Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student by L. Blair

Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student by L. Blair

Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.

(Link): Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student

Excerpts:

By Leonardo Blair, Christian Post Reporter

A pastor’s wife and teacher from Burbank, Illinois, has been arrested and charged after she allegedly supplied alcohol to a 15-year-old student at Jordan Baptist School, a ministry of Jordan Baptist Church, and had sex with him at least five times before it was legal for her to do so.

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Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.

(Link): Twisted Rapist Dad ‘Not Satisfied With Sex Attacks’ Turned Into Serial Killer

Excerpts:

William Choyce raped and murdered three women and sexually attacked several others – he is now on death row

William Choyce seemed like the perfect, middle-class family man – but he was hiding a dark secret behind his respectable facade.

To the outside world, he looked like the perfect husband and father but Choyce is hiding a sinister sexual deviation.

Crime+Investigation’s I Lived With A Killer examines what drove a seemingly devoted dad and partner to become a serial rapist and murder .

Growing up in “good” family, Choyce wanted for little and along with his parents, went along to church every Sunday.

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Mother of a Two-Day-Old Baby That Was Burned To Death as Part of a Satanic Ritual Has Been Caught by Police (Child’s Father Also Involved in Baby’s Murder)

Mother of a Two-Day-Old Baby That Was Burned To Death as Part of a Satanic Ritual Has Been Caught by Police (Child’s Father Also Involved in Baby’s Murder)

In light of the appearance of news stories such as this one (link below), I never again want to hear Christians or “pro family” propaganda organizations acting as though single or child-free or childless adults are “less” than married people who have children.

I never again want to see their pro-Nuclear Family, pro-Marriage propaganda spewed, where they frequently argue or suggest that marriage (or parenthood) makes (and is necessary to make) people more godly, responsible, mature, and ethical.

(Link): MOTHER OF BABY BURNED TO DEATH IN SATANIC RITUAL ARRESTED AFTER TWO YEARS ON THE RUN

Excerpts:

July 2019
by A. Joyner

The mother of a two-day-old baby that was burned to death as part of a satanic ritual has been apprehended by police after evading capture for two years.

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What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

The following article (book review) from Christianity Today covers several topics about singleness and the church I’ve been pointing out on this blog for literally years now.

One big point it brings up that I have: there are more single Christian women in the church than there are single Christian men. This means if a Christian single female insists upon following the “equally yoked” rule (that states a Christian may only marry another Christian), she will remain single.

If you are a single Christian woman who desires marriage, it is imperative you ditch the ‘equally yoked’ rule. You must learn to judge men based on their character, not what their stated religious beliefs are.

(Link): What Christians Really Think About the Church’s Relationship Advice by Anna Broadway

Excerpts:

New survey research sheds light on how believers navigate the stickier matters of dating and marriage.

July 10, 2019

Over the years, Christians have produced and read far more books on how relationships and singleness should work than on how these things actuallydo pan out. Vicky Walker’s new book Relatable: Exploring God, Love, & Connection in the Age of Choice, based on a survey of more than 1,400 people, aims to change that.

Walker writes from a more-or-less Protestant British perspective, but American Christians will find much they recognize.

Over the course of 12 chapters and several appendices, Relatable covers everything from the history of marriage to typical teachings on gender roles to, of course, sex. But she also gets into stickier matters like the role of technology and the church’s significant sex-ratio gap—the latter a topic that raises questions of dating outside the faith.

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Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’ by Debbie White

Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’ by Debbie White

Ah, tell me again, Southern Baptist talking head Al Mohler and other conservative Christians and secular conservatives how parenthood supposedly makes people more godly, responsible, giving, self-less, and ethical, especially in light of headlines such as this one.

(Link): Mom and Dad ‘Fantasized About Raping Their Own Unborn Baby’

Excerpts:

July 8, 2019

A MUM and dad “fantasised about committing incest with their unborn baby” after sexually assaulting their two-year-old daughter, horrific court papers reveal.

Gerrad Coddington, 25, and Christina Nelson-Coddington, 29, allegedly handcuffed, beat and raped the toddler, says an affidavit lodged in Oklahoma, US.

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Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

I happen to be a conservative, but I remain frustrated at how other conservatives – not just Christians, but also secular conservatives – keep promoting marriage and the “nuclear family.” These groups think – or some insist – that marriage and parenthood are necessary to make adults into giving, ethical, and responsible people. This is false.

I have many examples on my blog of married people or parents who rob, rape, and murder other people (sometimes their own biological children!). Here is another sad example.

If being married or becoming a parent were necessary to make a person sinless, godly, more loving or responsible, the Bible would surely say so some where – but it does not. The Bible actually says in 1 Cor. 7 it is better to remain single!

(Link): Model ‘Murdered Two Young Daughters Because They Got In The Way of Her Lifestyle Offering Sex to Men For Cash’

Excerpts:

July 2, 2019
By TERRI-ANN WILLIAMS FOR MAILONLINE

A mother ‘murdered her two young daughters within days of each other because they got in the way of her lifestyle’.

Model Louise Porton had been ‘offering sex to men for cash’ and a court heard how her children had become a ‘burden’ and had started to ‘get in the way’ of her lifestyle.

The 23-year-old is accused of killing three-year-old Lexi Draper and 16-month old Scarlett Vaughan, by obstructing their airways.

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Mom Accused of Murdering Toddler Son Because He Was Interfering With Extramarital Affair by Harriet Sokmensuer

Mom Accused of Murdering Toddler Son Because He Was Interfering With Extramarital Affair by Harriet Sokmensuer

Are nuclear families and motherhood better for society? Does motherhood make women more godly, loving, and mature, as so many Christians and secular conservative think tanks teach? Why no, no it does not. As this news story clearly illustrates (even more examples of this on my blog (Link): here and (Link): here.

(Link): Mom Accused of Murdering Toddler Son Because He Was Interfering With Extramarital Affair by Harriet Sokmensuer

Excerpt:

June 2019

A New Jersey mother is accused of smothering her toddler son because she saw him as an impediment to the extramarital affair she was having.

On Tuesday, 41-year-old Heather Reynolds appeared before a Camden County judge for a detention hearing. She is charged with murder, endangering the welfare of a child, possession of methamphetamine and hindering apprehension in connection with the May 2018 death of her son, Axel, ABC6, CBS3, NJ.com report.

Text messages recovered from her phone showed Reynolds and a man had been having an affair while her husband was working out of state, Assistant Prosecutor Peter Gallagher alleged in court, NJ.com reports.

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Married Texas Southern Baptist Pastor Who Wanted Abortion Seekers Jailed for Getting Abortions Arrested for Sexually Abusing His Underaged Family Member

Married Texas Southern Baptist Pastor Who Wanted Abortion Seekers Jailed for Getting Abortions Arrested for Sexually Abusing His Underaged Family Member

Does marriage or parenthood make people more godly, mature, ethical, caring or responsible, as so many Christians and conservative think tanks espouse? Nope. It sure does not.

Marriage and being a parent didn’t do anything to make this pastor less of a slime ball.

(Link): Southern Baptist pastor in Harris County arrested for abuse of child

Excerpts:

by Nicole Hensley
June 15, 2019

A former pastor of a Southern Baptist church in north Harris County faces charges of molesting a teenage relative, sometimes multiple times a day, over the course of two years, court records show.

Stephen Bratton, who resigned from Grace Family Baptist Church in Cypress Station last month, was charged Friday with continuous sexual abuse of a child, Senior Deputy Thomas Gilliland said Saturday.

Continue reading “Married Texas Southern Baptist Pastor Who Wanted Abortion Seekers Jailed for Getting Abortions Arrested for Sexually Abusing His Underaged Family Member”

Mother Tortured Her Three Kids and Pulled Their Toe Nails Out to Impress Her New Boyfriend

Mother Tortured Her Three Kids and Pulled Their Toe Nails Out to Impress Her New Boyfriend

Some of you conservatives and Christians out there teach that motherhood is a woman’s highest calling. Well, obviously not, since I have bazillions of these types of news stories on my blog of women who sell their daughters to perverts to be raped, or who sell their kids for drugs.

Note that, contrary to conservative think tank and Christian propaganda, that being a mother does not cause a woman to be more responsible or caring – because we see examples like this one below that belie that belief.

(Link): Mother Tortured Her Three Kids and Pulled Their Toe Nails Out to Impress Her New Boyfriend

by Dave Burk, June 2019

A mum has been arrested over claims she tortured and abused her three young children – pulling one of their toenails out – in order to impress her new boyfriend.

Mexican media report that Jennifer Marisol, 26, allegedly carried out the acts on request of her boyfriend as a ‘gesture of love’.

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Man Accidentally Burns His Wife’s Face Off, So He Divorces Her

Man Accidentally Burns His Wife’s Face Off, So He Divorces Her

The way this article reads, this man accidentally lit his wife’s face on fire – the dumb ass used a can of gas to pour on some camp fire flames to reignite the fire – and after she was hospitalized and came out disfigured, he left her.

What a dick he is.

I’ve heard this is pretty common – that often, in a marriage, if the wife becomes sick in some way, say she gets cancer or what not – most men will divorce the wife.

Most men do not want to act as caretaker to a sick spouse, because unlike women, men are raised and coddled in our society to be selfish (they expect women to wait on them, and dog knows that complementarian Christians in particular really promote this sick teaching), where-as we ladies are raised from the time we are kids to always put ourselves last and to cater to the needs of others no matter what.

I wish this lady well. She seems like she is doing better now.

I don’t want Christians telling me any more – or members of conservative think tanks who publish “studies” on marriage – that marriage makes people or culture better – because it does not.

Marriage does not make people less selfish, more loving, or more responsible – it sure as hell did not cause the man in this story to stand by his wife, even after he set her on fire and she was in enormous physical pain (and I’d imagine mental pain as well) for weeks or months.

Anyway, if I am grasping this correctly, this douche nozzle dumped his wife because she was disfigured because he accidentally set her on fire. He left her over something he was responsible for doing, incredible.

(Link): Georgia Mom, 29, Disfigured in Campfire Accident

by C Keating

It’s been almost three years since Courtney Waldon suffered third- and fourth-degree burns over her entire body from a campfire accident at her Georgia home. Now, she says, life couldn’t be better.

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‘Unapologetically’ Christian Pizza Parlor Went Viral – Then Its Owner Got Busted For Trying to Have Sex With Underage Staff by Travis Gettys

(Link) ‘Unapologetically’ Christian Pizza Parlor Went Viral – Then Its Owner Got Busted For Trying to Have Sex With Underage Staff

May 2019 

A Kentucky pastor was arrested on child sexual exploitation charges after police said he tried to arrange a liaison between himself and two underage girls.

Bobby “BJ” Blackburn, pastor of Elevate Church and owner of Giovanni’s Pizza in Prestonsburg, was charged with using an electronic device to ask an employee to take part in a threesome with another minor, (Link): reported WBKO-TV.

Blackburn turned himself in to police Wednesday and was released on $5,000 bond.

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Unmarried and Childless Women Are the Happiest: 2019 Study

Unmarried and Childless Women Are the Happiest, Happiness Expert Claims

(Link): Women are happier without marriage and children, says new study

Behavioural scientist Paul Dolan says it’s time we reevaluated what success really means

(Link): Wondering why unmarried women without children are happiest? Listen to mothers and wives

Child-free women know that expecting something outside of yourself to bring happiness is a sure-fire way to end up disappointed

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Wife Crashes Her Own Funeral, Horrifying Her Husband Who Had Paid to Have Her Killed

Wife Crashes Her Own Funeral, Horrifying Her Husband Who Had Paid to Have Her Killed

Christians and my fellow conservatives: please stop spreading the falsehood that marriage makes people more godly, loving, responsible, happy and ethical, because it quite obviously does not, not in light of news stories such as this one and many other ones like it on my blog.

(Link): Wife Crashes Her Own Funeral, Horrifying Her Husband Who Had Paid to Have Her Killed

Feb 2016, by T. Mann

A husband got the shock of a lifetime when the wife he paid to get killed showed up to her own funeral.

Balenga Kalala hired a team of hit men to kill his wife of 10 years, Noela Rukundo, while she returned to her native Burundi in early 2015. Continue reading “Wife Crashes Her Own Funeral, Horrifying Her Husband Who Had Paid to Have Her Killed”

Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

Rapist-Killer in 1972 Cold Case Is a Four Time Married Father

The news outlets are focusing on the fact that this is a 47 year old cold case that is now solved.

The police got the guy’s DNA off a coffee cup he threw away, and it matched the DNA on the boots of the victim. That is of course a very interesting aspect of this news story, but I wanted to highlight the portions that are more pertinent to my blog.

First of all, many Christians in Baptist or Protestant denominations and churches (at least when I was growing up in the 1980s, and a bit into the 1990s) would teach that God will only send a Christian a spouse later in life if he or she lived a godly life. That turned out to be a totally false teaching.

Secondly, a lot of Christians taught (and some still teach) that getting married is necessary to make a person mature, godly, ethical, responsible, and a whole host of other qualities.

Some Christians teach that parenthood is also a requirement, that if one never has biological children, one is immature, selfish, un-ethical, irresponsible and cannot know what “true (selfless) love” is. All of those beliefs are also a stinking pile of crap.

As we can see from the many examples on my blog (such as the one I’m sharing in a bit), marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, compassionate, or responsible. God does not refuse to allow awful people to get married.

The guy in the news story (Terrence Miller) raped a 20 year old woman, then shot her in the head, leaving her to die (she died on the way to the hospital – someone found her after the attack and tried to help her.)

If God required single adults to clean themselves up, or to become loving, lovable, or responsible, how oh how do slime balls like the rapist-killer in this news story get married FOUR times?

He obviously was not a paragon of virtue, yet he got married – to four different women. He also had kids with one or two of those women.

Also, secular culture (and some portions of complementarian Christianity) falsely teach that you won’t be able to get a partner if you are physically unattractive.

If you’ve ever seen the TV show “My 600 Pound Life,” you know that’s not true. Unless someone has a fat fetish, most people are not going to find someone over 300+ pounds to be smoking hot. And yet, a lot of the morbidly obses persons on that show do have boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses.

The guy in this story – the killer – looks as though he fell out of an ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, as my mother would say. (Some of the news articles published a photo of him that was taken when he was younger. (Link): this news page has a photo of this ugly deviant.)

He is not a good-looking man by any stretch, yet he managed to marry four times.

Another lesson learned: You don’t have to be incredibly sexy by society’s standards to wrangle a spouse.

(Link): How DNA on coffee cup led to arrest in 1972 rape, murder of woman: Officials

Jody Loomis, 20, was shot in the head on August 23, 1972.

A 77-year-old Washington state man was arrested Wednesday decades after he allegedly killed a 20-year-old woman, and police say he was nabbed through the novel technique of genetic genealogy.

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Video Games, not Chastity, to Blame for Young Men Not Having Sex, Sociologist Says

(Link): Video Games, not Chastity, to Blame for Young Men Not Having Sex, Sociologist Says by Michael Foust

Excerpts:

April 9, 2019

A leading sociologist says video games – and not a sudden interest in chastity – may be to blame for a dramatic increase in the percentage of young men not having sex.

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New Study (2019) Finds Some Boys Are Having Sex Before Age 13 by S. Gordon

(Link): New Study (2019) Finds Some Boys Are Having Sex Before Age 13

Excerpts:

April 2019
by S. Gordon

….In two national surveys, investigators found that between 4% and 8% of boys reported having sex before they were 13. That number varied greatly depending on where the boys lived. In San Francisco, just 5% of boys said they had sex before 13, but in Memphis that number jumped to 25%.

Race and ethnicity also made a difference in whether or not a young person had an early sexual experience. Black males were most likely to have sex before 13, followed by Hispanic males.

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Conservatives Have Now Abandoned All Pretense of Advocating For Sexual Abstinence and They Actually Lament the Lack of Fornication – The Bradford Wilcox Piece, 2019

Conservatives Have Now Abandoned All Pretense of Advocating For Sexual Abstinence and They Actually Lament the Lack of Fornication – The Bradford Wilcox Piece, 2019

The following piece at The Atlantic (“The Happiness Recession”) was written by marriage-idolater and anti-singleness bigot of The Institute for Family Studies, W. Bradford Wilcox, and co-writer Lyman Stone.

I’d like to remind any new-comers to this blog that I am a life long conservative. I am not a liberal.

Marriage Is Not A Guarantee For Good or Regular Sex

This moronic essay actually suggests that single adults having less sex is what has led to them reporting higher rates of unhappiness, if I’m understanding things correctly.

This, astonishingly, from a right wing organization, (Link): The Institute For Family Studies, that claims to promote “strong families,” and good Lord knows they are obsessed with promoting marriage, even if that comes at the expense of singleness.

The members of this organization regularly publish materials intended to scare, guilt, shame, or pressure single adults into getting married, because this organization exists to promote the nuclear family: hetero-marriage where the couple have children.

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Married People Who Use Their Spouse’s Disease or Disability to Excuse Their Adultery – an article by M. Del Russo

Married People Who Use Their Spouse’s Disease or Disability to Excuse Their Adultery – an article by M. Del Russo

I have never had sex outside of marriage, one reason of several is that the Bible says that sex is intended for a man married to a woman – anything outside of marriage is fornication and is considered sin. I am now past the age of 45.

If I can maintain celibacy this long, so too can anyone else, including these people who are in marriages where their spouse is debilitated in some manner, through a physical or mental health issue.

It’s a matter of personal conviction and self control. I do not have some sort of special gifting from God that removes libido. I am not asexual.

So, do I excuse or look on with compassion at these women or men in this article who started affairs with other adults when their own spouses became ill? No, I do not. Going without sex or romance will not kill a person, and you made a vow to your partner.

As for the woman quoted below who says those in her position don’t want to burden their sick spouse with demands for sex – that is all polite and well and good, but has she never heard of masturbation? Why are so many married people under the assumption that the only form of sexual activity is “penis in the vagina”?

(Link): These women care for their ailing husbands. They say dating other men is how they take care of themselves.

Excerpts:

…But the trio’s situation scratches at a question: How do couples sustain relationships and navigate intimacy when disease or disability strikes?

Christina — who asked to be identified by her first name because of privacy concerns — says her marriage was very happy and she loves her spouse deeply, but now that his disease has progressed, she no longer recognizes the person he’s become.

Continue reading “Married People Who Use Their Spouse’s Disease or Disability to Excuse Their Adultery – an article by M. Del Russo”

Another Christianity Today Magazine Editorial Expects Single Women To Meet the Needs of Married Women – Christians Never Ask the Reverse

Another Christianity Today Magazine Editorial (2019) Expects Single Women To Meet the Needs of Married Women – Christians Never Ask the Reverse

I am a never-married woman who is over the age of 45, and I am childless. I had wanted to be married but never found the right guy, so I remain single.

I was a very devout Christian for many years, until a few years ago.

I did a blog post about (Link): another editorial on Christianity Today’s site, where a married woman with small children wrote a long piece extolling the virtues of single, childless women:
but only in the context of how she found single, childless women useful to her because they could provide her with free babysitting services that she could not obtain from her biological family, who lived 1,000 miles away.

Here again, in April 2019, is another editorial in the same vein: a piece that extols the wonders and virtues of how single, childless women can or should meet the needs of married women, especially married ones who have children and need free babysitting services and emotional support.

Now, if you’re the sort of single, childless woman who sincerely enjoys babysitting married women’s children, that is fine by me. But I am not one of them.

I’m not opposed to single, childless women caring for, or taking an interest in, other people’s children, if they so desire.

I am opposed to this when this is one of the only options presented to Christian women, however.

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Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police – by L. Blair

In light of news articles such as this: conservatives need to stop promoting the Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage as being societal fixes. Secondly, Christians need to stop teaching, as some of them do, that marriage (or parenthood) is necessary to develop character in people.

Did marriage or being part of a nuclear family, or being a mother, help the woman in this news story at all? Nope.

(Link): Sunday School Teacher’s Husband, Stepdaugther Arrested for Her Murder, Made Up Panhandler Attack: Police

Excerpts:

by L. Blair

Months after the husband and stepdaughter of beloved Sunday school teacher and professional engineer Jacquelyn Smith claimed she was fatally stabbed by a panhandler, Baltimore police announced Sunday that they have arrested the father-daughter duo for the crime.

Acting Baltimore Police Commissioner Michael Harrison said the late Sunday School teacher’s widower, Keith Smith, 52, and his daughter, Valeria Smith, 28, were arrested by Texas State Police, near the U.S.-Mexico border while trying to flee the country earlier on Sunday, (Link): the Baltimore Sun reported.

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