I Liked A ‘High-Value’ Man’s Photo on a Dating App – He Rejected Me Because I’m ‘Fat’ by A. Diaz
I feel for this lady. This man who contacted her on this dating app sounds like a narcissistic, arrogant, entitled douche.
This woman doesn’t strike me as being like the entitled, obese, progressive “body positivity” or “fat acceptance” women who say bizarre things – like dieting is a part of white supremacy – and who demand that thin men date them.
The woman in the story below does appear to be on the large size (there were photos of her on the page), but she doesn’t have an entitled “attitude,” so, IMO, the guy who texted her back was being unnecessarily rude about the whole thing – he’s also a flaming A-hole and someone should kick him in the balls repeatedly for how he thinks about women, and how he treated this particular woman.
Amended this post to add the following observations:
The article says she met this guy on a “Christian” dating app (Plenty of Fish). I want to educate the married Christians out there, who keep hyping “Christian dating sites” to their lonely heart single friends: stop doing it because “Christian dating sites” are also filled with jerks, abusers, and rapists.
Years ago, I was on a few dating web sites, one of which was considered to be “Christian,” and the so-called self professing Christian men on those sites who approached me were gross, their profiles were peppered with inappropriate sexual talk
– I may blog here about sexual topics (and get quite frank about it), but when I’m on a dating site, I don’t want to see sex jokes or smutty humor on a guy’s profile, nor do I openly and frankly discuss sex-related stuff on any of my old dating site profiles, nor did I engage in “smutty” humor talk with any of the men who contacted me (I kept things clean).
There have been news stories in the last ten years of MARRIED Christian men (with HIV and AIDS) who lie and say they’re single and then meet single women on dating sites, some of which are “Christian” dating sites.
There was a serial rapist who said he was a Christian to women he met on dating sites, but once he’d get to know them and then meet them in person, he’d rape them (here’s one post on my blog about that).
So… secular and “Christian” dating sites and dating apps are not guarantees for meeting quality, up-standing, loving men. Meaning, you idiot Christian married couples out there need to stop dishing out the simplistic advice of “Just join Plenty of Fish or eHarmony to get a Christian spouse!” – we singles have tried that, and for a lot of us, those sites have NOT worked.
(Link): I liked a ‘high-value’ man’s photo on a dating app — he rejected me because I’m ‘fat’
Dec 8, 2022
By Adriana Diaz
A plus-size mom claims she was harassed last month by a man on a dating app with self-proclaimed “above average” looks and “high values.”
“It was so ridiculous that it was comical,” Krista Brown told Kennedy News.
Brown, 36, said she downloaded the Christian dating app Plenty of Fish in November after being single for three years. She was unprepared for the cringeworthy communications she said she received from a match who turned out to be a mismatch.
The Minnesota budget support specialist recalled thinking the cyberspace Casanova was “kind of cute” despite his “pathetic mustache.” She claims she swiped right, but didn’t message him. She says the unidentified man reached out to her — in a big way.
“He sent me a whole huge, long paragraph asking why I think I’m worthy of dating him, and what do I bring to the equation? He had a very condescending tone. He was so absolutely ridiculous,” she lamented.
“At first I was offended, but as I read through it, the more ridiculous it got, and I just started shaking my head and laughing. I can’t even believe there are people out there who actually think like this,” she continued.
Brown shared messages with Kennedy News she said Prince Not-So-Charming sent.
The man appeared to brag about his home renovation and his “above average” appearance, insisting Brown should have disqualified herself from matching with him for a multitude of reasons, including being “big, chubby, fat.” Brown says she is a size 18.
“Yes, I’m shallow. No, guys don’t care about what women have accomplished in life. No, men don’t want a strong, independent, opinionated woman. Men want to feel needed. They want looks, youth and inexperience,” the disparaging Don Juan allegedly wrote.
He seemed to rationalize that he might have considered dating Brown if she was at least a virgin — but assumed she’s not because she has two kids.
“I know this seems like a mean message, but it’s not. It’s just reality and seems mean because people are so detached from that thing, that thing called reality,” the note read. “Sorry, why do women hold such high standards for men?”
Brown allegedly put the ruthless Romeo in his place, explaining that if he’s intimidated by strong and independent women, he has some issues to work out on his own.
“I’m all for honesty, but there’s something called tact and respect that it sounds like you are severely lacking. I’m not the girl for you,” her response read.
Instead of just leaving the uncomfortable situation alone, the blokish bachelor allegedly continued to insult Brown by calling her “selfish” for assuming he would want to date a woman with children, whom he referred to as “baggage.”
Brown said she had to block the pernicious playboy, not wanting to hear any more of his hatred.
Mental health specialists have been sounding the alarm in recent years about the concerning global rise in incel culture and online abuse of women. Incels are defined by the Anti-Defamation League as an extremist group of “heterosexual men who blame women and society for their lack of romantic success.”
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Well, since virginity means so much to this guy… I am not fat, I am a virgin (so I do not have any children), but I’m in my 50s. I was waiting until I got married to have sex, I never met Mr. Right, so I never married, and I didn’t want to end up pregnant out of wedlock, with STDs, etc, so I sexually abstained.
But I wouldn’t want to date this douche waffle if he was the last man on earth. Some men – like this one – make staying single and celibate until I die look very appealing. Preferable, even. 😂 I was engaged in my early 30s, but my ex was a self absorbed, stupid, irresponsible mama’s boy.
Being single is better than being in a relationship with a shallow, entitled, stupid, controlling, or sexist ass hat like the guy mentioned in that article above.
Related:
(Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please
(Link): Dear Abby: Friends Push Overweight Woman To Date But Offer No Help
(Link): Beware of Rapists on Christian Dating Sites
(Link): Necrophiliac Gets Prison For Killing Teacher on First Date Whom He Met Using Dating Site
(Link): Women Are Visually Oriented Too – Reminder 1
(Link): Ask Amy: Wife Says She Is Turned Off By Husband’s Fat Body and Muffin Top
(Link): Ask Amy: These Sex-Crazed Weirdos Turned Me Off Internet Dating
(Link): For Richer Or Poorer? Romance Scams Are Leaving More Online Daters Broke
(Link): Police urge caution when using dating websites / Murderers on Dating Sites
(Link): Woman Meets Man on Dating Site, He Steals Her Dog and TV on First Date
(Link): Convicted Sex Offender on the Run for 20 Years Found Living New Life as Pastor in Alabama
(Link): Dear Advice Lady: My Boyfriend is a Fattie and I Feel Like His Mom
(Link): Article: Scientists: Why penis size does matter [to women]
(Link): Abusers Hide In Churches – Equally Yoked Does Not Help Single Christian Women Who’d Like to Marry
(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”
(Link): Alabama Preacher Admits to having AIDS, Sleeping with Church Members
(Link): Maryland Pastor Pushes Equally Yoked Doctrine – Which Only Promotes Unwanted Protracted Singleness
(Link): The Problem with Platitudes – for Christian single over 35 years old never married
(Link): Risky Business: The Dangers of Online Dating and How to Protect Yourself
(Link): Men Posting Profiles on Dating Sites Could Use Some Tips (from Dear Abby column)
(Link): I’m a Christian Married to an Atheist — Here’s How We Make It Work by S. Allen
(Link): Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”
(Link): Single Adult Christian Pressured Into Marriage by Her Church – And Regrets It
(Link): The Nauseating Push by Evangelicals for Early Marriage
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