,” Tim Pool, Joel Berry, and others, join the bandwagon by piling on.
If you’re a pro-marriage conservative, I am going to remind you again:
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- Jesus never married nor had children
- God does not disparage singleness or insult or shame singles for being single
- The Bible nowhere says that God prefers marriage to singleness
- The Bible does not teach that the state of marriage or parenthood makes a person more loving, ethical, responsible, godly, or mature (those are some of the fruits or traits instilled by the Holy Spirit that even single, childless adults receive)
- The Bible says nowhere that marriage, parenthood, or the nuclear family will save anyone from sin (it teaches only belief in Jesus will and can do so)
- The Bible only says that children can be a blessing but does not teach that marriage, parenthood, or the Nuclear Family will cure or heal a nation or a person, not from sin
- Jesus taught that your spiritual brothers and sister in Jesus (other Christians) are your family, not that your biological family is your only family (Matthew 12:48-50)
- The Bible mentions a lot of married people but nowhere states that marriage is to be a norm for all or most adults
(thinking that marriage is a God ordained norm for all or most adults is an assumption you are reading into the text; it’s eisegesis, and it wouldn’t work anyway, as many adults who want to marry are UNABLE to because they cannot find a suitable partner to marry) - The Bible, particularly in 1 Corinthians 7, speaks favorably of singleness (does not condemn it)
Lastly, marriage rates have been on the decline for years now in the USA and other nations.
You’re not going to convince most people, shame them, or fear-monger them, into marrying and having children. Some of the younger ones may fall for the pressure and marry the first person to come along, but that’s about it.
Rather than trying to scare or shame adults into marrying and having children, and mocking them for being single or childless, try meeting us single adults where we are and convince us why we should take on conservative values (that don’t include irrational Nuclear Family worship) – such as having a strong border.
Also, there are single adults who are single by circumstance, not due to deliberate choice.
Some of us – especially those of us brought up Baptist or Protestant evangelical who were taught the “equally yoked” rule (that it is wrong or sin to marry a non-Christian) – who are women – attended churches where there were little to no single Christian men in our age ranges, so we remained single due to a shortage of men, not because we “put career over marriage” or because we hate marriage.
Men claiming to be Christian on dating apps and dating sites (at least in my experience back when I was on the sites) are perverts, crass, and vulgar, and I will not date a perverted, crass, or vulgar man.
Those realities for what it’s like for singles to date and try to get married are realities that far too many (usually married) conservatives do not grapple with or even realize or acknowledge, they just continue with ineffective and pointless strategies of screaming at single women that we single ladies will die alone in a house full of cats, accusing us of “not trying harder” to find a mate, etc.
The Not The Bee account, not too long ago, posted a link to an article on their site where they insulted and ridiculed married, childless couples for being childless. I wrote a post about that here:
Not The Bee also reached a tacky new low of inserting an A.I.-generated image of an elderly married couple sitting on a sofa looking dejected – supposedly because the fictional couple didn’t have any children.
Having children won’t keep you from being lonely – some married people are lonely or mistreated in marriage, and adult children do not visit their parents:
(Link): Dear Abby: I Rushed Into Marriage, Now My Husband Completely Ignores My Existence.
(Link): Married Woman Says She’s Lonely Because Her Husband Works All The Time
(Link): Asking Too Much Of Marriage – Married People are Lonely
(Link): Dear Abby: Son Neglects Aging Mom When Possessive Girlfriends Come Along
(Link): Dear Abby: Mother Hurt and Frustrated Son Didn’t Visit When He Was in Town
This nation is currently facing very troubling issues, such as an open border that incompetent Democrats began, under which many illegal aliens keep crossing (some are terrorists),
and which inept Republicans are not moving to resolve, and we have progressives trying to push their radical LGBTQ agenda down everyone’s throats and convince children they need to have healthy body parts chopped off to align with their so-called “gender identity,”
and the left trying to sneak DEI into jobs and universities.
We have far more serious problems going on in this nation than the fact that some adults are single by choice or by circumstance.
If you’re a Christian conservative, you need to maybe be more trusting of God saving the USA in his own terms, rather than pearl clutching at low birth rates and consequently spending every other day on “X,” You Tube, Pod Casts, Rumble,
or other platforms doing sexist things like tweeting photos of empty egg cartons at women, shaming women for being single, and trying to pressure and scare women into marrying by using phrases like “dying alone in a house full of cats.”
None of that is a winning strategy of convincing most singles to marry, and, additionally, you’re preaching to the choir in regards to single women who cannot find eligible mates. Churches have been typically filled with more single women than men, and today’s men, studies say, would rather stay at home alone watching porn or playing video games than date real life women:
You’re also pushing women away from conservatism and the Republican Party. Instead of alienating single women with shame, fear, and insults, try to persuade them to join “your” side. Leave the insults, shame, and fearmongering out of the equation.
I may or may not edit this post after publication to add more links, commentary, screen shots, and so on.
The weenies at Not The Bee like to dish it out when bashing or mocking singles and the childless, but they apparently don’t like getting very much needed critiques in return from yours truly (and not probably from anyone else, either).
I may (or may not, I don’t know) be editing this post in the future to add more examples of the hypocritical and/or singles-shaming garbage that “Not the Bee” has posted before to “X” (formerly called Twitter).
Joel Berry is “Managing Editor of @TheBabylonBee,” and he has previously done the “jump on the bandwagon” marriage-idolizing, singles-shaming thing that Walsh or other conservatives start (this was Berry commenting on the progressive LGBTQ propaganda post published by Planned Parenthood):
Related:
(Link): Would Jesus Shame Single Christian Women? [No, He Would Not] by G. Dalfonzo
(Link): Planned Parenthood Hammered After Sharing Video Redefining Sex Act as Whatever ‘You’ Want It To Be
(Link): Dear Abby: I Just Got Out of the Hospital and My Husband Still Expects Me to Cook for Him
(Link): Instone-Brewer: Ancient Jews Expected All to Marry, Was Illegal to Remain Single in Ancient Rome
(Link): Why Aren’t More People Getting Married? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. by A. L. Sussman
(Link): Thoughts Regarding ‘Crisis in the Christian Church: A Lack of Young, Single Men’ Essay by S. Green
(Link): Fewer Americans See Their Romantic Partners As a Source of Life’s Meaning
(Link): Woman Allegedly Drowns 93-Year-Old Grandmother in Kitchen Sink, Bathtub to Dodge Nursing Home Bills
(Link): Myth 18: Divorce is the Unpardonable Sin and ‘God Hates Divorce’ by G. Baskerville
(Link): Too Many People Are in Dead Relationships – I’d Rather Be Single by J. Hocking
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Is Not
(Link): How Not to Have Sex: Why We Shouldn’t Treat Virginity Like a Burden by K. Rosenfield
(Link): Why Is the Pundit Class Suddenly So Marriage-Obsessed? by J. Weiss
(Link): When Marriage and Motherhood Become Idols by J. Oshman
(Link): Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer
(Link): Matt Walsh Again Insults Single, Childless Woman For Being Single, Childless and Enjoying Her Life
(Link): The Myth of the Career Woman by M. Notkin – Why Women Are Still Single in Their 30s and Older
(Link): When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments
(Link): When Marriage and Motherhood Become Idols by J. Oshman
(Link): Check Your ‘Cat-Lady’ Preconceptions About Childless Women by K. Wallace
(Link): Why We Thought Marriage Made Us Healthier, and Why We Were Wrong by Bella DePaulo
(Link): Why Is the Pundit Class Suddenly So Marriage-Obsessed? by J. Weiss
(Link): Matt Walsh Again Insults Single, Childless Woman For Being Single, Childless and Enjoying Her Life
(Link): Learning to See Your Single Neighbor by H. Stallcup
(Link): Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin
(Link): Ending Priestly Celibacy Would Not Stop Abuse by E. Condon – Celibates Are Not Pedophiles
(Link): CDC Report: Virgin Teens Much Healthier Than Their Sexually Active Peers (2016 Report)
(Link): Hey, Justice Kennedy: You don’t need to shame singles to uphold marriage by L. Bonos
(Link): The Myth of the Gift – Regarding Christian Teachings on Gift of Singleness and Gift of Celibacy
(Link): Singles Advocate DePaulo Responds to Right Wing, Conservative Critics of Singlehood, Who Blame Singles For Breakdown of The Family (reminder: I myself am right wing)
(Link): Divorce Lawyer Reveals Why Getting Married in Your 20s is a Big Mistake by T. Knight
(Link): Article: 30 And Single? It’s Your Own Fault
(Link): A Case Against Early Marriage by Ashley Moore (editorial)
(Link): Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women
(Link): Why We Thought Marriage Made Us Healthier, and Why We Were Wrong by Bella DePaulo
(Link): Man Expects Wife To Raise Two Kids He Hid From Her For 3 Years, Gets Served With Divorce Papers
(Link): Man Accidentally Burns His Wife’s Face Off, So He Divorces Her
(Link): Go to Counseling to Deal With that Man-Child You Married (Hax Column)
(Link): Single Adult Christian Pressured Into Marriage by Her Church – And Regrets It
(Link): Man Who Lost His Wife Puts Sign in Window Asking for Friends: ‘It’s My Last Resort’
(Link): You Will Be Ignored After Your Spouse Dies
(Link): Newlywed Pharmacist Beaten To Death on Honeymoon by Her New Husband
(Link): Bride Shot In Head, Killed During Celebratory Gunfire at Wedding
(Link): Man on Honeymoon Busted in Prostitution Sting
(Link): Groom Finds Bride Dead Morning After their Wedding
(Link): Groom Shot Dead in Front of Wife Just Moments After Wedding in Mexico
(Link): Christmas Morning House Fire Leaves Father and Two Children Dead, Wife and Oldest Child Injured
(Link): Groom is Killed by Lightning Strike While Posing for Engagement Photoshoot
Christian Pundit 
One important thing to note is that a large percentage of the drop in birth rates are caused by people who want to have children, but either can’t meet a good spouse (largely due to modern cultural problems) or feel that they can’t afford to have children (due to the bad economy).
And of course, some people who would otherwise want children choose not to because they buy into climate/overpopulation hysteria.
I think that people who are worried over low birth rates would do best to focus on solving the cultural and economic issues keeping people who would otherwise choose to have children from having them, rather than getting mad at those people who simply don’t want children (for non-climate/economy-related reasons).