To Forgive Or Not To Forgive Your Abuser – The Unintended Fallout: Possible Emotional Abuse or Exploitation Of Your Codependent Friend or Family Member

To Forgive Or Not To Forgive Your Abuser – The Unintended Fallout: Possible Emotional Abuse or Exploitation Of Your Codependent Friend or Family Member

I was watching a video today by psychologist Dr. Ramani, who I like very much, and I agree with her most of the time.

I even agree with most of her comments in this particular recent video she made that I will be discussing in this post, but it brought to mind one over-looked aspect pertaining to volatile or abusive relationships.

In the video (link to that video here, and I will embed it below, the title is, “Is there virtue in forgiving a narcissist who doesn’t apologize?”), Dr. Ramani expressed that she pretty much disagrees with the concept that people should have to forgive others, or that forgiving others makes a person stronger, etc.

Dr. Ramani rightly points out in that video that continually forgiving pathologically narcissistic persons is a waste of your time, for various reasons I shall not explain here (you can watch her video for explanations). I do agree with her on that.

If someone in your life keeps hurting, abusing, or mistreating you, no matter how many times you’ve forgiven them and given them a second, third, etc, chance,
you need to accept the fact this person is more than likely NEVER going to change and that they merely view your willingness to always forgive him or her as a weakness to repeatedly exploit.
So cut that person from your life, or limit time around them.

It’s not that I disagree with Dr. Ramani’s comments in the video on the face of things, but, I am concerned for Codependents.

On a similar note, in years past, I’ve also read books or seen videos about how people can help their abused friends.

I’ve seen videos by women who divorced their abusive husbands who reel off a list of tips on how you, the friend, can be supportive towards the friend in the abusive marriage.

These videos, books, and online articles, contain lists of things to say or to avoid saying when trying to help someone who is currently in an abusive relationship or someone who was abused in childhood.

Many of these books, videos, and web pages (most by therapists, psychologists or recovered abusive victims) often stress that you, the friend, should just sit and listen to the friend – just validate the friend, do not give advice, judge, or criticize.

I am a recovered Codependent (I wrote a very, very long post about that here).

I am also an Introvert. Introverts naturally make better attentive listeners than Extroverts.

So, as someone who is an Introvert and a one-time Codependent, I was very adept at giving the sort of emotional support a lot of troubled people seek out and find comforting.

For over 35 years, due to the parenting of my mother and the guilt tripping-, sexist-, Codependent- pushing- teachings under “gender complementarianism” of the Southern Baptist church I was brought up in, I had no boundaries, I was not assertive, and it was implied it is my job or responsibility in life to rescue or help other people, whatever format that came in.

All of that was taught to me as I grew up under the false, gender complementarian assumption (and my mother and father bought into some of this thinking too) that God created women to be more caring than men, it would be un-feminine or selfish for a woman to have boundaries, and I was taught that it was women’s “duty” to be care-takers for the hurting.

For me, most often, the support and care-taking my Mom and church taught me to engage in came in the form of “Emotional Labor,” and it made my already bad mental health in years past even worse.

(I was diagnosed at a very young age with clinical depression, I also had anxiety disorders and had low self esteem for many years. I no longer have depression or low self esteem.)

If you are an abuse victim, or if you’ve been bullied at a job, or you were abused in a marriage, or you were sexually or physically abused as a child by a family member (or by a neighbor, or by whomever),
I know it can be helpful, now, as an adult, to sit and talk to an empathetic listener about it, it can feel so good for that listener to sit quietly while you do most of the talking, and for that person to validate you and your experiences.

It can be very healing and feel like a tremendous relief for that listener to refrain from victim blaming you, offering advice or platitudes.

It can help in the healing process for another adult to believe you and just offer non-judgmental emotional support as you relate your trauma and pain to them.

I realize all that.

But have you ever considered that the caring, non-judgmental, empathetic person you keep turning to, whether it’s a friend or a family member, might be highly codependent and your repeated use of that person as your emotional support system may be damaging to THAT PERSON?

Because I was that person, for over 35 years.

I was the sweet, caring, understanding, supportive listener that many people – co-workers on jobs, family, neighbors, friends –
would call, e-mail, snail mail, or text with their problems, because they KNEW I would always listen to them rant (for hours on end, if need be, over months and years), I would NEVER put time limits on their rants, and I would ALWAYS respond in a timely fashion to ranting or sad e-mails or texts.

I spent over 35 years giving a lot of non-qualified, no-strings-attached emotional support to a lot of emotionally wounded or abused people over my life.

Some of these people called or e-mailed me over job stress, health problems, troubled marriages, financial issues, or, they were single and were lonely – they couldn’t get a boyfriend (or girlfriend).

None of these people who called or texted me to complain or sob to me ever once considered how their regular, negative phone calls (or letters or face to face chats) were impacting me. For the ones who considered it, I suppose they didn’t care.

If you choose not to forgive your abuser, that is your choice to make, but…

Be aware that if you choose to not forgive but to also hold on to your hurt and anger, and to choose to ruminate on the abuse,
and should you choose to deal with and vent that anger and hurt by regularly calling your Codependent friend to listen to your rants or sobbing – you are abusing your Codependent friend or family member, which is not acceptable.

In all the years I granted emotional support to hurting people (including but not limited to co-workers who’d stop by my cubicle during work hours to bend my ear for an hour or more about their divorce or health problems), I was never once thanked.

The non-stop support I gave was never acknowledged. And giving that non-stop support was exhausting and taxing for me, as I know it can be for other Codependent persons.

A “thank you” once in awhile from these people who came to me to dump their problems on me would’ve been appreciated. I never got one.

Reciprocation would’ve been appreciated and helpful too, but the people who were abuse survivors, or assorted chronic complainers who used me to vent to, very rarely to never asked about ME and MY struggles in life.

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Texas Pastor Caught with ‘BDSM’ and Bestiality-Themed Child Pornography Voluntarily Admitted He Has an Addiction, Feds Say

Texas Pastor Caught with ‘BDSM’ and Bestiality-Themed Child Pornography Voluntarily Admitted He Has an Addiction, Feds Say

I don’t know how conservative Christians can keep insisting upon “male headship” or male-only pastors, when so many male pastors end up being rapists and abusers.

Complementarians sometimes like to argue that complementarianism keeps girls and women safe – no, it does not. They seem to assume that men are more wise or moral than women… no, no they are not.

(Link): Former Faith Baptist Church pastor faces up to 20 years in prison after child porn arrest 

(Link): Pastor of Texas church ‘knew it was wrong,’ but kept downloading child porn, feds say 

Nov 14, 2022

The longtime pastor of a Texas baptist church was arrested on child porn charges after federal authorities said he downloaded and shared the explicit content — at times from the church.

David Lloyd Walther, the pastor at Faith Baptist Church in Round Rock, was charged with distribution, receipt, transportation and possession of child pornography, according to the U.S. Attorney’s Office for the Western District of Texas.

On this page, which is reporting on this crime, is this photo caption:

David Walther, wishing his congregation a Merry Christmas alongside a woman who appears to be his wife.

Ah, so he’s likely married.

Well, you know, contrary to most religious and secular conservatives, marriage does not fix society or make a person more ethical, responsible, loving, or mature. I am not against marriage, but I do very much dispute the undue emphasis that so many conservatives place upon marriage, parenthood, and the nuclear family.

Considering that so many self professing Christian men, even ones that pastor or otherwise work at churches, turn out to be rapists and perverts, if you’re a Christian single adult, you need to get rid of the “equally yoked” rule and open your dating pool to non-Christians.

There’s no advantage in sticking to Christians only, and there aren’t enough single Christian men for the women who’d like to date.

Also, contrary to most Christian “how to get married” advice I heard when younger, God is not going to with-hold a spouse from you because you’re not good or godly enough… God apparently allowed this pervert pastor below to marry, so there’s no litmus test for “earning” a spouse from God.

(Link): Texas Pastor Caught with ‘BDSM’ and Bestiality-Themed Child Pornography Voluntarily Admitted He Has an Addiction, Feds Say

Nov 11, 2022
by Matt Naham

A 56-year-old pastor at Faith Baptist Church in Round Rock, Texas who was caught with”BDSM” and bestiality-themed child pornography in his possession admitted he has an addiction, the Department of Justice alleges. David Lloyd Walther now faces federal charges for distribution, receipt, transportation and possession of child pornography.

According to the affidavit, which Law&Crime is not sharing in this instance because of how detailed it is, the pastor had a “BDSM” folder containing an image of a nude boy with a collar on his neck and being sexually abused, a similar image of a female toddler, and images of nude young boys and girls being restrained by ropes and tools.

A “Zoo” folder allegedly contained a bestiality video involving a dog and a female toddler “likely less than three years old.”

The feds allege that the defendant also downloaded several videos through BitTorrent showing young girls being sexually abused by adult men.

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Mexican Illegal Immigrant Convicted of Child Pornography Possession

Mexican Illegal Immigrant Convicted of Child Pornography Possession

I am 100% opposed to illegal immigration.

Democrats, bleeding heart “Never Trump” Republicans, establishment Republicans, and progressives who defend open borders, or defend lax immigration, are traitors to the United States.

If you are an individual (regardless of political beliefs) who defends lax immigration or open borders in the U.S.A., you are complicit in pedophilia and child porn.

The Biden administration is a dismal failure in regards to border security (among many other issues).

(Link): Mexican illegal immigrant convicted of child pornography possession

There were 116 images of children on the illegal immigrant’s phone.

by Adam Shaw
August 11, 2022

A Mexican illegal immigrant who entered the U.S. earlier this year has been convicted of being in possession of child pornography — including images involving victims as young as three.

Christian Dolores Munoz-De La Rosa, a 24-year-old Mexican national pleaded guilty to transporting and possessing child pornography, the Justice Department announced.

Munoz-De La Rosa admitted to being part of a group of illegal immigrants caught near Carrizo Springs, Texas in June. When he was picked up, authorities examined his phones and discovered the illegal images.

The shocking haul consisted of 116 images of children, some involving children as young as three-years-old.

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Homosexual Couple Charged with Using Their Adopted Children to Make Child Porn

Homosexual Couple Charged with Using Their Adopted Children to Make Child Porn

I’ve noticed that in coverage of child rape, child porn, or other sorts of crimes and sins that the media are loathe to admit if the perps are homosexuals, transgender, or if they are married.

Liberals and progressives – many of whom comprise most of the field of journalism – will mention is a perp is a single (unmarried) or a hetero, however.

There was a similar news story from around 15 years ago, where a homosexual couple sexually molested their adopted son. People who knew about that abuse were reluctant to go to authorities for fear of being branded “homophobic.”

I acknowledge that not all homosexual persons are child molesters and rapists, so if you’re a homosexual person, you don’t need to leave me nasty comments screaming at me about this. But this is a problem – and many won’t call it out, because it would be politically incorrect.

(Link): Atlanta Couple Used Adoptive Children to Film Child Porn, Cops Allege

(Link):  Georgia couple arrested for allegedly producing child sexual abuse material (using their children, one of whom was adopted)

The two men each face charges of aggravated child molestation, sexual exploitation of children and enticing a child for indecent purposes

August 7, 2022

A couple in Oxford, Georgia, has been arrested after authorities allegedly discovered they produced homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one adopted child who lived with them.

… After interviewing the unidentified suspect, who admitted to collecting child porn, police allegedly learned of another individual in the county who was “producing homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one child who lived in the home,” the sheriff’s office wrote on Facebook.

Detectives collected evidence confirming that the second suspect engaged in sexually abusive acts against the children and documented the acts on video.

Police executed a search and arrest warrant that same night at a home in Oxford, and arrested Zachary Zulock and William Zulock, adoptive fathers of a pair of brothers.

(Link): Georgia couple charged with using their adopted children to make child porn

August 7, 2022
By Patrick Reilly

A Georgia couple [who are homosexual males] has been charged with using their two adopted children to record child pornography, police said.

Walton County Sheriff’s Office raided a home in Loganville July 27 on reports that a man there was downloading child porn.

After interviewing the suspect, who was not identified, police said they learned there was another suspect in the county who was “producing homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one child who lived in the home,” the sheriff’s office said Thursday.

Around 11:30 p.m. that same night, executed a search warrant in Oxford at the home of William Dale Zulock, 32, and Zachary Jacoby Zulock, 35.

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Pastor Convicted of Raping Grandchildren Awarded $2M After Prison Beating

Pastor Convicted of Raping Grandchildren Awarded $2M After Prison Beating

It’s awful that a child rapist was awarded two million (granted), but the first half of this headline is something one never wants to see: “Pastor convicted of raping grandchildren.” Good lord.

I’m glad he received a prison beating. I hope his beating was from inmates who beat him for being a rapist.

Also let this go to show that the “be equally yoked rule,” as applied to marriage, is a bunch of crap.

(Link): Convicted child molester to receive monetary damages for injuries in prison 

June 2019
by: George Richert

BUFFALO, NY (WIVB) An Orleans County pastor, who was convicted of molesting his grandchildren, will receive monetary damages for injuries sustained in Attica Correctional Facility. A trial will be scheduled for later this year to determine exactly how much he receives.

In April 2015, when Reverend Roy Harriger was sentenced to 15 years in prison for molesting his grandchildren, his own son George, a victim himself, was relieved. “I never thought he’d get caught, never.”

Now Roy Harriger has won a court judgment that NY State must pay him damages for something that happened in his first weeks as an inmate at Attica Correctional Facility. “What went down is Corrections Officers orchestrated a brutal unprovoked attack on Mr. Harriger, and they orchestrated a cover up,” said Edward Sivin, Roy Harriger’s attorney.

(Link): Former pastor’s sexual assault conviction upheld

November 2021

‘Disturbed and depraved’: Harriger’s serving prison time for assaulting grandchildren

… Harriger, who a judge called “disturbed and depraved,” served most of his life as a pastor at churches in Michigan, Pennsylvania and at Ashwood Wesleyan Church in Yates, Orleans County.

In 2017, Harriger was sentenced to two-to-five years for molesting a child while serving as pastor of a church in Mercer County from 1991 to 1997.

(Link): Pastor convicted of raping grandchildren awarded $2M after prison beating

Excerpts:

 By Leonardo Blair, Senior Features Reporter July 7, 2022

Roy Harriger, a 79-year-old New York pastor convicted of raping two of his grandchildren and allegedly sexually abusing his oldest son and his sister, can now collect $2 million from the state for beatings he received at Attica Correctional Facility.

Harriger was convicted of two out of three counts of course of sexual conduct against his grandchildren and sentenced in 2015 to 15 years in state prison.

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Married Father, Mayor of Town, and Prayer Leader of His Church, Arrested for Solicitation of a Child

Married Father, Mayor of Town, and Prayer Leader of His Church, Arrested for Solicitation of a Child

Contrary to what hyper- pro- marriage and hyper- pro- parenthood conservatives will tell you, being a spouse or a parent will not make you more godly, ethical, or loving than being single or childless (or childfree).

Not all self professing Christian men are decent – the guy in the story below is apparently a Christian who was a prayer leader for his men’s group at his church.

You’re better off being married to a  non-child-molesting atheist or other type of Non-Christian than marrying a pedophile Christian man.

(Link):  Source: Pilot Point Mayor Matt McIlravy arrested for online solicitation of a child

DENTON (CBSDFW.COM) – A source told CBS11 reporter JD Miles that Pilot Point’s new mayor, Matt McIlravy was arrested for online solicitation of a child, a second degree felony.

(Link): Texas mayor and teacher Matt McIlravy arrested for soliciting child online

By Jesse O’Neill
June 21, 2022

The mayor of a town in Texas was arrested for online solicitation of a child, a report said.

Pilot Point Mayor Matt McIlravy was charged with a second-degree felony for the offense, according to KTVT-TV.

The mayor, who is also a teacher, was busted by a Dallas Police undercover operation, the station said.mayorMatt2

McIlravy is a married father of two boys that works as a design engineer and also serves as a men’s prayer meeting leaderaccording to his government profile.

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Ex-Paramedic, Who Is A Married Father of Four, Sentenced for Sexually Assaulting Injured Women and Child Patients in Ambulance

Ex-Paramedic, Who Is A Married Father of Four, Sentenced for Sexually Assaulting Injured Women and Child Patients in Ambulance

News stories like this infuriate me. This guy should have every bone in his body broken and then shot in the face (by law enforcement. I have no intention of causing this guy harm myself).

The article says the drivers were present at each assault, but they claim they didn’t know – if they did know, they should also be shot in their faces (by law enforcement. I have no intention of causing these guys harm myself).

It’s bad enough when people rape people, but to rape them when they’re already vulnerable (ie, physically injured, or in a coma in a hospital bed, or emotionally vulnerable, etc) is beyond reprehensible, beyond demonic.

And I’ve read of similar situations, where men employed as police officers or firemen, who, when a woman runs up to them for help, to report she was just raped, these men rape her there on the spot!

I’ve read of male nurses in hospitals who were discovered to have raped women in comas. Months ago, I saw a news headline about a woman who was raped on the operating table in a hospital in India by either a male nurse or a doctor.

It’s disgusting. These people who sexually prey on vulnerable people should be shoved feet first, alive, in woodchippers.

This guy is a piece of sh💩t. Anyone who knew and did nothing to intervene is also 💩

For years (and I’m a conservative who is not anti-nuclear family or anti-parenthood), I’ve listened to secular and religious conservatives who try to defend or promote marriage by depicting singleness or being childless as awful. These types of conservatives off and on insist that marriage (or parenthood) are necessary to make a person godly, loving, responsible, or ethical.

As you can see from news stories like the one below, marriage and parenthood did not make this man caring, loving, or ethical.

(Link):  Monster: Paramedic Gets 40 Years for Raping Victims in Back of Ambulance

Excerpts:

by Kevin Downey Jr
June 23, 2022

Serial sexual predator and father of four James Lavelle Walley was sentenced to 40 years in prison for sexually assaulting six women and two children in an ambulance as they were being taken to the hospital. The attacks took place from 2016 to 2019.

… Walley pathetically attempted to apologize to several of his victims who showed up in court for the sentencing. He wept as he claimed he had been attacked by fellow prisoners in the hoosegow and had his jaw broken.

One of the victims was a pregnant woman who tried to fight Walley off. She lost her baby. Another woman had attempted suicide and was being whisked to the hospital. She was in and out of consciousness as Walley assaulted her.

The ambulance driver suggested a nurse do a rape test kit on one of the victims who complained she had been assaulted. The nurse stated that she was pressured not to do the test, though it is unclear who pressured her. She did the test anyway and found Walley’s DNA inside of the victim.

(Link): 2 women demand a rape kit, exposing a ‘brazen’ Coast paramedic in many ambulance sex assaults 

June 21, 2022

A former Mississippi Coast paramedic who pleaded guilty to sexually assaulting six patients in the back of ambulances was sentenced to decades in prison on Monday.

James Lavelle Walley, 57, pleaded guilty in May to three counts of sexual battery and two counts of touching a child for lustful purposes before Jackson County Circuit Judge Robert Krebs. He also admitted to fondling two children ages 6 and 7 when the crimes occurred.

Several of his victims were in the courtroom to hear the verdict. Walley, a married father of four from Greene County, read from a prepared statement at times.

(Link): Mississippi ex-paramedic sentenced for sexually assaulting patients in ambulance

June 20, 2022
by AP

The former paramedic will serve 40 years in prison without parole

A former Mississippi paramedic has been sentenced to 40 years in prison without parole, weeks after he pleaded guilty to sexually assaulting patients in ambulances as they were being taken to hospitals.

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Hawaiian Teacher Who Supported Trans Activism, Accused Conservatives of Being Pedophiles, Bragged About Sex with 13 Year Old Boy During School Lunch Breaks, Shared Child Porn with Fellow Teacher Arrested

Hawaiian Teacher Who Supported Trans Activism, Accused Conservatives of Being Pedophiles, Bragged About Sex with 13 Year Old Boy During School Lunch Breaks, Shared Child Porn with Fellow Teacher Arrested

Other sources I’ve seen about this pervert also say that he railed against “TERFs” (feminists who are opposed to leftist trans activism) and that he claimed that conservatives and Republicans were pedophiles who made or used child porn – when he himself is a pedo who was making child porn.

People on the left often engage in projection like this. It happens every so often from some conservatives or Republicans, but it seems more common place among progressives and liberals.

(Link): Hawaii teacher arrested for sharing child pornography

June 16, 2022
HONOLULU (KHON2) — A Hawaii teacher has been arrested for sharing child pornography. Federal prosecutors said Alden Bunag sent illicit pictures and video to another teacher on the mainland and admitted to sex with a 13-year-old student.

… According to federal court documents, Bunag had been sending child pornography to a teacher in Philadelphia. That teacher was arrested in October.

… The documents added that “Bunag claimed to have sex with (the boy) at the school during lunch breaks… Described (the boy) as a former student and knew that he was a minor at the time.”

Records said, “he also admitted to distributing the video recording of his sexual contact… admitted to distributing child pornography involving other minor victims.”

…Records also show that Bunag does not have a criminal record, which Chin said is typical with suspects of child pornography.

(Link): Teacher Who Railed Against ‘TERFs’ Arrested on Child Sexual Exploitation Charges

Excerpts:

by Reduxx Team
June 18, 2022

A teacher in Hawaii is facing charges of distributing child sexual exploitation material, some of which he admitted was created through his own abuse of a 13-year-old boy.

Alden Bunag, 34, who was a substitute high school teacher in Oahu, reportedly committed the crimes from November 2019 through October 2021 …

[The article explains that the FBI found child pornography on Bunag’s electronic devices.

The article further explains that people online found Bunag’s social media accounts, where he could be found arguing about the transgender topic.]

Bunag began responding to one of the commenters in Rowling’s [author J. K. Rowling] replies, and the two exchanged charged messages for a few days. Bunag called Rowling a “hateful TERF,” and suggested she was a fascist for “propping up anti-trans bigots and businesses.”

The debate culminated in Bunag accusing the other user of being a pedophile for having reservations about teaching children about issues surrounding sexuality and gender identity in schools.

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Former Deacon at Douglas Wilson’s Church, Alex Lloyd, Indicted for Possessing Child Pornography

Former Deacon at Douglas Wilson’s Church Indicted for Possessing Child Pornography 

That so many self professing Christian men are deviants and perverts rips to shreds the complementarian position (men are not fit to be in leadership), and it also disproves the “equally yoked” rule.

If you’re a single Christian woman, you are really risking dating or marrying a male pedophile who claims to be a Christ follower, especially if you meet him at a church – of course, you could meet the same guy on a dating site, if he’s on one and claims to be a Christian on a dating site profile.

(Link): Former Deacon at Douglas Wilson’s Church Indicted for Possessing Child Pornography 

Excerpts:

May 4, 2022
By  Jessica Lea

Alex Lloyd, a former deacon at Douglas Wilson’s church in Moscow, Idaho, has been indicted in federal court for possessing child pornography. Lloyd, who according to Christ Church was a deacon until January 2022, has pleaded not guilty to the charges.

Christ Church and its pastor, Douglas Wilson, have generated controversy for reasons that include Wilson’s interpretation of complementarianism, his book “Southern Slavery As It Was,” and for how the church has handled allegations of sexual abuse. Christ Church also made headlines in the fall of 2020 for holding “psalm sing” events in protest of Moscow’s COVID-19 restrictions.

Alex Lloyd was indicted on April 19. Court documents state that “On or about the dates of March 22, 2021 through January 12, 2022, in the district of Idaho, the Defendant, ALEX LLOYD, did knowingly possess materials…which contained child pornography.” According to the documents, these materials were on an Apple iPhone 8.

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 “The Family Sex” Show – Nude Sex Show For Children (as Young as Five) at Theater

 “The Family Sex” Show – Nude Sex Show For Children (as Young as Five) at Theater

Post Updated Below

Okay, then, the left and the right clearly have vastly different understandings of “Family Values.”

The right can sometimes be hypocrites and not abide by the standards they have in place, but at least the right has some normal, healthy, baseline standards on some sexual subjects.
(Where conservatives lack: conservatives need to be teaching boys and men that they are not entitled to sex from girls and women, and they need to be taught more often about consent.)

The left, though, just wants to normalize pedophilia and all manner of perversion and immorality across the board.

Progressives  want everyone to consent to EVERYTHING and never, ever judge, not even humans engaging in sex acts on children, teens, or with animals. They want to legalize incest, too.

I’d say that conservatives, (those on the right side of the political spectrum), would say allowing children to attend a stage play with lots of adult nudity and overly frank talk of sex acts would be inappropriate. Highly inappropriate. And they’d be correct on that.

(Link):  UK Theatre Company Staging “Family Sex Show,” Invites Children As Young As 5

April 9, 2022

A theatre company in the United Kingdom is facing backlash after announcing it was staging a production aimed at children as young as 5 which would feature full-frontal nudity and offer an “alternative to porn.”

ThisEgg, a production company run by Josie Dale-Jones, is set to put on The Family Sex Show at the Royal Theatre in Bath, United Kingdom this coming May. The show is being run as part of the Theatre’s “incubator program,” a creative center within the facility intended to support projects aimed at young people.

…“I’m sorry but I am going to say it. This reeks of grooming. I’m horrified… 5 year olds… this can’t go ahead,” one Twitter user wrote in reply to a post putting the production on blast by journalist Sonia Poulton.

Another user tweeted, “Can I please vote for bringing back shame, thanks!” in response to The Family Sex Show’s claim that it sought to “imagine a future where there is no shame.”

Many mothers and women’s rights activists took particular issue with what they called a “safeguarding nightmare.”

One user looked into the show’s claim about its appropriateness for children aged as young as 5, writing that the guidelines the show was pulling were from the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) — a UK-based children’s charity.
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(Link): When is sex not sex? When it’s agenda, by Corisande Pick

Excerpts:

… Parents thinking of taking their 5-year old to a show that explores “boundaries, pleasure, consent, queerness, sex…” and which ‘contains nakedness’, are invited to click through to see still photos of the performance.

Only there aren’t any. In their place, a message that they are not ready.

…By contrast, the Family Sex Show talks about “using pleasure to explore consent”.

If that means anything other than “try it and see if you like it” (a standard technique used to override a person’s boundaries), it means consent to the thing that might (or might not) “give pleasure” is already assumed. Because until the thing is actually occurring, the issue of pleasure (or its opposite) doesn’t arise.

It’s also a common trope, when sexual abuse is reported, to claim it wasn’t abuse if the victim enjoyed it (or appeared to, or if they were unable to indicate that they did not enjoy it). This puts the onus for stopping abuse on the victim.

… And now consider a family where abuse is already happening, or where a groomer is moving towards Child Sexual Abuse.

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How ‘Undercover Underage’ Star Roo Powell Busts Sex Predators

How ‘Undercover Underage’ Star Roo Powell Busts Sex Predators

Note that some of the perverted men mentioned in these stories below were MARRIED. Married men. Marriage does not make people responsible, ethical, godly, loving, or mature – contrary to what the marriage-obsessed, nuclear-family-obsessed persons and groups out there keep writing in their articles and blog posts.

(Link):  Catfishing for good: Connecticut mother-of-three, 38, reveals how she pretends to be a teenage girl to chat up online sex predators and help put them behind bars

Feb 2022

A new docuseries explores how a 38-year-old mother-of-three from Connecticut uses costumes, makeup, and other tricks to convince online sex predators that she is a teenager – so she can track these men down and turn them over to the authorities.

Roo Powell, from New Haven, has dedicated her life to helping law enforcement catch predators who pray on underage girls through her nonprofit organization, SOSA (Safe from Online Sex Abuse), which she launched in 2020.

She has created over a dozen aliases, each one with its own fake name and background story – and at any given time, she might be talking to 30 ACMs (Adults Contacting Minors).

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American Pastor Who Adopted Haitian Orphans Charged With Child Sex Abuse (He Was Affiliated with Democrat Clintons)

American Pastor Who Adopted Haitian Orphans Charged With Child Sex Abuse (He Was Affiliated with Democrat Clintons)

The pervert pastor guy in the story below, Clay, was also at one time affiliated with the Democrat Clintons, and the article mentions he was married with children of his own.

Which goes to show, contrary to propaganda spun by hyper- nuclear family and hyper- marriage conservative groups and persons, that marriage and parenting does not make people more godly, ethical, or mature. 

(Note: disclaimer:
I am a conservative who is not opposed to marriage, parenting, or the nuclear family, but I am in sharp disagreement with conservative organizations or people who place too much emphasis on marriage/ nuclear family/ parenthood.
The Bible does not teach that marriage/ family/ parenthood will “clean up” a society or that marriage is necessary to make a person mature, responsible, godly, moral, “saved” or sanctified).

The cherry on top of the disgusting Sundae here is that not only was Clay molesting children, but doing so while he and his wife hosted some kind of school for children in Haiti, in which, the article states, the courses they offered children included lessons about “character development based on Biblical principles!”

I cannot wrap my head around these perverts, who, on the one hand, physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abuse the people around them, whether it’s their own family or children they teach at a school, while simultaneously teaching about virtuous, clean, “biblical principles.” 

How can you, in your own mind, reconcile molesting children or, say, beating your spouse, while on the other, walking into a church or Christian school daily or weekly to give sermons or lectures that talk about things from the Bible, like loving your neighbor, NOT abusing people, and so on?

(I know it’s more than likely because these guys are in one or more of the ‘Cluster B’ personality disorders somewhere, but I still find it incredible they can so brazenly commit deeds that go against their professed (Christian) beliefs the rest of the time.) 

(Link):  American Pastor Who Adopted Haitian Orphans Charged With Child Sex Abuse

Corrigan Clay’s ex-wife told The Daily Beast the abused child was one of their own.

An American pastor who moved to Haiti to teach impoverished residents marketable job skills—adopting two Haitian orphans and opening an evangelical pre-school along the way—is now facing U.S. charges for “engaging in illicit sexual conduct” with a child while living in the Caribbean nation.

(Link): American Pastor Who Adopted Haitian Orphans Charged With Child Sex Abuse (He Was Affiliated with Democrat Clintons)

March 11, 2022
by Justin Rohrlich

An American pastor who moved to Haiti to teach impoverished residents marketable job skills—adopting two Haitian orphans and opening an evangelical pre-school along the way—is now facing U.S. charges for “engaging in illicit sexual conduct” with a child while living in the Caribbean nation.

Corrigan Clay, 43, was arrested Thursday by federal agents, (Link): according to a newly unsealed indictment first obtained by The Daily Beast.

He is being prosecuted by the Justice Department’s Child Exploitation and Obscenity Section, documents filed in Pittsburgh federal court state.

Clay sexually abused the unidentified child from January 2014 to December 2017, the indictment states.

No further details are provided in the filing, except that the alleged victim was under 18. But Clay’s ex-wife, with whom he had two biological children in addition to the pair they adopted, told The Daily Beast on Friday that the illicit conduct involved one of their own kids.

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