Phil Robertson seen in new video saying men should marry girls ‘when they are 15 or 16’
(Hat tip to blog visitor Jane Zen who sort of suggested I do a post about this story.)
Before I give you the links to the news stories about Robertson’s creepy views that adult men should marry 15 year old girls, here are some of my thoughts.
This is incredibly stupid advice on Robertson’s part.
I am a woman. I had no idea who the hell I was in my teen years, and did not know who I was, until I got to my late 30s, because, like many females, especially ones raised in Christian families, I was conditioned (first and foremost by my very traditional, Christian mother) to look outwards, to look outside of myself, to meet the needs of other people.
I was discouraged from putting myself and my feelings and my needs and my life first; I was discouraged by Christian teachings or attitudes that appeared in books, in sermons by preachers, etc, and my Christian mother, not to figure out what I wanted out of life, and not to figure out what made ME happy.
I was taught to define myself by OTHER PEOPLE, what THEY wanted, what THEIR likes and dislikes were.
I grew up being more attentive to people around me (to see how I could make other people happy, to figure out how I could meet their needs) than I did learning about myself and going after what I wanted in life.
So I had no idea who the hell I even was until I began rejecting these codependent, Christian, traditional gender role views in my late 30s. I was not my own person until I got to my late 30s.
I think one of several reasons I have stayed single this long is because I knew, at least in the back of my mind, as far back as my 20s, that marrying would have been a huge mistake for me – I was not ready yet to marry (though I was engaged in my early 30s, but I broke that off).
Many other females are conditioned to be the same way I was. If they marry at 15, they would be nothing but a robotic “Stepford Wife.” They would not be a full partner to a man in a marriage.
Such females would be more like a naive, little daughter who needs a husband who is a “daddy figure” to protect and provide for them. There might be some men who find that sort of female appealing, but the ones who do tend to be SELFISH, CONTROLLING, and ABUSIVE.
Of course, the left wing, liberal sites are picking Robertson apart for his joke (or serious view?) that girls should marry adult men when they are 15 years old.
However, left wingers are hypocrites on this point.
Liberals are hypocrites on this topic since so many of them are fine with homosexual activists, or hetero sexual hedonists, engaging in the following:
> Preaching about homosexuality to children,
even ones in kindergarten (who are five years old), and telling them homosexuality is natural and normal
(and I’ve read about them teaching public school kids, via their printed curriculum, to experiment in homosexual behavior themselves – not just telling the kids what homosexuality is, but telling them
to go out and try it for themselves
> teaching kids as young as five how to put a condom on a cucumber;
> teaching children about sexual positions, etc.
At the same time, liberals are against anyone teaching these same public school children about the options of celibacy, remaining a virgin until marriage, or about the health risks associated with homosexual behavior.
Liberals think it is okay and peachy fine to teach small kids and teens that behaviors some regard as immoral are “normal,” or to teach the “facts” of sex without any sort of moral guidance, or without telling the kids that NOT having sex is a totally valid option as well.
Liberals think it’s okay to omit from lectures about sex to children and teens that celibacy is an option (they mock this, actually, when it’s brought up under abstinence teaching).
Liberals and other types think it’s fine to teach their form of sexual education, which tends to be garbage – some of it, IMO, is perverted – to five year old children, to 12 year olds in junior high, or 15 year olds in high school. But they balk at some dude saying it’s advisable for a grown man to marry a teen?
I don’t see how their views on sexual issues are any better than Robertson’s quip that men should marry underage girls.
Liberals support and promote sexual deviancy, promiscuity, and hedonism to little children as young as five years of age all the way up to college age students, and they reject teaching celibacy as an option to kids, so I think they don’t have the moral high ground here at all.
— One Does Not Have to Have Sex or Engage in Other Sexual Behaviors to Possess Sexuality —
If liberals and libertarians were as open minded, non judgmental, and free about sex as they claim they are, they would be telling kids that yes, celibacy is indeed an suitable option for life, because celibacy is another form of sexuality.
Liberals are open to any and all forms of sex except for celibacy and virginity.
One does not have to have sexual intercourse to be sexual or to posses sexuality. Many Christians and Non Christians mistakenly believe that engaging in sexual activity is what makes a person sexual; it is not.
Think of it like this: suppose you have a 35 year old, hetero woman who has had sex a 100 times with 20 different men over her life time, but in the past six months, she has not had sex with a man at all, because she’s been too busy with life, or hasn’t met any men she is interested in having sex with.
Just for not having sexual intercourse, or any other sort of sexual activity for six months, does this mean she has ceased being a sexual being? No. Having sex is not what makes her sexual. Your sexuality remains intact whether you are boinking other people or not.
See, your liberals (and sadly, some Christians, Republicans, and social conservatives) have been snookered into thinking that sexuality is limited only to the following scenarios:
full on sexual intercourse (penis in vagina, penis in anus), oral sex; two people getting naked and groping each other; or one person sticking their fingers or penis into someone else’s body parts/mouth, or that sexuality only involves other, physical acts (such as masturbation).
You do not have to be doing any of that stuff to be sexual or possess sexuality.
Most all humans, with the possible exception of asexuals, are born with a sexual nature, whether they are boinking other people or not. That is, remaining celibate (abstaining from sex) is a form of sexuality. But liberals hate teaching about that particular form of sexuality. Liberals want to tell kids all about how to give each other blow jobs or how to pop a pill to avoid pregnancy, but they are loathe to explain that remaining a virgin is perfectly fine.
I am in my early 40s and am still a VIRGIN at this point in my life. Yet, I still have sexuality. Men flirt with me now on dating sites, have flirted with me in my 20s and 30s, and they view me as being “sexy.” (I look damn good in heels and skirts, if I do say so myself). One does not have to have a penis in one’s vagina at one point, and one does not have to suck on a man’s penis, to be sexy, to be deemed sexy, or to have sexuality.
I, as a 40 something virgin, am not asexual, I do not lack libido, and I am not a frumpy, androgynous-looking being.
I will say it again:
You do not have to actually be having sex to be sexual or to possess sexuality. You already have it, you are just choosing not to express it by getting naked with another person and groping their body or sucking on their genitals or exchanging bodily fluids.
(This is also tied closely to another secular and Christian myth: that one has to marry to be considered mature or a grown up. Wrong.
One can be past the age of 30, never have married, and be just as mature as any married person. In the same way, one does not have to be having sex to be a full grown up or to be sexual.
By the way, as I have explained time and again on this blog, some married people are selfish and immature, they get arrested, go to jail for crimes, and some married people write in to advice columnists complaining that their marriage has been sex-less for many years.)
On to the links about the latest Robertson controversy, with more commentary by me below these links:
This is from a left wing site:
(Link): ‘Duck Dynasty’ Star Phil Robertson Advises Men To Marry 15-Year-Old Girls
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