Former Mormon Homemaker, 49, Lays Bare ‘Dangerous’ Truth About Life as a ‘Trad Wife’: Woman Who Wed Husband at Age 20 Reveals Misery of Tending to His Every Need While Raising Their Four Children.
God bless the ex -Trad Wives who are going public with the pitfalls, traps, and problems with being a ‘Trad Wife,’ because some Conservatives are heavily and regularly promoting this sort of thing to young ladies.
I myself am a Conservative, but too many other Conservatives frame The Nuclear Family, Motherhood, and Marriage in totally un-Biblical terms. They will often spread propaganda to young, single women that being single and childless will make them miserable, and that their only meaning and purpose and happiness in life can be found in marriage and motherhood.
I am not opposed to The Nuclear Family, marriage, or parenthood, but I recognize that Conservatives make false promises regarding the Nuclear Family, marriage, and parenthood.
There have been studies showing that single and childless adults (or childless married couples) are just as, if not, more happy than married couples with children.
I have plenty of anecdotes on my blog of married parents who admit to being miserable with parenthood or miserable in marriage. I have plenty of news stories on my blog of married people who have affairs or murder their spouse or of parents who murder their own children.
I am not against marriage or parenthood, but marriage and parenthood are not guarantees of stable (or life-long) happiness and purpose in life, nor of dying surrounded in love, warmth, and the presence of family – you can be a married parent but still die all alone in a hospital bed.
About a year or more ago, Conservative publication authors at the The Federalist became hopping angry and upset that so many secular online magazines were showcasing stories of mothers who publicly admit to regretting motherhood.
The guys at The Federalist actually ran one essay begging mothers to submit essays to them saying how much they adore being mothers, because they want to publish those to counter-act all the “motherhood regret” testimonies.
I would not be surprised as more and more of these “Trad Wife Regret” testimonies begin being published (I’m starting to see more of them in the last few months), if we don’t again see sexist d-bag Conservatives – who worship The Nuclear Family, motherhood, and marriage – such as Mark Driscoll, Lyman Stone, Matt Walsh, and more, begin screaming and complaining about the “Trad Wife Regret” stories.
I think ex Trad Wives or Moms who publicly discuss the problems and stress with being a Trad Wife or a mother are providing a valuable public service to young women, or I guess women of any age. Girls and women should hear both sides of a lifestyle choice, not only the glowing, rosy, positive aspects.
I am a middle-aged, never married and childless Conservative woman, and my life is more or less doing fine – my life is not perfect, but nobody’s is, not even lives of married mothers.
I am not miserable being single and childless. Any problems I may have are not due to being single and childless.
I had wanted to be married, but as I grew older, I accepted my single status and am doing okay with that now.
The mere existence of single, childless Conservative women like myself who are well-adjusted shows how false Conservative negative narratives about single, childless ladies are.
If you remain never-married and childless over the age of 40, though you had wanted marriage and/or children, is not a guarantee that you will feel or be miserable for the rest of your life – unless you choose to be.
By all means, if you had hoped to marry but end up still single by age 40 or older, yes, allow yourself a few years to grieve, cry, and feel angry about marriage not coming to pass for you, but determine to move on and enjoy your life as it is anyway.
You do not need a romantic partner or have a child to find meaning, have goals, be happy, or just enjoy life. If you determine to get to that point, where you can be content in your singleness (or in being childless), you can get there – it’s only the Nuclear Family worshippers like Matt Walsh-es, Al Mohler-s, and Brad Wilcox-es, and so on, who want to try to convince you otherwise.
April 24, 2024
by Amy Walters
A former trad wife is sharing her harrowing journey in a bid to warn other women against the lifestyle as it sees a rise in popularity.
For Jennie Gage, from Arizona, this is a life she knows all too well – but one that the 49-year-old gracefully left behind after realizing that she had become ‘trapped.’
Now, she’s urging young women not to get caught up in the trend, which gets its name from the abbreviated ‘traditional wife.’
‘Do not ever become a trad wife,’ the social media advocate said.
‘A man is not a plan – he can be your lover, boyfriend, roommate, husband, whatever – but he should never be your financial plan.
‘No adult human should ever be dependent on another adult.
‘The greatest tragedy in my story is that I’m smart, capable and hard-working.
‘It’s a dangerous lifestyle that needs to stop being promoted.’
Jennie was raised in a conservative Mormon family, where all the women were taught to stay at home, and attend to domestic duties and childrearing while the men brought home the bacon.
From a young age, she recalls being told that, as a woman, she was sent to Earth to be a wife and mother – nothing else.
And while this way of life was all she knew, Jennie had a different dream in mind.
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