Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why. by D. C. Gaze

Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why. by D. C. Gaze

(Link): Lots of People Die Every Year During or After Sex. An Expert Explains Why.

Excerpts:

March 31, 2024
by David C. Gaze

Sex has many beneficial physical and psychological effects…

But there’s a dark side: people sometimes die during or shortly after sex. The incidence is, thankfully, extremely low and accounts for 0.6 percent of all cases of sudden death.

 There are many reasons why this happens to people. In most cases, it is caused by the physical strain of the sexual activity, or prescription drugs (drugs to treat erectile dysfunction, for example), or illegal drugs, such as cocaine – or both.

 The risk of any sudden cardiac death is higher as people age. A forensic postmortem study from Germany of 32,000 sudden deaths over a 33-year period found that 0.2 percent of cases occurred during sexual activity. …

Not just the middle-aged men
Recently, however, researchers at St George’s, University of London, found that this phenomenon is not just limited to middle-aged men.

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I’m a Real-Life 40-Year-Old Virgin – Here’s the Truth About Why I’ve Never Had Sex by K. Karruli

I’m a Real-Life 40-Year-Old Virgin – Here’s the Truth About Why I’ve Never Had Sex by K. Karruli

Having sex or being married, dating, or in some other type of romantic relationship, is just not a priority for some people, or, some people would like to marry but never met the right person, so they remain single.

All of which is to say, if you’re not having sex, if you’re chaste, or if you’re single, all of that is okay.

Yes, it can be frustrating or hurtful if you’re single but had hoped to be married, but don’t let anyone shame you for being single, or for being sexually abstinent, or for not dating, or for not wanting to date.

Also be aware that being married is not a guarantee of happiness or meaning.

I have many examples on this blog taken from news articles and advice columns of married couples who admit to being unhappy in their marriages because their spouse ignores them, chronically invalidates them, or, they find out their spouse is a pedophile, or a serial adulterer, or their spouse is abusing them.

Furthermore, remember that marriage should not be a pathway to find identity or purpose.

You should be figuring out who you are on your own, and not relying on another person to define you.
If you go through life that way, you will in fact attract a lot of mentally disturbed or violent people, ranging from Borderlines, to Narcissists, to Sociopaths, who will make your life worse, not better.

(I am quite serious about that. If you’re looking to others for meaning, identity, or validation, there are mentally disturbed people who will pretend upfront -in befriending or dating you –
at wanting to fulfill those needs for you, but once you’re really in the relationship (usually months or a year or more into it),
they will begin to with-draw those functions and start emotionally or physically abusing you, or else neglecting you, while conditioning you to meet all of THEIR needs while they’re ignoring yours and abusing you.)

(Link): I’m a real-life 40-year-old virgin – here’s the truth about why I’ve NEVER had sex

Excerpts:

    • The unnamed man, who is based in the US, took to Reddit to reveal he’s a virgin
    • He said that his lack of interest in having sex started at puberty
    • People on the web  flooded the comments section and asked him questions

by Kelsi Karruli
13 March 2024

A real life 40-year-old virgin has candidly opened up about the real reasons he has never had sex in a candid Q&A forum online.

The anonymous man, who is based in the US, took to Reddit to dish about his lack of interest in sex and why he ‘doesn’t care’ if he is ever intimate.

In a thread titled, ‘Ask Me Anything,’ the ‘semi-retired’ entrepreneur explained that from a young age, he never was interested in relationships because they had ‘limited return’, so he never lost his virginity.

He revealed that he never had any inclination to pursue things further with women, adding that the majority of his ‘relationships’ never made it past the ‘first or second date.’

He wrote: ‘I’m the real 40 year old virgin, ask me anything. I turned 40 two weeks ago, ask away.’

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Stingray’s Virgin Pregnancy May Have a Delightfully Unusual Scientific Explanation

Stingray’s Virgin Pregnancy May Have a Delightfully Unusual Scientific Explanation

(Link): Stingray’s virgin pregnancy may have a delightfully unusual scientific explanation

Scientists think the pregnancy of Charlotte, a stingray living in a tank without any male rays, is an example of parthenogenesis, a miracle of life more common than most people think.

By Evan Bush
Feb 29, 2024

The surprise pregnancy of Charlotte, a stingray living in a tank without any male rays, has captivated people across the world and stirred a sudden interest in parthenogenesis, a scientific term that essentially means virgin birth.

Speculation about the stingray has racked up more than 12 million views for a TikToker. The talk show host Jimmy Kimmel weighed in on Charlotte’s apparent immaculate conception with a segment about the ray, which resides at the Aquarium & Shark Lab, in Hendersonville, North Carolina.

While a virgin birth sounds like a rare event, experts on parthenogenesis said Charlotte has performed a miracle of life far more common than most people understand. Dozens of species — zebra sharks, California condors and Komodo dragons — can reproduce asexually through parthenogenesis. Scientists have only started to unravel the mysteries of this phenomenon, and a better understanding of the process could help them harness its power for conservation.

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Article: What Happens To Christian Influencers When They Get Married? (They Act Like Marriage Gives Them a License to Become Salacious)

Article: What Happens To Christian Influencers When They Get Married? (They Act Like Marriage Gives Them a License to Become Salacious)

If you’ve visited this blog before, you may be surprised to discover I rarely go to You Tube and look up videos about Christian views on singleness, marriage, dating, and sex. I also don’t visit TikTok much.

All of this means I’m not hip to all the dopey, no doubt annoying, cloying, Christian or goody two shoes Mormon channels and accounts that pertain to dating, singleness, marriage and sex.

It does seem that some of these religious influencers who emphasize abstinence are being a little inappropriate, weird, and hypocritical upon marriage by doing a sharp turn into “sex positive” content.

And you know, as a life long celibate, let me tell all the married religious people out there: while the Bible is fine with sex within marriage, it is salacious to go on and on about it the way these influencers do, or the way pastors like Mark Driscoll do in their sermons and videos.

If you’re a pastor, maybe keep the “sex tips” type garbage behind closed doors, for married couples only, so that singles don’t have to hear “45 saucy ways for a wife to give her husband a blow job” messages in church sermons or Christian podcasts (because you know these sexists will never expect the men to perform cunnilingus).

This doesn’t mean that single Christian adults cannot or should not be allowed to discuss sex or sexuality, but I’d say, partition it off, so that the singles discuss those topics from the singleness perspective, rather than force your singles to sit through sermons for married couples about “why and how married sex is hot and steamy.”
It’s insensitive, tasteless, and stupid, like making your friend who is on a diet sit and watch you eat a big piece of chocolate cake.

(Link): What Happens To Christian Influencers When They Get Married? 

Excerpts:

by Kelsey Weekman
BuzzFeed News Reporter
Posted on July 6, 2022

….There’s no shortage of influencer couples doing vaguely sexy gags on the platform, but this post was a striking departure from Beal’s former content.
For 12 years, she encouraged single people to avoid all sexual content (including, for example, watching TV shows and Instagram Reels that mention sex) on Girl Defined, the Christian lifestyle blog and YouTube channel she shares with her sister Kristen Clark.
After first going viral in 2021 about how she saved her first kiss for her wedding day at 30, Beal pivoted to content about sex, like selling a $12 PDF with tips for wives on how to talk about it.

Beal and Clark’s content was predominantly known only in Christian circles until YouTuber Cody Ko shared a video of himself and Noel Miller reacting to videos from the Girl Defined YouTube channel such as “Is It OK to Be Obsessed With Guys?” and “Six Guys You Shouldn’t Date, Court, or Marry.” As a result, Redditors and YouTubers called Beal and Clark out as promoters of harmful purity culture.

Beal is one of several purity influencers who are now posting sexual content after years of posts encouraging abstinence and shame around premarital sex.
Bailey McKnight, a 22-year-old Mormon who skyrocketed to YouTube fame with her identical twin Brooklyn, shifted to selling vibrators after getting married last year. Chelsea Hurst used to dispense “Christian teen advice” on avoiding sexual situations, and now she’s made multiple videos about her “first time” with her husband, which she described as “joyful … not painful.”

…It’s not necessarily inconsistent for Christian women who talk about not having sex before marriage to then start talking about sex after marriage. But the change can be jarring for some followers who are used to the influencers’ pro-abstinence messaging, and the swerve typically happens without any explanation of the transition.

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How the Sexual Revolution Has Hurt Women by Louise Perry

How the Sexual Revolution Has Hurt Women by Louise Perry

I read the entire article on Wall Street Journal’s site. I don’t know if I agree with every point in it, but some of it was okay. The article mentions the impact of pop culture (movies and tv shows) on people’s views of sex, but I don’t think I included those parts below.

(Link): How the Sexual Revolution Has Hurt Women

Excerpts:

In today’s hookup culture the sexual playing field is not even, but it suits men’s interests to pretend that it is. Women are entitled to be angry.

by August 2022
by Louise Perry

… the group of people who have done particularly well from the free-marketization of sex are men high in the personality trait that psychologists call “sociosexuality”: the desire for sexual variety.

… Worldwide [according to a questionnaire used by researchers used by researchers asking people how often they have sex, etc], there is a significant difference in average sociosexuality between the sexes, with men generally much keener to sow their wild oats than women are.

[Note: that point is in dispute by other studies and articles I’ve read, such as this one: (Link): When Society Isn’t Judging, Women’s Sex Drive Rivals Men’s ]

The vast majority of women, if given the option, prefer a committed relationship to casual sex.

…We see this play out in male and female sexual behavior. Men, on average, prefer to have more sex and with a larger number of partners, while the vast majority of women, if given the option, prefer a committed relationship to casual sex. Sex buyers are almost exclusively male, and men watch a lot more pornography than women do.

Men and women also differ dramatically in their baseline levels of sexual disgust, with women much more likely to be revolted by the prospect of someone they find unattractive. …studies find that, on average, the sexual disgust threshold is much lower for women than it is for men. …

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‘Boysober’ Gen Z Women are Taking Over TikTok as They Take Vows of Celibacy and Ditch ‘Toxic’ Relationships for Happier Single Lives

‘Boysober’ Gen Z Women are Taking Over TikTok as They Take Vows of Celibacy and Ditch ‘Toxic’ Relationships for Happier Single Lives

Yes, being single can bring you clarity, and you do avoid drama and jerks.

There’s some good advice out there by psychologists who will tell you that after you break up with a toxic person to avoid dating for a year after to find out who you are again, because if you’re in a toxic relationship, chances are pretty good that you buried your identity for that person to avoid enraging them, you gave up your needs and wants to appease the toxic person, and so you don’t even know what they are anymore.

And if you don’t want to be susceptible to ending up with another toxic person if you start to date again, wait at least one year after your break-up, and that may decrease your chances of ending up with another toxic person.

(Link): ‘Boysober’ Gen Z women are taking over TikTok as they take vows of celibacy and ditch ‘toxic’ relationships for happier single lives

March 1, 2024
by Alanah Khosla

Dating apps and ‘situationships’ have long dominated relationship trends as casual arrangements become more common in the age of sexual liberation.

The latest trend in the world of sex and dating is, well, abstaining from it. And while that’s nothing new, it’s gained a modern moniker – ‘boysober’.

Comedian Hope Woodward, 27, who grew up in Tennessee, coined the phrase after she realised her toxic traits meant she was the ‘villain of her own love story,’ according to the New York Times.

This year, Hope decided to make a change. She decided to ditch sex and relationships of any kind for 365 days in a bid to find emotional clarity, and called her plan going boysober.

With nearly half of a million followers across her social media platforms, including TikTok and Instagram, her plan caught on. Now, thousands of people across the globe are following suit – and have reported feeling better than ever.

It was during a visit to her grandmother’s house in Tennessee that Hope, who now lives in Brooklyn, found inspiration for the idea.

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Penn State Professor Accused of Bestiality Hit with More Charges After Video Showed Him Sticking Objects Such as Branches and Lollipops Up His Butt in Public Park

Penn State Professor Accused of Bestiality Hit with More Charges After Video Showed Him Sticking Objects Such as Branches and Lollipops Up His Butt in Public Park

I meant to blog about this pervert months ago but never got around to it.

I’m not sure if he’s married or not. The articles I’ve seen so far don’t mention that he has a wife.

I will say I think this is what happens when people become hedonistic about sex, they act like any and all sexual acts and inclinations are fine and dandy – because clearly, no, they are not. What this man did is SHAMEFUL, and he should feel shame.

I’m not really on either side of either extreme of this (regarding consensual sex acts between humans). What I mean is that some people are too permissive and tolerant of sexual sin while others are too harsh.

You have people like Islamic Sharia Law advocates who want fornicators whipped severely (or stoned to death) for fornication (which seems pretty excessive to me),
while on the other end,
you have progressive, “touchie feelie” Christians and feminists who act as though no sexual act should be judged, or they suggest or outright say that God is perfectly fine with people having sex outside of marriage, who actually question if the Bible actually condemns pre-marital sex (yes, it does), or who argue the stupid point that “virginity is a social construct” (no, it is not).

(Some of my exceptions here – I’d be fine with the state throwing rapists, child molesters, and “zoophiles” into woodchippers. That is not excessive enough, lol.)

I think news stories like this one go to show that how one carries out their sexuality does matter.
If you are sticking tree branches up your butt and having sex with animals and so forth, you are disgracing yourself (in addition to committing animal abuse and possibly damaging any children who may get a glimpse of you in these behaviors if you’re doing them in a public park like this guy did).

The Bible speaks to how sexual sins are in their own category of toxic and degrading:

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
(1 Corinthians 6:18)

Years ago, when I made that same point in another blog post, some guy dropped by to leave me comments disagreeing. He left a link to a blog post or whatever it was arguing no, that is not what that means
– but I stick to my original interpretation:
when you engage in fornication, bestiality, and whatever other types of sexual sin, you are sinning against your own body, you are disgracing yourself, and you’re perverting something that should be pure.
God intended sex to take place between one man and one woman within marriage; not between a man and a dog, two men, two women, or a group of people.

I don’t think the Bible speaks against masturbation, but I don’t see where it speaks approval of one shoving things up one’s rectum, which is what this guy was doing, among other things.

Sex is not supposed to be profane, but this guy made it profane.

(Link): Penn State Professor Charged with Animal Cruelty After Being Caught Having Sex with His Pet Dog, Faces Additional Charges After Video Emerges of Him Sticking “Tree Branch” and “Lollipop” Into His Butt in Public Setting

Excerpts:

by Jim Hoft
Feb 14, 2024

In a shocking development, an acclaimed Penn State professor, Themis Matsoukas, who was previously charged with animal cruelty after being caught engaging in bestiality with his pet dog, is now facing additional charges following the revelation of further disturbing acts captured on videos, New York Post reported.

The case has now escalated with the emergence of new footage that allegedly shows Matsoukas inserting a tree branch and a lollipop into his anus in a public park.

According to reports from Fox 43, authorities discovered 55 videos on Matsoukas’ electronic devices that depicted acts of indecency. These devices were seized under a search warrant tied to the initial charges.

(Link): Penn State professor accused of bestiality hit with more charges after videos showed him sticking objects up his butt in public park 

By Yaron Steinbuch
Published Feb. 14, 2024

An award-winning Penn State professor arrested in a sickening bestiality case faces more charges after videos emerged of him allegedly engaged in lewd acts in a park — including inserting a tree branch and lollipop in his butt.

Themis Matsoukas, 64, was already facing charges of open lewdness, indecent exposure, sexual intercourse with an animal and animal cruelty after police said he’d been seen on video involved in sexual acts with a pet collie.

The chemical engineering professor begged troopers to kill him — while saying the sex acts helped him “blow off steam,” according to an initial criminal complaint in June.

Matsoukas has now been hit with an additional batch of similar charges for other alleged acts from 55 videos found on his electronic devices seized on a search warrant, Fox 43 reported.

They included videos of the professor naked apart from a ski mask, according to an affidavit obtained by Onward State.

He was captured on video masturbating on a picnic table, in a lake at the park and on Pennsylvania Department of Conservation and Natural Resources (DCNR) vehicles, according to the affidavit.

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Conservative (Christian?) Not The Bee Account Blocked Me On X – For Pointing Out They’re Marriage and Parenthood Idolizers and Hypocritical about Sexual Mores, Singleness, Childlessness

Conservative (Christian?) “Not The Bee” Account Blocked Me On X – For Pointing Out They’re Marriage and Parenthood Idolizers and Hypocritical about Sexual Mores, Singleness, Childlessness

Sometime the evening of January 28, 2023, the clowns at “Not The Bee” blocked me!

The Not the Bee account blocked me over this post on X (Twitter), and I put a screen cap of it here below (I will resume commentary about this situation below the screen capture):

notBee_tweet_PlannedParenthood

I recently published a blog post about how yes, Planned Parenthood is wrong to publish anti-virginity content as they’ve done before,
but I pointed out to various conservatives who posted against it on “X” that they’re often the VERY SAME conservatives who insult or scold single, childless adults for being single and childless.
(That post is here: (Link): Planned Parenthood Hammered After Sharing Video Redefining Sex Act as Whatever ‘You’ Want It To Be)

Which is rather hypocritical.

You can’t (if you want to be consistent) simultaneously support virginity for teens and young adults…
but then turn around and criticize those same adults for still being a single virgin (hence no children) years later – when they’re age 30+ and still not married with children –
but that is exactly what hyper-pro-marriage/parenthood types like Matt Walsh, Lyman Stone, Al Mohler, Eric Conn, and accounts like “Not the Bee” do.
(That is also what marriage- and motherhood-idolizing Southern Baptists have done for years; I wrote a little bit about it in this post.)

Before I continue, I should state that I am a conservative.
I am not a liberal nor a progressive. 

I am also not opposed to marriage, parenthood, or the nuclear family, but I’ve noticed for years now that too many other conservatives, especially religious ones, have turned marriage, parenthood, and the nuclear family into Golden Calves that they worship. compsWorshipGoldenCalfMeme

Such conservatives go far, far beyond what the Bible teaches about marriage, parenthood and family, to turn all three into idols, then they frequently lash out and shame any adult who is over age 25 or so who is still single (whether by choice or by circumstance), and they mock any adult (single or married) who does not have children.

Jesus speaking:

“Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. (Matthew 10:37)

That is quite the odd thing for Jesus to say if Jesus – being God in the flesh – was nearly as “pro Nuclear Family” and into singles-shaming as are the average conservatives of today.

The fact that a minority of people on the far left may make anti-nuclear family (or anti-parenthood) commentary does not mean the correct way, wisest way, or most advantageous way, of dealing with such rhetoric, is to bash, shame, and insult adults for being single and childless.

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Planned Parenthood Hammered After Sharing Video Redefining Sex Act as Whatever ‘You’ Want It To Be

Planned Parenthood Hammered After Sharing Video Redefining Sex Act as Whatever ‘You’ Want It To Be

this post has been edited after publication to add additional information / links


Sometime last year, the jokers at “Planned Parenthood” made a post on X (Twitter) wrongly stating (like secular and Christian feminists sometimes do) that “virginity is a social construct.” I meant to blog about that months ago, maybe I still will, but it looks like Planned Parent is up to their nonsense again.

I caught a few of the usual conservative culprits being hypocritical – some of the ones I re-tweeted about this recently are (that is, the conservatives who are calling Planned Parenthood out on their anti-virginity tweet) are often some of the very same conservatives who bash single, childless adults for being single, childless – and even chaste adults like myself get lumped into all that.

Conservatives will shame adults for being sexually abstinent, because it’s their preference we all marry and make babies, unless and until a far left organization attacks virginity – because then these marriage- and motherhood- idolizing clowns start to see the ramifications of their beliefs, so they start to tweet at Planned Parenthood in defense of sexual purity, of not being in a relationship and not having sex.

By the way, if you’re an adult conservative advocating or defending that teens be single, or at least sexually abstinent, because you’re alarmed over “grooming,” you should also be affording that same courtesy to a 30, 40, or 50 year old, or older, adult who is single and childless.

There’s nothing wrong with being abstinent and single at age 12, 15, 35, 35, 55, or 85, or whatever age!

So, for now, some conservatives are taking Planned Parenthood to task for devaluing virginity, but I can guarantee you the next time Matt Walsh or another conservative person or outlet bashes a single woman for being single on social media,
or the next time (sadly, there will be a next time) DINKs for being happy about being childless, these SAME conservatives will jump from defending virginity (and singleness by association, since Christian singles should be virgins until marriage), to again bashing and criticizing adults for being single and childless (or DINKs for being DINKs).

(Link): Planned Parenthood sex-ed video suggests virginity ‘isn’t a real thing’

Excerpts:

Jan. 30, 2024
by Ryan Foley

Warning: This article includes comments that are graphic in nature and not suitable for young readers.

A sex education video published by the largest abortion provider in the United States suggests that virginity “isn’t a real thing” and that the idea of sex is entirely subjective.

Planned Parenthood is being criticized for a series of sex education videos it published on social media last week. In (Link): one video posted on YouTube, the host declares that “virginity is a completely made-up concept” and “a term that was created simply to control and shame people, mainly women.”

While the video highlighted the traditional definition of a virgin as “someone who’s never had sex,” the host insisted that “it’s not as simple as it seems.” According to the host, “for one thing, medically, virginity isn’t a real thing.”

…After reiterating the belief that “the idea of virginity is complete nonsense,” the host insisted that “sex means different things to different people.”

…Conservative political commentator and “Relatable” podcast host Allie Beth Stuckey reacted to the video in an X post Friday by explaining, “One fun thing progressives like to do is pretend that concrete ideas — like sex and virginity, male and female — are abstract and flexible.”

She identified this effort as part of a plan to “trivialize sex” in order to make children “think that sex is no bigger deal than making out so they’ll be more likely to do it” and “think virginity isn’t real so they’ll never try and protect it.”

“And you know what they really want?” she followed up. “They want kids to be sexualized at an early age so that they’ll be more likely to be both sexually confused and sexually promiscuous, because people in both these categories a) make Planned Parenthood the big bucks and b) join the ranks of progressive activism.”

Stuckey’s assertion points to Planned Parenthood’s elective abortion services and its selling of cross-sex hormones to youth who express gender confusion.

(Link): Planned Parenthood hammered after sharing video redefining sex act as whatever ‘you’ want it to be

According to the video, ‘Sex is defined by one thing and one thing only. You’

by Gabriel Hayes
January 27, 2024

Social media users tore into major abortion provider Planned Parenthood this week after the group shared a video intended to educate people that sex has no concrete definition, and that the biological reality is actually whatever anyone wants it to be.

Multiple conservative users expressed outrage as the clip depicted a spokesperson for the abortion giant standing in front of a black board and giving a short sex ed lesson about how the act is not just “penis-in-vagina sex” but a wide range of sexual acts that people elect to do however they wish.

Planned Parenthood published the video to X Thursday, where it would receive over two million views in two days and plenty of furious comments.
In it, a young woman standing in a classroom declared to viewers, “Sex means different things to different people. Generally speaking, society tends to define sex in a very narrow way: penetration – penis-into-vagina.”

However, according to the narrator, this traditional definition is obsolete due to its lack of inclusivity. She asked, “But where does that definition leave queer people? Or folks who can’t or don’t have penis-in-vagina sex, and choose to have oral, anal, or another type of sex instead?”

The video then provided the central point, stating, “Sex is defined by one thing and one thing only. You.”

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Virginity vs. Promiscuity: The Philosophical Problems with Sex by J. Tomson

Virginity vs. Promiscuity: The Philosophical Problems with Sex by J. Tomson

(Link): Virginity vs. promiscuity: The philosophical problems with sex

Excerpts:

The philosophy of sex is going through a recalibration period.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

    • For much of Western philosophical history, sex has been viewed as a necessary evil to procreation, because it distracts us from more “worthy” things.
    • Today, sex is often portrayed as just a pleasure to be enjoyed like any other — to have or not as you like. For the philosopher David Benatar, this raises a big problem.
    • The problem of sex is that there are many different types of sex and society (as well as philosophy) is going through a recalibration period.

October 6, 2023
by Jonny Thomson

Aquinas devoted an entire section of this book to the topic of virginity, arguing that it was even better than marriage and that celibacy was one of the greatest virtues. His Italian family, so desperate for little brother Thomas to have sex, devised a plan to lock the one-day saint in a tower with a prostitute. In an outraged reply, Aquinas lifted aloft a fire-lit torch and chased the woman around the room. Perhaps unsurprisingly, Aquinas died a virgin.

His thoughts on sex beg the question: Why has virginity, or chastity, been such a holy virtue? Conversely, why was sex viewed as bad, and can we find a philosophy of promiscuity?

…For Plato, it was logos, which is rational meditation. For the Christian Church, the mark of a good, virtuous life was contemplation and prayer. It was about faith. The problem? When you’re fornicating, you’re rarely thinking of God.

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How Not to Have Sex: Why We Shouldn’t Treat Virginity Like a Burden by K. Rosenfield

How Not to Have Sex: Why We Shouldn’t Treat Virginity Like a Burden by K. Rosenfield

(Link): How Not to Have Sex: Why We Shouldn’t Treat Virginity Like a Burden by K. Rosenfield

Excerpts:

[The author discusses a new movie called “How To Have Sex,” where a British teen girl views being a virgin as shameful or embarrassing, and she wants to have sex as soon as she can/
The author mentions that in films from decades past, the situation was quite the opposite, where girls and women were shown to be carefully guarding their virginity]

… I didn’t notice it at the time, but this seems profoundly weird to me now: that the process whereby you were supposed to go from guarding your virginity with your life as a teen to having sex constantly and casually as a young adult was rarely depicted or discussed. How was a young lady meant to advance from never done it to elite level intercourse, just by moving to the city?  …

[The author claims that sex education and movies did not adequately explain female sexuality, which left female virgins in the dark]

…And, as we see in How To Have Sex, it still is — but now it is not purity to blame, but sex positivity. Pushed upon today’s Zoomers is the notion that sex itself is meaningless, and therefore so is virginity.
Once you begin to argue that having multiple partners is no big deal, it’s hard to preserve any significance around having sex for the first time: one progressive sex-ed provider in the UK invites students to think of virginity as “a damaging social construct”.
For this, we may thank feminism: women, who risk the most from penetrative sex — often while enjoying it the least — probably benefit from a culture in which it is no longer seen as a special prize to be won. We may also thank the increased visibility of LGBT people, for whom equating the loss of virginity with heterosexual intercourse presents obvious problems.

And yet, the resulting landscape is one rife with profoundly mixed messages about sex.

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Being ‘Sex Positive’ Has Its Negatives by J. Williams

Being ‘Sex Positive’ Has Its Negatives by J. Williams

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by J. Williams
November 10, 2023

…And, like everything to do with identity today, in order to be meaningful, our sexuality must be publicly affirmed and, if sufficiently diverse, celebrated. Being sex positive is less what you do and more what you say. And how often — and how loudly — you say it.

…Unlike “the world’s most popular free dating app,” Killing Kittens is aimed at the more discerning “sex positive” middle classes. This difference — between mass and niche, popular and picky — suggests that being sex positive means far more than just being absolutely positive you want to have sex.

… What’s important is that you talk about it [being sex positive] openly, frequently and shamelessly and that you listen to others talk openly and frequently about their sex lives while — crucially — not passing judgement.

Call me a prude, but I have a problem with this.

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