How I Navigated the Minefield of Online Dating in Later Life – and How You Can Too by Alice Grebot
Feb 27, 2022
D*ck pics, scammers and GHOSTERS… would you brave online dating?
It’s the most popular way to find love in 2022 – but as these three women discovered, online dating in later life is a minefield!
‘I had to Google what ghosting is’
…After a few months of being single, I began hankering for some adult company, and online dating felt like the easiest way to meet somebody. I’d met my ex at work and I had a little experience of it from years ago, but the idea of speed dating or singles’ clubs didn’t appeal, and no one seemed to go out ‘on the pull’ any more.
I downloaded Bumble, Hinge and Tinder, but soon deleted the latter, as it seemed to be full of men looking for something casual, while I wanted a relationship.
At the age of 43, I had a real sense of starting again, which was daunting, as was navigating the dating scene as a single mother. With a child to consider, I couldn’t just go out on a date at the drop of a hat, and I had no intention of bringing a string of men into Primrose’s life, only someone I felt I had a future with.
I could write a book about some of the men I’ve met since then. There was ‘Mr Married’, the guy who only wanted to chat via messages on a Tuesday evening between 8pm and 10pm, and wouldn’t give out his number or any details about who he was. He was so cagey, I didn’t trust him and we didn’t ever meet up. Sure enough, a friend tracked him down on Facebook and saw he was married.
Then there was ‘Mr D**k Pic’ — I sent him a polite message suggesting that perhaps I wasn’t the girl for him, before blocking him. And I can’t forget ‘Mr Copy And Paste’, the guy that my friend and I realised we were both chatting to on the same dating app and who had been sending identical messages and photographs to us.
[The article then goes on to convey the online dating experiences of a 63 year old woman, and a widow of age 35]